Wednesday, November 29, 2017

How To Stay Excited About Your Big Dream

                                                     "The thrill is to keep
                                                    envisioning what can be."
                                                         - Oprah Winfrey

How are you coming along with your vison for 2017?
This year is almost gone. Only one month left.
Have you accomplished what you set out to accomplish in the beginning of 2017?

I believe that if you really want to have a great vision for your life and if you want to stick with making it happen, you better on a daily basis be excited about your decision to accomplish your dream.

The new year comes along and people have a huge ambition and they are excited about it.
They know that this time they are going to make it happen.
They are going to achieve their dream.
They are going to work towards it on a daily base.
But as we all know.....this ambition and the excitement is gone by March.

So how are we going to change this?
You don't want to start something in January and already be done by March.

What we know is that high achievers are excited all the time about their vision.
They stir their dream on a daily base to keep it alive.

It's like stirring the camp fire. When it's about to die down, you stir it a little and it comes alive again and starts burning.
But you don't want to wait until your desire and your ambition is about to die before you stir and get excited about it.
The trick is to keep it burning constantly. On a daily base you must stir your ambition in order to stay excited about accomplishing your dream for your life.

High achievers think about their dream more often than the average person does.
They think about their dream first thing in the morning as they wake up. And the think about it before that go to bed.
They think of what they want a little longer than most people do.
At the end of the day they usually reflect back on the day. Figure out what went well and what they need to improve on.

On Sundays they think of what they want for the upcoming week and then make plans to accomplish it. They are thinking about their dream and they create an excitement that will fuel their ambition to move towards accomplishing it.

If you don't think about what you really want and desire of life, you will never play at the top levels.

You must have a burning desire or a hunger to be able to accomplish your dream and it has to be stirred on a daily basis.
We are not going to be hungry to accomplish our dream unless we are thinking about it on a continuing basis.

What is your discipline for re-visiting your dream or ambition?

How are you stirring your dream, your ambition or desire?

What are you doing on a daily basis to move you forward towards accomplishing your dream?

Show me when and where in your life that this is showing up?

If I can't find it or you can't show it to me.....I don't believe you.

Get excited about your dream. Re-visit it on a daily basis.
Have daily disciplines that will more you close to accomplishing your dream.
Think about what you want and stir your dream often.


Monday, November 27, 2017

Every Day Matters

                                                   Tell Someone They Matter

Do you believe that life is short and that every day matters?

I do believe this and yesterday I got another reminder why I believe this to be true.

Yesterday I was working together with some friends of mine, when one of them told me that another friend of ours husband had passed away. He was only 63 years old.
I know this person and I have worked with her, and I had also met her husband several times.
Last time I spoke with her was in the end of September. She told me that her husband was having back pain and was recuperating in bed.
Two months later I find out that this man passed away a few weeks ago.
All of this happened in less than two months.
I was chocked yesterday when I got the news, and today I'm still trying to wrap my brain around what has happened and in such short period of time.

Now......Do you believe that life is short and every day matters?

I have felt for a long time that I should stop wasting time and energy on things that don't really matter.

I believe that every day matters.... because I have lost a lot of days.

I also believe that every day matters because I have lost a lot of people that I care about.

I also believe that every day matters because I have lost opportunities and I have wasted a lot of valuable time.

A believe that a lot of you might feel the same way?

If you believe this I hope that it will give you some inspiration, motivation and hopefully it will give you some discipline to not waste time and to really believe that EVERY DAY MATTERS.

I am sure you heard a lot of people say...."Live today like it was your last day here on earth."

Think like a painter.....make each day that you are here on earth your masterpiece because you might not be at the canvas tomorrow.
You might not be alive to create more of what we call life.
Today is a special day.

If you believe that every day matters..... how can you be more mindful of the day that you have been blessed with?

Maybe you would get off social media and your phone and have dinner together with you family members.

Instead of watching TV.....maybe you would call a friend on the phone or even better meet for coffee.

Don't take on that extra project that might give you some extra cash but it will take away time from your children and your family.

Never leave on bad notes.

Don't go to bed angry at each other.

Don't leave for work without a smile, kiss or goodbye.

Since I am such an animal lover.....make sure you take time with your pets. They are precious.
Take your dogs for walks outside your own yard. It's good for them and it's also good for you.

Make sure that you always leave the last interaction  positive with someone..... because you might never actually see that person again.

I know that some of you have lost someone recently.
Somebody that you knew that is no longer here.

If we remember how important people are, maybe we can remember how important a day is.

If we can remember how important a day is, maybe we can remember to stop wasting time.

It's easy to waste a day.

But always remember that life is precious.....but it's also fragile.

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Progress Towards Our Goal Will Make Us Feel Better

                                          "Progress is impossible without change,
                                          and those who cannot change their minds
                                                   cannot change anything."
                                                    - George Bernard Shaw

Did you know that progress towards our goals will make us feel better?

Progress towards our goals will make us treat other people better. Isn't that fascinating?

When you have a vision for your life and moving towards it on a daily base you are being nicer to other people.
They actually know this from science.

People who sense that their life matters, people who have a vision of what is possible for them and people who are progressing in their life....many areas of their lives improve automatically.

Their relationships improve, their health improves, their finances improve, time-management improves and their ability to achieve other things improve.

Because something happens when you have a clear vision of what you want.
Take action on a daily base and then get some wind behind your back.
Your confidence is growing when you are knocking things of your daily to-do list.
You are feeling more capable.
You try new things and that will make your confidence grow even more.

Most people will have problems with discipline in their lives because they are not inspired by a big goal or vision. They don't have anything big to go for when they get out of bed every morning.

You must have a big dream to get your butt out of bed.
You must have a big vision that will pull you forward no matter what is going on in the world and in your life right now.

If you are relying on your mood to make you disciplined you are in big trouble.
Instead have a big dream that will pull you through all the daily drama.

People on a path of purpose or on a mission don't have time for drama and silly distractions.
Because for them, the bigger vision and their ambition, washes away all the distractions.
They don't get caught up in complaining, gossiping and stirring up unnecessary drama.

People who get caught up in negativity and drama are the people that don't have anything better to fight for.

Make sure that you have a compelling future designed for you. Something that will make you jump out of bed every morning.
Focus on your dream and work towards it every day.


Monday, November 20, 2017

Take Advice......But Not Orders

                                                 I'm sorry I don't take orders!

Life is filled with challenges.
Challenging situations and also challenging people are everywhere.
Facing challenges and learning how to get through them will make us grow as individuals.
Many people will try to avoid challenges and difficult situations because these situations/people will make them feel very uncomfortable. Of course growth of any kind will makes us feel uncomfortable for a while until we get the hang of it.

A couple of months ago I was facing a difficult situation with a particular person that I had to work with once or twice a week. I only had to spend a short time with this person but she was a little bit on the difficult side. Very negative and pessimistic and also created a lot of drama by gossiping and talking bad about other people.
People like this are all around us.
Anyway this person was giving me a hard time and then she started to accuse me of things that I had not done.

I can deal with negative people creating drama but I have a hard time dealing with people who say things about you that aren't true. This I must learn to get used to because a lot of people will say things that aren't true about you. Often they don't even know you.
This is something that I definitely have to work on. Just learn to ignore certain people and their behavior.

I allowed it to upset me but after a few days I talked to a trusted friend about what had happened. This friend of mine also knows this person real well. We talked about my challenge and she gave me some useful insight. She also told me how she would handle the situation if she was in my shoes.
She never told me how to deal with this person or what to do when it came to dealing with this person. She only told me how she would do it if she had to deal with particular person.

I thanked her for listening and for her advice on how to handle the situation the next time I encountered this person.

That evening I sat down and really thought about how to deal with the situation because I was going to work with this person in a couple of days. How was I going to do it?

I liked my friend's advice but it didn't feel right to me. It felt inauthentic to do what my friend recommended. It might have been the right thing for her but it didn't feel right to me.

A lot of times we will allow other people to tell us what to do. The problem with this is that we are doing what feels right for them but not what feel right for us.
People look at the same challenge or difficulty in many different ways. And the reason for that is that we all have different backgrounds, experiences, knowledge and conditioning.

It's good to ask for advice and a different point of view.
But in the end we must go with the solution or the answer that feels right for us. Otherwise we won't feel good about ourselves and the decision. It might have been good for someone else but for you it might be totally wrong.

And in the end you are the one that is going to have to live with the result of your decision so make sure that the decision is yours. If you go against yourself just to make it easier for someone else you will probably feel disappointed with yourself that you wasn't honest and stuck to your own decision.

So what did I do?

The advice that my friend suggested didn't feel like the right thing for me and I decided to go with a different solution that felt absolutely right to me.
I could not have done what my friend suggested that I do. It felt totally wrong to me.
In the end I wanted to feel happy and OK with myself and what I decided.

So my advice is to be true to yourself.......and everything will be fine.



Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Can You Go 7 Days Without Complaining?

                                      "If you have the time to whine and complain
                                         about something then you have the time to
                                                      do something about it."
                                                    -  Anthony J. D'Angelo

Do you know of someone who complains a lot?

Maybe it's YOU?

Are you a complainer?

It's easy to find something to complain about. I am guilty of it too.

We can either chooses to focus on what is working in our lives and what we appreciate or we can focus on that the world is going crazy and complain about it. Same amount of energy.

The difference is the way we feel in our bodies. Complaining will automatically lower our own energetic vibration.

Like attracts like. If you are a complainer you will likely attract other complainer and you will form a group and complain together.

Seldom will you find happy and content people hanging out with complainers and gossipers. They are too busy making things happens in their own life.

I complain too, but I am really trying to break this habit. I try to pay more attention to what comes out of my mouth on a daily base. But it's so easy to fall into the same pattern of complaining and the first key to changing it is to become aware of that you are doing it.

Also when you are around people who are complaining it's easy to fall into the habit of complaining together with them. The key is to either stay quiet and don't lean into the conversation or simply walk away.

Todays Challenge

Decide to not complain for 7 days straight.

No complaining verbally
No complaining in on social media.
No complaining in your thoughts

Do this for one week and you will be amazed how much better you will feel after a complain free 7 days.

Are you ready for this challenge?
Let me know how it goes.


Monday, November 13, 2017

Disciplining Your Disappointments

                                            "Adversity is a good test of our resilience,
                                                 our ability to cope, to stand back up,
                                                      to recover from misfortune.
                                                Adversity is a painful pedagogue."
                                                      - Charles R. Swindoll

It happened to me again last week. I fell into the ditch for a while.
I didn't stay there very long before I climbed out of there....but I fell.

When you are building new habits patters of thought and action, it doesn't matter if it's in business, health, sports or life, there will be times when you will end up off course or off track.
You will encounter adversity, setbacks and disappointments on the path to success.
They key it not to avoid adversity, but to learn how to re-direct your efforts, re-establish your successful habits and get walking again.

You don't want to end up in the ditch. But if you do you must crawl out of there as quickly as possible and continue on your path.

Some people will be so discouraged by adversity or a setback that they will quit doing what they were doing before it happen.

But you can start again.
It all comes down to your mindset, attitude and you willingness to go again.
You can decide to be discouraged by what happed or you can be inspired and learn from it.
Same incident but two different attitudes about what happened.

The magic is...... that you can turn it around..... but the mystery is.... that not everyone will.
Some people will use adversity or a setback as a reason to success and others will use it as a reason to give up.
Same circumstance.

What separates an amateur from a pro in business or in life is not that the pro is avoiding adversity..... but the pro quickly recovers from it.

The amateur loses a big game, business affects them for a long time. Sometimes a year or longer.
But a pro will shake it off, learn from it and then quickly recover and get back on track.
They might be angry and upset, but it doesn't last long. Tomorrow they will go again.
They won't allow it to affect them for a year or a lifetime.
An amateur and a pro are both affected the same way but the response is different.

The key to quickly recover is to have something to go for right away.
Try putting something together quickly. It might not be the total answer, but it's the answer for now and it will get you start walking again.

As for myself, I didn't allow the adversity to affect me too long. But it did affect me and I ended up in the ditch.
Next time I hope that I can prevent myself from falling into the ditch because it takes quite a bit of mental energy to crawl out of there and to get back on track.
Mental energy that I could have used for something better.

The key is to not fall in the ditch in the first place but sometimes it happens no matter how good you are. I guess I need to practice and learn a few more skills before I will be able to just walk on by and not fall into the ditch when I encounter this kind of adversity.

What helped me to recover quickly from the incident last week was that I shared what had happened with a trusted friend. She was willing to listen and also gave me some important feedback and valuable insight.

Yes....unfortunately I ended up in the ditch but the good things is that I was there less than 24 hours. More like 12 hours.
I have learned from what happen and hopefully I will be able to stay out of the ditch in the future.


Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Four Important Questions To Ask Yourself

                                                 "Resolve to be a master of change,
                                                    rather than a victim of change."
                                                                  -Brian Tracy

Resolve - Promising yourself that you will never give up.

What is your dream?

What are you trying to accomplish with your life?

If you are not sure or maybe you haven't yet decided to go for it, here are a few questions that might help you decide and then take action.

Why should I try?
Why should I work so hard trying to better myself and my life?
Why do I want to create a better future for myself and for others?

What else am I going to do with my time and my life?

Some people have done the most incredible things with a limited start.
Why not YOU?
You can do incredible things because you are an incredible person.

Why wait?
Why postpone your great future any longer?
Get going today.
Decide and take action.

Embark on a journey to improve your life and the life of others.
Enjoy your life as you seek to improve it.
Seek knowledge, so that your value to yourself and others will increase.
Be a doer, not just a listener.


Monday, November 6, 2017

You Can't Pull Yourself Up By Tearing Down Others.

                                                        "You never look good,
                                          trying to make someone else look bad."
                                                              - Unknown

What Would You Do?

If you had the tallest building in New York City for a while..... but after you built your building several other builders built taller buildings than yours....... what would you do to yet again have the tallest building?

A. You start tearing down all the buildings that are taller than yours.
You might get away with tearing down the first one but sooner or later someone will discover what you are up to and they will start guarding their buildings and telling you to not come around their building. They know what you are up to.

B. You could add more stories to your building or build a brand new one.
You focus on what you can do to create what you want instead of tearing down what other people have build or accomplished.

I know I would go for B.
It would involve more work on my part but in the end I would be proud of what I created myself and I know that I didn't create it by pushing or pulling someone else down.

The above example might not be such a great one..... but what I am trying to get to is that in life often people will rather tear down someone else or something that someone else has created instead of focus on what they themselves are capable of creating for themselves, in their own life.
It seems like it is easier to pull someone down than it is to pull yourself up.

Some people will become jealous or envious if someone else have what they themselves want.
Since someone else has what they want .....then there won't be enough for them. They will never be able to have it. This is a lack-mentality. Since you have it....they must take it from you instead of creating it for themselves.

There is plenty for all..... if you are willing to work for can have it too.
This is a abundant-mentality.

Sometimes people try to expose what is wrong with you, because the can't handle what is right with you.

Maybe someone has a lot of energy, they are happy and they live a healthy lifestyle. Automatically some people will get jealous of that and they will try to do things or talk bad about this person because they themselves lack energy, health and happiness in their own life. They have in other words chosen example A.
They tear into someone else, trying to bring them down to their own level. Or they try to take away what this person has so they can have it themselves.

Instead they can choose B. A much smarter approach. They can ask the person that is healthy, happy and energetic how they are able to create this in their life. Realizing that they can also create this in their own life. But of course that will require some changes in their own life and some work on their part.

If there is someone that you admire with someone or maybe they created something that you would like to have.....find out how they did it.
Ask them how they created the life and the habits that you want and then you model them and you can live like this person.

It doesn't matter if it has to do with money, wealth, a great career, great relationships, happiness, health & vitality or a lot of energy. If you got it.....some people want it and sometimes they will try to take it from you or they will try to tear you down to get to what they want. And if they can't have it, they don't want you to have it either.

Don't use that approach. Instead ask or find out how this person created great wealth in their life, or how they have such a happy marriage, how they have such a high energy level, how they were able to create a business career or how they can remain so peaceful and calm no matter what is going on in the world.

Just remember that you can never pull yourself up by tearing down others.
If you want to pull yourself have to do the work yourself.


Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Embrace Your Personal Power

                                                        You have personal power
                                                          that creates your world.
                                                                   OWN IT!

The source of personal power starts with YOU.

When you are in better shape physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually you are more capable of negotiating more effectively. You make better decisions. Your creativity flows. You are a better manager when it comes to people around you. Your relationships improve.

Changing yourself is the first step in changing your career, your relationships - both at work and your intimate relationships.
It starts with YOU.

Taking action is a way of building more personal power in your life.
Any muscle that you don't exercise on a daily base will eventually get weaker. Same thing with taking is also a muscle. Have you used it lately?
The way to build a muscle is to start small and then build.

Today I have a very simple exercise that you can do to immediately increase the quality of your life.  You will feel good and your self-esteem will soar..... because you actually followed through.

Right now think of two actions that you have been putting off for a while.
Two things that you should do. Two things you need to do but you are constantly putting them off.

Maybe it's making a phone call or two
Starting a blog
Quit smoking or drinking
Saying NO
Re-connect with a friend or family-member
Losing weight
Limit certain foods in your diet
Asking for a raise
Change job
Saving money

Pick two actions that would immediately change the quality of your life.

What are those two action?
Decide and commit to follow through. This is it!!!

There is tremendous power in making a decision and then immediately follow through on your decision.

You can start with something small - then build.

- Write down the two decisions that you made.
- Take action on them immediately - RIGHT NOW!

Don't put it off another minute. Do whatever it takes. There is power in momentum. Don't wait or delay.

Decision - Commitment to follow through - This will create PERSONAL POWER.

Go For It!!!

                                              Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach