Welcome to part 5 of this 5 part series
How to quickly get back on track after life knocks you down.
Stop waiting for other people or circumstances to change. You give your power away waiting for something out there to change when the truth is that the change always have to come from the inside.
You must change.
If you don´t change you will be waiting for a lifetime just sitting around in the storm, constantly being blown around.
Set your own sail and navigate yourself out of the storm and into calmer water.
We must learn to shift our focus from what isn´t working in our lives, to what is working.
Shift from what we don´t have to what we do have.
We must learn and focus on gratitude.
If you read anything about successful people , gratitude is always on top of their list.
Maybe you don´t feel like you have much to be grateful for right now in your life. But if you dig a little deeper there are always plenty of things to appreciate in your life.
How about clean water. Electricity. A roof over your head. Friends and family. A job. Health. A car. Food to eat. There are a lot of things that we take for granted and that we forget to be grateful for.
A lot of people in this world doesn´t even know where there next meal is going to come from. They don´t have a home and not even a bed to sleep in at night.
No access to clean water.
If you don´t feel grateful today..... I have a tip for you!
Start a "Gratitude Journal"
This is how it works. Get a book and every day at the end of the day, spend 5 minutes to write down 5 things that happened during the day that you are grateful for. Easy to do...and easy not to do. Try it!
You will be amazed to discover how truly blessed you are.
When I walked away from my narcissistic relationship in 2012, I had to leave a lot of pretty things behind. Big house in The Woodlands, TX. Cars, pool, fancy furniture, nice stuff and plenty of money. It looked great from the outside but on inside of that house, behind closed doors I was living in a warzone.
Finally I had enough. I wasn´t willing to live like that any longer. I wasn´t willing to sacrifice my soul for "pretty stuff" and a "pretty outside", when the inside was out of control my soul was slowly dying.
I walked away. Left the country with my 2 dogs and some clothes and things.
I have to admit as I was sitting there in Sweden for the first couple of months in my small apartment, I wasn´t feeling very grateful. But I had my life back and I was safe. But all I could think of what all I had lost. All the pretty things, the big house and the money. I didn´t care that I was finally safe.
All I could think off was my dreams for the future and the life that I had planned was all of a sudden gone.
Luckily I made a shift after a couple of months and I decided to make a change. I realized if I was going to get unstuck and be able to move on, I needed to start focusing on what was in front of me...not what I left behind.
I found a lot of things to be grateful for and every day I think of how truly rich and blessed I am.
The more things that you are grateful for in your life right now, more things will show up in your life to be grateful for. Gratitude is a skill and a muscle that you can practice every day and I guarantee you...if you work it.... it will grow.
But it is up to you... to do it!
Today I feel rich because of all my experiences. Even though I had to go through a lot of tough times. But who doesn't. If you live long enough and you take some chances in your life you will get banged up and blown around. That is part of life. My experiences are of high value.
They are capital that I can now invest in my future.
I am rich because of all my friends that I have. I have several friend that have been around 20- 30 years.
Wow....that makes me me super rich.
I am rich because I have been able to live between 2 countries in my life. Sweden and The US. I speak both languages fluently and I have great experiences and friends from both countries.
I am rich because through my "Devine Storm" I discovered talents and things about myself that I didn´t know I had before.
I am rich because I have a bright future. As a life coach I get to work with people all over the world doing what I love to do and get paid for it.
I am rich because I have a clear vision of where I am going. I feel a higher purpose for my life.
I am free to pursue my dreams.
I am rich for all the pets that have owned me.
I just had to throw that in for all you pet lovers out there.
(You know exactly what I am talking about)..
"It´s not happy people who are thankful.
It is thankful people that are happy"
What are you grateful for today?
I have a dear friend that asked me once........
Do you know what the #1 thing is that will keep people stuck in their lives, unable to move forward?
I was thinking about the question for a few seconds and then I answered........anger.
I was close.....Unforgiveness.
"You will only begin to heal when you let go of past hurts,
forgive the ones who have wronged you and
learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes"
- Iyanla Vanzant
You must learn to let go of people that hurt you and that made you bleed.
I know this one isn´t easy but if you want to have a future you must stop dragging your past around like a big sack of manure.
It weighs you down and it makes you focus in the wrong direction. Your past and people from your past are like gravity. They will continue to pull you down until you decide to let it go and to move on.
The people that have hurt you have most likely moved on. Maybe they didn´t even know that they hurt you. Set yourself free and let go. Stop dragging that big sack of manure around with you everywhere.
It makes your life stink!!!
Learn from your mistakes and the lessons. They are valuable lessons because if you have learned your lesson you won´t repeat it again in the future.
Realize that if others treat you badly, it isn´t about you, but about their suffering and pain.
When you understand that those people were not capable of doing any better or any more than what they did.
"For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness"
The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Don´t waste time on things and people that emotionally drain you.
"Forgiveness......is a process of giving up the old for something new.
Old experiences and memories that we hold onto in anger. resentment. shame,
or guilt cloud our spirit mind.
The truth is, everything that has happened had to happen.
It was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know, to learn.
If you stay angry. hurt. afraid. ashamed, or guilty, you miss the lesson.
You will be stuck in a cloud of pain"
- Iyanla Vanzant
Stop repeating your story to anyone that is willing to listen. You have told it so many times that it now has become your identity. If you don´t stop repeating your story you will be in an "invisible prison" for the rest of your life.
Let yourself off the hook.
Divorce your story and create a new more powerful one, and start telling it to the world.
Celebrate Your Life & Your Progress
Take time to enjoy and celebrate what you have accomplished. Your success should be a pleasure.
Appreciate what you have got, what you have done and who you have become is very important.
It is important component in fueling your future achievements.
Celebrate your achievements. Little achievements are just as important as the big ones.
If you can´t appreciate the small ones you cane enjoy the big ones.
Tonight I will be celebrating that I completed this 5 part project, that you are now reading.
I have been wanting to do it for over a year and I finally did it.
I started it and I completed it.
I think that is cause for celebration!!!
Always reflect back on your accomplishments and write them down.
Don´t wait until you have reached your goal to be proud of yourself and to celebrate.
Be proud of every step you take toward reaching that goal.
Pat yourself on the back once in a while and tell yourself....GOOD JOB!
Some Food For Thought!
Maybe I came come along at the right time to give you a piece of information from my own experience and my journey, that will start you on a new different track
Remember...it doesn´t matter where you are coming from....all that matters is where you are going
You have to keep on moving. Momentum is everything. The less you move the less you want to move.
Action leads to more action
It is easy to get off track when you don´t have a plan. Make sure your promise is clear.
The price is easy to pay if the promise is clear
You don´t have to wait for a crisis or a breakdown to change your life. You can change the direction of your life at anytime.
You just have to decide to set a better sail for your future.
Be Courageous.....Take Action.......& Make It Happen!
If I can do it....You can do it!
You were not born to play small. You were born to sail. To expand. To grow. To live bigger brighter version of yourself.
Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for keeping your heart open to what I have shared.
Thank you for spreading the word and sharing with friends and family.
We always have the power to change the direction of our lives, at any time.
If you have any questions, want more information about my coaching please feel free to contact me either via email or through my website
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach