Friday, April 28, 2017

What Is Self-Esteem? What is Self-Confidence?

                                          "Low self-esteem is like driving through life
                                                      with you hand-break on."
                                                           - Maxwell Maltz

We hear the word self-esteem a lot and also the word self-confidence.....but do you know that they actually mean and what the difference is between the two?

Self-esteem is how we generally feel about ourselves. How much we like or love ourselves. It is also the overall image that we have about ourselves. Positive or negative it doesn´t matter.
Our self-esteem is shaped my our parents, siblings, teachers, friends, our experiences and also our environment that we grew up in and also our community.
Self-esteem is to truly feel comfortable in you own skin and if everyone doesn´t like you, it is OK with you.

A couple of tips!

Get to know yourself. Understand what you like and what you don´t like and why.
Set goals and achieve what you want.
Don´t be afraid to ask for help.
Stand up for your beliefs and your values.
Take responsibility for your own actions.
Take good care of yourself.

How would your life improve if your self-esteem improved?

                                "When you have self-confidence, you have a lot of fun.
                                  And when you have fun you can do amazing things."
                                                             - Joe Namath

Self-confidence is how we show up in the world. How we feel about our abilities and also how capable we see ourselves of doing certain things.
It is also how we feel that we can handle different situations.

A great tip!

One of the best ways to gain confidence is to do something you are afraid to do.
Get a record of successful experience behind you. Start stacking one success on top of the other.

It is not who you are that will hold you back. It is who you think you are not.

If you don´t see how great you are, how can you expect anyone else to see it?

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Your Destiny Is Not Determined By Your Critics

                                         "There is only one way to avoid criticism:
                                                              do nothing
                                                              say nothing
                                                          and be nothing."
                                                             - Aristotle

Everyone will encounter criticism sometime in their lives. Sometimes we will be criticized fairly but most often unfairly. Certainly constructive criticism can be helpful.

Unwanted criticism is most often based on jealousy and we must always remember that such criticism is more a reflection of the critic than of the person being criticized.
Instead of being happy for you some people will criticize you because you have something that they want. What they don´t realize is that they can also have what you have got.
A lot of times criticism comes from a competitive spirit. Some people try to cover up their own insecurities by being critical or cynical towards others.
Unfortunately not everybody will celebrate your victories with you and the more successful you become, the more criticism you will encounter.

Here are a couple of tips on how to handle criticism.

Never take it personally.
It is never about you. If the critic is not tearing you apart they will try to tear someone else apart. That is just simply what they do. There is something on the inside of the critic that will make them lash out, and unless they deal with it, it will prevent them from rising higher.
Haters will always hate.

Don´t start thinking that you will get even.
Don´t try to pay them back for spreading untruths about you. Never dwell on what the critics are saying about you and don´t let it upset you and never become revengeful. Never sink down to their level and don´t become defensive and try to prove that you are right and that your critic is wrong. Don´t allow them to stress you out.
Just shake it of and keep on moving forward.

Stay focused on your dream and your goals.
You don´t have time to sit around and talk about all the people that don´t like you. Time is valuable and don´t waste it trying to please everybody. You don´t have time to explain yourself and your dream, and you can´t win over your critics. Not everyone will be excited about your dream and not everybody will understand
Stay focused on your goals and don´t waste your precious energy on others. People will judge you no matter what you are doing.
It is not your job to convince others to change their mind.
Your gift and your purpose is to inspire, motivate, encourage and challenge people.

If you are making a difference in the world you will always have you share of critics.
Just remember that the higher you go, the more visible of a target you will be and the more critics will want to take a shot at you.
Don´t allow some narrow minded people discourage you from taking it all the way to the top.
Don´t change yourself or your dream. Move forward and shake it off.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Life Is Defined By The Choices You Make

                                         "I am NOT a product of my circumstances.
                                                 I am a product of my decisions."
                                                           - Stephen Covey

At any given moment of your life you have two choices.
You can either step into growth and expansion, or you can step back into safety and status quo.

If you want to understand what you are doing on a daily base I suggest that you start paying attention to your own behavior.
Become aware of the decisions that you make in every moment of your life.

Did you follow through on your promise today to go walking or running (growth)? or did you just say "heck with it, I´ll do it tomorrow instead (back into safety)."

Did you decide to save 100 dollars per month (growth)? or did you decide to blow the money on a new pair of jeans? (safety).

The decisions that you make every day are very important.
Are you going to continue with the same old pattern that will make you remain in the comfort zone? or start to make some new decisions that will empower you and make you stretch and expand?
It is totally up to you.

Do you want to be a slave to you past or a pioneer of the future?

First you have to become aware.
Become conscious of who you are, the decisions you make, how you are presenting yourself, how you are expressing yourself and what you are actually doing.

Your destiny and your future is shaped by the decisions that you are making today.
Make sure that you are making empowering decisions that will lead to growth.

Choose wisely. Choose to step forward.


                                               Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, April 21, 2017

Does Achieving Your Goals Make You Happy.....Or Not?

                             "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important
                                     as who you become by achieving your goals."
                                                            - Zig Ziglar

Do you feel happy after you have reached your goals?

What kind of goals are you choosing to pursue?

Studies show that pursuing wealth, power, popularity, fame or validation (extrinsic goals) only leads to fleeting happiness..... if you succeed.
Unfortunately when you pursue these kind of goals you are always going to want more and more and more and you will never end up feeling happy or filled up.
This is exactly why so many "rich" or "famous" people look and are miserable.

Instead choose goals that will create connection with others. Goals that will make you grow, learn and expand. Doing things that feels authentic to you.
Goals that represent who you truly are deep inside..... are the kind of goals that will make you feel and experience lasting happiness.
Actually you will feel it on the journey to reaching your goal too.

It is not reaching your goals that will make you happy. It is the person you become in the process of reaching your dream.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Out With The Old - Make Room For The New

                               That broken thing you keep trying to put back together
                   can´t even compare with the beautiful thing that´s waiting to be built.

Have you allowed stagnation to take over your life? Maybe it is time to de-clutter your life?

Stagnation can take many forms and in order to eliminate it from our lives we must be firm and efficient about it.
This can sometimes be challenging because we may have an emotional attachement to it.

Lets take physical clutter a example. You might have attachement to some of your things or some of your clutter. By getting rid of some of your clutter you are clearing out the old to make room for something new and better. Donate old clothing and possessions that you are no longer using. Let someone else enjoy your used things. Clean and organize your surroundings as much as possible. Put things away after using them.
Do you have a lot of physical clutter in your home, work place or your car?

Sometimes it might also be time to de-clutter your personal/business relationships. Are you clinging to relationships that you outgrew years ago? Are people around you being negative, always complaining, gossiping and in general just griping about their lives? Maybe it is time to stop spending as much time with these people?
Remember you are trying to create some room for something better to show up.

How about your finances, are they out of balance? Are you credit cards maxed out? Do you have a lot of past-due bills tucked away in a drawer somewhere?
Time to take charge of your financial situation. It might seem overwhelming in the beginning but start by creating a plan. Set up payment plans with creditors, start a savings account, create a budget and stick to it.
These small steps are going to give you peace of mind and greater prosperity.

Are you stuck in self-defeating habits and activities? Start by creating a plan to resolve anything that makes you feel unhappy, dissatisfies, frustrated or empty on the inside.

If you have clutter in your life, it will block you from creating what you really want. It can also result in clouded thinking, negativity, loss of energy and depression.

And the really sad thing is that clutter and disharmony will block prosperity from entering your life.

Start today by removing anything that is blocking the flow of prosperity into your life.
Release the old to make way for the new.

                                     Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, April 17, 2017

You Can Have Anything In Life - If You Do This!

                                    "Big achievements come one small advantage at a time,
                                                          one step at a time,
                                                      ONE DAY AT A TIME."

Today I want to share a big secret with you.
It is the secret to be able to accomplish anything in your life worth doing.

Most people have run into this secret many times, and I believe you have as well. But a lot of people don´t know that they have encountered this secret because they don´t recognize it.
Most of the time they have been looking for something bigger and something more flashy.

I have also missed this secret many times. I didn´t recognize that it was a truly fantastic thing. The secret was always available to me....all the time, but I just didn´t recognize how important it was.
But I do now.

So what is this secret that I am talking about?
Small daily habits. Or another word for these habits might be "Investments Habits."

The only way to get the life you want is to make small investments in your dream on a daily base.
It doesn´t matter what you are trying to accomplish. If it is a new career, losing weight, financial freedom or a wonderful get it..... you must invest each and every day towards it.

Your future is not determined by luck, flashes of brilliance or who you know. It is determined by YOU. In other words it is determined by your willingness to create small habits and then actually following these habits on a daily base until you accomplish your dream. No one can perform these habits for you. You have to actually do them yourself.

Most people won´t recognize your new habits and most of the time you will never be rewarded for them. Never develop these habits for anyone but yourself. If you don´t develop them for yourself , they will never stick around.

Nothing much will happen in the beginning. Not in the first weeks and maybe not even in the first months. Sometimes it can take years. But eventually you will wake up one day and discover that your life has been transformed.
Most people are not interested in hearing about this secret, but that doesn´t matter. What matters is that you know about this secret and how powerful it is.

Question number one.....What do you want?
So first you must decide what you want. Once you know what you want then is gets a lot easier to decide what to do next.
Humans are hardwired to go after what they want but unfortunately most people don´t know what they want.

Question number two.....Will the habits that you have today support your journey in reaching your dream.....or do you need to create a few daily habits to be able to accomplish your dream?

If you really want what you say that you want....the habits are not going to be an issue. Small daily and usually pretty simple habits will usually get you there.
Small investments habits, performed daily and over a long enough period of time, can accomplish anything.

If you don´t think that these small habits have any power I suggest you check it out for yourself. I am here to tell you that there are more power in these habits than it appears.

If you want to become the best version of yourself.....then you have to do what most people are not willing to do. Commit to small daily habits.....until you get to where you want to go.

Do it for YOU and do it because you want your DREAM.

                                     Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Your Focus Determines Your Reality

                                        "When things feel like they're not working out,
                                                   focus on what is working right."
                                                          - Karen Salmansohn

Do you feel like the world is out of control?

Do you feel like everywhere you look there is always something to make you upset, worried and anxious?

Are a lot of the people around you always complaining, gossiping, arguing and talking about what is wrong and what isn't working?

What is wrong in this world is always available .....but so is what is right and what is working in this world.

It comes down to what you decide to focus on at the moment. What is wrong or what is right.

I also feel worried about all the things going on in the world right now. But at the same time, if I allow it consume me, I will feel like my life is out of control all the time and that there is nothing I can do to change it. Not a good way to live.

So what can we do on a daily base to feel better about everything..... including ourselves?

First we can start with what we choose to focus on most of them time.
This is something that is under your control.

Do we need to constantly watch the news? No we don't. You can choose to disconnect from the news. Do we need to hang out with negative friends, family-members and co-workers that are always complaining, griping and looking for reasons to remain unhappy? No we don't.

Here are three things that you can control

1. What you decide to focus on most of the time.
Learn to focus on what you can control in your life instead of what you can't. You can't control what is going on in the world. You can't control other people and what they say. But what you can control is how you react. You can also control who you spend your time with, and what you spend your time doing. Are you taking any type of action or do you remain on the couch?
Choose to focus most of you time on positive things, and what is working right now.

2. Focus on what you already have in your life.
A lot of people are constantly focusing on what is missing and what they don't have. And only when they get IT, only then will they be happy.
Be grateful for what you do have and what is already working in your life. By shifting your focus..... more things to be grateful for will eventually show up in your life.

3. Start to focus more on the present and the future.
Most people live their lives stuck in the past. We must learn from our past, but we should never live there. He/she did this to me! My parents neglected me or abused me! My teachers didn't care!
You have no control over the past. What is done..... is done.
Learn to move on.

Ask Yourself.....

What can I control?
What is possible for me?
What is in the future?
What can I do today to make things happen?

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Everyone Has A Purpose In Life

                                          "Everyone has a purpose in life.....
                               a unique gift or special talent to give to others."
                                                      - Deepak Chopra

Discover your own uniqueness and then discipline yourself to develop it.

You are blessed with a unique set of skills and talents.

Prioritize time to cultivate your talents on a regular base.

The only limitations on your dreams and your gifts are those you impose on yourself.

You have gifts and talents that the world need you to express.

Find your unique gifts, refine them and then let them carry you toward success.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, April 10, 2017

8 Tactics To Tame Your Stress

                                             "A man of calm is like a shade tree.
                                            People who need shelter come to it."
                                                             - Toba Beta

We all know that stress can wreak havoc in our lives. It will take its toll on our physical as well as our mental health. Moderate levels of stress is harmless but when stress is prolonged it will start to damage our health and our wellbeing. As soon as the stress continues beyond a few moments into a prolonged state, it suppresses the brain's ability to develop new cells. So it is very important to be able to keep stress under control.

As the human brain has evolved we have also developed the ability to worry and we also end up rehashing events over and over in our minds, which will create frequent experiences of prolonged stress. It has also increased the risk of heart disease, depression, anxiety and obesity. Stress will also decrease our cognitive performance.
The good thing is that most of our stress is under our control.

Here are a few coping strategies that you can use under stressful situations.

1. Learn to breathe.
One of the easiest ways to reduce stress is to breathe. When you feel stressed take a few minutes to focus entirely on your breathing. Put away distractions and just sit and breathe. The goal is to be able to spend time focusing only on your breathing while you are trying to prevent your mind from wandering. This will take a little practice in the beginning. But after a while you will be able to breathe and be in the moment.

2. Appreciate what you have.
Take time to recognize and reflect on what you are grateful for in your life. Being grateful for what you already have improves your mood. People who work daily to cultivate and "attitude of gratitude" experience improved mood, energy and physical wellbeing. Maybe it is time to start a "gratitude journal?"

3. Get Support.
Sometimes the best and the easiest thing is to talk to a trusted friend, mentor or coach. These people are not part of the problem and they can see a new perspective and a solution to the situation. But first you must recognize your weaknesses and ask for help when you need it.

4. Stay positive.
Having positive thoughts will help you managing your stress. And yes....we are in control of our thoughts. It might be something that you haven't worked on in while but we can train ourselves to have more positive thoughts. It is easy to have good thoughts when things go well. But when things go poorly and your mind is flooded with negativity it might be a little more difficult to control our thoughts. Think about something positive that happened yesterday or last week. Or maybe think about an event in the future that you are looking forward to. Spend time on creating some new exciting goals and then spend time thinking about how to accomplish them.

5. Get enough sleep.
When you sleep your brain recharges and it shuffles through the day's memories and stores and discards them, so that you can wake up clear headed, and ready to go the next morning. Our attention, self-control and memory are all reduced when we don't get enough sleep. Sleep deprivation also raises stress hormones on its own without a stressor present. Making sure that you are getting a good night's sleep is one of the best things you can do for your body and your health.

6. Disconnect.
When you make yourself available 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant stream of stressors. Try to disconnect. Stay off-line and turn off your phone sometimes will give your body a break from a constant source of stress. Staying in constant contact will increase your stress levels. It is very difficult to enjoy a stress-free moment outside of work when an email or a phone call will change your thought and get you thinking about work. Try to choose blocks of time to go off-line. Maybe in the evenings or if that is not possible you can try the weekends. These breaks will make you feel mentally refreshed and it will reduce your stress.

7. Stop asking why? and what if?
These questions will only fuel your worry and your stress. Stop worrying about all the things that can go wrong and start to focus on what is possible and what will work. Then take action on what the solutions are. Learn to focus on the solutions instead of focusing on the problems.

8. Stop negative self-talk.
Stop negative thoughts and self-talk dead in its tracks. The more you focus on your negative thoughts the more energy and power you give them. Our own thoughts can make us feel good but our thoughts can also make ourselves feel really crappy. We have around 50 000 thought per day and most of them are negative. But most of our thoughts are just thoughts and not facts and the truth. Try to identify your thoughts. Write them down on a piece of paper and then go over them. Identify and then separate the negative thoughts from the facts, will help you escape your "inner critic" and cope with your stress.

Some of these strategies seem simple and obvious.
But the challenge is to actually use them when you are starting to feel overwhelmed and stressed.

                                      Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, April 7, 2017

Never Leave Your House Without Wearing This!

Do you know what the prettiest thing is that you can wear?

You can actually wear it every day.

You are never fully dressed without it.

All people have it and it looks great on everyone.

A lot of people seldom wear it and some people have unfortunately forgotten how to wear it.

It makes you happy when you wear it and it also makes other people around you happy when you wear it.

It costs nothing. It's FREE

Still don't know what it is?

Your smile.

Your smile is the pretties thing that you can ever wear.

                                  "A smile is happiness you'll find right under your nose."
                                                           - Tom Wilson

Our facial muscles are most unemployed muscles of our entire body. Unfortunately a lot of people have flabby smile-muscles. They need a good workout.

Smiling is also infectious - you can catch it the same way you catch a cold.

The effect of a smile - A  general feeling of wellbeing. It triggers happy emotions within you and it makes the people around you feel better two.

Never underestimate the value a smile brings. It is a universal language and it is standard equipment for all people.

Make sure you never leave your house in the morning without a smile. And make sure that you also bring some home with you.

I hope that you will always find a reason to smile.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

We Must Pay The Price For Life's Rewards

                                      "It is unreasonable to think we can earn rewards
                                         without being willing to pay the true price.
                                           It is always our choice whether or not
                                        we wish to pay the price for life's rewards."
                                                               - Epictetus

As human beings we all have the power of choice in our lives. We can control our future, months, weeks, days, to take the right action every day that will move us one step closer to our goals.

One important thing though.....we must make the right choices that will move us along on our path to success. We can never allow anyone else to choose for us.
You and I must decide for ourselves.

The sooner you realize that your success is your own personal responsibility and to rely mostly on yourself, the sooner you will be free.
Remember can change anything right now in your life, that you don't like.

No one is going to things for us. We choose our behaviors, our values, our habits, our friends, our reference group and our attitudes. We can choose the easy way out.....or the hard way in.

Your life is your choice.

Are you doing the best you can with your given gifts?

Are you creating the life and the legacy that you have the potential to do?

Are you listening to the right voices? And reading the right books?

Are you choosing safety, security and mediocrity instead of venturing out in the unknown and discover what you are actually capable of doing?

Have you accepted the status quo?

Are you choosing the right friends and reference group?

Will you go through life accepting that you can't change anything and being part of the masses striving for living in their comfort zones?

Are you asking enough questions? You will learn by asking new questions.

Starting today it is time to choose yourself.

Choose to discover the truth.

Choose yourself over others.

Choose personal responsibility.

Choose to always do your best.

Choose to do more. To try more new things.

Choose to overcome the obstacles in your life instead of allowing them to stop you dead in your track.

Choose to start.....right now.

Choose to take action.

Because it is up you.....and you do the work.

We must all pay the price for life's rewards.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, April 3, 2017

Never Settle In A Setback - Keep On Going!

                                                             "Never settle.
                                 Fight for Life, the Career, the Dreams, the Love
                                                           that you deserve."
                                                             - Mandy Hale

When we are kids or a little younger we believe that anything is possible.
There were never any limits to what we thought we could do or who we wanted to be. Back then we would always dream big dreams.
Then something happens to us. Life takes over and we forget about our dreams, who we wanted to become and all the things that we wanted to accomplish.

Life almost happen for us. Our dream almost happened for us. We almost lost the weight, We almost got our dream job, We almost married the man/woman of our dreams. We have now gotten stuck in an "almost life" and a lot of times..... a very small world. The problem is that we were never created or meant to live a small life or an "almost life." There is not a ceiling on how far we can go. There are never any ceilings in life.

Back to being a kid. Kids are by nature very curious. They can ask a thousand questions. And when they are through asking those thousand questions they have another thousand to ask. Kids are curious and the spend their time in a discovery zone. Very different than a comfort zone, where most of us spend our adult lives. I bet when you were a kid you were very curious and you constantly wanted to learn and discover new things? What happened?

Challenges and problems started coming. They just keep on coming like giant waves of the ocean. If a problem only shoved up maybe every five years.....we would be OK. But not every year and not all the time. It seems like challenges and problems show up all the time. One after another one shows up. It is like being hit by one giant wave and then another and then yet another and then finally the wind is completely knocked out of you. Ever been thru this?

I guess most of you know my own story by now?  In 2012 this is exactly what happened to me. First my mom died - big wave and I barely got up. Then three months later I left an abuse relationship - another big wave. I barely got up. Then two days later I moved back to Sweden after living 25 years in the US - another big wave. All of these waves coming so close together finally knocked me down. I was hit over and over again to the point that I could no longer stand up. I felt like I had been in a severe car-wreck and then I was living on life-support for several months. Time Out!!!
Finally I got back up and here I am stranding five years later.

Disappointments, setbacks and problems can make you feel heartbroken and discouraged and it feels like the wind has been knocked out of you. You feel sick to your heart and that is not good, because happiness, love, joy and peace also comes from the heart.

A lot of people will have setbacks in their lives. It can be a death of a loved one, job loss, financial loss, divorce or a physical setback like an illness. When most people experience a setback it is a natural thing to take a step back. A setback and then a step back. But after a few setbacks and stepping back too many times you will find yourself so far away from the real you and you might decide to sit and stay in your setback.

It is OK to step back for a week, month or a year. But five years? or even ten years?
Unfortunately some people will settle in their setback. "You don't know the hell I have been through!".....Come On.....we all have been through hell at some point or another in our lives. Setbacks and problems happens to all of us. If you are going through hell right now.....keep on going. Don't stay there and don't start living there. Don't sit and Don't settle.

Sometimes life will knock the sh*t out of you and then a lot of people will settle and feel sorry for themselves. You nurse your wounds and then you tell everybody you know about your wounds and sometimes you will even tell people on the street (people that you don't know)..... you sad story. In other words you have made a habit of rehearsing your story constantly.

You can't stay stuck. You must keep on moving. Make yourself feel alive again - even if you are not always in the mood. You must get you groove back. Some people have cemented themselves in a setback. Constantly telling everyone their sad story. "I would have had a good life if it hadn't been for my terrible childhood" or I would have had a great life it would not have been for my first husband who constantly put me down." Stop sitting, stop settling and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Knowing that while you are feeling the pain of your setback..... the Universe as already planning and preparing your comeback. Believe that your comeback is on its way. Remember that a comeback is never a goback. You can never go back and try to fix things. That is already in the past and you must forget about it. You learn from it but you must never dwell on it. You can never go back and try to fix people and situations. Let it go so you can open yourself to all the new things that are planned and that are about to happen for you. Get inspired about your life..... it is about to become incredible!

If you have ever had surgery or maybe been in an accident you will end up in the hospital. When the crisis is over they will move you to the recovery room. Same thing in life. You had a setback and it feels a little like being in a car wreck. It takes a little while for your head to clear. After your head has cleared you will be moved to recovery. The thing can't stay in recovery for the rest of your life. Recovery is only when we are being healed from something. As we are healing from something we must also be in the discovery zone. If you are being healed from an illness you must learn everything about it so it won't happen again. Or if you are recovering from a financial setback, study and learn, so it won't happen again. It doesn't matter what your setback you recover you must at the same time discover. Even though you are being healed you must learn to live a life fully present, fully feeling and also fully alive.

I remember back in 2012 I was learning a lot about narcissistic abuse. I wanted to learn as much as possible so I did not have to ever experience that kind of pain ever in my life again. At the same time I wanted to learn about myself and how my brain works and why we do the things we do as human beings. I have been studying psychology, myself and personal development ever since.
If we are feeling sorry for ourselves we cannot be a change agent for someone else.

Why did I become a life coach?..... Why do I now write books?..... Why do I write weekly newsletters and blogs?..... and why do I care?
Because I have been through my own hell, my own pain and confusion and I don't want anyone else to have to go through what I went through. I can't leave people in their hell and their pain and their confusion.
We all go through stuff in our lives but the good thing is that what I have been through has not left me bitter - It left me better.

Never settle in a setback - Keep on Going. It is time to pump up the volume of your life.
Get ready for your comeback!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach