Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Learn To Forgive

                                           "Holding a grudge is letting someone live
                                                         rent-free in your head."

A lot of times we will allow our wounds from the past to bleed into our future.
We must learn to heal those wounds once and for all if we are going to be able to live a happy and fulfilled life. But often people will bond with their wounds from their childhood and the past. Most of our unhealed wounds come from parents, siblings and ex-lovers.

We must learn to forgive others and ourselves so that we can let go and move on with our lives.

If you missed Monday's blog.....here it is.....Close The Wound

Today I want to talk about forgiveness.
I read a fantastic book this month and the name of it is .....
The Book of Forgiving.....written by Desmond & Mpho Tutu.

In this book they talk about that if we don't forgive a person we will be chained to them for the rest of our lives. As long as we have hatred and anger towards this person that hurt us we will remain in prison and they will be the prison guard that will continue to hold the key to our happiness.

When we forgive we are taking back the control in our lives. The control over our destiny, our feelings and emotions. In other words..... we set ourselves free. We don't forgive to help the other person. We don't forgive because of others. We forgive to make ourselves feel better and to be able to move on with our own lives. We are helping ourselves.
When we can let things go..... we become free from the past instead of being chained to it forever.

As long as we can't forgive we will remain in our own pain and also in prison.

Forgiveness will sooth depressions, give us renewed hope and it will it make the anger go away.
To hang on to rage and bitterness and to constantly live with stress can hurt our bodies as well as our souls and our spirits.

Fantastic book.....I recommend reading it..... even if you don't feel like you need to forgive anyone.

The Book of Forgiving by Desmond & Mpho Tutu.
(Swedish title is Förlåtelse.)

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, June 26, 2017

Close The Wound

                                        "Our most common unhealed core wounds are usually
          sourced from the relationships we had with our parents, siblings, and ex-lovers."
                                                            - don Mateo Sol

Last week I got stung by a bee for the first time in many years. It hurt a little when it happened but then I didn't pay much attention to it. The next day my whole lower arm was red, swollen and warm to the touch. This bee sting made me feel quite uncomfortable for many days and I wanted it to heal  quickly so that I could go back to feeling" normal" again.
About a week later it is almost gone except a little redness and some itching.

I guess you are wondering where I am going with this story about being stung by a bee?

Let's say that instead of a bee sting I got a cut on my arm. It was bleeding some and it hurt for a while. In a short while after getting this cut, the wound on my arm would try to close up and to heal. It is a very natural process.

If the cut didn't heal and close up it would soon cause all kinds of trouble. The disease process would begin and soon it would have started an infection..... if the wound or cut would continue to stay open.
If a cut or a wound never would close up.....than the person would eventually die if the infection spread to the rest of the body.

The natural tendency for a wound would be to close up and heal. Same thing with the bee sting that I got. After about a week the spot where I got stung has almost returned to normal.

Now let us look at the same thing more in the spiritual and the psychological dimension.
Most of us get wounded from our childhood.....and from our past. We were abused, abandoned, neglected. We weren't feeling loved and not taken care of. We sometimes even felt that we were taken advantage of. Our parents were maybe alcoholics, drug-abusers or gamblers. Maybe some were poor and maybe they were rich or whatever it was.....we all have this stuff in our past..... and the funny thing is that a lot of us will bond to it.

Sometimes we might use these old wounds from the past to get attention or we use it for pity and a lot of people will lead with their wounds.
When we meet someone new, it won't be long before we know that they weren't loved by anyone. They will tell us right away. Or maybe they were abused as a child. Their husband/wife left them for someone else. Their father/mother was an alcoholic and that is now why they are also an alcoholic.
I am sure that you have met someone in your life that immediately after you met them for the first time they started telling you all about how miserable their life is and how unfairly they had been treated by others.

It doesn't matter what it is..... but some people will keep holding on to these wounds and one of the reasons that we don't heal in our lives and why we don't manifest what we desire is because we are attached to these things in our past rather than saying to ourselves and others.....

"Whatever happened to me in the past, whatever lesson, I have learned from it.....I now got it!
I got the lesson.
And now since I got the lesson I no longer need to be attached to it and I can now stop and remove the poison from my body. I refuse to allow it to continue to spread in my body like a huge infection and preventing me from healing. I decide to let it go because I want to close the wound forever.
I want to heal."

Most people whose lives are not fulfilled with the things that they would like to see manifest in their lives are experiencing this..... because they are in the past hanging on to their wounds and refusing to allow them to heal. They keep on re-opening the same wound over and over again.

You hear a lot of people talking about their past and their old wounds. For example you might hear them say
"How can you talk to me about this when you don't understand the pain I have suffered in my life." "How can you possible say this after you know what I have been through as a child."
"You want me to forgive him?......I was only a child. I didn't do anything wrong."

If you don't do this to yourself you will do it others..... and it comes from this idea that all of us are entitled to a perfect childhood. What is a "Perfect" childhood anyway???

No one escapes their childhood without being wounded. But our parents, siblings, teachers and friends did their best. They didn't mean to wound us.

Back in 2012 after leaving a narcissistic abusive partner (that I had been in a relationship with for over 7 years), I was trying to understand what would make a person do something so mean and ugly to another person. I flooded my brain with information from books and articles about narcissism and narcissistic abuse.  I listened to webinars and teleseminars about other people's experiences. I wanted to understand on a deeper level. I had been terribly wounded by the behavior of this person and I wanted to understand why he did what he did. I craved answers and I wanted to know so that I could later heal and then let it go.
It was during this year that the idea of having my own coaching business got started and in 2013 my idea became my new reality. I started my own coaching business. My experience has made my a lot stronger and I can now understand people on a lot deeper level than I would have been able to do if I had not gone through what I did for many years.
Because of what I went through I now have knowledge and experiences that are priceless. And all the knowledge that I have accumulated through books, webinars, other people and online articles has made it possible for me to understand and close the wounds of my past.

The fact is whatever you needed to go through in your life in order to get the lessons why you are here, you went through. And as you look back on all those things you can either say to yourself.....
"They taught me to be stronger" or you can say "Poor me" and continue to bleed with your wounds and keep them open.
If you continue to keep the wound open you it will eventually prevent you from ever feeling worthy of anything good in your life.

Close The Wound.....And Let It Go!

                                      Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Check Out This Book.....See You At The Top.....By Zig Ziglar

                                       "What lies behind us and what lies before us
                                    are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
                                                     - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today I want to mention a great book by Zig Ziglar......See You At The Top.

In this book Zig Ziglar talks writes about how to improve your self-image, goals, attitude, your relationship with others, work and desire. The is also a chapter in the book about the power of your subconscious mind. Great Book.

Do you have a target or a goal? You must have a goal because it's just as difficult to reach a destination you don't have, as it is to come back from a place you have never been..    
     Unless you have definite, precise, clearly set goals, you are not going to realize the maximum potential that lies within you.
     You'll never make it as a "wandering generality." you must be a "meaningful specific." What about you and your goals? Are they clearly in focus, or still pretty fuzzy?
     A man or a woman without a goal is like a ship without a rudder. Each will drift and not drive. Each will end up on the beaches of despair, defeat and despondency. John Henry Fabre, the great French naturalist, conducted a most unusual experiment with some Processionary Caterpillars. These caterpillars blindly follow the one in front of them. Hence, the name. Fabre carefully arranged them in a circle around the rim of a flower pot, so that the lead caterpillar actually touched the last one, making a complete circle. In the center of the flower pot he put pine needles, which is food for the Processionary Caterpillar. The caterpillars started around this circular flower pot. around and around they went, hour after hour, day after day, night after night. For seven full days and seven full nights they went around the flower pot. Finally, the dropped dead of starvation and exhaustion. With and abundance of food less than six inches away, the literally starved to death, because they confused activity with accomplishment.
     Many people make the same mistake and as a result reap only a small fraction of the harvest life has to offer. Despite the fact that untold wealth lies within reach, they acquire very little of it because they blindly, without question, follow the crowd in a circle to nowhere. They follow methods and procedures for no other reason than, "it's always been done this way."

From.... See You At The Top ....by Zig Ziglar

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, June 19, 2017

Never Underestimate Your Long-Term Power

                                                    "The longer you hang in there,
                        the greater the chance that something will happen in your favor.
                                                    No matter how hard it seems,
                                the longer you persist, the more likely your success."
                                                            - Jack Canfield

Lord give me patience.....and give it to me right now!!!

Are you running out of patience when it comes to getting your business going?
Or trying to get out of debt and putting some money away?
You are not losing the weight and getting in shape is taking a lot longer than you expected?
How about your relationships.....are they where you want them to be?

Are you telling yourself that you are doing all the right things and still it doesn't happen for you?
You don't see any results and for every day that goes by you are feeling more and more frustrated and you are now wondering if it will ever happen for you at all?

Don't worry. You are not alone in feeling this way.

Don't make yourself wrong and stop beating yourself up because you don't think that you are working hard enough or doing the right things, because you are not seeing the results that you are after.

It takes time.

A lot of people will overestimate what they can do in a short period of time and they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.
It takes time to create and to build something. You can call it.....Lag time, the provision of conditions for growth and development. How about preparation time or another great word is incubation time.

Just because you didn't get it when you wanted it...doesn't mean that you won't get it.

God's delay is not God's denial.

What we do know is that the world will step aside and let you by when you are determined and you won't give up.
The world will move with those who will persist forever and that are flexible in their approach and not getting stuck in going the same thing day in and day out.
If you have faith and trust and act on that trust the world will move for you.

It will happen for you. Maybe not as fast as you want it to.....but it will happen.

Never underestimate your long-term power and your potential.

                                 Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

There Will Be Great Frustration On The Road To Any Success

                                           "Frustration, although quite painful at times,
                                       is a very positive and essential part of success."
                                                            - Bo Bennet

Have you ever felt frustrated?

I think most of us have..... at some point of our lives. I know I definitely have. And a lot of times.

Frustration - The feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something.

What part of your life do you feel frustrated about?
Is it in your relationships? Your new business is not taking off as planned? You don't seem to be able to shake off the 15 pounds that you have put on during the last 2 years? Don't seem to be able to attract the right people into your life?

I know that frustration comes and goes and I also know that if you are trying to create something great in your life you are going to feel frustrated on your road to success.

Today I want to recommend a great book written by Tony Robbins.
I guess most of you know that Tony is a mentor of mine. I have never met him and I have not attended any of his seminars yet, but I hope to do so sometime in the near future. So I call him my virtual mentor (we can have those too). I listen to a lot of his recordings..... either on CD or on YouTube.

The book I am talking about is Unlimited Power.

Today I want to share a small part of a chapter that actually talks about frustration, and one key to wealth and happiness is to be able to handle your frustration.

     Here's the first key to the creation of wealth and happiness. You must learn how to handle frustration. If you want to become all you can become, do all you can do, hear all you can hear, see all you can see, you've got to learn how to handle frustration.
Frustration can kill dreams. It happens all the time. Frustration can change a positive attitude into a negative one, an empowering state into a crippling one. The worst thing a negative attitude does is wipe out self-discipline. And when that discipline is gone, the results you desire are gone.
     So to ensure long-term success, you must learn how to discipline your frustration. Let me tell you something. The key to success is massive frustration. Look at almost any great success, and you'll find there's been massive frustration along the way. Anybody who tells you otherwise doesn't know anything about achieving. There are two kinds of people - those who've handled frustration and those who wish they had.

From the book.....Unlimited power by Tony Robbins.

Any time I feel frustrated about some area in my life I always pick up this book and I go to this chapter just to remind myself that frustration is part of the game and it is part of your journey, if you want to be successful. It is OK to feel this way.

But the important thing is..... what do you do with the frustration?
Do you allow it to fuel you to continue or do you allow it to stop you?

                                      Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, June 12, 2017

Your Dream Will Require A Lot Of Energy

                                                 You can't have a million dollar dream
                                                     with a minimum wage work ethic

You have to have energy when it comes to your dream. Both physical and mental energy.

You have to be hungry to want to accomplish your dream. You must have a burning desire to start and to finish.

You have to be willing to do the things today that will give you what you want tomorrow..... and to be able to do this you have to have a lot of energy.

Your dream requires a lot of energy..... and to be able to accomplish it you have to put together a system in your life that you can follow every day to keep you "energy high."

So what is something that you can do on a daily base to create high energy?

First you have to start with your mind because everything starts there. Your mind is limitless and you have to be mentally ready or you will never be physically ready to accomplish your dream.

I listen to inspirational/motivational material almost every morning and I find a lot of it on YouTube. Plenty to choose from there. It gives me a great kick in the right direction every morning.

You must have a vision and goals. Create goals and read them out load every morning is another great way to start off your day right. Look at what you are wanting to accomplish. Great inspiration early in the morning and before you go to bed at night.

Read books. Spend at least one hour per day reading a book in your field. If you are wanting to improve your health, then read books about nutrition. If you want to improve your money situation, then read books about finances. How about improving your marriage, then you must seek out books about relationships. If you don't feel like spending a lot of money on books you can go to the library. How much does a library card cost? It's FREE.
You can also read a lot of great articles online.

I set a goal this year to read at least 2 books per month in my field. That is 24 books this year. So far I have read 16. I know I will be able to accomplish that goal this year. I read a variety of books so that I will increase my knowledge, feel better myself, better be able to help my clients, improve my blogs and write better books.
I read about success, finances, health/fitness, stress relief, personal development, leadership and relationships just to name a few. I also read biographies of others. Books are filled with great information, knowledge and ideas.
They say knowledge is power.....but only if you apply what you have learned.

I get a lot of mental energy from writing my blogs and newsletters. It inspires me to write them but I also go back and read what I wrote on days when I feel like my energy level is a little low. I also enjoyed wring my first book and it inspired me to write my second book that will be published this summer.

Listen to great music with a fast beat can be a great way of increasing your energy. Any time you move you will change your state and feel a higher energy level.

So this leads me into the next thing you must do to get more energy.....exercise. No way around this one. You don't have to hang out in the gym all the time. But you can walk 4-5 times per week. Just make exercise a regular habit. Choose the exercise that works for you or you won't do it. The important things is that you create a system when it comes to moving your body.

Don't forget to eat right. You must fuel your body with great nutritional stuff. Try to avoid things with a lot of sugar and too much fat. A well balanced diet is all that it takes. I never have believed in depriving your body of things that you enjoy eating. So I eat chocolate sometimes, but I don't eat it all the time and I don't eat as much when I do eat it.

When you create your system to get "energy high" you must include sleep and also time for relaxation and time for yourself. Whether that is quiet-time, mediation-time or reflection-time. It doesn't matter. Just a little time to yourself.

Last one....learn to manage your time. Don't give it away so freely. Plan and schedule your time. Don't let just anyone take up your time or waste it. Your time is very valuable and once you have spent it....it is gone forever, so make sure that you spend it wisely.

Commit to your dream long-term. Whether it will be easy or not to accomplish it.

It doesn't matter what happens..... you are going to accomplish your dream.....even when it's difficult.

                                        Karin Glannstam- Personal Success Coach                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Time To Move Forward

                                               When you past calls, don´t answer.
                                                       It has nothing new to say.

The past is behind you.....learn from it.
The future is ahead.....plan and prepare for it.
The present is here.....live it.

You can´t do anything about your past.... but you can do something about your future.

To dramatically improve the odds of making your life better you have to take responsibility for designing your future. One great way to do this is by first leaving your old story behind and create a brand new one.

Treat you past as a school. Learn from it. Gather up information and experiences from it and then invest it in your future. Don´t beat yourself over the head with past losses and failures.
Learn from the past but don´t take up residence there.

It does take a lot of courage to let old hurt and pain go. Things that wounded you and made you bleed.
You just have to believe and have faith that what is in front of you is greater than what is behind you.

You have to make a decision that if you want to move to the second half of your life then you have to let the first one go.
You have a new chance but it won´t mean anything if you stay behind in your past.
You must enter the second half of your life with a new mind or it won´t do you any good.

If you are constantly looking back at the past you will not have enough energy for the present moment and for creating your new future.
If you are busy and distracted by the past, you won´t notice opportunities in the present.
They will just slip right by you.

Start where you are right now and decide where you want to go. It doesn´t matter how you got there. The important thing is that you create a new, more empowering story and start moving forward.

Just because you don´t know how every single step of your journey is going to unfold, that shouldn't stop you from getting started.
Put one foot in front of the other and trust that the answers and resources you seek, will appear.

TODAY is the right moment and the perfect day to start your new life.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, June 5, 2017

What Pain Are You Trying To Avoid?

                                                  "When you try to avoid the pain,
                                                         it creates greater pain."
                                                            - Jennifer Aniston

A lot of people are trying to run from pain and their problems with some form of addiction.

We can never run away from our pain and our problems.
In life, we will all will have good days and also bad days. Good times and bad times. We will feel good, but we will also feel bad. We will have setbacks and smooth sailing. It is completely normal.
No person has only good days. It doesn´t matter who you are..... you will have problems, you will feel bad and you will have setbacks in your life. It is part of living.

Society has told us for years that we should not have to feel bad, and if we do there are so many ways of avoiding it or fixing it. If it is only for the moment.

Some people don´t ever want to feel bad, sad or to feel any kind of pain. They always want to feel good in the moment. In order to feel good at every moment of your life you might have to turn to some kind of addiction or addictive behavior to be able to create the desired feeling or avoiding the feelings that you don´t want.

We have become a society filled with pain relievers. Drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, food, sugar, gambling, sex, shopping, relationship hopping, endless complaining and gossiping, always helping others or busyness..... just to name a few.

All these methods are a way of disconnecting and avoiding pain. (if done excessively and with the intention to escape reality)
Maybe you tell yourself....."I don´t want to feel this way right now so I will numb out and escape from the moment." And off you go digging through the refrigerator for something to eat, even though you are hungry. Or you go shopping, gambling or get busy checking emails and FB.

Don´t postpone your pain to the future.
The disconnect from the pain is only temporary. You don´t want to feel the feeling right now so you are postponing it to later.

What is underneath the feeling? What is it that you are avoiding by numbing out?

By disconnecting and continuing to disconnect with things like addiction you are slowly but surely isolating yourself. It is like an endless black hole or bottomless pit. The more you feed it with some kind of addiction the more it wants. There will never be enough stuff to fill up that black hole from the outside. It must be filled from the inside.

What pain are you trying to avoid?
If you are trying to avoid it today, it will come back knocking on your door tomorrow, next week or next month. You can never get rid of your pain by ignoring it. But you can deal with it by accepting it.

Addiction is the easy way out. The more pleasurable way. Trying to avoid pain by adding pleasure.

Instead try to find the root of the problem. Find the original wound, clean it out and then heal it.
It will take a lot of work to discipline yourself and your mind.
It is so much easier to disconnect from yourself with some addiction or addictive behavior.

Learn to self-sooth because anything you reach for out there won´t help you to fix your problem and the emptiness on the inside.
Tell the truth....what are you trying to avoid?

Accept the situation, instead of running from it. Sit in your pain and your discomfort. Don´t fight it.
Instead ask.....what is this pain teaching me? Learn from it.
Now.....what can you do and how can you take the right action?

It is painful to tell the truth. It´s painful to tell people who we really are. It is easy to float the truth.
It is easy to tell ourselves that we will think about the problem tomorrow. Pushing it forward to the next week, month or year.
It´s addictive, but it´s only an escape from the real problem.

                                                   Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, June 2, 2017

Taking A Break From My Friday Blog


Just want to let everyone know that I will not be writing a Friday blog from June-August.

I will continue with the Monday and Wednesday blog as usual.

The Friday blog will return again in September.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

It´s About The Habit.....Not The Amount

                                                "It´s not the will to win that matters,
                                                            everyone has that.
                                        It´s the will to prepare to win that matters."

                                                          - Paul "Bear" Bryant

Have you ever tried to break a habit or tried to create a new healthier one?

We all know that breaking old habits are very difficult, especially if you have had the same habit for many years.

Creating a new habit is also very difficult. Even if you know that this new habit will be good for you, it will most of the time require some kind of effort and discipline that the bad habit didn´t require.
Bad habits are easy to develop but difficult to deal with in the long run. Good habits will be more difficult to develop but a lot easier to live with.

When people are trying to change something..... whether it is their diet, starting to exercise, starting to save money instead of spending it....
One big mistake a lot of people make is that they try do too much too soon. They want to see some results quickly.
By doing too much too soon they will set themselves up for failure and going back into a relapse.

You decide that on Monday you are going to change your lifestyle. You are going to eat a lot of veggies and you are going to go running 3 miles 3-5 times per week.

Nothing wrong with a great vision of seeing yourself as healthy and in great shape, but the way you go about it might not be the best way. Your vision is great but your plan to achieve it....not so good.
Most great dreams and visions will require smaller goals. Like daily, weekly and monthly goals.
We can call them stepping stones.

If you haven´t been eating healthy in a long time, it might be too big of a goal for you to start eating mostly veggies, fruit, fish and barely nothing else You might be excited for a few days until you realize that you don´t even like broccoli, grapefruit or salmon. Instead a great daily goal can be to replace an unhealthy snack with a fruit and then to drink plenty of water. Add a vegetable to your meal and cut back on potatoes, pasta or rice. Get used to the new routine for a week or two. Then add a few more healthy choices. If you change too quickly you will easily get bored and you might even quit after a few days.

The same thing happens to people that haven´t exercised in a couple of years. They decide to go running a couple of miles because they were able to that distance 5 years ago. If you have been sitting on the couch for a few years you might want to start with walking a mile or two, 3 times per week. When your body gets used to this you can either increase the distance or the amount of times per week that you exercise. People can easily get hurt if they start doing to much. They end up on the couch with a sore ankle and they won´t get started again for another year.
Don´t let this be you. Start small and increase slowly. Build momentum by taking baby steps.
It´s about the habit, not the amount

How about saving money. If you are used to spending all of your paycheck and then some, you might not be able to start saving $500 per month. You might have to start with cutting up your credit cards and open a savings account. Then you start with maybe saving $25-50 per month plus you decide to stay out of the stores, to not be tempted to buy something that you don´t need. Slowly you can increase the amount you save and after a while you will be surprised how much money you will have in your savings account and you will realize that you don´t even miss shopping anymore.
Again, it is about establishing a new habit and not about the amount.

What you are trying to do is to get yourself used to a new habit..... mentally. You are developing self-discipline. Self-discipline is a muscle and a lot of people haven´t used this particular muscle for a very long time. It is easy to plan but it isn´t that easy to actually put the plan into action. That is when discipline comes in. Self discipline is to do the things that you decided that you were going to do, when you are suppose to do them, no matter if you feel like doing it or not.
You have to motivate yourself to get going and to actually do the thing you said you were going to do.

In the beginning it is easy to be excited about a new goal.
You decided to run 3 miles per week even though you haven´t ran for years. How long do you think you will be able to continue to do it when you are getting bored, tired, running out of time and feeling unmotivated and you would rather watch TV?

How about if you decide that you are going to go for one mile walk 3 times per week. Do you think that you will be able to do it during those days when you don´t feel like doing it? I think so.
It is a lot easier to start with a small habit and allow it to grow ......than to do it the other way.

It is more a mental thing. You are creating a habit in your mind. You are creating self-discipline. Nothing much will happen in the beginning with a small habit but if you stick with it .....it will grow and after a while it will be hard to quit your new habit. If you continue your habit of walking and then adding some more miles..... then one day you will wake up and you will realize that you are now a runner. Your life has been transformed. Mile by mile and day by day.

Your future is determined by your willingness to create small habits and then actually following these habits until you accomplish your dream.

                                     Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, May 29, 2017

You Can Do Anything That You Want To Do

                                 "Aerodynamically the bumble bee shouldn´t  be able to fly,
                            but the bumble bee doesn´t know it so it goes on flying anyway."
                                                               - Mary kay Ash

Did you know that that according to the known laws of physics, the bumble bee shouldn´t be able to fly?

The bumble bee´s weight and wing area would not allow the bee to lift off the ground. The bee is to heavy and the wings are too light.

The good thing is that no one told the bumble bee that it can´t fly. So it keeps on flying

Often in life we will allow the world to define who we are.
We are told by our parents, siblings, teachers, friends, spouses, bosses and co-workers what we can do and what we can do.
Who we are, and who we are not. What we should do, and should not do.

If you have listened to the same thing over and over again..... that you are.....
too old/young to do something unique with your life, you don´t have the right education or no education, you are born in the wrong country or town, you don´t have enough money to start a business, you are a woman/man, you have no experience, you won´t amount to anything.....it is no wonder that we feel like our own wings won´t allow us to fly.
And we finally throw our hands up in the air and say.....I Can´t!

A lot of people feel like they are in a hopeless situation and that challenges have left them feeling that there is little hope for them to ever accomplish anything in life.

Don´t let the world or anyone convince you of who you are.
Sometimes we also allow too many voices from our past and also from our present to interfere with our dreams and our plans. Don´t allow these old recording to continue to play in your head. Create a few new recordings and start playing them in your mind.

You are the only person who knows who you truly are and what you are capable of doing and not doing. What works of you and what doesn´t work for you. What you want and don´t want.
Don´t allow other people´s limitations to limit you. Allow you own light to shine. Dare to be yourself. Dare to be different. Show the world the real you.
You are good enough and you can do it.

Take a chance on life.

You can fly.....just like the bumble bee can. Even thought you might sometimes feel like your wings are not strong enough to carry you.....you can fly.
Practice every day and your wings will get stronger. Fight for what you want. It won´t be given to you. You have to fight for it every day..... but it will be well worth it.

It is never too late to be who you were suppose to be.

It might not be easy at first, but anything important to you is worth fighting for.

Create a dream and a vision. Get a plan together and take action.

Live a life that you are proud of.

If you feel like you are not living the life that you want, I hope that you have the strength to start over again.

Ultimately we are responsible for what we are and what we want to become.

You can do anything that you want to do..... if you put your heart, mind and soul to it.

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, May 26, 2017

The World Is Changing - Are You?

                                     "A mind that has been stretched by a new experience
                                                can never go back to it´s old dimensions."
                                                     - Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

The more you are doing the same thing.....the more you will get..... of what you have already got.

In today´s world everything is changing so fast.

Are you also changing or are you doing the same thing over and over again?

Are you open for new ideas?

When was the last time you tried something new?

If you haven´t tried anything new lately? If the answer is no..... how can you know that there isn´t a better way of doing what you are doing right? You just haven´t found it yet.

Have you ever run into people that will say to you......."This have worked in the past, it is working now and we will continue to do it this way. We have always done it this way and we are not going to change now."
In other words they are not open for anything new.
It´s like doing the same thing over and over again.....expecting a different result.
If you are living with that attitude..... you will be left behind.

I remember back in 2013 when I was telling people that I was coaching my clients via phone or Skype, they looked at me and funny and said......"But how can you do that? Are you telling me that you don´t have an office?"

I told them how it worked and they had a hard time understanding, that it would work. No office to go to. No office for the clients to come to. They looked at me like I was a little on the crazy side.

Fast forward to today 2017....I think most people have gotten used to the idea, and they don´t think it is that strange anymore. You can talk to all kinds of professionals online and on the phone to get advice and tips.

We must learn to be more open to new ideas.  Don´t get me wrong.....I don´t think all new ideas are good. Some should be tossed straight into the garbage. But we must try to open our minds a little more often to ideas that might help us better our lives and to move us into the future more prepared.

One thing that I have notice with a lot of people is that they seldom ask any questions. I don´t understand why....because that is how you find out new things. I am so curious myself that I don´t get it when people don´t have any questions.

One theory is that people don´t want to ask question because they don´t want to appear stupid. We have to get over that. We can´t know everything and besides that asking questions is perfect for finding out.

I also believe that a lot of people are not curious. They are so wrapped up in their own little world and they only care about themselves.

So what can you do about this?

First is to become curious. Be curious about other people and what they do, their experiences and what they know. A lot of people are like treasure chests..... filled with years of wisdom, insight, knowledge and experiences.

Second is to ask. Don´t be shy.....ask questions. And a lot of them. People usually love to tell you about their lives and share what they know.

Third is to flood your mind. Read books, articles in the paper and online. Listen to seminars live or online. Join a new group.

Fourth is to be flexible. Have a mind that is open to new ideas, new ways of doing things. Try some new and different experiences. Shake things up a little. Get out of your comfort zone.

If you change nothing - Nothing will ever change

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach                 

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

See Problems As Opportunities For Growth

                                                      "Complaining about a problem,
                                           without posing a solution is called whining."
                                                             - Theodore Roosevelt

When you encounter a problem, setback or obstacle in your life.....do you have a tendency to focus on the problem or do you quickly shift your focus onto trying to find a solution to the problem or obstacle?

I run into so many people that have had the same problem for months and sometimes years and they continue to focus on the problem without even trying to find a solution. They are stuck on complaining and discussing their problem day in and day out.

Why do so may people continue to behave this way?

I believe a lot of people like the attention they get when they are complaining and griping. Because complaining is infectious. They will attract like-minded people who also like to complain about similar things. Now ....you have a small group of people that are complaining together. Than after a while as they continue to talk, meet regularly and in between meetings, send text-messages to fuel their misery ...they will eventually attract an even larger group. Then to top it off, some people will even take to social media with their complaining, whining and their problems.....and now you have a large group of people following them.
Yes....a lot of people seek attention and the want followers on FB , Twitter and Instagram....but is this the kind of following you are looking for?
Will this solve any of your problems?

It doesn´t matter if you are complaining about your spouse, your children, your boss, the weather, politics or the economy....you will never find the solution by complaining and venting your frustrations on social media or anywhere.
So my next question is....do you really want to solve the problem? or do you just like to complain?

I have come to realize that change is very difficult. Most of us really hate change. And the change we hate the most is..... trying to change ourselves for the better.
Complaining and focusing on your problems without trying to find a solution is really just a bad habit that you formed years ago.
And as we know any habit can be broken.....but YOU have to be willing to do the work yourself.

And here is where the biggest problem comes in. We don´t mind things "out there" to change. We gladly want our spouse to change, or the boss or the economy. But when it comes to changing ourselves.....most people are not interested.
They want other people to change. They are often not willing to change themselves and they are not interested in trying to look for a solution. Simply they have become so used to complaining all the time that they don´t even notice it anymore.

Maybe if you are having problems with you spouse you might need to start a conversation with him/her to let them know that you are unhappy and see if there is something that you both can work on. If the other person isn´t willing to do the work, then maybe it is time to call it quits because you have outgrown the relationship and you don´t have anything in common any longer. You both have changed. But spending your time talking bad about your spouse will not solve anything. All you do is wasting your valuable time.
You can never make someone else change....but you can change yourself.

A lot of people complain about their job and about their boss. What are you trying to solve with constantly focusing on the problem and discussing it with everyone that is willing to listen? You will not accomplishing anything but feeling bad about your situation. Maybe you have outgrown your current job and you are bored out of your mind? Maybe it is a new job opportunity that you are looking for? but instead of going out of your comfort zone trying to find a new job....you settle for complaining and griping. Think how much time you are wasting on focusing on the problem instead of trying to find a solution.....or maybe a new job?

I truly believe that we all want to grow. We want to learn new things but sometimes we are too scared to act on anything new. So instead we remain stuck where we are and we find some people that also are feeling stuck and unhappy to complain with. Because you would never find a growth oriented, busy and happy person hanging out with a lot of complainers. They simply don´t have the time because they are busy producing, living their lives, growing, learning and expanding.

I also believe that every problem or obstacle that we encounter is an opportunity for growth. I think it has a message within it. It is here to wake us up and to move things and people out of our way that don´t belong in our lives any longer and that are not part of our destiny.

Stop fighting these things. The Universe is trying to move things out of the way that are blocking your happiness and purpose....But you keep hanging on to it. WHY?

How can you go to the next level when you are hanging on to old stuff? Let it go and start moving.
You can not be taken forward by leaving everything the way it is.

But first you have to make a commitment to yourself to stop complaining and start looking around for the solution. It will come to you.....if you are willing to look and if you are willing to change when you discover the solution to your problem, obstacle or setback.

                                             Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, May 22, 2017

Why Going To Sleep With The TV On....Is a Bad Idea

                                                         "Your mind is a garden.
                                                       Your thoughts are the seeds.
                                         You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds."
                                                                    - Ritu Ghatourey

The other day I was scrolling through the feed on FB and I came across a question that someone had posted for anyone to leave a comment on.
The question was.....
Do you allow a TV in the bedroom and do you leave it on while you go to sleep?

Some people answered that they always leave the TV on while they go to sleep. Some said that they set a timer so if they fell asleep the TV would go off by itself. Someone said that they won´t allow a TV in their bedroom.

Today I want to write about why it is a really bad idea to leave your TV on after you fall asleep.

I believe most of you know that we have a conscious and a subconscious mind. They are responsible for totally different things.

The conscious mind is the part of the mind that is thinking, planning, calculating and it is responsible for the reasoning. The conscious mind can accept and reject anything. If you don´t like something or disagree with something..... it will simply reject it.
On the other hand it can accept anything that you like and that aligns with what you feel and believe is true.

Think of the conscious mind as the gate-keeper of the subconscious mind. Before you are going to allow anything to enter the subconscious mind, it has to get passed the gate-keeper.

The subconscious mind has a perfect memory. It will remember anything that you have ever smelled, heard, seen, tasted, touched, thought and felt. All this information has been stored in your subconscious mind. Think of  the subconscious mind like a giant filing-cabinet. Information will always be there for you to refer back to.
When something happens you can just go back to the filing-cabinet and pull the information back out.

The subconscious mind is always awake and responsive. 24 hours per day, seven days a week and 365 days a year. It never sleeps. It accepts without question anything. Good or bad.....it goes to the subconscious to be filed forever. The subconscious accepts a command or instruction without analyzing it and it doesn´t reject it either. It has unlimited power potential and it also has unlimited storage capacity.
The subconscious mind is estimated to be about 30 000 times more powerful than the conscious mind.

Since the subconscious mind will accept anything and everything that we feed it and it has a perfect memory it becomes extremely important that we feed it the right stuff. We must stand guard (be the gate-keeper) at the door of our own mind.
If we allow our minds to be wide open to everything it can be very detrimental to us.

This is the reason why we should not leave the TV or radio on after we have fallen asleep.
Anything that is being said can slip right on by the conscious mind and the sleeping gate-keeper and it will go strait back to the subconscious to be filed. The thing is..... you don´t even know what information and ideas that just slipped by.....do you?
If you had been awake you might have rejected them, but since you are now sleeping and the gate-keeper is also sleeping..... anything and everything will pass through the gate.

You are asleep together with the gate-keeper..... but your subconscious mind is wide awake and ready to take in anything that you are feeding it from a TV or a radio.

Do you know what kind of information and ideas that is being given to you by the TV or radio while you are sleeping?
Remember..... good or bad..... the subconscious mind will accept it as true and it will file it away for later references.

It isn´t smart to turn our minds over to just anyone or anything.
Don´t let anyone just dump a lot of ideas and information into your mind, because you are the one that gets to live with the consequences of it.

Guard your mind. Be the gate-keeper.
And when you are tired and sleeping..... make sure that it is quiet around you

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, May 1, 2017

Time To Re-Charge My Batteries

It is time to take a break for a few week to re-charge my batteries.
During my break I will not be writing any new blogs and I will be spending limited time on social media.
I will return again on May 22nd.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, April 28, 2017

What Is Self-Esteem? What is Self-Confidence?

                                          "Low self-esteem is like driving through life
                                                      with you hand-break on."
                                                           - Maxwell Maltz

We hear the word self-esteem a lot and also the word self-confidence.....but do you know that they actually mean and what the difference is between the two?

Self-esteem is how we generally feel about ourselves. How much we like or love ourselves. It is also the overall image that we have about ourselves. Positive or negative it doesn´t matter.
Our self-esteem is shaped my our parents, siblings, teachers, friends, our experiences and also our environment that we grew up in and also our community.
Self-esteem is to truly feel comfortable in you own skin and if everyone doesn´t like you, it is OK with you.

A couple of tips!

Get to know yourself. Understand what you like and what you don´t like and why.
Set goals and achieve what you want.
Don´t be afraid to ask for help.
Stand up for your beliefs and your values.
Take responsibility for your own actions.
Take good care of yourself.

How would your life improve if your self-esteem improved?

                                "When you have self-confidence, you have a lot of fun.
                                  And when you have fun you can do amazing things."
                                                             - Joe Namath

Self-confidence is how we show up in the world. How we feel about our abilities and also how capable we see ourselves of doing certain things.
It is also how we feel that we can handle different situations.

A great tip!

One of the best ways to gain confidence is to do something you are afraid to do.
Get a record of successful experience behind you. Start stacking one success on top of the other.

It is not who you are that will hold you back. It is who you think you are not.

If you don´t see how great you are, how can you expect anyone else to see it?

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Your Destiny Is Not Determined By Your Critics

                                         "There is only one way to avoid criticism:
                                                              do nothing
                                                              say nothing
                                                          and be nothing."
                                                             - Aristotle

Everyone will encounter criticism sometime in their lives. Sometimes we will be criticized fairly but most often unfairly. Certainly constructive criticism can be helpful.

Unwanted criticism is most often based on jealousy and we must always remember that such criticism is more a reflection of the critic than of the person being criticized.
Instead of being happy for you some people will criticize you because you have something that they want. What they don´t realize is that they can also have what you have got.
A lot of times criticism comes from a competitive spirit. Some people try to cover up their own insecurities by being critical or cynical towards others.
Unfortunately not everybody will celebrate your victories with you and the more successful you become, the more criticism you will encounter.

Here are a couple of tips on how to handle criticism.

Never take it personally.
It is never about you. If the critic is not tearing you apart they will try to tear someone else apart. That is just simply what they do. There is something on the inside of the critic that will make them lash out, and unless they deal with it, it will prevent them from rising higher.
Haters will always hate.

Don´t start thinking that you will get even.
Don´t try to pay them back for spreading untruths about you. Never dwell on what the critics are saying about you and don´t let it upset you and never become revengeful. Never sink down to their level and don´t become defensive and try to prove that you are right and that your critic is wrong. Don´t allow them to stress you out.
Just shake it of and keep on moving forward.

Stay focused on your dream and your goals.
You don´t have time to sit around and talk about all the people that don´t like you. Time is valuable and don´t waste it trying to please everybody. You don´t have time to explain yourself and your dream, and you can´t win over your critics. Not everyone will be excited about your dream and not everybody will understand
Stay focused on your goals and don´t waste your precious energy on others. People will judge you no matter what you are doing.
It is not your job to convince others to change their mind.
Your gift and your purpose is to inspire, motivate, encourage and challenge people.

If you are making a difference in the world you will always have you share of critics.
Just remember that the higher you go, the more visible of a target you will be and the more critics will want to take a shot at you.
Don´t allow some narrow minded people discourage you from taking it all the way to the top.
Don´t change yourself or your dream. Move forward and shake it off.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach