Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Wake Up And Be Awesome

                                            "Every morning you have two choices.
                                                 Continue to sleep with dreams
                                              wake up and chase your dreams."

Willpower is a muscle and you can increase it by using it more often. The more you use it the stronger it gets.

Having a huge willpower muscle will assist you in your pursuit of your dreams and it will help you accomplish anything in your life.
Today I will give a you a great way to increase that muscle.

Today's Challenge

I believe that how you start your day is the way you day will continue. If you want to have a successful day I believe that you have to have some morning success habits that will set the tone for how your day is going to go.

                              "This morning I will show up. Stepping forward in growth."

Strengthen  you willpower muscle every day, by committing to waking up at a designated time  (Maybe trying to bet the sun up!)

Spend that extra time before the world wakes up to do yoga, meditate, read a book, journaling, reading your statement with your goals, write, paint, go for a walk or a run.
Do something that will inspire you. Something that will boost your energy level and that will make you feel alive for the day.

Re-commit every evening to get up again the next morning.
Commit to do this for at least three weeks and you will be amazed at how happy, inspired and energized you will feel.

                                          I have got a dream worth more than my sleep.


Monday, June 18, 2018

Eat To Fuel Your Body - Not To Feed Your Emotions

                                                         It's not a short term diet.
                                                   It's a long term lifestyle change.

Most people take better care of their cars than they do their own bodies.

We must all realize the consequences of our mistakes and understand the benefits of the right decisions when it comes to eating right. It's time to stop cheating and be serious about changing our eating patters to improve our health and our entire lives.

A lot of people are wandering through life just eating whatever is tasting the best. Not paying much attention to how is affecting their body and their energy, long term. Short term pleasure and energy but often long term pain later in life.

Surveys show that almost 70% of American adults are now overweight and obese. We are eating high calorie nutrient deficient food and we mix it with a sedentary lifestyle. Not a good combination for health and vitality.

Today people are eating a lot of processed foods and meats, lots of refined grains and a lot of added fat and sugar.

My Story!
Talking about sugar.....I have to come clean here and admit that I love sugar. 
Yes.....I love sugar way too much. More that I should. Sugar is my best friend. It's there when I feel sad. Sugar is there when I am happy. Sugar is helping when I feel worried and sugar is there when I need a energy boost. How can you not love sugar? I don't think that I know anybody that doesn't like sugar.
But I have come to realize that sugar and I cannot be best friends anymore. Because my best friend sugar is not good for me. The friendship was ruining my health and my energy. So I decided that I have to let go of this best friend because my best friend was toxic.
Nowadays I have some new friends. Their names are apples, melons, pears, tangerines and carrots just to name a few.
Many years ago I was also totally hooked on drinking Diet Coke. It helped me with my boredom at work. Looking back on it now I realized that I should have changed profession a little earlier instead of depending on diet soda to give me an energy boost. 
Today I don't touch soda. Diet or not, it doesn't matter, because it's really bad for you and it has absolutely no nutritional value.

By the way.....if you love to drink wine or alcohol … are probably deep down addicted to sugar. There is a lot of sugar in these drinks.

                                         A healthy lifestyle not only changes your body,
                                    it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood.

So what are we suppose to do to be able to live healthier?

Change Our Eating Pattern

Eat Food
Eat the right amount (not too much)
Mostly plants

This sounds very simple and it's actually a very simple solution.
It's simple.....but not so easy to do.

Today we are not eating whole food. We are eating things that look like food.
Twinkies, launchables, spray on cheese and margarine, cereals loaded with sugar, low-fat or no fat brownies, half the calories potato chips, just to name a few.
Does anyone know what is in a chicken nugget? I don't think I want to know.

Don't eat too much food. I don't think I need to talk about this one. People are just eating way too much food. Look at the size of our plates....they have gotten bigger so that we won't realize how much we are eating.
A good rule is.....never go back for a second serving. Resist the temptation.

A lot of people are eating even when they are not hungry. They are eating as a way of dealing with their emotions.
Why are you eating when you are not hungry? What are you trying to avoid by numbing your feeling(s) with food or sugar?
Trying to fill the empty whole inside will never work. The more you fill the hole the bigger it gets.

Make a new habit of eating mostly plants. There is now evidence that more meat in your diet, the greater the risk of heart disease and cancer.
Decide to add more vegetables to your diet.....and I am not talking about broccoli that is getting topped off with cheese sauce.

Adopting and maintaining a healthy diet is the first and the most important step on the path to wellness and vitality.
Food is medicine and the best medicine is preventative. Food will help protect us against heart disease, stroke, some cancer, high blood pressure, depression, mental decline associated with aging, diabetes and other weight related illnesses.

Feeding our bodies better fuel will allow us to live a life of higher quality.

Take good care of you body because it's the only place that you got to live.


Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Why We Self-Sabotage

                                       "Just imagine how much you'd get done
                              if you stopped actively sabotaging your own work."
                                                      - Seth Godin

Most of us want changes in our lives, but it seems like only a few of us are able to accomplish the changes that we know that we need to make.
Most of us want to be happier, healthier, wealthier and more more successful.....but unfortunately most of us are having a difficult time making the changes to make this happen.

We want and we expect change, but we are not doing the most important and effective things to make lasting change happen. A lot of us keep on doing the same thing over and over again and for some strange reason, we expect a different result.

So why is this happening to a lot of us?

Think of a thermostat. You have it set for 75 degrees. On a warm sunny day, if the temperature reaches over 75 degrees in your house, your AC kicks in and runs for a while until the temperature is back down to 75 degrees. Same thing with heat. If it gets too cold in your house, your heater will kick in and bring the temperature up to the desired heat that you have set your thermostat for.

Now, think of yourself as having a automatic thermostat built into you. This is a thermostat that will keep you within your comfort zone. This thermostat will tell you what you can or cannot succeed at. How much money that you feel comfortable making, how much weight that you feel comfortable carrying, what kind of love that you will allow into your life..... just to give you a few examples.

Unfortunately our family, teachers, friends told us who we were, and since we were only children at the time this programming was going on, we didn't know any better. We believed them and unfortunately this set our programming and our thermostat.

In other words.....your ability to succeed at something later in life is largely determined by what you were told as a child.

You might consciously want the changes in your life right now, but your thermostat, which is mostly unconscious (you are not aware of your programming as a child), won't allow you to change for a longer period of time. It doesn't matter how hard you are trying to change on a conscious level, the thermostat might keep on bringing you down to a level where you are feeling more comfortable at being.

If you find yourself to be unhappy right now, your thermostat will bring you to do things that you enjoy and it will try to find a solution to your unhappiness. That is a good thing.

But here is the catch, if you find yourself to be too happy, the thermostat will make you sabotage yourself and bring down your happiness level to a point that feels more within your comfort zone.

Same thing with weight loss. You lose the weight and feel great for a while but then you thermostat kicks in and starts to sabotage you. You start to gain some weight in order to return to a level where you feel more comfortable. Your own comfort zone.

Your thermostat might bring you up for a while, but eventually it will just stop and not let you go any higher.

This is why the majority of lottery winners end up losing all their money and even end up bankrupt. They were too far out of their comfort zone.

Most of us are not aware of our own thermostat. And since it is mostly unconscious it will end up limiting us from taking the right kind of action to be able to accomplish what we desire.
In a way it knocks us off the path that we started to walk on. It knocks us back onto a path that feels more familiar to us, even though we don't really want to walk that path.

We consciously want the new path but since our thermostat is mostly unconscious and 95% of our lives are controlled by the unconscious, well..... you can guess where most of us will end up....back on the old path.


Sunday, June 10, 2018

I Have The Power!

                                                      I create my own reality.
                                                      I create my own future.
                    My mind is strong enough to change and create anything in this world.
                                                          I have the power.

Are you happy with your life right now?

Did you know that you are the creator of your own life?

Who is creating this?

Who is creating your life experience?

You are the one creating.

If you don't like what you are creating, stop looking at the outside world and know that from your own consciousness you are manifesting this world around you.

If you don't like what you are manifesting, you don't need to change the world.
All you need to change is your own consciousness and your own limiting programs that you are running on a daily base.

Other people are not to blame.
We are all responsible for our own lives and what we are manifesting.

The moment you blame others you are dis-empowering yourself.
Basically saying...…"I don't have anything to do with this.....I'm a victim."

You are the creator of your own life and if you want what you are creating to be better, you are the one that have to make it better.

Stop waiting for other people. If you wait for others to change you will wait forever.
Do you actually think people around you are going to change just because you want them to change? I don't think so!!!

What if people and the world is not changing..... then how is your life going to get better?

When you change, take your power back and start creating what you want.

You are more powerful than you think!

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Don't Allow Toxic And Manipulative People To Hold You Back

                                        Do not keep people in your life that are not for you.
                                             Eventually these people will stress you out 
                                               and become the source of your downfall.

If you are a person that have made some positive changes in your life recently you might be surprised by the reaction of some of the people closest to you.
Sad but true, you must realize that not everyone is going to be happy for you and your new life style.

Maybe friends and family members are not supporting you the way you thought they would?
Maybe your growth and new way of thinking and living is actually a threat to them?
Don't be surprised if the people closest to you and even family members try to sabotage your efforts.
I'm not saying that people will consciously try to sabotage you, but they might do this in order to protect you or themselves from change.

Always pay attention to what people are saying to you.
The information might be of great value but it can also be a hidden agenda.
Pay attention to what is being said and what their motives are.

Some people will be overprotective of you because they don't want you to get hurt. Maybe if you try something you will end up failing. These people are generally acting with care, love and concern and it might be difficult to discover their hidden agenda.
This one is hard to catch and hard to fight because they act like they are really concerned for you.

Other people will be upset with you because you actually accomplished what they themselves had always wanted to be able to do. You succeeded and they didn't.
Some people feel that you have something that they themselves want.
These people will try to sabotage you in order to bring you back down to their own level.

Some people will only feel comfortable in familiar circumstances even if their circumstances are bad. Ever heard...."Better the devil that I know than the one I don't know"? A change is a huge threat to them and always scary, even if it's a change for the better. It's still a change.
These people don't want to venture out of their comfort zone.....ever.

Other people will try to take your power away by telling you things like....."Who do you think you are, trying to start a business of your own. You don't have any business experience" or "Do you really think that you will be able to keep the weight off that you have lost?" or "You are way to old to accomplish your dream. You might as well stay here with us, because if you leave us you will fail."
These people will try to strip you of your own power in order to maintain their relationship with you.

Toxic and Manipulative people come in many forms. Develop a strong sense of what type of people that you want to have in your life. The clearer you are about what you want and what is acceptable behavior will make it easier for you to identify people and situations where manipulation is happening and toxicity is spread.

If you are a person that are determined to live your life in the most authentic degree, you must realize that you are going to disappoint a few people.
Just make sure to not allow these people to set you back on your new path in life.


Sunday, June 3, 2018

Yes You Can!

                                                      Turn your "I can't" into a 
                                                           "HELL, Yes I can".

Have you ever told yourself that you can't do something? Or that you can't stop doing something that you know that you shouldn't keep on doing?

I just can't stop eating fast food, even though I know it makes me gain more weight. I just can't stop eating these hamburgers.

I can't stop having a drink or two after coming home from work. It makes me feel relaxed after a stressful day at work. I just cannot stop drinking...... then how am I going to relax?

I just can't stop shopping online. I know I am in debt and I should really try to start a saving account instead of spending my money. But shopping makes me happy and it energizes me. I just can't seem to stop shopping.

I really need to start going to the gym but I don't have enough time in the day to do everything and there is simply no time left over for exercising.

I should get off the phone and the internet in the evenings and spend more time with my spouse and my kids, but I need to catch up with my friends online too.

I should come home a littler earlier and have dinner with my family instead of always working late. But for some reason there is always more work to do at the office.

I can't survive without my morning coffee and a doughnut.

I can't wait until the afternoon to check my emails.

I can't go to be earlier than 11pm.

I can't stop eating sweets.

I can't get out of bed before 7am.

I can't start my own business. I'm not smart enough.

I can't follow my dreams.

I can't.....I can't.....I can't......I can't!!!!

Does this sound familiar to anyone? Have you been telling yourself that you just can't do something?

It might not even be your fault that you have been saying these lies, because a lot of times other people like parents, siblings, teachers or friends might have initiated the lie by telling you that you are not good at something, and then you believed it and have been reinforcing it for years and maybe even decades.
Stop  believing these lies.

The biggest lie that we tell ourselves is "I can't".

Maybe it's time for you to stop thinking this way and to stop lying to yourself and decide that you can either stop doing certain things that you need to stop doing or start doing things that are important and that you know that you should be doing.

You can change your life by start telling yourself the truth.

Stop accepting your own lies. Go from telling yourself that you can't do something, which is a lie to telling yourself......YES I can do it and I will do it, which is the truth.

The truth is that all of us can stop doing certain things or start doing things.
We can stop eating unhealthy foods, we can stop drinking, we can stop spending money, we can start exercising, we can stop surfing the internet for hours every evening, we can get to bed before 11pm and we can get going before 7am.

Then what is going on here? Why are we continuing to tell ourselves these lies?
Because it's easier for us to say that we can't and to use that as an excuse rather than to venture out of our comfort zone and test ourselves.

The worst thing is if we continue to say "I can't" eventually we won't even try.

It's better to try something and quit after a while or try something else, but saying "I can't" without even trying....that is really bad. How do you know you can't? You don't..... because you didn't even try one time.

We lie to protect ourselves. It saves us from feeling discomfort and from pain, in the short term. But in the long term it makes us feel confined, powerless and almost feeling like a caged bird. Stuck in a cage for all our lives and not ever trying to tap into our potential.

I can't really means.....I won't.

