Monday, December 19, 2016

Happy Holidays!

                                              I don´t want much for Christmas
                                              I just want the person reading this
                                                  to be healthy, happy and loved.
                               Wishing you snowflakes, friendship and Christmas Cheer!



I want to take a moment and wish you Happy Holidays!

I will take a break for two weeks and I will return again on January 2nd, 2017.

                    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

                                Believe in the magic of the season

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, December 16, 2016

What Do You Want For 2017?

                                                         "If we wait until we are ready,
                                               we´ll be waiting for the rest of our lives."

                                                                     "Don´t wait.
                                                      The time will never be just right."
                                                                 - Napoleon Hill




Did you get as far as you wanted in 2016?

What did you miss in 2016?

What do you want for next year?

Are you living your purpose right now or do you feel stuck and stagnated?

Isn´t it time to start living your life to the fullest.....Right Now!!!

No more delays and no more excuses.

Time to stop playing small and step into the light.

Start now!

Be courageous, take action and make it happen.
Make sure that you do the things today that will guarantee you the life that you want to live tomorrow.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Get Around The Right People

                                   "You need to associate with people that inspire you,
                                             people that challenge you to rise higher,
                                                      people that make you better.
                Don´t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth.
                                                     Your destiny is to important."
                                                                 - Joel Osteen

Our relationships will determine 85 percent of our happiness or our unhappiness.
If you have bad personal relationships they will drag you down worse than a sea-anchor.

A bad boss can destroy all your joy in work. And one negative co-worker can cast a darkness over an entire office, because of their negativity.


                                                 "Bad company ruins good morals."


They have found out that as much as 99 percent of your success in life is going to be determined by your reference group.

What is a reference group?
They are the people that you habitually associate with. The people that you spend most of your time with.
The people that you work with, people at home, your social circle, people you go to church with or people that you associate with at any organization that you belong to.

Why is it so important to be mindful about your reference group?
Because the people that we spend our time with will affect us tremendously.
We will absorb other peoples attitudes, way of thinking, opinions, habits, behaviors, they way the dress and the way they speak.

Make sure that you associate with people that will inspire you and lift you higher. People that will make you better.
Select your relationships with care.
Only associate with people that you like, respect and enjoy being around.

Take a good look at the people that you spend most of your time with.
Are they winners that are going somewhere in life? or are they people who like to complain, blame and spread negativity around themselves wherever they go?

If you start to associate with winners and people that are inspiring and going somewhere in life, you will realize that they have a totally different worldview.
They are positive, upbeat, goal-oriented. They are constantly learning and growing.
They are positive about what they are doing and where they are going in life.

Change your reference group and it will change how you think and how you act.


                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, December 12, 2016

If Your Life Was Perfect In 5 Years..... What Would It Look Like?

                   "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
                                                              

Isn´t it about time that you started living the life that you were meant to live?

Time to start designing your own life instead of allowing other people and circumstances to plan and to control your life.

It is time to DREAM BIG BREAMS!!!

Make 2017 a fantastic year for you.

Imagine that you have no limitations.
Imagine that you have all the time, unlimited amount of money, all the friend and contacts that you need, all the education, all the experience and all the resources.
And you can be, have and do anything that you want in life......

What Would It Be???



Start practicing back from the future thinking.
Develop a vision of yourself as happy, healthy and wealthy.
Practice what successful people practice. It is called idealization.
You project forward several years and you imagine that your life is perfect in every way.

If your life was perfect in 5 years.........What would it look like?

Where would you live?
What kind of family life would you have?
What kind of health/fitness would you have?
What kind of job would you have?
How much would you make?
How much would you be worth?
What kind of friends would you have?
What kind of house would you live in?
What kind of car would you drive?
What kind of resources would you have?

Create a dream or a vision of a wonderful future.

Take a piece of paper and make  out a "Dream List"
Allow your mind to run wild. There are no limitations here.
Write down everything that you want.

When you do this you will start to activate "The Law of Attraction" and you will begin to attract, people, circumstances, ideas, resources and insight and it will begin to move you toward accomplishing your goals and it will begin to move the goals toward you.

This is a starting point of great success in life.


Are you going to take a little time to sit down and to make out your "Dream List"?

Let me know what you will put on it.

Please leave your comments below.



                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Friday, December 9, 2016

Do You Know Your Unique Gifts And Talents?

                                                    "One of the best uses of your time
                                 is to increase your competence in your key result areas."
                                                                  - Brian Tracy


Did you know that every single person on this planet is designed from birth with their own special talents and abilities.
If you develop these talents and these abilities, they can enable you to accomplish anything that you want in life.
Everyone is genetically created to be able to do something extraordinary, something they enjoy doing, something they can do well and something they get great satisfaction from doing.


If you look back at your own life......can you think of something that has been responsible for most of your success up until now?

What have you done in the past that has given you the best results?

What have you done that has given you the most satisfaction?

If you look back on you life and you past you will find clues that will guide you to your future.



Ask yourself a couple of great questions.

What am I good at?

What am I good at today?

What have I been good at in the past?

What do I enjoy doing?

What could I be good at?

What can I see myself doing in the future?

Take a few minutes to ponder on these questions.
Write down the answers.

Do you know your unique gifts and talents......and are you using them?


 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach



Wednesday, December 7, 2016

How to turn a set back into a comeback



In life things are going to go wrong.

We will all have to deal with a constant wave of problems and occasional setbacks and crisis.

If you have lost your health, job, home, nest egg or a relationship...what are you doing to pull yourself through?

What do you do when your life falls apart and everything has become total uncertainty?

What do you do to turn things around?

In 2012 my own life totally imploded and I was faced with a very tough situation.
How was I able to pull myself through and what was the biggest elements that made a big difference in my life and help me turn around a big crisis into a at comeback.

My mom died in the end of 2011. Three months later I walked away from a highly toxic and abusive relationship and within a few days I left the US where I had lived for 25 years to return to Sweden where I was born. I had nothing left of my old life except for my 2 wonderful dogs and some clothes and some personal belongings.

First I was depressed and overwhelmed and I didn´t know what to do.
I really didn´t think that there was anything that I could do to change my situation.
My life had become total uncertainty.
I asked myself...... What can I do to turn things around? What can I do to change myself?

I did many things but today I will share with you the 5 most important things that I did to be able to take myself to next level during a very difficult time in my life.

- Take control of your mind. Feed it. Strengthen it.
Focus on what you can control. What you can make happen. What you are here on this earth to do.
Fear and uncertainty will take over your mind and your body if you allow it. Your mind will run wild and will unleash all kinds of thoughts that will make us start to believe that things will never change. That things will always be the same. That it will always be bad and that we will never be able to turn things around. That we don´t have the capability to make things happen.
Your "crazy voices are going to run wild if you don´t learn to focus. Take control of your mind and your thoughts and start to focus on things that you can control.

First you have to stand guard at the door of your own mind. There are all kinds  of messages out there that will fight for your attention. Messages are constantly coming at us.
Things will feed into our minds through TV, newspapers, Internet and people around you.
If you leave your mind wide open you will start to accept things and opinions around you and they will become beliefs and then you will make up meanings that will eventually take over your life.

Read books and empowering articles. Feed your mind daily. At least for and hour or two minimum per day. Listening to empowering messages and seminars (YouTube is filled with great material to listen to).
Feed your mind with good stuff or the weeds that are all around you will eventually take over your life.

We are what we eat but we are also what we read and what we listen to. If your setback is financial, then read books about finances. If it´s a health issue, that read about that subject. Or if it is about relationships then find books in that area.
Make sure that what you listen to and read is nutritious and that it will strengthen your mind.

- Strengthen you body.
Make sure that you feed your body healthy and nutritious stuff.
Make sure that you move your body. Move the stuck energy though your body.
If you move your body your energy will change. Try to push yourself a little.
When you are starting to push your body a little more, eventually you will feel that you can push through anything.
Your body will change and so will your mind.

- Find a role model.
Find someone that will inspire, motivate you and show you the way.
Show you what is possible for you. If they can do......so can you.
You need to see some examples of people who have done what you are trying to do, to make you believe that is possible.
Whatever you are trying to change.......there will be someone out verve that has already done and gone through what you are going through right now. And they pulled through. Find them. Study them. Learn from them and then do what they did.
Start to believe that there is a way through. That there is a path that someone has walked before you.
Find real examples. Study history. Read books.....people´s biographies are great.
There are people out there have been through tough times but they pulled themselves through and they are now doing great.

I have gotten a lot of help from Oprah and her program SuperSoulSunday.
Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, Brian Tracy...... just to name a few.
All these people have gone through huge difficulties and they made it through and became very successful people.

- Get a plan and take action.
Remember nothings happens until you move. Do something.
Most people don´t begin the journey because they are not sure what to do, or how to do it right or how to do it perfect.
Just start. Get yourself going. Don´t wait for the perfect plan.
Get momentum.
Progress=Happiness
Try something new. If it doesn´t work you can try something else.

- Gratitude.
Find what you are grateful for.
Take time for prayer, meditation or just quiet time.
Take in the moment and think about what you are truly grateful for in your life right now.
Learn to focus on what you have in life, rather than what is missing and what you have lost.
Focus on what is great in your life.
What you have and the people that you love and the people that love you.

Find a way to do something for someone else, that is worse off than you are.


 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, December 5, 2016

How To Deal With Problems And Setbacks In Life

                                    "Don´t wish it was easier, wish you were better.
                                   Don´t wish for less problems, wish for more skills.
                               Don´t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom.
             The major value in life is not what you get. The major value is what you become."
                                                                - Jim Rohn


Are you having problems in your life right now?
Or maybe you are even facing a crisis or a huge setback at this moment?

Yes.....believe it or not.....everyone has problems. No one is exempt from having problems, setbacks and crisis in their lives.

Actually life is a continuous series of problems. They never end. The problems just keep on coming. Like the waves of the ocean.

The only break you might get in this continuous flow of problems it an occasional setback or even a crisis.

So life will be problems and then a crisis.
After you solve and get out of the crisis, there will be new problems and then another crisis.
Just like the waves of the ocean.



In life things are going to go wrong.
We cannot avoid or control problems and setbacks in life.
But what we can do is not to allow ourselves to become upset or angry.
Instead deal with the problems or the crisis.
Learn from it and then pick yourself back up.

How do you respond to a setback or a crisis?
How do you deal with a problem?

Do you look for the solution to the problem?
Or do you allow yourself to become upset or angry when something goes wrong and then you whine and complain and blame others for your problem or crisis?

When you are having a problem or in the middle of a crisis....always look for a solution.

Another great idea is to look for something good within the problem.
Usually there will always be something good that you will benefit from.

Seek the valuable lesson in very problem, setback, crisis or obstacle.
You will find that there will be a lesson for you to learn.

Learn the lesson that the problem is providing and it will allow you to be a lot smarter the next time something happens.

Look at the biggest problem that you are facing today and then ask yourself.......

What is this problem or this crisis trying to tell me?

What is the lesson that I need to learn?

Your biggest problem today might be the biggest gift that you have ever received.
Because it may contain within it the lesson that you need to be successful in life.

This lesson might transform your life, if you are willing to look at the lesson instead of blaming others and complain about it.

By facing and overcoming your problems and your crisis, you will grow stronger, wiser and more confident.

More on how to deal with problems and crisis in Wednesday´s Blog.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach






Friday, December 2, 2016

How to Accomplish a Major Goal in 2017 - Great Exercise

                                                   "Winners must have two things:
                            definite goals, and a burning desire to accomplish them."
                                                               - Brad Burde


Want to accomplish a major goals in 2017?

Today I have a great exercise that I want to share with you that will make an amazing difference and huge progress in your life.

Take a piece of paper and write down 10 goals that you would like to accomplish in the next 12 months.
Put today´s date on top of the paper.

After you have written down 10, goals ask yourself this important question......

If I could only accomplish one goal on this list, but I could accomplish it within the 24 hours.
Which goal would have the greatest impact on my life?

There will usually be one goal that will jump right out at you.
That is the one that will have the greatest impact on your life.

It can be a health/fitness goal, maybe a financial goal or a relationship goal.

Decide on the goal that is the most important one and then write it down on the top of another piece of paper.
Set a deadline on the goal.

Make a list of everything that you can think of that you can do to achieve this goal, and then begin working on that list.

Do something every day.

Make sure that you do something every day that will move you one step closer toward your major goal.


TIP!
- Select you most important goal
- Make a plan.
- Work it daily.

Doing this will change your life in ways that you cannot imagine and one year from now you will look back and you will be amazed at all the progress you have made.



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Stay In Your Own Race

                              "If you continuously compete with others, you become bitter,
                         but if you continuously compete with yourself, you become better."


There is no race.....there is only a runner.

You are the runner.

You should run as hard and as fast as you can.

But ignore the other people on the course, because they are using a different clock, a different distance, a different race.

Stay in your own race.

Be happy with the life you have chosen for yourself, and live it fully.

Leave others to theirs.



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                    www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, November 28, 2016

Don´t Allow Your Past To Destroy Your Future

               "After a while you must let go of what lies behind you and press forward.
                                     If you don´t, the past will destroy your future."
                                                            - Joyce Meyer


Last week I heard a powerful story told by Wayne Dyer.
And today I want to share this story with you.
It is called "The Wake."

Think of your life as a boat and it is heading up the river at 40 knots. And as it is going you are metaphorically standing at the stern, the back of the boat and you are looking down in the water and there goes your life in this direction and you are standing here looking down at the water and you ask yourself these three questions.

Question number one.
What is the wake? What is this thing that you see?
And the answer is........ The wake is the trail that is left behind.
That is what it is. Nothing more and nothing less.

Question number two.
What is driving the boat? What is making this thing go in this direction?
And the answer is........The present moment energy that is being generated by the engine.
And nothing more.
That is the only thing that is making the boat go in this direction.
And in the scene, it means that it is the present moment thoughts, that I have and how I am using them that is making my life go in this direction, and nothing more.

Bu the third question is the most powerful question.
Is it possible for the wake to drive the boat? Can a trail that is left behind make a boat go in this direction?
And of course the answer is....NO, it can´t.
It is just a trail that is left behind.

And in that trail there are an enormous number of things that everyone of us have as a wake, and we have a whole lot of stuff in it.

And one of the problems that we have....... is that we have a tendency to look at the wake and all of the stuff that is in it, to explain .......
Why it is that my life isn´t working out the way I would like it to work.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, November 25, 2016

Create Some Space In Your Life

                                                    "It is nice finding that place
                                               where you can just go and relax."
                                                                - Moises Arias


A lot of people fill their lives with endless activities.

And sometimes we might even schedule some sleep into our busy schedule.

If we continue to live like this it won´t allow for any creativity and magic time to enter our lives.
We will be too tired to notice it.

But in order to be successful we must learn to create a little space once in a while in our packed schedules.

If we create a little more space in our lives, we will be able to connect to something bigger than ourselves and that will allow for some creative energy to flow through us.

We can create more space in our lives by meditating, yoga, listening to some soft music, sitting still in nature, going for a slow walk or scheduling some quiet time where we simply just do nothing for a period of time.

Being able to create some space in our busy schedules is a huge element for success because it will allow us to have easier access to our creativity and also our inner guidance.

Have you ever tried to solve a problem and no matter how much you tried to analyze it or tried to solve it... you were not able to come up with a solution?

So instead you decided to go for a walk or maybe you decided to just take a break and go out in your garden or nature and all of a sudden you came up with a solution to your problem.

You just created some space between you and the problem and you allowed some creativity and inner guidance to come to you.

Create some space, magic or quiet time on a daily base.



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

How To Live Life On Your Terms

                                                     "You deserve to be happy.
                                    You deserve to live a life you are excited about.
                                             Don´t let others make you forget that."


Would you like to live life on your own terms?

We can do this by getting a clear enough vision of what we want, inspire and motivate ourselves, overcome fears that will pop up and also limitations in our own minds and push through the pain.

If we can do this....... there isn´t anyone on this earth that can´t have an extraordinary life, business or relationship.

Get comfortable with who you are.

Be yourself. Never be somebody that other people want you to be.

Continue to grow, inspire, give and love.

To be yourself is the ultimate freedom of all.

A freedom that you can only give to yourself.

We are all unique. We all have gifts.

Claim your gift and create the life that you deserve.

Are you willing to do what is necessary to embody the truest vision for your life?


                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com



Monday, November 21, 2016

Are You Suffering From "Imposter Syndrome?"

                                      "I still believe that at any time the NO-talent police
                                                        will come and arrest me."
                                                                  - Mike Myers



I was talking to one of my clients a couple of weeks ago, and she was telling me about her new promotion and her increased salary.

Instead of being exited about this new opportunity, she felt scared instead...... and then she suddenly told me.....
"I wonder when they are going to find out about me?
I asked her what she meant by that remark.
She explained "I wonder when they are going to find out that I am not as good as they think I am? That I don´t deserve the job and that I am not really capable of doing it."
She explained that she felt like a fraud.

After listening to my client I explained to her that there is something called "Imposter Syndrome" and today I will explain to you what is all about.

Many successful people and especially women will suffer from "Imposter Syndrome".
They feel like they are a fraud. They feel like that are less qualified than their peers or co-workers and that they are less deserving of success.
They live in fear that one day they will be "found out". So to deal with this fear of being found out they often work harder and longer than anyone else.

Will working harder than anyone else really make you feel less like a fraud or are you simply trying to compensate for feeling unworthy?



A lot of times when you are suffering from this syndrome you will not seek out new challenges in life. It might stop you from seeking new jobs because of the fear of not being able to meet the expectations that a new job will bring and that they lack the skills and that they can never be successful.
They often feel that they don´t have the ability to do a new job. So they might decide to remain where they are instead of taking a chance at this new job, for the fear of being found out.
They fear that people will figure out that they are a fraud.


From Wikipedia
"Imposter Syndrome is a term coined in 1978 by clinical psychologists Dr. R. Clance and Suzanne A. Innes referring to high-achieving individuals marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and persisted fear of being exposed as "fraud."

Despite external evidence of their competence those exhibiting the symptom remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved.
Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.

Some studies suggest that imposter syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women.

Psychological research done in the early 1980´s estimated that two out of five successful people consider themselves frauds and other studies have found that 70 percent of all people feel like imposters at one time or another.

It this is not addressed victims can develop anxiety, stress, low self-confidence, shame and self-doubt.

People who suffer from imposter syndrome tend to reflect and dwell upon extreme failure, mistakes and negative feedback from others.
If not addressed, imposter syndrome can limit exploration and the courage to delve into new experiences in fear of exposing failure.

Most people who experience imposter syndrome are unaware that others feel inadequate as well.


To be completely honest here.....I think a lot of us can relate to feeling like this.
I know I can.
I my own coaching business I have many times thought and said to myself "Who am I to try to help people?"
Or "All these people already know what I know. How can I charge for my services. I am not good enough."
"If a client talks to me for awhile they will soon find out that I really don´t know much at all."

Most of us are afraid that we are not good enough.



A couple of tips on how to deal with this!

- One simple way to deal with this is to talk or discuss it with a trusted friend, partner, co-  worker, mentor or coach.

- Make a list of you accomplishment.
  Write down all your accomplishments with reality. Later you can go back and read it.
  Don´t trust your memory. It is easy to forget and to downplay your accomplishments.
  Write them down.

- Develop a strong support system.

- Journaling. Write down your feelings or record them

- Don´t suffer in silence.
  Express your true feelings. Don´t be afraid to let other know how you feel.
  Don´t continue to live in fear. Bring out in the open. You are not alone in feeling this way.
  As they say........."The truth will set you free. "
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- Ask yourself what your fear is all about?
  Remember that others are also feeling fear.
  It is perfectly natural.

- Learn to validate yourself.
  We all need validation from others, but we mostly need from ourselves.

Most of us make two basic errors.
1. We underestimate ourselves and our own ability
2. We overestimate the other persons ability.


Don´t sell yourself short.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach


Friday, November 18, 2016

Feed And Strengthen Your Mind

                                                     "It isn´t what the book costs.
                                        It´s what it will cost you if you don´t read it.
                                                                 - Jim Rohn


Everything in life is continuous growth.

Either we grow or we die.

The training and the learning never stops.

It is constant, never ending improvements of ourselves that will make us the most happy, fulfilled and alive.

Make a habit of feeding your mind with something uplifting and empowering on a daily base.

Raise your standards by reading a book for at least 30-60 minutes per day.


Why is reading so important?

The brain requires exercise to keep it strong and healthy.
The same way our bodies need exercise and healthy eating to function well.
Reading a book is excellent exercise for the brain.
Remember....... if you don´t use it, you lose it.

Everything you read fills your head with new information and new fresh ideas and you never know when this information and ideas might come in handy.

The more knowledge you have, the better off you will be to tackle life´s challenges and obstacles.

A new idea can also be life changing. It can be the beginning of a new business, new friendships or new adventures.

Reading will also improve your memory, your focus and your concentration.

You can lose your family, friends, money, your house or your job.......but

Knowledge can never be taken away from you.



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Want A Better Life? Raise Your Standards

                                                  "If you want to change your life
                                                  you have to raise your standards."
                                                             - Tony Robbins


If we don´t feel good about ourselves, then we don´t feel like we can get much or deserve much in life.

What is going on in your life right now is a reflection of your standards.


So how do we change our lives?

We change our lives by raising our standards.


The standards that we set for ourselves and the standards we set for how other people will treat us.

Learn to create a better path for yourself, by raising your standards.

Never settle for something far less than you deserve..

Demand more of yourself.

Stop tolerating certain things.


If you want a better  life.....Raise You Standards.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, November 14, 2016

How To Become A Problem Solver

              "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it."
                                                              - Albert Einstein


Are you having problems in your life right now?

Are you experiencing some big difficulties or maybe even a setback?

Are you constantly thinking about these problems and analyzing them in your head over and over again?

Of course most of us are dealing with problems and obstacles in our lives.
Who doesn´t!!!
But the important thing is to figure out how to solve these problems as quickly as possible without wasting all of our mental energy and before we get completely stuck in the problem

Never wish that life was easier and without problems and obstacles.
Wish that you better at dealing and solving theses situations in your life.
Learning and growing is part of life.
When you solve a problem you grow. You become bigger than the problem.
In order to live we must constantly grow
Growth and progress will make us feel happy and fulfilled.


Here a re a few tips on how to become a problem solver!

- Describe the problem.
  Get clarity on what is going on. Clarity is power.

- Write things down.
   In your head you will continue to go around in circles.

- What are you willing to do to make a change?
   Even if you don´t like the action that you must take.
   Are you willing to do as much as possible to solve this problem?

Because we don´t want to do something or maybe it will make us feel uncomfortable doing it, we won´t do what is necessary to make it happen for us.

- What are you no longer willing to do?

Maybe you are tired of feeling defeated and tired of complaining. How about stating to yourself, that you are no longer willing to live in fear and stress every day.
Maybe you are not willing to put yourself last anymore and you will make yourself your own first priority.

- Ask better and more powerful questions?

1. What is actually great about this problem?

2. What can I learn from this problem or this setback?

3. What is not perfect yet?

4. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?

5. What am I willing not to do to make it the way I want it?

6. How can I enjoy the process?

The minute you go from problem to question you will find the solution.
Answers will come from new questions because it will change your state.
When you are in a lousy state - most of the time you will ask lousy questions.

To be able to ask there questions you must put yourself in a better state.
Learn to shift your focus on solutions instead of being stuck in the problem.

Whatever you focus on  - you will feel in your body.

Come up with as many answers or solutions as you can.

Write your answers down.

There are no problems - there are just questions.


                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

Friday, November 11, 2016

How Are You Doing On Your Dream?

                                      "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
                                                  Live the life you have imagined."
                                                          - Henry David Thoreau

How are you doing on your dream?

Are you taking action on your dream...... on a daily base?

Are you creating a sense of urgency or are you waiting and maybe even settling where you are currently?

I know it is difficult sometimes to find time, energy and motivation to continue on your path toward your dream.
It is easy to allow all the distractions around us to pull us down and also away from what we really, really want to accomplish in our life.

If you stay on your current path.......will it happen for you?
Will you be able to accomplish your dream?

If you are allowing your dream to slowly fade or to be put on hold........it is time to create an urgency........Start doing things TODAY!

Get back on your path right away.

Take Action!

One emotion that you will never want is Regret.


                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com




Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Start One Thing Today


                                                       "Do one thing today
                                            to make you feel proud of yourself."


Today ....Start doing all the things that will make you feel better.

It could be things like.....
exercising , a healthier diet, reading more books or saving more money.

How about cleaning up some decisions, getting a few things done.

Maybe getting things started and organized.

Develop yourself.

Make a positive move in the right direction.

Develop a plan for your life.

Create a few daily disciplines.

Take Action.

Be thankful.



                                         Karin Glannstam- Personal Success Coach
                                                         www.karinglannstam.com






Monday, November 7, 2016

Everything Starts With Thought

                                             "It is the mark of an educated mind
                               to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it."
                                                                  - Aristotle

                           "A lot of pain that we are dealing with is really only thoughts."


Everything starts with thought.
Be aware and careful of what you think about all day.

Stand guard at the door of your mind.
Be selective of what you will allow to enter into your mind.

You decide what goes into your mind.
Don´t just let anyone dump their stuff on you........
Because you are the one that has to live with the results.

Be selective who you spend time with.
What you read and what you watch.

Just because someone tells you something, or you read something....... doesn´t mean that it´s true.
Make up your own mind.
Decide what is true for you.


 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, November 4, 2016

The Willingness To Start Over Again

                                                 "Starting all over again is not bad....
                                                      because when you restart,
                                      you get another chance to make things right."
                                                                - Unknown

                                                   "No matter how hard the past,
                                                    you can always begin again."
                                                                   - Buddha


Difficult times happens to everyone. It doesn´t matter if you are rich or poor, young or old, man or woman......... Things do happen in our lives.
Things you didn´t expect to happen.

We can not avoid or control these storms or setbacks in our lives.
But what we can control is how we respond to them.

Are you going to allow yourself to stay in bed for several months after a setback?
Are you going to blame someone else for your situation?
Are going to continue to focus on what used to be?

Or are you going to pull yourself together and start again?
One small action at a time?


One great key to quickly recover from a setback is to have something to go for right a way.
Don´t let if affect you for a year or longer. Put something together right away. It might not be the total answer, but you must start walking.
Life doesn´t give us what we need, it gives us what we deserve.

Have something new to focus on.
You can continue to focus on what isn´t working and what you have lost.
If you continue to do this you will eventually feel stuck in a negative pattern.

Or you can shift your focus onto what is possible for you.


Start by asking a few empowering questions.

What do I need to learn from this setback?
What is it here to tell me?
How can I avoid this in the future?
What small action step can I take...starting today that will change my situation?

Learn from the lesson but make sure that you start taking some steps forward as quickly as possible.


Start walking from your desperate situation into a more empowering mode.
Start changing your philosophy and start to focus on what else you can do to make the situation change.

Start where you are.
Learn as you go.
Continue to take action.


This is how my own life coaching business got started.
I suffered a huge setbacks in 2012.
Within 3 months my mother passed away. I walked away from a toxic and abusive relationship and I also move to another country.
It would have been easy for me to continue to focus on my losses.
Honestly I did for a few months but then I started to figure out what I was going to do with the rest of my life.......... and that is how my coaching business was born.

Was it easy...of course not.
I kept on thinking about all I had lost, but after a couple of months I decided to shift my focus onto what was possible for me.
Now it required a lot of discipline. It required me to change my old ways of thinking and doing things.
I didn´t have a lot of information on how to do it.....but the important thing was that I took action and I started.
I was willing to start where I was. I didn´t know exactly how I was going to do it, but I took small action steps almost every day.
And as I did I got stronger, wiser and better.
I got the answers as I was continuing on my path.

Unfortunately a lot of people won´t start something because they don´t know how it is going to work out. They don´t have all the answers.
Of course you won´t have all the answers right away. You can learn as you go.
Just make sure that you start.


Tip!

Be willing to learn new strategies.
Be willing to make a new start.
Be willing to go again.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Great Book - In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate, MD

                                           "Rock bottom became the solid foundation
                                                      on which I rebuilt my life."
                                                           - J. K. Rowling

           "I used to think a drug addict was someone who lived on the far edges of ´society.
                              Wild-eyed, shaven-headed and living in a filthy squat.
                                                   That was until I became one."
                                                           - Cathryn Kemp


We get addicted to something that takes away the pain.

Addiction is a persons way of trying to solve a problem.

They try to solve a problem with addiction.
Addiction is a distraction. A distraction from not wanting to be yourself for a while.

Addiction is a disconnection disorder.
First you disconnect from yourself and then disconnect from others.

It is an discomfort with ourselves. We try to escape our reality with some form of addiction, or addictive behavior.

If you are interested and want to learn more about addiction I have a great book that I want to recommend.



In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate, MD

This book explores scientific and psychological causes of addiction, as well as the impact on addicts treated at the Downtown Eastside Vancouver Clinic where Mate is a physician.

In this book, Gabor Mate locates the source of addiction in the trauma of an emotionally empty childhood, making it a relational rather than a medical problem.

This is a great book for anyone struggling with addiction personally or professionally.

Addicts are locked into addiction not only by their painful past and distressing present but equally by their bleak view of the future as well.
They cannot envision the real possibility of sobriety, of a life governed by values rather than by immediate survival need and by desperation to escape physical and mental suffering.
They are unable to develop compassion toward themselves and their bodies while they are regarded as outcasts, hunted as enemies, and treated like human refuse.
As we have seen, a major factor in addiction that medical and social policies must take into account is stress.
If we want to support people´s potential for healthy transformation, we must cease to impose debilitating stress on their already-burdened existence. Recall that uncertainty isolation, loss of control, and conflict are the major triggers for stress and that stress is the most predictable factor in maintaining addiction and triggering relapse.

From In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate

Great Book....I recommend reading it!



                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, October 31, 2016

Have You Outgrown Your Old Life?




A common problem that happens to a lot of people when they change, grow, become more empowered and successful....a lot of people around them won´t like it.
They want you to remain the same. Be just like the them.
When you become successful at something, unfortunately a lot of your old friend will become envious.
Maybe you remind them of something that they should do for themselves. Maybe they have tried to do what you now are doing, without success and they can´t accept that you were able to do it.
That you were able to succeed.

A few months a go I was talking to a client of mine.
We were having a conversation over the phone and she was bringing up a great subject that I want to talk about today.

This particular client has been going through a lot of personal development  and growth in the last couple of years. She has learned a lot and raised her conscious level tremendously.
She has now come to the point that she feels bored and angry with  most of her old friends, because they continue to live small lives. They haven´t grown and developed themselves.
They are still stuck in the daily grind or the status quo, and they refuse to change.

She told me ....."we don´t have anything to talk about any longer" or "they never learn or do anything new...they just settle for the old ways of living. And every time we get together they are always complaining, but at the same time they don´t want to do anything about it. I am just so tired of hearing it over and over again and I want them to change. I want them to grow and do some new things."

She also explained that she is longing to have some soulful conversations with a particular friend of hers. A friend that she has known for over 40 years.
She said " I am just so frustrated with her and our conversation are very boring. I want her to change, to grow. Do something. If she did she would have a better life."

What my friend is going through is a very typical scenario when we are embarking on a journey of growth and personal development. When we are starting to become successful, when we are starting to feel so good in the process...... we want the whole world to follow.
At least we want our old friends to be as excited as we are, and try this new way of living.

Well guess what....they are not interested in changing.
And frankly they have no intention of wanting to do anything different with their lives.
At least not right now.

If we want people around us to change and only then will we feel better and happier.......
we are setting ourselves up for a life of suffering and misery.


When we change and grow as individuals ..... a few things in our lives will happen.

1. Either people and friends around us will find it interesting, but they don´t want to change.
But it is OK that we have changed.
2. They don´t like our change and they don´t want to be around as any more.
So they leave. At least for right now.
3. They like what they see in us...and they also want to learn, grow and change.

Now what each individual is willing to do is up to them.
We can not tell them what to do.


All we can do is to continue on our own path and hope some of our friends will follow.
But if they don´t we must´t be afraid to let go of a few friends .
There will be more along the way that might be a better match for us and where we are in life.
And hopefully after a while the old friend(s) will come along.

But if they don´t we must keep on going.
Don´t fall back into the old way again........because it will never work for you.
Once you have grown and gotten bigger you will not be willing to go back to living the small life again. You simply won´t fit in it.
It´s like wearing clothes that you outgrew several years ago. They won´t fit you anymore.



In the case of my friend..... she was mostly upset about her long time friend of over 40 years. She didn´t want to lose her but at the same time she didn´t feel like they had much in common any longer.
She told me she was angry with her friend, but deep down inside she was afraid and sad.
She was afraid to lose the friendship of more than 40 years. But the also knew that she couldn't continue to have meaningless interactions filled with complaining, gossiping and resentment either.

The truth is that as we would love for our friends to follow........But they seldom do.
They remain stuck. And until they are willing to change and grow there is nothing that we can do.
The faster we recognize this the happier we will be.

We just have to lead by example. Continue on our new path.
New exciting friend will eventually appear.
Any maybe some of your old friends will eventually follow.
But never under any circumstances should you go back to living the small and dis-empowering life again.

Keep on walking your new path.

 
 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach