Monday, March 27, 2017

Design Your Own Life

                                            If you don't design your own life plan,
                                  chances are that you'll fall into someone else's plan.
                                         And guess what they have planned for you?
                                                                NOT MUCH!"
                                                                   - Jim Rohn

Do you spend more time planning your vacation than you do your future and your life?
Most people do.

So why don't more people take time to think about how they want their future to look like?
It is a very simple to answer to this. It's because most people get so busy and wrapped up in the current moment that it doesn't seem to matter to them to plan their life and their future.
The problems, the daily drama of people's lives and also the rewards of today and the present moment are so absorbing to a lot of human beings that they never seem to take a break long enough to think about tomorrow and their future.

If we could only develop a little bit of discipline and take a few minutes every day to look a little further down the road. Take a little time on a daily base and sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and ponder on how we would like our future to look like. Really think about what we want. Most people don't even know  what they want. They haven't asked themselves this question for a very long time.

If we could just take a little time every day we would see the impending consequences of our current conduct. And by disciplining ourselves to see the future in advance we would be able to change our thinking, our habits and amend our errors and develop new habits to replace the old.

Never get so busy trying to make a living that you forget to design your own life.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 24, 2017

How To Create A Plan That Will Improve Your Life

                                           "Setting goals is the first step in turning
                                                     the invisible into the visible."
                                                              - Tony Robbins

Anytime you want to you can improve your life.

The starting point of any change and improvement of your life starts with setting a few goals.

Practice "Back from the Future" thinking.
Project forward to the end of the next twelve months and then ask yourself,  "If everything  happened the way I want it to happen, what would my life look like in one year?"

Have the ability to visualize the future in advance and it will assist you in making your plan into a reality.

Here is a goal setting exercise that will help you accomplish your dream.

Step one. Decide exactly what you want in each area of your life. Clarity is the most important single quality of  goals-setting. "You can't hit a target that you can't see." Always be specific. If you want to earn more money.....decide how much and be specific about the time. How long will it take for you to earn this money.

Step two. Always put your goals in writing. Only 3% of Americans or adults have written goals. Most people make huge plans when it comes to their vacation but they forget to plan their own lives. One important key to success is to "think on paper."

Step Three. Set a deadline for when you want to have your goals accomplished. A deadline will let your subconscious mind know that you are serious and it will force you toward your goal and at the same time it moves your goal closer to you.

Step four. Make a list of everything you could possible do to be able to achieve your goal.

Step five. Take the list above and organize it by priority and importance. Decide on what you will do first and what you can do later. Decide on what is most important to you and then start moving towards that goal.

Step six. Take action. Nothing happens until you move. This step is where a lot of people procrastinate. Most people have great ideas.....but they fail on acting on them. Taking action is a must to be able to accomplish your dream.

Step seven. Do something every single day that will move you towards your major goal.

A goal without a plan is just a wish.

                                                 Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

True Change Is Never Easy

                                          "All great changes are preceded by chaos."

Changing is never easy. True transformation never is. But of course it can be done. It doesn't matter where you are struggling in your life right now.....never ever give up on what is important to you.

I have a client, lets call her Amy and her husband Bob. They also have two wonderful children
Amy come to me for help over two year ago. Her husband Bob was having big difficulties with his job and they were having big problems in their family life.

On the surface it looked like they had everything. A perfect life. Nice home in a great neighborhood. Both having great careers and their children were wonderful. Bob had a job as a sales person with a big insurance company. A great job that he liked but it meant long hours at the office and quite a bit of out of town travelling. Amy also worked in the insurance business but only part time.

It all sounds pretty good.....right? But there was a dark side, too.

Bob was struggling with a nagging and hidden insecurity that was messing with his mind on a daily base. He didn't feel like he was good enough for his wife and he was also concerned that he didn't do a good job at his company. He didn't feel good enough at anything. And at times Bob also felt very depressed.

To ease the pain and the negative thoughts, Bob often turned to alcohol. A drink or two almost every evening after work. And then his depression would all of a sudden show up, and to deal with it he turned to a few more drinks.
When Bob was on the road away from the family he would hang out in the hotel bar in the evening to sooth his feelings of loneliness and unworthiness.

As a young kid Bob often witness his own father deal with problems and stressful situation by drinking alcohol every evening after work and sometimes all day on the weekends.

After a couple of years Bob's drinking became a huge problem for his family life and also his job.
Drinking led to overeating and also drugs. And by now his life was spiraling out of control. He could no longer hide his problems at home or at work.

He finally realized that if he continues on his self-destructive path he would end up an alcoholic like his father. He also knew that he would lose his marriage and his relationship with his children. Also he would probably lose his job.

So what did Bob do?

Bob decided to not follow in his fathers footsteps. Instead he decided to clean himself up for the sake of his wife and his beautiful children.

What Bob did took great strength. He checked himself into rehab where he spent two months getting clean and sober. And he has been that way for over a year now.
Today Bob is a lot happier. His marriage is strong. He is more open with his wife, friends and co-workers and he is having the energy to keep up with his children.

But not a lot of people turn their life around. Most take the easier but darker path. Going deeper and deeper into the depth of despair when life is getting tough and they are being tested.

Bob's father took the wrong and darker road, instead of changing. His dad chose the easy way, more drinking and less responsibility. It left huge scars on Bob and he didn't want to inflict such wounds on his own children. Bob wanted to stick around for his wonderful wife and to see their young children become adults.

Fortunately when Bob was faced with the toughest decision of his life..... he decided to fight.
He chose a new direction and he wanted to change because of his family. Bob was embarrassed by his behavior and he felt too ashamed to reach out for help. But he finally did.
He finally admitted that there was a problem. He took responsibility and he knew that he had to make some changes.

So what did Bob to right?
First he admitted he had a problem and he asked for help. Then he held himself accountable for his own recovery and to health professionals. His found an incentive - his family. He made plans of how he wanted his life to look like. He made plans for his future with his family and his job. Finally he set a deadline for changing and checking into rehab.
Today Bob is always willing to ask for help when things get tough.

Don't be afraid of change. It is leading to a new beginning.

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 20, 2017

Listen To Your Body

                                                  Embrace and love your body,
                                  it is the most amazing thing you will ever own.

Our bodies will constantly keep on sending us messages.  Listening to your body is to recognize that it speaks to you.

By listening to your body you can figure out what is working well in your life and what is not.

Are you are having feelings of heaviness, tightness and achiness?

These feelings are associated with things that are lowering your vibration and they are telling you that something isn't working in your life.

But when your body is feeling light, quick and flexible, you are doing something that is heightening your vibration. You are doing something that is working.

Where in your life are you feeling heaviness right now?

Is there maybe at a job that you are not feeling fulfilled?

Or maybe in a relationship that you have outgrown and is now making you feel empty?

Maybe some kind of change is needed to get the energy back in your life?

Time to start listening to your body. It will keep on sending you messages until you start to pay attention.

Be attentive to all messages you receive from your physical, emotional and mental body.

A healthy outside starts from the inside.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach


Friday, March 17, 2017

Turn Your Wounds Into Wisdom

                                               "Turn your wounds into wisdom"
                                                             - Oprah Winfrey

If you are going through a painful situation right now or have in the past. Try to find the higher purpose for your pain and your suffering.

When we go through a crisis, a difficult time or a painful situation, there is always a breakthrough on the other side.

All you have to do is to get to the other side and the willingness to look at the situation.

What is this difficulty or crisis here to tell me?

A new level is waiting for you on the other side of the crisis or the breakdown.

Remember that you can't do anything about your past. You can't change it no matter how hard you try. It's done and over with. You can only learn from it.

But you can do something about your future.

To dramatically improve your odds of making your future better you have to take responsibility for designing your own future.

Start by leaving your old story behind and create a brand new and more empowering one.

Set your own sail and navigate yourself out of the storm and into calmer water.

                                          "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.
                                              It is about learning to dance in the rain."
                                                                  - Vivian Green


Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Learn To Master Your Mind

                                                 "He who control his own thoughts,
                                                            controls his destiny."
                                                                     - Ross Arntson

Our own mind constantly plays games with us.
Our brain is 2 million years old and it is not designed to make us happy. It is designed to make us survive. It is always looking for what is wrong so it can fight or flight.
Since we have no bears to run from like we used to have, our brain is now thinking and worrying about  "What are people going to think of me?" or "I wonder if my picture looks good enough on social media?" or "Am I good enough?" and "Do I have enough money?"
We have a constant chatter going on in our minds.

A lot of times what makes us suffer is our own thoughts.
We can have thoughts that will make us feel like crap. Thoughts like anger, frustration, worry, overwhelm, lonely or stressed. These thoughts will make us suffer.
Or we can have thoughts that will make us feel good. Thoughts like gratitude, happiness, joy, love, support or creativity.

Most people will never learn how to master their mind, or their "Inner World." So instead their minds go crazy and it is racing all over the place.....all the time.
We believe our thoughts. "If this doesn't happen, I will be so stressed and forever unhappy."
Most of these thoughts are just a lot of nonsense.

First rule.....don't believe everything that you think. The mind is looking for what is wrong.
Rule number two.....change your thoughts of frustration, anger, resentment, guilt and unhappiness to thoughts of love, joy, gratitude and happiness.

Where focus flows. Stop suffering today by changing your thoughts.

Train your mind to be in a beautiful state most of the time. When you feel a negative thought coming, just allow it to show up, but only give it a limited time to stick around and then send it off.
For example say....."Thank you for your concern but I don't need your help right now. I got this!"

Remember our mind likes to play games with us. To fall into this trap.

When you are in a beautiful state..... you feel better and you treat others better. It is also a lot easier to solve problems when you are in a great state. Life is way to short to suffer.

To have beauty in your life you must decide to be happy no matter what is going on or happens in your life. A lot of times we can't control the "Outer World" but we can control how we react, what we think and what we do.....our "Inner World."

Become emotionally fit. Become stronger mentally and emotionally. Learn new things. Drive yourself and take action. As long as you will allow your stress and thoughts to dominate will be hard to change. Make yourself be in a wonderful state.

Control your thoughts and what you focus on.
Take control of your life. Don't let life just happen to you.
Stop negotiating with your mind.
Design your life the way you want it.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 13, 2017

The Fear of Feeling Incompetent

                                               "Making a big change is pretty scary.
                                                   But, know what's even scarier?

Most of us have a natural resistance to change.

A lot of people like everything to remain the same. Only then will they feel comfortable. But it is when we are the most uncomfortable that we learn the most.

The need for security will keep us stuck in our comfort zones.  And eventually it will suck the life out of our souls.

We are so worried about changing our lives, so afraid of  the unknown..... that we will often miss out on opportunities to better our lives.

But is it really the fear and resistance to change that is the reason?

If we dig a little deeper we might discover that resistance to change is just the symptom and the deeper reason is that most people have a natural resistance to feeling incompetent.

We don't want to look and feel incompetent..... and change has the potential to activate that feeling within us.

In other words..... we feel uncomfortable trying something new.....because if we don't know how to do will make us feel humiliated and incompetent.

But how can we ever learn anything new..... if we don't allow ourselves to get out of our comfort zone and deal with feeling a little uncomfortable for a while until we learn?
We are all beginners at some point, but we are all capable of learning new things.

Growing and expanding makes our soul feel alive.

Discomfort doesn't lead to breakdowns. It will lead to breakthroughs.

                                                        "Growth is painful.
                                                         Change is painful.
                                But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere
                                                          you don't belong.
                                                             - Mandy Hale

Today.....try something new. Trying something new will often lead to something better.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 10, 2017

Small Steps Can Lead To Big Changes

             "You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.
                              The secret of your success is found in your daily routine."

The reason people fail to change their lives and fail to install new habits is that they try to do too much at once. They bite off more than they can chew.

In other words.....if you new habit requires more willpower than you can muster up, you will fail. If you new habit requires less willpower than you can muster, you will succeed.

Is there anything more important than your habits? Not really. Habits form about 45% of our total behavior and these are behaviors that we repeat frequently. Habits are your foundation and if this foundation is weak, you probably won't be happy with your life.

How can we change this?
By installing some smaller habits or mini-habits.
Shrink everything down to bite-size portions. If you make the new habits smaller, you will immediately get the feeling that you can handle it and then the great thing will take action because you feel capable of doing it.
Remove the pressure and the expectations.

Once you start, you will find that good things will happen.

Do 5 push-ups
Meditate for one minute
Walk outside for 10 minutes
Read for 5 minutes
Drink one glass of water
Write 25-30 words in your journal
Do yoga for 5 minutes
Eat one fruit every day

Small steps can lead to big changes!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Great Book - The Untethered Soul, by Michael A.Singer

                            "Ninety-nine percent of your thoughts are a complete waste of time.
                                                They do nothing but freak you out."
                                                               - Michael Singer

     What would it be like to be free from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to find this kind if inner peace and freedom? The untethered Soul offers a simple, profound intuitive answer to these questions. Whether this is your first exploration of inner peace or you're devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you.

     Wise beings do not want to remain a slave to the fear of pain. They permit the world to be what it is instead of being afraid of it. They whole-heartedly participate in life, but not for the purpose of using life to avoid themselves. If life does something that causes a disturbance inside of you, instead of pulling away, let it pass through you like the wind. After all, things happen every day that cause inner disturbance. At any moment you can feel frustrated, anger, fear, jealousy, insecurity, or embarrassment. If you want to be free, you have to learn to stop fighting these human feelings.  
     When you feel pain, simply view it as energy. Just start seeing these inner experiences as energy passing though your heart and before your consciousness. Then relax. Do the opposite of contracting and closing. Relax and release. Relax your heart until you are actually face-to-face with the exact place where it hurts. Stay open and receptive so you can be present right where the tension is. You must be willing to be present right at the place of the tightness and pain, and then relax and go even deeper. This is very deep growth and transformation. But you will not want to do this. You will feel tremendous resistance to doing this, and that's what makes it so powerful. As you relax and feel resistance, the heart will want to pull away, to close, to protect, and to defend itself. Keep relaxing. Relax your shoulders and relax your heart. Let go and give room for the pain to pass through you. It's just energy. Just see it as energy and let it go.

From the book..... The Untethered Soul - the journey beyond yourself, by Michael A. Singer

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 6, 2017

Don't Allow The Fear Of Criticism To Stop You From Pursuing Your Dream

"It is not the critic who counts: nor the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without errors or shortcomings, but who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt, speaking at the Sorbonne in Paris April 23, 1910

                                            "Whatever you do, good or bad,
                            people will always have something negative to say.

Everyone of us have at some time or another been criticized for something. Sometimes fairly but most of the time, unfairly. Sadly most criticism is not intended to build someone up. Instead it is given with an intentional sting.

Constructive criticism on the other hand is a positive thing. It will allow us to grow and to evolve.

We have to remember that criticism is more a reflection of the critic than the person being criticized.
A lot of us feel so scared of ever being criticized that we won't try anything new. And sometimes it will even prevent us from accomplishing our dreams.

We are afraid to be criticized if we quit a job that doesn't fulfill us and try a new job opportunity. We don't want to leave a relationship that we stayed in way to long and that doesn't make us grow for the fear of being criticized by others. We don't dare to start our own business adventure for we feel that other people will be will criticizing us. An the list goes on.....

We want everyone to like us and to agree with us and when they don't..... and if they criticize us and what we are doing or trying to do.....we get scared and pull back. Never live your life trying to please other people. It will be exhausting and it will make you unhappy. Not everyone is going to like and accept you and what you are doing.

The more successful a person becomes the more criticism they will encounter. Unwanted criticism is most often based on jealousy and it is stems from a competitive spirit.
You have something that somebody else wants. Instead of being happy for you and what you have accomplished, jealousy rises up in the critical person. They try to cover up their own insecurities, shortcomings by being critical towards you or other people. What they don't understand is that they too can have what you got.

Some people will find fault, no matter what. Until they deal with their own issues, they will never be happy.

Don't allow anyone to steal your dream by being critical towards you.

                                             Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 3, 2017

It Is Up To You To Change Your Life

                         "The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions,
                                                  the more credibility you will have."
                                                             - Brian Koslow

No matter how tough a position you feel you might be in right now, there is no one you can count on to change your life for you.

If you are in debt, struggling with your relationships, you business, your health or your finances, no one is going to come along and fix it for you. It is entirely up to you to make the changes that are needed to improve your situation.

No one else can do the work for you. No one will show up at your house to make sure that you eat healthy and go for a daily run or walk. No one can stop you from spending hours and hours in front of the TV. No one can prevent you from spending money that you don´t have. If you have gotten yourself into trouble you are also the only person who can get yourself out of it.

Wherever you are in life, there is only one person who got you into this mess and there is only one person that can get you out.....and that is YOU. You are the only person that can set yourself free by taking personal responsibility for your life and your actions.

It is time to move forward. Time to give up that "old story" about your bad childhood, lousy parents, lack of education, too old, no money, low metabolism, unsupportive family and friends, bad luck or no resources.

It is up to you and you alone to change your life. No one is going to do it for you. You are responsible for solving your own problems. Don't depend on others to rescue you from your mistakes.

Everything that happened to you, good or bad, is your own responsibility. You have made the choices and now you have to accept the consequences of your actions.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Sunday, February 26, 2017

Women Are Masters At Misusing Their Own Time

                                           "Be selective with who you invest your time,
                                              wasted time is worse than wasted money."

Women are masters at misusing their own time.
A lot of times we allow other people's needs and demands to come before our own. We downplay our own needs and we allow others to freely take advantage of our time. Instead of giving only of our overflow, we generously give away our valuable time, while we minimize and neglect our own needs.

We take care of other people's emergencies and urgencies instead of allowing these people to step up and to become responsible for their own lives. For some strange reason we make it our responsibility to constantly take care of others. Women take too much responsibility for others instead of letting others take care of themselves.

Women take responsibility for everyone and everything. Women are helping their children, grandchildren, taking care of the aging parents, full-time job, a partner, friends and a household filled with daily chores.

"I don't have time" is something that we hear women say a lot..... in todays society.
Some women feel deep down inside that they are not good enough and because of that they will easily be affected by others. They get pulled into doing things that they actually don't want to do.  But often they feel like they should do it, to make everyone happy. They feel like other people happiness comes before theirs. Women easily get manipulated into doing things for others that they actually need to do for themselves.

So how do we change this?
First we must learn to respect ourselves. Then we  must learn to say "NO."
You don't have to prove to anyone that you are good enough by taking cake of everyone and everything. If we lack self-esteem and self-worth, we have a tendency to want to please everyone around us. We want to be kind and to do everything that other people want us to do in order to feel good about ourselves. We want to feel needed.
This will eventually lead to high levels of stress or burnout.

As women we must STOP misusing our time. Learn to say "NO" more often. Allow others to take care of their own problems. Allow others to take responsibility for their lives.
I am sure that they can handle it without your help....if you let them.

- Make sure that you allow more time for sleep. If you are having problems with sleeping it will tear down you body quickly. So make sure that you are getting 7-9 hours of sleep.

- Start a new hobby. Something that you would like to do for yourself.

- Learn to rest, especially learn to rest your mind. Meditation is great way to learn to control your mind.

- Eat right and exercise. You must fuel your body with the right energy. A candy bar, a soft drink or some coffee is always tempting when we feel low on fuel. But it will only give you a quick energy boost and then it will leave you feeling even more depleted than before. Give your body good stuff.

-  Make sure you move your body. A brisk 30 minute walk is perfect.

- Get outside and enjoy nature.

- Volunteer, find something meaningful that will stimulate your mind.

- Create some new goals. Maybe start a new business. Something that makes "you feel alive."

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, February 24, 2017

How To Change Your Life - Become Emotionally Fit

                                                        "Having a healthy mind
                                               is just as important as a healthy body."

If you want change your life.....become emotionally fit.
Get stronger mentally and emotionally. Drive yourself.
Master it and your life will be so much easier.

Become emotionally fit and it will be a lot easier to handle your life and your career.
Get emotionally fit my accepting 100 % responsibility of the experience of your life.

Learn  to control your thoughts and your mind instead of your mind controlling you.
Use your mind. Don't let your mind use you.
Anything can happen in life but remember that you are bigger than the moment.

A few tips!

Read at least 30 minutes every day. Not the internet but books. Read something that will inspire you and motivate you. Something that will teach you a new skill or a new strategy. Something that will open you to a new way of thinking. Something that will transform you.
Leaders are readers.

Exercise every day. Move your body for at least 30 minutes a day and it will change how you feel emotionally.
Challenge your body and make it grow. Try a new sport.  Go for a quick run. Lift weights.

Find a role-model. Figure out what they are doing and then do the same. Find someone that have gotten the results that you are after and then model them.

Find someone that is hurting worse than you are and help them. We all have problems and there is always going to be someone in worse shape than you.
And when you help them it will put things in perspective.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Great Things Come Out Of Patience

                                                  "Patience  is not the ability to wait,
                                  but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting."
                                                                   - Joyce Meyer

Todays topic......PATIENCE!

Something that most of us could use a little more of. If you are blessed with a lot of patience, you are truly BLESSED.

In todays society where everything is available 24/7, we have become so used to NOT having to wait for anything. We want it now. If the truth comes out, we probably wanted it yesterday.

- Things we order online to be shipped the same day, so we can get it tomorrow.

- The weight that took us 10 years to put on, we want it all gone in 3 month or less.

- Building a business. If we don't see any results within 6 months, we give up and try something new or tell ourselves..... it didn't work.

- We want our money to grow so we invest it in risky adventures and sometimes gambling. We don't want to wait. We want our money to grow quickly so we can spend it.

- We want to get in shape and have the perfect body in 1-3 months, after sitting on the couch every night for 5 years.

- We want our relationships to be like the movies from "Hollywood". Easy, fast and without complications.

- We want our children to be perfect angels.

- comment needed!

And the list goes on.

Can you relate?

While there is always room for improvement when it comes to having more patience with other people. More patience with you partner, children, parents, your boss, friends and people in stores and restaurant..... serving us. We also could use some more patience with ourselves.

I know that I lose my patience with my computer when it isn't fast enough or isn't working. I also have a dog that is sometimes is a little bit nervous and can bring my impatience to the surface. But the good thing is that she as actually taught me to slow down and she has helped me with to develop a little more patience.

Patience is not created overnight. First you have to become aware of that you might be running a little low on patience. Then make a conscious decision that you must start to work on your patience-muscle. And yes it is a muscle. It can get bigger with constant practice. Usually we lose our temper and our patience over things and people that we have no control over anyway. All we are then doing is wasting a lot of mental energy.

Becoming a master of anything worth doing requires wisdom of patience. Everything worth while will take time. It is a creative process. Take the first step..... and then the next..... and the next.

Where in your life might more patience be needed?

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, February 20, 2017

Bounce Don't Break

                    I had a book signing party for my first book.....

                                 Bounce Don't Break
                     How to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down

What if all the bad things that have happened in my life are leading me to activate some great potential in me?

Breakthroughs of all kinds usually are proceeded by a crisis or a divine storm. The greater the crisis the greater the opportunity for growth and advancements. Out of all confusion comes order. A higher degree of order than existed prior to the confusion. What I have come to find out, is that moments like this are powerful opportunities for growth. It is a wake-up call that the path that you are on is not the right path for you.
You have taken a detour. The crisis is trying to get us back onto our own track.

Have you read my book?
If not..... this is how you order it if you are in the US if you are in Europe

Celebrate Yourself and Nurture Your Friendships

                                          "The more you praise and celebrate your life
                                             the more there is in life to celebrate."
                                                           - Oprah Winfrey

I turned 55 a couple of days ago and today I want to tell you about my my wonderful birthday celebration.
I also want to thank my friends for giving me some wonderful memories that I will cherish for the rest of my life.

Around 20 women came together to celebrate my big day. Since I am spending time in Sweden right now the celebration took place here and with all Swedish friends. It is really great because even though I have been living in the US for almost 30 years I still have some fantastic friends here in Sweden. I have also met some new friend since I have been back.
At this party there were friends that I have known for 30 plus years, some 20 plus years and some that I have gotten to know lately. The ages of the people varied a lot too.

I know a lot of people that don't want to celebrate their birthdays as they get older. I used to fall in that category for many years, but not any longer. I think we should celebrate that we have made it this far..... because a lot of people didn't. Some people's lives were taken way too soon.
We must also celebrate all that we have gone through. All the ups and also the downs. The ups are easy to celebrate but the downs are usually a little more difficult. But we usually learn a lot more through our difficulties in life than our easy and smooth times.

Yes, if you have lived to be 55 you have probably gone through a lot of stuff in your life. We have gotten dented and banged up a little but just imagine all the experiences that we have accumulated in the process. How smart and educated we actually are. Our experiences are valuable and should be shared with others.
Celebrate your body instead of always complaining and finding faults with it. It is the only body that you have got to live in. Take good care of it.

Get out of your comfort zone. Meet some new people that you don't already know. A lot of times we stay where it is comfortable. We feel uncomfortable when we don't know anybody and decide that we don't want to attend a party where there will be a lot of people that we have never met before.
But that is how you meet new people and that is how you create new friendships. Don't be nervous about striking up a conversation with a person that you have never met. Don't feel that you don't have anything to talk about and that you don't have anything to offer at a party. Stop being so critical about yourself.
A lot of people at my birthday party told me that they loved the mixture of people and that they loved meeting new ones.

Make a big deal out of your birthday. Connect with old and new friends. Make and effort to arrange a party. Invite, share and laugh together.
We are all so "busy" and we neglect our friendships a lot of times. If the truth comes out..... we are not too busy we are just plain lazy. It is not important to make the phone call or getting together in person. Instead we sent a text, a message via Facebook or email.
I understand that if you are in different cities or countries  your only option might be to connect electronically. But how hard is it to pick up the phone?
Spend some quality time with friends. Nurture your friendships. You never know when you might need a friend to talk to.
Be there for your friends and family. Don't ignore to place the phone call or to reach out to a friend.
You are never too busy. Make the effort.

Celebrate Your Birthday, Your Life And Live Well!

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, February 17, 2017

Focus... Focus... Focus

                                              "Our thoughts create our reality,
                             where we put our focus is the direction we tend to go."
                                                       - Peter McWilliams

If you wan to be successful, you have got to develop the discipline of not letting anything take your focus off the important things that will get results.

It doesn't matter if you are trying to lose weight, saving money, getting out of debt, starting a new company or growing your business.


You have to be focused on what is important now, if you don't you won't be successful.

You have to know what is important in the moment and then you have to be relentless in getting it done, and don't get distracted by unimportant stuff.

Being successful is often quite boring. It means doing the same things over and over again.

Establishing repetitive habits that lead to effective performance is the key.

Being consistent is a big key to success. You have to keep at it week after week, month after month even year after year. Slow and steady will win the race.

Always focus on the next step. Even when your goal seems too big and it feels impossible, remember bite-size pieces. Stay in motion and build momentum.

Never stop moving. Persist no matter what. You will find out later that the reward was worth the effort.

It will take time to reach your dream. Focus on what you need to do right now.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

A Great Goal Exercise That Will Only Take 5 Minutes

                                                    Write Your Goals Down
                                                   if they're not written down.
                                                       they're just dreams.
                                                  When you write things down,
                                                   it sets off a chain of events
                                                    that will change your life. 

Write out your goals.
All goals have to be in writing. If you don't have your goals in writing they are not goals, only wishes.
Write down you goals specifically and clearly.

1. Every single morning rewrite your major goals in the first person singular as though they already existed. Doing this will take about 2-5 minutes.
If you goal is to  earn $ 100.000 a year.....write down.....I earn $100.000 a year.
If your goal is to weigh 135 pounds.....write down.....I weigh 135 pounds.
If you goal is to become financially independent.....write down.....I am financially independent.
If your goal is to become a teacher.....write down.....I am a teacher.
If your goal is to live in Colorado.....write down.....I am living in Colorado.

2. Every single evening take 5-10 minutes and review your progress. Take time to sit down and review what you did in the course of the day.

3. Ask yourself....what have I done right today that has moved me toward my goals?

4. What would I do differently if I had to do today over again?

Commit yourself to do this exercise for 30 days. You will be amazed at what you will be able to accomplish.

Every time that you are writing down your goals you are programming your subconscious mind. You will activate the RAS(reticular activation system) and it will attract things, people, circumstances, money or opportunities into your life. These things will harmonize with your dominate thoughts.....Your Goals.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, February 13, 2017

Never Settle For A Life That Isn't Yours

                                   In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take

Are you settling for a life that isn't yours?
Are you living a life that you didn't design yourself?
Do you prefer security to adventure?
Are you afraid to act on you dreams because you don't think you will be able to pull it off?
Do you believe that you don´t have what it takes to be able to do it? That you will probably fail and if you fail you will feel even worse than if you not had acted on your big dreams?
Or are your dreams buried so deep inside that you have almost forgotten about them? And only once in a while do you think about them and wonder..... what would  happened if I would have taken a chance back then?

Time to uncover those dreams. Time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Time to make a plan to try to accomplish some of those dreams and allow them to become a reality.
Make sure that you don't die with the dream still inside of you.
You dream might be travelling the world, living in another country, have the "right" relationship for you,  your dream-job that aligns with who you are deep inside, starting a organization and help people with problems, write a book, paint, start a company, write music or poetry.
Whatever it is for you.....make sure you start be taking some action steps towards your dreams.
Never settle for a life that isn't yours.

The reason that I an writing this blog is because I had this interesting conversation with a good friend of mine a couple of  days ago. I have known him my whole life so I know his background and his life very well. I know that he had to live a life that wasn't his own for a very long time. He had to take care of people and probably had to do work that might not have been in alignment with who he authentically was. He had a lot of big responsibilities when he was quite young because some adults in his life didn't take care of their own responsibilities. He had to grow up very quickly and I don´t think that anyone ever asked what he wanted to do with his life. Now he is a little older and wiser.
He and I can talk about a lot of things openly.
We had a conversation about our dreams as we were younger. I asked him about his. What he was dreaming about as a young man. What would he have done with his life if could have decided for himself?

I could tell right away that this question made him puzzled. He appeared surprised, slightly uncomfortable, and he became very quiet. Then he told me without looking at me..... that of course he had had some dreams as a young man but that he didn't even want to talk about them because they brought up a lot of sadness and anger. He said  that just thinking about his old dreams made him feel so uncomfortable and sad. So we let the conversation go and started talking about something else instead.

But I couldn't stop thinking about it and I am just wondering how many people out there that are not  acting on any of their dreams. They try to forget about them.
As children we have big dreams. But as we get a little older these dreams somehow get buried somewhere in the back of our minds. Eventually life takes over and we completely stop thinking and talking about them.

But where do these dreams go? Do they eventually go away if we bury them so deep down that we don't even think about them very often?

I don't believe that dreams will ever go away. It doesn't matter how deep down that you try to bury them. I think they will be there in the back of our mind and once in a while they will come up to the surface and remind us. Maybe because of something happening in our lives..... they are brought up to the surface again. But instead of acting on these dreams we push them down again. As far as we can because we don´t want to be reminded of them.
But can we ever stop thinking about them? I don't believe so. I think they will always be there as a sad reminder, if we don't act on them.

So why don't people act on their dreams?
I believe that a lot of people are afraid of failure. Somehow they feel like they are not going to be able to accomplish their dream. They are afraid to take risks because of what they might lose. We don't believe that we are capable of doing what this dream will require us to do. Maybe we don't feel like we have enough money, friends that can help, knowledge, experience, not the right information, we are too old/young, don't have enough time, man/woman.....etc.
The risk drives most people crazy. On the other hand.....everything in life is risky.
Living is risky. Getting married is risky, having children is risky, investing money is risky, changing jobs is risky and driving your car is risky.
We are so afraid to take a risk and trying to do something new. But how about the risk of doing nothing? The risk of not trying? Trying to change feels almost impossible.
There are no guarantees in life, no matter what you are doing.
Don't come to the end of your life and ask yourself.....what would have happened if I would have taken that chance?
Don't have regrets at the end of your life.

I have been knocked down many times in my own life and for many years I was living someone else's life. A life that wasn't my own. But my dreams on the inside would never die. They surfaced many times. But I kept on pushed them down for many different reasons. But I don't do that any more. My life and my dreams are important. I don't want to settle for living someone else's life, a life that I didn't have any part in designing.
I want to be the star of my own movie. The movie that I created, edited and directed.

It is about having peace of mind. I want to have peace of mind and that includes being true to myself and making sure that what I am doing is in alignment with who I am and what I want. I want to live up to the very best that I can be as a human being and that also means constantly working on myself.
Yes..... it takes tremendous courage to be who I am and not to go along with the crowd.

In the end I don't think anyone can be happy unless they are completely true to themselves.
I also believe that no success in any area of your life is possible without commitment. If you can't commit wholeheartedly it probably means that it isn't right for you.
Find the work that you can commit yourself to.
Find the relationships that you can commit yourself to.
Find the life that you can commit yourself to living.

Never Settle.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, February 10, 2017

Stop Wasting Valuable Time

                                "I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships,
                                                           forced interactions,
                                                  or unnecessary conversations."

It is time to stop wasting valuable time!

We often do the fun and easy things instead of doing the hard and necessary. One major reason that people fail in life is because they usually do and take the easiest and fastest route to get to the things that they want.

But the easiest and fastest route in life, is most often the route to failure.
Short term gain for long-term pain. We want instant gratification.
We do what is fun and easy today..... instead of what is necessary.
And later in life we are forced to do what is necessary and at that time it will be a lot more difficult.

The willingness to do the difficult task at hand, the willingness to discipline yourself will work miracles in your life.
No person will be successful in life if they cannot discipline themselves. Doing what is hard and difficult today instead of putting it of to a later date or maybe not even doing it at all, is a recipe for living a life of mediocrity.
Do what is necessary today, so that you can enjoy the fruit of your labor at a later date in your life.
It doesn't matter if it is having a successful career in business, a healthy and vital body, financial independence, great relationships in life. It will all require you to discipline yourself.

Start today by doing what is necessary. Be willing to do the uncomfortable.  The things that will take some effort on your part to accomplish.Things that will lead you towards living the life of your dreams, instead of leading you away to a less desirable place.
Stop doing what is fun and easy. It will NOT lead you to living your dream.
Short term pain will lead to long term gain.

Stop wasting valuable time on things, people or conversations that don't matter.

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Share YOUR Message With The World

                                                      "Start today, not tomorrow.
                                    If anything, you should have started yesterday."
                                                             - Emil Molycka

Are you getting closer to reaching your goals? but when you are almost there, for some strange reason you always hold back?
Doing this will not only ruin you..... but it will also ruin other people's lives because they need your information, talents and knowledge. Are you setting up roadblock after roadblock, obstacle after obstacle? Are these obstacles really true obstacles or are they obstacels that you created in your own mind?
It is time for you to stop procrastinating and take action. Massive action.

You probably have big dreams and you have great ideas. You might even have a website with a product that is almost ready? Or maybe you are an author with a book that is almost done? or you have a blog or newsletter in your mind that you want to start writing? Maybe a painting or some music?

Maybe you have great ideas for teaching weight-loss to other people or how to improve their finances. You probably want to write a book about how you solved a particular problem in your own life and now you want to share it with the world.
But while you are procrastinating other people are getting frustrated. Thanks to your lack of action many people don't know how to shed the weight or they can't get their finances back on track. They are waiting on your almost done book or the book that is only "in your mind" right now. They are waiting on your weekly newsletter or daily blog to help them solve their own problem(s).

And what are you doing? You are still deciding on the colors of your website. How many photos to put on it. What to name you new company that you started online. Maybe you are still editing your book and can't decide on the orders of the chapters. Or maybe you haven't even started writing that book, but you are thinking about it. The name of your newsletter or how many times per week you will post a blog.
But what are you doing? you are worrying about how other people will judge you or maybe they will even criticize you? And this is your excuse for not taking action?

Right now as I am writing this blog, I am afraid that you might not like it and that you will think it is rubbish. But I will not let that stop me. Because this blog might help someone else.
It is not up to me to judge my own work. My job is to share it with the world.

These silly little distractions are stopping so many people from achieving their dream and living the life that they truly want to live. And if you don't conquer these obstacles and distractions you will ruin your year and your life.

But the good news it that you can change. You can change today my making a decision to stop procrastinate and take massive action.
Every day that you are not taking action with your website, blog, books, painting or music, you are holding someone back out there in the world that needs what you have got. They are getting more and more frustrated and feel beat down because they need your knowledge and talents to be able to change their lives for the better.

You are thinking that there are already plenty of people doing what you are wanting to do. The world doesn't need another blogger or book. Not true. Yes, there are plenty of people doing things every day but there will never be one person exactly like you. With your background, your experiences and you perspectives.

So don't hold back. Allow you light to shine. People need solutions to their problems and you probably have exactly what they need.

You have great gifts and talents and you can do better. You have knowledge to help others and you are a person that cares about other people and what happens to the world. Share you message without fear. Every action makes an impact.

Time to take action. Time to start helping other people to be able to change their lives for the better.
The world needs YOU.

Eliminate procrastination and move through the obstacles that are standing in your way.
Make 2017 you best year ever by helping others.
Help people by giving them a solution to their problems.

How do we change? One small action at a time. One little step starts the journey.
Make sure that you take the first step. By taking small steps every day you will get better. You will grow and get stronger.
Keep on going.

Write the book, start your website, create you art or music, start the blog.....Start Today!
You can do it!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach