Sunday, August 19, 2018

Are You In The Process Of Getting Where You Want To Go?

                                                           "If you want something.
                                                                      Go get it.
                                                                 - Will Smith

Are you a person that is in the process of getting where you want to go?

If you are on a journey of bridging the gap from where you are today to where you want to be in the future, here are a few simple rules!

First you must decide exactly what it is that you want to accomplish. Be crystal clear.
Describe in detail your objectives.

Then figure out a plan or strategy how to reach your goal. How are you going to get there?
Put the plan in writing and study your plan on a daily base.

Avoid people that tell that you can't do it, or that it can't be done.
These people will never take a risk in their life. They are stuck in their comfort zone either because of fear, laziness or both.
Maybe you are trying to accomplish something that they themselves have been trying to do for years and they see you as a reminder of their own failure and lack of effort.
Stay away from these people. They are dream killers.

Get yourself a mentor to guide you on your way to crossing the bridge from where you are today to where you want to be tomorrow.

To Your Success,

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Letting Go To Move Forward

                                   "I'm learning how to walk away from situations and people 
                                    who threaten my peace of mind, self-respect, or self-worth."

I am confidently saying "NO" and without guilt to things and people that consume my time and energy.....and it feels great.

How about you?

Are you doing something right now, that isn't serving you?
If you are.....get rid of it!

If you want to make something to happen or to make some changes in your must create a vacuum.

Once you have created a vacuum you have now made room for something bigger and better to move into your life.
Something that is more in alignment with what you want and what you are trying to accomplish with your life.

But first you have to create the space for something new to move in.
Don't be afraid to let things and people go that don't longer serve you and your dream.

A Few Great Questions To ask Yourself

What is weighing you down right now?

What do you need to do away with today, to improve your life?

Why are you afraid of letting go of some people/things?

What is the worst thing that can happen if you let go of something or someone?

What is draining your mental/physical energy?

                                    "If you want greater prosperity in your life,
                                          start forming a vacuum to receive it."
                                                       - Catherine Ponder


Monday, August 13, 2018

Money and Thoughts

                                           "Too many people spend money they haven't earned,
                                                          to buy things they don't want,
                                                     to impress people they don't like."
                                                                     - Will Rogers

Everything around us is energy.
We live in a vibrating Universe.

You are energy and I am energy and we all vibrate.
The only difference is that we vibrate at different levels.
Some vibrate at a higher level and some at a lower level.

Your thoughts are energy.
Your thought are energy and depending on what you allow to occupy your mind your vibration is in accordance with your thoughts.

If the majority of your thought are that on fear, anger revenge or jealousy your vibration will be of a lower level.

The opposite is also true. If the majority of your thoughts are on joy, love, gratitude and growth, your vibration will be of a higher level.

Money is also energy.

Money and thoughts are both energy.
Are you wasting your money?
Are you wasting your thoughts?

Do you waste your money on things that you really don't want?

How many thought are you wasting daily on things you don't want to show up in your life?

Time to look at where you waste money and where you waste your thoughts.

Since it's all energy maybe it's time to stop wasting energy on things that you don't want in your life?


Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Why Are You Waiting?

                                                              You are what you do,
                                                           not what you say you'll do.

What do you really, really, really want?

Do you know?

If you know what you want or maybe you need to figure it it......are you ready to commit to achieving it?

When you decide to do something and you are committed to achieving it, you will cut yourself off from any other thing.

If you have decided on pursuing a great goal, the worst thing you can do is nothing.

                                                                    "Don't wait.
                                                       The time will never be right."
                                                                - Napoleon Hill

Do something TODAY, that will bring you closer to your goal. It doesn't matter how small of an action step,  make one that will get you going in the right direction.

You know, you can get it.

                                         "The future depends on what you do today."
                                                                - Gandhi


Monday, August 6, 2018

Are You Happy?

                                               "Happiness is a journey...not a destination."
                                                                - Ben Sweetland

Are you happy?

Do you even know what will make you happy?

When people are being asked what they want, most of them answer..... happiness. 
They want to be happy.

I want to be happy too and I am sure you do too.

But then here is the second question, what will make you happy? 
What does happiness look like to you?

Most people can't answer this question. 

They know what will make then unhappy, but not what would make them happy.

My question to you will you ever be happy if you don't know what happiness looks like to you?

Now, it's different for everyone of us. But what is it for you?

How are you ever going to be able to create happiness in your life if you don't know what it is?

By the way, happiness is an inside job. It has to be created from the inside if you want it to last

And yes, happiness is a muscle. The more you use it......the happier you will be.

Now let's try this again...….What will make you happy?

And what are you going to do to be able to create it?

Remember....the more you practice being happy, the happier you will get and the more happiness you will attract into your life.

Do things that will make you happy!!!

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Your Life Changes The Moment You Make A Committed Decision

                                                   "Your life changes the moment you
                                         make a new, congruent, and committed decision."
                                                              - Tony Robbins.

When was the last time that you made a true and committed decision?

And I don't mean a decision on what to wear or what restaurant to go to.

A real decision that would have a great impact on your present and also your future?

I bet you can't even remember the last you did this.

                                                "It's in the moment of your decisions
                                                      that your destiny is shaped."
                                                                - Tony Robbins

Most people don't make decisions about their life because they don't see how they are going to get there.
Instead they keep on doing things that they can see how they are going to get there and that is why their life really never changes.

Make that decision today that you have been putting off for some time.
Get out of your comfort zone and create a vision that will make you grow, something that will force you to start taking action today.

Make the decision!!!


Monday, July 30, 2018

If You Stay Stuck In The Past, No One Will Stay There With You

                                             "If you keep telling the same sad, small story,
                                              you will keep living the same sad, small life."

We all have stories to tell.
But sometimes we get stuck on telling the same story over and over and over again.

It really doesn't matter what happens to you.
What matters is, what are you going to do about it?
What are you going to do NOW?

How long are you going to tell everybody at the bus stop, at work, in the line at the grocery store, at parties, at family gatherings or to anyone that would stand still and listen to you?

How long are you going to repeat the same story? How many times do we have to hear it?

Don't go around telling everybody your story.
80% don't care and 20% are glad that it's you and not them.

We to a great extent behave, think, react because of some previous experience we have had.

A close friend of mine allowed his tragedy to destroy him. His own mother wasn't there for him when he was a child and he said that his mother had made him so miserable and that he was going to pay her back. Now he took this attitude to other relationships. Especially relationships with women, looking for something to go wrong. He had gotten so burned by his own mother that he didn't want to risk pain again. When the relationship became too close, he would do something to make sure that the relationship did not work. He would always try to find something wrong with the other person. 
Since no one is perfect it won't be hard to find faults with another person.
What was going on here? 
He was stuck on revenge.

Another friend of mine realized that her husband didn't love her as much as she loved him. He left her for another woman. She got a divorce but even when she got married again she kept on telling her story. Every time I came over to her house she kept on repeating the same story of how her ex-husband cheated on her and left her for another woman. She kept telling her story about how her ex mistreated her. How long do you think her second marriage lasted? Not very long.
What was going on here? 
She was stuck in anger.

I once had a neighbor. She had gotten some illness some years back, but when I talked to her it sounded like she was still in the middle of it. Every time I ran into her she would tell me the same story over and over again. She would tell me all the reason why she couldn't do anything and how this illness totally had destroyed her life. The only thing she could do today was sleep late, sit around her house all day watching TV and spend her evenings gossiping on the phone.
What was going on here?
She was stuck in self-pity.

Let your old disempowering and sad story go.
Don't allow some tragedy that happen in the past to control your today and your future.

All of us have experienced some kind of tragedy, and if we haven't, we will.
You can either let the tragedy destroy your life or you can build upon it.

You can allow the tragedy to hold you down or you can decide that you will get out of this rut and stop repeating your sad story today.


Tuesday, July 24, 2018

What Is Life?

                                                      "Live life to the fullest 
                                            because you only get to live it once."

As I mentioned in my blog this past Monday, life is always changing.
Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down. If we can just learn to accept this we will avoid a lot of suffering.
Just know that sometimes you are happy and sometimes you are sad. Even when you are not happy and things are not going right in your life, just remember that this too shall pass.
Brighter days are coming.

If you missed Monday's it is

Life is like an onion, you have to peel it one layer at a time, and sometimes you cry.

I heard something beautiful about life the other day that I want to share with you today.

Life is a challenge.....Meet it.
Life is like a gift.....Accept it.
Life is like an adventure.....Dare it.
Life is a sorrow.....Overcome it.
Life is a tragedy.....Face it.
Life is a duty.....Perform it.
Life is a mystery.....Unfold it.
Life is a song.....Sing it.
Life is an opportunity.....Take it.
Life is a journey.....Complete it.
Life is a promise.....Fulfill it.
Life is a beauty.....Praise it.
Life is a struggle.....Fight it.
Life is a goal.....Achieve it.
Life is a puzzle.....Sole it.

                                                       "Life is a matter of choices,
                                             and every choice you make makes you."
                                                                - John C. Maxwell


Monday, July 23, 2018

The Challenges Of Life

                                                  "Life is full of ups and downs.
                                                    The trick is to enjoy the ups 
                                             and have courage during the downs."

We all know that life is always changing. It never stays the same.

We also know that sometimes you are up, and sometimes you are down.
Sometimes you are happy and sometimes you are sad. Sometimes you are filled with energy and sometimes you don't feel like you can get out of bed.
Life is seldom even and smooth. If it is, it won't stay that way for very long. We need to accept this.
It is what we call LIFE.

Anybody can feel good during the UP moments of life.
It's easy to feel good when you have your health, your business is doing great, your relationships are working well, your kids act right and all your bills are paid.
Anyone can be positive then.

It's easy to have faith when everything is working well in your life.
It's a lot easier to have a larger vision and it's a lot easier to take action on your goals then.

But the real growth, mentally, emotionally and spiritually comes when you get knocked down.
How you handle it.....that is where the real growth takes place.

Are you going to stray stuck during a down moment in life, or are you going to grow through it?

Now if you happen to get do you get yourself unstuck?

First you must evaluate where you are at the moment.

Then ask yourself, what brought you here? What role did you play?

Next question is, what did you learn from it?
Are you learning anything or are you going to keep on repeating the same lesson over and over again?

"Until you handle it with grace, it will stay in your face."

You know that you will keep on getting the same lesson over and over again until you completely accept it and understand it.
Then you will graduate onto the next challenge in life.
Life is never at a standstill.

What is the biggest challenge that you are facing today...either in your business or personally?


Wednesday, June 27, 2018

What You Do Every Day Matters

                               "It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives.
                                                  It's what we do consistently."
                                                         - Tony Robbins

Little by Little A little become A lot.

Every great teacher will tell you that when you want to build any habit..... consistency is key.

Here is a great metaphor of what I am talking about.

A stonecutter hits a rock with his hammer. The stone splits. the casual observer sees and thinks, "WOW! That guy is really strong. I can't believe he broke that rock with one single blow!"
The reality is that the stonecutter didn't break the rock in one single blow. He'd been hammering away at that rock for a long time. Many, many blows went into the rock before it finally split.

Many people will look at the person on top of the mountain and say..... aren't they lucky to be standing there. And they forget to look at all the hard work it took for that person to reach the top of the mountain.

Most people see someone who has achieved success whether it's financial wealth, fitness, enlightenment or celebrity status, and think....."WOW, they sure are lucky."

So, keep on hitting the rock.....over and over again.


Sunday, June 24, 2018

5 Tips To Stay Healthy And Keep Your Weight Under Control

                                               Every small achievement will soon be
                                                        one amazing success.

Do want to feel healthier and have more energy?

Most of  us do.

How about being able to keep your weight under control and to feel awesome?

Are you interested?

Here are 5 simple things that you can do to live a healthier, more energized life and keep the weight under control.

These tips are so easy and so simple to do. They have worked very will in my life and I hope that you will try them.

Step One
Move more.
Get inspired to add a few more activities into your life.
I've had dogs for the past 30 years and that has helped a lot with moving my body. I enjoy taking my dogs out in nature for walks on a daily base. Great exercise for both me and the dogs.
Decide do move more. It doesn't matter what you do.
Start walking with a pedometer and set a goal of 10,000 steps per day.

Step Two
Find out what works.
Find something that you like to do. For me as I mentioned in step one I love to walk my two dogs on a daily base.  I also enjoy doing yoga. I used to do classes at the gym but now I do three 30-minutes sessions per week at home.
Figure out what you like to do, or chances are that you won't do it.
Sign up for some specific class. Find a few friends and do something together.

Step Three
Start small.
Don't be a weekend worrier at the gym and then end up on the couch for the rest of the weak because you hurt yourself.
Make tiny changes both when it comes to your diet and your exercise. Instead of eating a big salad start with adding a vegetable or two to your meal on a regular base. Replace a soda or a candy bar with a piece of fruit. Eventually you will start craving more fresh food and less junk.

Step Four
Be consistent
I eat the same healthy breakfast everyday. Sticking to the same meal takes the guess work out of how to start my day on a healthy note. I walk about the same distance every day. Rain or sunshine, it doesn't matter. Consistency pays off big time. Little by little a little become a lot.
Develop stickability.

Step Five
Be kind to yourself and appreciate yourself and your body.
You might want to clean up your self-talk. Remember whatever you say to are listening.
Stop beating yourself up. You must become your own biggest cheer-leader.

Here are a few empowering  affirmations to say to yourself. 

I accept who I am with joy.
I love myself exactly as I am.
I always stand up for myself and I know I am a person of great value.
I am committed to be successful.
I have inner strength.
I am capable.
I am proud of my body.
I am healthy, I am strong and I am powerful


Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Wake Up And Be Awesome

                                            "Every morning you have two choices.
                                                 Continue to sleep with dreams
                                              wake up and chase your dreams."

Willpower is a muscle and you can increase it by using it more often. The more you use it the stronger it gets.

Having a huge willpower muscle will assist you in your pursuit of your dreams and it will help you accomplish anything in your life.
Today I will give a you a great way to increase that muscle.

Today's Challenge

I believe that how you start your day is the way you day will continue. If you want to have a successful day I believe that you have to have some morning success habits that will set the tone for how your day is going to go.

                              "This morning I will show up. Stepping forward in growth."

Strengthen  you willpower muscle every day, by committing to waking up at a designated time  (Maybe trying to bet the sun up!)

Spend that extra time before the world wakes up to do yoga, meditate, read a book, journaling, reading your statement with your goals, write, paint, go for a walk or a run.
Do something that will inspire you. Something that will boost your energy level and that will make you feel alive for the day.

Re-commit every evening to get up again the next morning.
Commit to do this for at least three weeks and you will be amazed at how happy, inspired and energized you will feel.

                                          I have got a dream worth more than my sleep.


Monday, June 18, 2018

Eat To Fuel Your Body - Not To Feed Your Emotions

                                                         It's not a short term diet.
                                                   It's a long term lifestyle change.

Most people take better care of their cars than they do their own bodies.

We must all realize the consequences of our mistakes and understand the benefits of the right decisions when it comes to eating right. It's time to stop cheating and be serious about changing our eating patters to improve our health and our entire lives.

A lot of people are wandering through life just eating whatever is tasting the best. Not paying much attention to how is affecting their body and their energy, long term. Short term pleasure and energy but often long term pain later in life.

Surveys show that almost 70% of American adults are now overweight and obese. We are eating high calorie nutrient deficient food and we mix it with a sedentary lifestyle. Not a good combination for health and vitality.

Today people are eating a lot of processed foods and meats, lots of refined grains and a lot of added fat and sugar.

My Story!
Talking about sugar.....I have to come clean here and admit that I love sugar. 
Yes.....I love sugar way too much. More that I should. Sugar is my best friend. It's there when I feel sad. Sugar is there when I am happy. Sugar is helping when I feel worried and sugar is there when I need a energy boost. How can you not love sugar? I don't think that I know anybody that doesn't like sugar.
But I have come to realize that sugar and I cannot be best friends anymore. Because my best friend sugar is not good for me. The friendship was ruining my health and my energy. So I decided that I have to let go of this best friend because my best friend was toxic.
Nowadays I have some new friends. Their names are apples, melons, pears, tangerines and carrots just to name a few.
Many years ago I was also totally hooked on drinking Diet Coke. It helped me with my boredom at work. Looking back on it now I realized that I should have changed profession a little earlier instead of depending on diet soda to give me an energy boost. 
Today I don't touch soda. Diet or not, it doesn't matter, because it's really bad for you and it has absolutely no nutritional value.

By the way.....if you love to drink wine or alcohol … are probably deep down addicted to sugar. There is a lot of sugar in these drinks.

                                         A healthy lifestyle not only changes your body,
                                    it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood.

So what are we suppose to do to be able to live healthier?

Change Our Eating Pattern

Eat Food
Eat the right amount (not too much)
Mostly plants

This sounds very simple and it's actually a very simple solution.
It's simple.....but not so easy to do.

Today we are not eating whole food. We are eating things that look like food.
Twinkies, launchables, spray on cheese and margarine, cereals loaded with sugar, low-fat or no fat brownies, half the calories potato chips, just to name a few.
Does anyone know what is in a chicken nugget? I don't think I want to know.

Don't eat too much food. I don't think I need to talk about this one. People are just eating way too much food. Look at the size of our plates....they have gotten bigger so that we won't realize how much we are eating.
A good rule is.....never go back for a second serving. Resist the temptation.

A lot of people are eating even when they are not hungry. They are eating as a way of dealing with their emotions.
Why are you eating when you are not hungry? What are you trying to avoid by numbing your feeling(s) with food or sugar?
Trying to fill the empty whole inside will never work. The more you fill the hole the bigger it gets.

Make a new habit of eating mostly plants. There is now evidence that more meat in your diet, the greater the risk of heart disease and cancer.
Decide to add more vegetables to your diet.....and I am not talking about broccoli that is getting topped off with cheese sauce.

Adopting and maintaining a healthy diet is the first and the most important step on the path to wellness and vitality.
Food is medicine and the best medicine is preventative. Food will help protect us against heart disease, stroke, some cancer, high blood pressure, depression, mental decline associated with aging, diabetes and other weight related illnesses.

Feeding our bodies better fuel will allow us to live a life of higher quality.

Take good care of you body because it's the only place that you got to live.


Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Why We Self-Sabotage

                                       "Just imagine how much you'd get done
                              if you stopped actively sabotaging your own work."
                                                      - Seth Godin

Most of us want changes in our lives, but it seems like only a few of us are able to accomplish the changes that we know that we need to make.
Most of us want to be happier, healthier, wealthier and more more successful.....but unfortunately most of us are having a difficult time making the changes to make this happen.

We want and we expect change, but we are not doing the most important and effective things to make lasting change happen. A lot of us keep on doing the same thing over and over again and for some strange reason, we expect a different result.

So why is this happening to a lot of us?

Think of a thermostat. You have it set for 75 degrees. On a warm sunny day, if the temperature reaches over 75 degrees in your house, your AC kicks in and runs for a while until the temperature is back down to 75 degrees. Same thing with heat. If it gets too cold in your house, your heater will kick in and bring the temperature up to the desired heat that you have set your thermostat for.

Now, think of yourself as having a automatic thermostat built into you. This is a thermostat that will keep you within your comfort zone. This thermostat will tell you what you can or cannot succeed at. How much money that you feel comfortable making, how much weight that you feel comfortable carrying, what kind of love that you will allow into your life..... just to give you a few examples.

Unfortunately our family, teachers, friends told us who we were, and since we were only children at the time this programming was going on, we didn't know any better. We believed them and unfortunately this set our programming and our thermostat.

In other words.....your ability to succeed at something later in life is largely determined by what you were told as a child.

You might consciously want the changes in your life right now, but your thermostat, which is mostly unconscious (you are not aware of your programming as a child), won't allow you to change for a longer period of time. It doesn't matter how hard you are trying to change on a conscious level, the thermostat might keep on bringing you down to a level where you are feeling more comfortable at being.

If you find yourself to be unhappy right now, your thermostat will bring you to do things that you enjoy and it will try to find a solution to your unhappiness. That is a good thing.

But here is the catch, if you find yourself to be too happy, the thermostat will make you sabotage yourself and bring down your happiness level to a point that feels more within your comfort zone.

Same thing with weight loss. You lose the weight and feel great for a while but then you thermostat kicks in and starts to sabotage you. You start to gain some weight in order to return to a level where you feel more comfortable. Your own comfort zone.

Your thermostat might bring you up for a while, but eventually it will just stop and not let you go any higher.

This is why the majority of lottery winners end up losing all their money and even end up bankrupt. They were too far out of their comfort zone.

Most of us are not aware of our own thermostat. And since it is mostly unconscious it will end up limiting us from taking the right kind of action to be able to accomplish what we desire.
In a way it knocks us off the path that we started to walk on. It knocks us back onto a path that feels more familiar to us, even though we don't really want to walk that path.

We consciously want the new path but since our thermostat is mostly unconscious and 95% of our lives are controlled by the unconscious, well..... you can guess where most of us will end up....back on the old path.


Sunday, June 10, 2018

I Have The Power!

                                                      I create my own reality.
                                                      I create my own future.
                    My mind is strong enough to change and create anything in this world.
                                                          I have the power.

Are you happy with your life right now?

Did you know that you are the creator of your own life?

Who is creating this?

Who is creating your life experience?

You are the one creating.

If you don't like what you are creating, stop looking at the outside world and know that from your own consciousness you are manifesting this world around you.

If you don't like what you are manifesting, you don't need to change the world.
All you need to change is your own consciousness and your own limiting programs that you are running on a daily base.

Other people are not to blame.
We are all responsible for our own lives and what we are manifesting.

The moment you blame others you are dis-empowering yourself.
Basically saying...…"I don't have anything to do with this.....I'm a victim."

You are the creator of your own life and if you want what you are creating to be better, you are the one that have to make it better.

Stop waiting for other people. If you wait for others to change you will wait forever.
Do you actually think people around you are going to change just because you want them to change? I don't think so!!!

What if people and the world is not changing..... then how is your life going to get better?

When you change, take your power back and start creating what you want.

You are more powerful than you think!

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Don't Allow Toxic And Manipulative People To Hold You Back

                                        Do not keep people in your life that are not for you.
                                             Eventually these people will stress you out 
                                               and become the source of your downfall.

If you are a person that have made some positive changes in your life recently you might be surprised by the reaction of some of the people closest to you.
Sad but true, you must realize that not everyone is going to be happy for you and your new life style.

Maybe friends and family members are not supporting you the way you thought they would?
Maybe your growth and new way of thinking and living is actually a threat to them?
Don't be surprised if the people closest to you and even family members try to sabotage your efforts.
I'm not saying that people will consciously try to sabotage you, but they might do this in order to protect you or themselves from change.

Always pay attention to what people are saying to you.
The information might be of great value but it can also be a hidden agenda.
Pay attention to what is being said and what their motives are.

Some people will be overprotective of you because they don't want you to get hurt. Maybe if you try something you will end up failing. These people are generally acting with care, love and concern and it might be difficult to discover their hidden agenda.
This one is hard to catch and hard to fight because they act like they are really concerned for you.

Other people will be upset with you because you actually accomplished what they themselves had always wanted to be able to do. You succeeded and they didn't.
Some people feel that you have something that they themselves want.
These people will try to sabotage you in order to bring you back down to their own level.

Some people will only feel comfortable in familiar circumstances even if their circumstances are bad. Ever heard...."Better the devil that I know than the one I don't know"? A change is a huge threat to them and always scary, even if it's a change for the better. It's still a change.
These people don't want to venture out of their comfort zone.....ever.

Other people will try to take your power away by telling you things like....."Who do you think you are, trying to start a business of your own. You don't have any business experience" or "Do you really think that you will be able to keep the weight off that you have lost?" or "You are way to old to accomplish your dream. You might as well stay here with us, because if you leave us you will fail."
These people will try to strip you of your own power in order to maintain their relationship with you.

Toxic and Manipulative people come in many forms. Develop a strong sense of what type of people that you want to have in your life. The clearer you are about what you want and what is acceptable behavior will make it easier for you to identify people and situations where manipulation is happening and toxicity is spread.

If you are a person that are determined to live your life in the most authentic degree, you must realize that you are going to disappoint a few people.
Just make sure to not allow these people to set you back on your new path in life.


Sunday, June 3, 2018

Yes You Can!

                                                      Turn your "I can't" into a 
                                                           "HELL, Yes I can".

Have you ever told yourself that you can't do something? Or that you can't stop doing something that you know that you shouldn't keep on doing?

I just can't stop eating fast food, even though I know it makes me gain more weight. I just can't stop eating these hamburgers.

I can't stop having a drink or two after coming home from work. It makes me feel relaxed after a stressful day at work. I just cannot stop drinking...... then how am I going to relax?

I just can't stop shopping online. I know I am in debt and I should really try to start a saving account instead of spending my money. But shopping makes me happy and it energizes me. I just can't seem to stop shopping.

I really need to start going to the gym but I don't have enough time in the day to do everything and there is simply no time left over for exercising.

I should get off the phone and the internet in the evenings and spend more time with my spouse and my kids, but I need to catch up with my friends online too.

I should come home a littler earlier and have dinner with my family instead of always working late. But for some reason there is always more work to do at the office.

I can't survive without my morning coffee and a doughnut.

I can't wait until the afternoon to check my emails.

I can't go to be earlier than 11pm.

I can't stop eating sweets.

I can't get out of bed before 7am.

I can't start my own business. I'm not smart enough.

I can't follow my dreams.

I can't.....I can't.....I can't......I can't!!!!

Does this sound familiar to anyone? Have you been telling yourself that you just can't do something?

It might not even be your fault that you have been saying these lies, because a lot of times other people like parents, siblings, teachers or friends might have initiated the lie by telling you that you are not good at something, and then you believed it and have been reinforcing it for years and maybe even decades.
Stop  believing these lies.

The biggest lie that we tell ourselves is "I can't".

Maybe it's time for you to stop thinking this way and to stop lying to yourself and decide that you can either stop doing certain things that you need to stop doing or start doing things that are important and that you know that you should be doing.

You can change your life by start telling yourself the truth.

Stop accepting your own lies. Go from telling yourself that you can't do something, which is a lie to telling yourself......YES I can do it and I will do it, which is the truth.

The truth is that all of us can stop doing certain things or start doing things.
We can stop eating unhealthy foods, we can stop drinking, we can stop spending money, we can start exercising, we can stop surfing the internet for hours every evening, we can get to bed before 11pm and we can get going before 7am.

Then what is going on here? Why are we continuing to tell ourselves these lies?
Because it's easier for us to say that we can't and to use that as an excuse rather than to venture out of our comfort zone and test ourselves.

The worst thing is if we continue to say "I can't" eventually we won't even try.

It's better to try something and quit after a while or try something else, but saying "I can't" without even trying....that is really bad. How do you know you can't? You don't..... because you didn't even try one time.

We lie to protect ourselves. It saves us from feeling discomfort and from pain, in the short term. But in the long term it makes us feel confined, powerless and almost feeling like a caged bird. Stuck in a cage for all our lives and not ever trying to tap into our potential.

I can't really means.....I won't.

I will not take a chance. I will protect myself and live a small and secure life.

But is true that you really can't?

Next time you are tempted to say....."I can't"......Try "instead.....I can and I will".


Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Build A Quiet Space In Your Mind

                                          When life gets busy and hard to deal with,
                                                          go off by yourself.
                                      Find your own quiet space within yourself
                                            where you can relax and decompress.

In today's world we are constantly being bombarded with stimuli from everywhere.
We carry our phones with us wherever we go and we seldom allow ourselves to decompress and relax. Often when we get home at night we are so wound up that it is hard for many of us to let go and relax. This is not a good way to live and it will cause us a lot of stress and that will eventually affect our wellbeing, both physically and mentally.

We are always on the go. If  it's not physically, it is mentally, and that is why I suggest that we build a quiet room in our mind. A place where we can go several times during the day to just relax, decompress and escape. This room will be like your own decompression chamber.

We all need a place within ourselves where we can go to simply get away for a few minutes and not be disturbed.

How do we build this quiet room within ourselves?

Sit down and think of a place that you like. It can be indoors or outdoors. Create it in your imagination.
It might be by the ocean or in the woods. Maybe a beautiful meadow or by a quiet lake. It doesn't matter as long as it relaxes you. This place needs be quiet, beautiful and peaceful.

You can create a indoor room and paint it with whatever color you like. Don't have a lot of furniture in it and don't hang a lot of pictures on the walls. Keep it as simple as possible.

Create a retreat for yourself and then make a habit of returning to this retreat for a few minutes while you try to relax and decompress.
Don't bring your worries and your stress to the retreat. Simply learn to relax and  then imagine this retreat or quiet room in your mind.

Visit this place as often as you need.
Make it a tool that you use several times during the day when you feel that life is getting too busy and out of control.
Take some deep breaths and travel to this quiet place for a few minutes.
Make sure that you don't let anything bother you while you are relaxing at your retreat.
Nothing can touch you while you are in your quiet place.

Doing this will allow you to return to your workday world better prepared to cope with it.

You might also want to spend a few minutes in your quiet room or your retreat before you leave your office and go home for the day to prevent you from bringing unnecessary stress home with you.