I will not take a chance. I will protect myself and live a small and secure life.

But is true that you really can't?

Next time you are tempted to say....."I can't"......Try "instead.....I can and I will".


Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Build A Quiet Space In Your Mind

                                          When life gets busy and hard to deal with,
                                                          go off by yourself.
                                      Find your own quiet space within yourself
                                            where you can relax and decompress.

In today's world we are constantly being bombarded with stimuli from everywhere.
We carry our phones with us wherever we go and we seldom allow ourselves to decompress and relax. Often when we get home at night we are so wound up that it is hard for many of us to let go and relax. This is not a good way to live and it will cause us a lot of stress and that will eventually affect our wellbeing, both physically and mentally.

We are always on the go. If  it's not physically, it is mentally, and that is why I suggest that we build a quiet room in our mind. A place where we can go several times during the day to just relax, decompress and escape. This room will be like your own decompression chamber.

We all need a place within ourselves where we can go to simply get away for a few minutes and not be disturbed.

How do we build this quiet room within ourselves?

Sit down and think of a place that you like. It can be indoors or outdoors. Create it in your imagination.
It might be by the ocean or in the woods. Maybe a beautiful meadow or by a quiet lake. It doesn't matter as long as it relaxes you. This place needs be quiet, beautiful and peaceful.

You can create a indoor room and paint it with whatever color you like. Don't have a lot of furniture in it and don't hang a lot of pictures on the walls. Keep it as simple as possible.

Create a retreat for yourself and then make a habit of returning to this retreat for a few minutes while you try to relax and decompress.
Don't bring your worries and your stress to the retreat. Simply learn to relax and  then imagine this retreat or quiet room in your mind.

Visit this place as often as you need.
Make it a tool that you use several times during the day when you feel that life is getting too busy and out of control.
Take some deep breaths and travel to this quiet place for a few minutes.
Make sure that you don't let anything bother you while you are relaxing at your retreat.
Nothing can touch you while you are in your quiet place.

Doing this will allow you to return to your workday world better prepared to cope with it.

You might also want to spend a few minutes in your quiet room or your retreat before you leave your office and go home for the day to prevent you from bringing unnecessary stress home with you.


Monday, May 28, 2018

Is Secondhand Negativity And Stress Contagious?

                                                You can pick up negativity
                                          just like secondhand smoke."
                                                    - Shawn Achor

By now we all know that secondhand smoke is dangerous to our health.

But how about stress? Is stress contagious? Is there such thing as secondhand stress?

The answer to this question is YES.
We can pick up negativity, stress and uncertainty like secondhand smoke.

How about the person at work that gets agitated because he/she is not being able to do everything on their to-do list. How about the person that gets frantic if he/she is missing a phone call or a text and can't answer it right away. Or the person that is going through a nasty divorce or is having some financial difficulties and they desperately need you to listen to every tiny detail.
Secondhand stress is also more contagious from a romantic partner than a stranger.

How do you feel after spending time with these people? A little on the agitated yourself?

According to research, the negative effects of stress, like increased levels of the hormone cortisol can actually be triggered merely but observing a person who is wound up.
If someone in your visual field is anxious and highly expressive, either verbally or non-verbally, there is a big chance that you will experience these emotions as well and unfortunately it will negatively impact your brain's performance.

They have found out through experiments with mice that if a mouse is getting a light electrical chock the other mouse will react with alarm.

Like if you watch a co-worker getting chewed out by the boss, you will get knots in your stomach.  You are not getting chewed out yourself but you know exactly how it feels.

We know that prolonged stress is bad for our health. It weakens the immune system and it will also increase the risk for heart disease, high blood pressure and sometimes even death.

I am a highly empathic person and sometimes this is causing me a lot of pain and loss of energy.
If you are a empathic person it's easy to want to get away from highly stressed people and situations to avoid being totally drained by the stress and negativity. On the other hand we don't want to completely lose our compassion for others, but at the same time we don't want our compassion to cause us pain.

The key is to recognize what is our own stress and what is someone else's stress.
When we are calmer and more relaxed we are better able to recognize secondhand stress and we are also better able to separate other people's stress from our state of being.

When you can recognize other people's stress and realizing what is yours and what isn't, then you are in a better position to help others.

A Few Tips!

One of the best tools against picking up other people's stress is a stable and strong self-esteem. The higher your self-esteem, the more likely you will feel that you can deal with whatever situation you face.

Exercising is a great way to build your self-esteem. When you exercise your body releases endorphins.
Endorphins are morphine-like chemicals produces by the body that help diminish pain while triggering positive feelings.

How are we going to protect ourselves in the future from other people's stress and negativity?
In order to be able to protect ourselves from other peoples stress is to improve our own emotional immune system.
Our own mindset affects not only ourselves but also other people.

                                "Adapting the right attitude can convert a
                                     negative stress into a positive one."
                                                    - Hans Selye


Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Who You Spend Time With Will Influence Your Future

                            Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be
                                     and how you want to feel, energies are contagious.

Do you find it difficult to find good, positive and supporting people in your life?

Who you associate with does make a huge difference in your life. The people around you will inspire or discourage. Choose wisely.

                    You will become like the 5 people you surround yourself with the most.

Is your environment and social network slowing you down or even preventing your growth?

If you believe this to be so, I suggest that you make a list of the 5-10 people that you spend the most time with and then make a list of your own values and your top goals. Then take some time and compare the lists. Be completely honest when you compare the lists and then ask yourself.....are the people that you are spending most of your time with congruent with your vision and your goals. If the answer is NO, you might be held back by this association.

Maybe it's time for a change?
Time to find some more positive and growth minded people that are going somewhere. People that have a vision for their life and pursuing it by taking action and not just talking about it.
Maybe it's time to find some people that have the same goals as you do and making progress towards these goals.

Maybe the environment isn't the right fit for you either?
Here is an example of what I am talking about.
The Kol fish grows in proportion to its environment. If you keep it in a pail of water, it grows only 2 inches. But if you let the Kol fish loose in the wild it can grow up to 2 feet.
Are you the Kol fish that has been kept in a pail?

If what you are doing right now is not working, guess what you must do? CHANGE.
You can change any time you want to. You can change the direction of your life, starting right NOW.

Never settle for less than what you are capable of doing. Don't be like the Kol fish in the pail.

Get out of your comfort zone. Take action and know that anything is possible. Consider brand new ideas and a new way of thinking.

Design your own life and don't let anyone prevent you from living your dream.


Monday, May 21, 2018

Power Thinking - Reframe Your Thoughts

                                                   "The happiness of your life 
                                       depends on the quality of your thoughts."
                                                          - Marcus Aurelius

You have the ability to control your mind. You can control the thoughts that you are thinking.
It means that you can change a disempowering thought into a empowering thought if you want to.
How do you do this? Simply by refusing to accept the negative thought. Cancel it and replace it immediately with a more positive one.

If you missed my blog from last it is again.

No Thought Lives In Your Head Rent-Free

You have the ability to control your thoughts  You have the ability to cancel any thought that isn't supporting you and what you are trying to do in your life.
You can also install self-empowering thoughts at any time, simply by choosing to focus on them.

Everything that happens is neutral. That means that nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it.
So you can give the same incident a negative meaning or a positive meaning. The incident is neutral, but you will add the meaning to it by adding your own story.

Let me give you an example of what I am talking about.
This example comes from a fantastic book.....Psycho-Cybernetics written by Maxwell Maltz. 
(If you haven't read this book I strongly suggest that you do. Absolutely amazing book.)

Even in regard to tragic conditions, and the most adverse environment, we can usually manage to be happier, if not completely happy, by not adding to the misfortune of our own feelings of self-pity, resentment, and our own opinions.
"How can I be happy?" the wife of an alcoholic husband asked me.
"I don't know," I said, "but you can be happier by resolving not to add resentment and self-pity to your misfortune."
"How can I possibly be happy?" asked a businessman, "I have just lost $200,000 on the stock market. I am ruined and disgraced."
"You can be happier," I said, "by not adding your own opinion to the facts. It is a fact that you lost $200,000. It is your opinion that you are ruined and disgraced.
I then suggested that he memorizes a saying of Epictetus, which has always been a favorite of mine: "Men are disturbed not by the things that happened, but by their opinion of the things that happened." 

Back in early 2012 when my whole life imploded, I could very easily have fallen into self-pity, anger and resentment and adapted a very disempowering story of what just had taken place in my life. Of course I can't deny that I had a lot of days of doom and gloom and plenty of "stinking thinking".
But out of that crisis also came a new beginning....I became a life coach and started my own coaching company. Since then I have also written two books and the third one is going to be published this summer.
I decided to turn a huge crisis and what I thought was a setback into something more empowering.
A comeback for a new and very different life. I did this by reframing what had just happened in my life. If it had not happened I don't know what I would be doing today. But I am grateful it happened because I discovered that I had lived a life that wasn't mine for a very long time and that it was time for a big change. 
I am where I am today because I decided to add a story that supported me to what happened in 2012 instead of letting the incident break me.

"When you reframe who did you wrong as one who lead you to define what is right,
 wisdom replace pain."
- Stace Morris

Everything that happens in life is neutral. Nothing has meaning, except the meaning we give it.
And since we are going to make up a story anyway, we might as well make up a story that supports us and empowers us instead of a story that disempowers us and weakens us. 

Same incident but what story or opinion are you going to use?
One that empowers you and supports you or the one that die-empowers you and makes you weaker?

In the end you decide what story or opinion to use when it comes to anything that happens in your life.


Wednesday, May 16, 2018

What Is Your Biggest Challenge Right Now?

                                                 "When you face difficult times,
                                   know that challenges are not sent to destroy you.
                              They're sent to promote, increase and strengthen you."

We all will face challenges as we travel along on our journey.

Life is filled with opportunities in our lives from which we either rise, learn, grow and evolve or we might just complain, shut down, and sometimes even withdraw from life.

Times when we feel stuck. Times when we feel that we are off track and we are not making any progress we might need to look down deep inside of ourselves and ask......

What is my biggest challenge? What is the biggest obstacle for my success? What is it that I can't see right now?

What is your biggest challenge right now?

Is it staying the course when you have decided to make a change in your life?
Sticking to new truths.....truths that are different from what you always believed, can be a huge challenge.
Facing the truth about ourselves and also about others can be very difficult. Maybe loved ones and friends will even set up obstacles in a effort to discourage your new way of thinking and being.

Is it old behaviors and bad habits?
Developing new and more empowering habits can a lot of times be a huge challenge. It's so easy to fall back into the old ways of thinking and living. New habits require a lot of effort and might take some time to develop. But your new habits will carry you forward towards your success.

Is it approval of other people or family members that you are waiting for before you step into your authentic self, and the life that you were meant to live?
If you are waiting on others to approve of you and your new goals you might have to wait forever. Ignore others and be honest with yourself when you ask.....why do I need others to approve of me? The truth don't. Only you can decide what is right for you. Keep on going and soon you will find new people that will be supportive of you and your dream. In the meantime you must become your own best cheer-leader.

Is it speaking up?
You know that you have been quiet way to long and it's time to share your voice with the world.
Go for it. Trust yourself and in your decision to no longer remain quiet. Have the courage to speak up for what you believe in.

I am sure that you want to move forward with your life.
If you are feeling that your life is at a standstill right now....take some time to do a little soul-searching and figure out what is keeping you stuck.

What is your biggest challenge right now?

Time to figure out your inner worth and access your true sense of empowerment. You are enough!
Now go out there in the world and do your thing. The world needs what you got, so don't hold back
I believe in YOU!!!

Face your biggest challenge,starting today.
In a short time from will be glad you did.


Monday, May 14, 2018

5 Rules For Feeling Good And For Lasting Happiness

                                                    "Feelings are just visitors,
                                                let them coma and go."
                                                         - Mooji

Do you want to feel more happy on a daily base?

I am sure that the answer is YES.

Here are a few pieces of wisdom that will sustain your happiness throughout your whole life.

1. You Are Powerful
Do what you want to do with your life. Never be afraid of other people's reactions and opinions. You are more powerful than you know. Use that power and create the life that you desire and deserve. are capable of doing anything and you will be supported on your journey.

2. Trust your gut
Ever heard someone say "I felt it in my gut?" Yes, they were right. Your gut will always tell you the truth but a lot of time we will override what our gut is telling us with our mind and say that it can't be the truth, what I am feeling in my gut.
Thoughts can take us on a roller-coaster ride and sometimes spin out of control, while the deep gut-impulses we get from instinct are usually more honest and true.

3. Always Be Honest

Always tell the truth, even if it hurts. If you start lying, after a while it might be difficult to keep up with your webs of deception. It will take an enormous amount of energy to keep the webs from tangling. In then end, the truth will most likely come out. Reserve your mental energy and use it for something better than weaving a web of deception.

4. Let Go Of Toxic People
As we get a littler older most of us will become wiser, calmer and more emotionally healthy. But unfortunately not all will display psychological health or any interest in changing themselves. Don't try to get love and affection from people that are not willing to give it to you. You are wasting your time with these people because chances are that they will never do anything to change. Give your love, affection and time to people that will love you back.

5. Let Things Go
It only takes 90 seconds for an emotion to pass through our body. Next time you are having a negative emotion.....just sit with it for 90 seconds. Don't attach any meaning to the emotion. Just let it flow through your body. Stop thinking for 90 seconds and the bad emotion will simply flow through your body and disappear. Just feel the emotion and then let it disappear.
Doing this will decrease the stress in your life. Guaranteed.


Tuesday, May 8, 2018

No Thought Lives In Your Head Rent Free

                                                  "You have to control your mind
                                                    or to let your mind control you.
                                                                - Paulo Coelho

You are not your mind.
Your mind is part of you, just like your foot or your hand.

One problem with our mind is that it is very often a big drama queen or a soap opera script writer.
Our mind makes up a lot of incredible stories filled with drama, disasters, doom and gloom of things that never happened and probably never will happen either.
So remember you are not your mind and you are not your thoughts.

You must learn to control your mind.
Manage it and train it to work for you, instead of against you.
Never negotiate with your mind, because you will not win.

Training and controlling your own mind is the most important skill that you can ever learn in terms of success and happiness.

How do we train our minds?

First you must start my paying attention to your own thoughts.
I suggest that you write some of them down on a piece of paper and then sit down and evaluate these thoughts.
Ask this really true?
Your mind will constantly produce thoughts, around 500 00 per day so you can't write them all down. But you will see a pattern after a while because some thoughts will return every day and several times every day.

Unfortunately most of our thoughts are not supportive of our wealth and happiness.
As you identify these thoughts you can begin to replace disempowering thoughts with empowering ones.

Is it time for you to adapt a new way of thinking?
Decide that today your mind will be better if you start using more empowering thoughts.
Decide that you will no longer allow your thoughts to run you. Stop negotiating with your mind. Instead show your mind that you are the boss.

No thoughts lives in your head rent free.
You will pay for negative and disempowering thoughts in energy, happiness, health, wealth and time.

If you want to move ahead in your life and grow as an individual you must start monitoring your thoughts and decide to turn disempowering thoughts into empowering ones.
You must have thoughts that will assist you in creating happiness, health and wealth.

When a disempowering thought appears, you can just say cancel or next or thanks for your help but I don't need you anymore, and then replace it with a more empowering one.

Start practicing this way of thinking and your life will quickly change for the better.

                                     "I will not let anyone walk through my mind
                                                       with their dirty shoes."
                                                                 - Gandhi


Monday, May 7, 2018

You Don't Have To Get Rid Of Fear In Order To Be Successful

                                     True confidence doesn't come from not having fear.
                                     It comes from trusting yourself to act in spite of fear.

If action is so important to be able to manifest what we desire in life, then what is it that prevents us from taking actions we know that we need to take?

FEAR.....DOUBT......WORRY..... are among the greatest obstacles to success but also to happiness as well.

One of the biggest differences between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people are willing to act in spite of fear. Unsuccessful people let fear stop them.

I believe that one of the biggest mistakes that most people make is that they wait for the feeling of fear to disappear before they are willing to take action.
This feeling will most likely not disappear and therefore these people will most of the time wait forever.

Successful people have fear, doubt and worry, but they don't allow these feelings to stop them.
Unsuccessful people on the other hand, they will allow the feelings of fear, doubt and worry stop them immediately.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

You don't have to get rid of fear in order to be successful.
You just have to tame it.

Since we are creatures of habit we must learn to act in spite of fear. In spite of worry and doubt.
We must act in spite of inconvenience and discomfort and also we must learn to act in spite of uncertainty.
One more.....we must also learn to act when we are not in the mood to act.

If you are only willing to do what is easy, life will be hard. If you are willing to do what is hard, life will be easy.

Successful people don't base their actions on what is easy and convenient. That way of living is reserved for the unsuccessful people.

To get to a higher level in life, you must break through your comfort zone. Unfortunately most people are not willing to be uncomfortable. Being comfortable might make you feel warm and fuzzy at the moment but it won't allow you to grow.
To grow you must expand your comfort zone.

Fear is a liar and fear can become a prison.

Be Courageous
Take Action
Make It Happen!


Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Fight For What You Want

                                                                  Never settle.
                                           Fight for the life, the career, the dreams,
                                                          the love that you deserve.
                                                                 - Mandy Hale

Have you ever gone shopping and ended up buying something that you liked OK, but it wasn't exactly what you wanted?

I have done this thing many times when it came to buying a purse, shoes, jeans, shirt or a dress.

I am sure that you have done it too.

Why do we continue to do this?
It doesn't make sense to buy something that we really don't want.

We settle.
When we believe we cannot have what we desire. When we lack faith in ourselves and in the possibilities of life.....we settle for less.

We decide that whatever is in front of us is better than nothing.

Unfortunately a lot of people settle for less when it comes to relationships.
They tolerate and accept bad behavior, lies and other things because they are doing what feels familiar and comfortable.
"Better the devil you know than the devil you don't."

Other people are settling for a job that makes them feel dead on the inside.
Every Monday morning they feel like they are going to have a heart attack just thinking about having to spend another week at a dead-end job.

Do you feel that you are undeserving of happiness and wonderful things in life?
Do you feel that you have to settle or have you allowed others to convince you that it's the right thing to do?

You can have what you really want.

Never settle for something less than you desire just because it's the easiest thing to do or because someone told you what to do.

Are you making excuses about why you should stay put, rather than going for what you really want?
If you are probably settling.


Monday, April 30, 2018

Are You Attracting Emotionally Unhealthy People Into Your Life?

                                          Start attracting healthy people into your life
                                                   by setting healthy boundaries. 

Do you have a tendency to attract needy and emotionally unhealthy people into your life?

I was talking to a client of mine a few weeks ago and one of her concerns that she had was that she felt that she would often attract emotionally unhealthy and needy people.
The problem with it she said is that the relationships starts off fine but after a while she feels like she is getting consumed by the needs and the demands of the other person so much that her own life was suffering.
But on the other hand she didn't want to end these relationships and she is wanting to remain friends with these people. But can you?

Can you remain friends with people who are needy and that will demand too much of you, and also your time?

Some people have a desire to save others and in the end it's actually more about them, than it is the emotionally unhealthy person.

Of course it is not a bad thing to try to help others but if you are you trying to fill a need or a void within yourself, that isn't getting met.....perhaps to feel wanted or loved than you will probably find yourself in these kinds of relationships.

If a friend(s) start to interfere too much with multiple aspects of your life....maybe it's time to let that person go?

Are you really helping them anyway?
Usually these kinds of people will demand a lot of your time but in the end they are often unwilling to change and to help themselves.

I always's almost impossible to help someone that doesn't want to help themselves.

We cannot change anyone's life if they are not willing to change themselves. Continuing these types of relationships makes no sense. Also remember to never invest more in a relationship than you can afford to lose.

Of course you should have empathy for other people.
And it's possible to help those in need without becoming enmeshed to the point that you are actually being dragged down.

Sometimes you have to help and love people from a distance and remain there unless they show you that they are first willing to help and to change themselves.

In the meantime you might want to do some inner work yourself.
Try to find out why you constantly get involved in these kinds of relationships.

Is it because you don't get your own needs met any other way?
Are you looking to get love, or wanting to feel needed, wanted or significant?


Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Perseverance Is The Will To Hold On A Little Longer

                                 "Obstacles don't have to stop you.
                                  If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up.
                                  Figure out how to climb it, go through it
                                  or work around it."
                                  - Michael Jordan

Have you had to deal with any obstacles or setbacks lately?

You know, obstacles are never there to stop us on our path.
They are actually part of the path.

It's easy to feel discouraged and defeated when faced with a setback.

Believe me I have faced a number of huge setbacks myself and it's easy to feel beaten down and it takes a lot of both mental and physical energy to get back up after being knocked down.

One of my favorite empowering words is...Persevere

Persist no matter what.
Endure discomfort.
Request help.
Steadfastly hold on to your beliefs and values.
Envision triumph.
Very consistently keep at it.
Embrace adversity as your teacher.
Refuse to give up.
Enjoy and celebrate every tiny bit of progress.

                                                   The will to persevere is often 
                                           the difference between failure and success."
                                                                - Davis Sarnoff

Perseverance - Steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

So next time you are having to deal with a setback or an obstacle on your path......remember this word.


Monday, April 23, 2018

Get Ready.....Get Going.....Get In The Game

                                                  "The time for action is NOW.
                                              It's never too late to do something."
                                                          - Carl Sandburg

                               "Imperfect action beats perfect inaction every time."
                                                         - Harry S. Truman

What do you really, really want in life?
Whatever it is.....get going NOW.

Maybe you want to be successful in business? Maybe having your own business? Live a healthier lifestyle? Have better relationships
The important thing is that you start taking action TODAY.

Get in the game. Begin now, from where you are, and with whatever you've got.

Get going in the field that you want to be in.
Action always beats inaction.
Trust that once you get in the game that you will be able to make intelligent decisions in the present moment.

Make correction and adjust your sail along the way.

Successful people take action.
Unsuccessful won't do anything unless they have identified all possible problems and know exactly what to do about them. They believe that they have to know everything in advance which is absolutely impossible.
They are always preparing and they seldom take action. They will see obstacles where successful people will see opportunities.

There is no way you will ever be able to figure out everything before you get started.
Trust in your yourself and your own ability that you will be able to solve and handle any future obstacles and emergencies.

Successful people see opportunity and they jump on it and therefore they will eventually win.
Unsuccessful people don't take action and therefore they will loose.

1. Get in the game. Begin now with whatever you've got.

2. Practice optimism. It will drive negative people crazy and away from you.

3. Focus on what you have. Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for in your life right now.
Read it out load twice a day for 30 days.

Think of the consequences if you do nothing.

You will never what doors that will open for you in the future.
But you have to get started.

                                   "You are what you do, not what you say you'll do."
                                                                 - Carl Jung