Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Train Yourself To Do It Anyway

             "If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you´re not sure you can do it,
                                           say YES - then learn how to do it later."
                                                         - Richard Branson

Are you facing tough problems and big challenging obstacles right now?

Sometimes these problems can have enough mass to pull us away from getting what we want.

It is like gravity, it keeps pulling us down and further and further away from our dream.

When this force gets bigger and stronger and as the challenges gets tougher and lasts longer,
it is easy to give in to the challenge and to give up on our dream.

Don´t give in!

It doesn´t matter how miserable you feel and how tough it must motivate yourself.
Do whatever has to be done..... no matter how big the obstacle is.

Remember the choice is yours.

You don´t have to feel good to do stuff.....just make yourself do it.

Train yourself to do it anyway.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, August 19, 2016

Are You Wasting Mental Energy Doing This?

                                           "Winning doesn´t always mean being first.
                               Winning means you´re doing better than you´ve done before."

It only takes one or two bad habits to stall your progress.

Complaining, worrying and wishful thinking might be a few of those minor habits that will prevent you from reaching your dream.

These habit might seem minor, but repeated day in and day out they might cancel out the progress you are looking for.
They will waste your mental energy.

You have to cut out negativity from your environment.
And you also have to remove pessimism from your life.

When you do this you will have a healthier focus and perspective on winning.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Why Personal Development is so Important

                                "When we are no longer able to change a situation,
                                         we are challenged to change ourselves."
                                                       - Victor E. Frankl

Do you like to help others?

If this sounds like of the best things you can do is to help you first.

The best contribution you can make to someone is your own personal development.

If you become 10 times wiser or 10 times stronger, think what that will do for your relationships, marriage, friendships or business colleagues.

So the best gift you can give to others, is your own on-going personal development.
Get stronger, better and become wiser.

Self-development enables you to serve others better.

You will become more valuable to those around you.

Personal development will also increase you earning potential.

                               "Income seldom exceeds personal development."
                                                              - Jim Rohn

Always learn new things. Stop focusing on what other people do or don´t do.

Put the focus on you. Study yourself. Learn about yourself. Start developing yourself.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, August 15, 2016

Have You Conformed to The Average Life?

                                              "Great Spirits have always encountered
                                            violent opposition from mediocre minds."
                                                               - Albert Einstein

Some people will stop us from following our dreams.
They tell us that it isn´t possible to accomplish such a big dream.

Some People will talk us out of taking a risk.
They remind us of the other attempts we made and how we failed to accomplish our dream.

Don´t waste your life trying to conform to other people´s expectations.
Some people have conformed to the limits set on them by others.
They are simply living like robots.

They wake up and go to work at a job they hate.
They stay in a relationship that they outgrew many years ago.
They come home and watch TV and surf the Internet for hours before they go to sleep.
Get up the next day and do it all over again.

These are the people that have conformed to the average life. They don´t have any dreams of their own that they are chasing.
They don´t do something that goes against the status quo and they don´t dare to be different.

Have people talked you out of following your dream?
Have you conformed to what other people want you to be or do?

If you want the good life, you have to create it.
Never settle for a mediocre life.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, August 12, 2016

Life Coaching

Are you living the life you´ve always wanted or are you continuing to settle for something less?

Are you tired of being stuck and ready to take some action right now?

I know it can be difficult to get started and find your own individual path.

Do you need some help to get started?

Chose to do it with a personal coach.

With a personal coach, you´ll work one-on-one over an extended period of time to build an individualized success plan.

Get clear on exactly what you want.

Clarity on where you are currently.

A map to take you from where you are to where you want to be in the future.

Create immediate momentum in your life so you can finally get unstuck.

The fastest way to achieve your most important goals.

Overcome self-sabotage and get the confidence you need to create lasting success.

              Get clarity on your goals, establish a definite plan and accelerate your results.
                      You have greatness, talent, purpose within you.....time to start using it.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

How Do You Define Yourself?

                                "We define ourselves far too often by our past failures.
                                        That´s not you. You are this person right now.
                                You´re the person who has learned from these failures.
                             Build confidence and momentum with each good decision
                                                       you make from here on out
                                                       and choose to be inspired."
                                                                - Joe Rogan

Most people will stay consistent with how they define themselves.

We act consistently with who we believe we are.

The way a lot of people live today is set by a set of choices that they made 10, 20, 30 or 40 years ago.

We made decisions in our youth of who we are and also what we are capable of doing and that later will become our own glass ceiling.

We decide that this is who we are and we stop trying to do new things.

We accept that this is the way things are and this is the way it will be.

Great question to ask yourself
When did I decide to accept this limitation?

A lot of times we have adapted to be a certain way maybe because we are afraid of failing or we want other people to like us.

We have become a certain way, but that is not necessarily who we are.

It is hard to be truly happy when you are not being yourself.

Take sometime to discover who you are.
Connect with your true nature.
Set s higher standard for what you want in your life.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Do You Need A Paradigm Shift?

                                         "When someone tells you it can´t be done,
                                  it´s more a reflection of their limitations, not yours."

Paradigms control our lives.

So what are paradigms?

Paradigms are a multitude of habits, other peoples habits that we inherited.
Our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends or teachers.

You can blame who ever you want for being who you are, because you probably didn´t do it!!!

But you must also understand that these people did their best.... and they gave you the best that they had.

They could not give you what they didn´t have.

But if you don´t like are responsible for changing it.

No one can change you..... but YOU.

If you want to cry or complain about what happened in the won´t do you any good.

You have to change.

Can you change your paradigm.......YES you can.

When we know that our paradigm is controlling our lives and when we also know that we can change the paradigm......we have HOPE.

If we have hope we also have options.

A lot of times we have been programmed to live the way we are living.
We don´t know how to change it....and we feel stuck.

Having hope means that you have options and our job is to become aware of our options.

How do we do this?

Learn about yourself. Expand your level of awareness.

You must become aware of yourself, what you do on a daily base and also of what you are capable of doing.

Be honest of where you are right now. Tell the truth.

Change your habits.

Your results are a reflections of your awareness at this particular moment.

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, August 5, 2016

How to Create a Breakthrough

                                       "The first step towards getting somewhere
                           is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are."
                                                             - Unknown

Focus on what you want - not what you fear.

What you fear and focus on you will get more of.
You must focus on the direction that you want to go.

You will never get what you want if you continue to focus on what you don´t want.

Be honest. See things how they really are. Don´t lie.
See it as it is. Not worse than it is, like most people do.

See it better than it is. What is your vision or outcome?
If you have a compelling future, you can get there.

Create a blueprint or a plan to meet your vision.
Make it simple and don´t forget to take action.

Make sure that you are spending your time, emotions and your focus on things you can control, not things you cannot control.

Do things that you absolutely control.
You control what you focus on and what you feel inside.

You get to determine what you feel inside, no matter what someone says or does in your life.

There is nothing in your life that you are going to feel that you are not creating, and that you can´t change in a heartbeat. If you want to.

Do not stress out about things you can´t control or change.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, August 3, 2016

Love Yourself - Give Yourself More Time - Enjoy the Journey

           "There is no telling how many miles you will have to run while chasing a dream."
                                                              - Unknown

               "Never give up on a dream just because the time it will take to accomplish it.
                                                     The time will pass anyway."
                                                         - Earn Nightingale

When we are trying to create something new or trying to reach a particular goal we often feel frustrated by the amount of time it will take.

Most often we want the reward without having to do any or very little of the work involved.

That is never going to work. It will take hard work to be able to accomplish anything and to be able to reach our dreams.

A lot of times we get frustrated and we quit halfway through the process or the journey.

Don´t quit. Anything worthwhile will take some time to create.

Instead here are a few tips when you feel frustrated with your slow progress towards your goals and your dreams.

Give yourself a little more time to accomplish your dream.
A lot of people will overestimate what they can do in one year. And then they will underestimate what they can do in a few years.
It will take time.

Be more loving to yourself.
Be kind to yourself. You are doing the best that you can. Stop beating yourself up and stop being a perfectionist.
It will happen for you.

You have a lot to give
Sometimes we will lose faith in ourselves. We have doubts that what we want to do isn´t going to be important and we have doubts and we often fear that we will not be able to pull it off.
You can make a difference.

Take time to develop.
Learn new things. Study. Read books. Take classes. Go to workshops and seminars.
Personal development. Learn about yourself - who you are.

Enjoy some of it on the way.
It is not the destination  - it is the journey.

Love yourself
Give yourself more time
Enjoy the journey

Happy Travels!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, August 1, 2016

Your Environment is Everything

                             You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with.
                                                           Choose carefully.

One great way of doing things that we feel are impossible to do or to accomplish, is to find someone or several people who have already done what we are trying to do.

If you are trying to accomplish a certain goal..... go out and search for the people that has already accomplished this goal.

Identify the people that are already doing the things you want to do.... both in business and in life.

Both the everyday people and also the mentors that will show us the roadmap to make our dreams a reality.

You can find them in person by attending a seminar that they are teaching.
Or you can read books written by people who have already accomplished what you are trying to do.

Also look around at your current the people that you spend the most time with actually supporting you in your journey to accomplish your dream?

Do these people encourage you?

Or are they pulling you down and sometimes even make you doubt yourself and what you are trying to accomplish?

For each person who doesn´t bring you up, you must create a plan to spend less and less time with this person.

Start spending time around  people that you admire. Find videos on-line, read books, attend conferences, find meetup organizations or go to live seminars.

Who do you spend most of your time with?

Do they build you up and inspire you?

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, July 22, 2016

Why a Small Improvement Performed Every Day Will Produce Success

                       Sometimes our work feels small and insignificant, but remember
              a small ripple can gain momentum and build a current that is insurmountable.

Constantly improving different areas in your life such as .....your relationships, your finances, your health and fitness will make you feel happy and fulfilled

A lot of times we will feel frustrated when we don´t grow and learn new things.
When we don´t get challenged in our lives.

Growth comes from improvement. Constant never ending improvement.

We can grow in any area of our life by doing a little more every day. The next day a little more.
It doesn´t have to be huge things. Small thing will be just fine but just make sure you do just a little more each and every day.

Little by little a little becomes a lot.

Raise your standards. What you accept from yourself and also from others.

Make sure that you are consistent.

Build momentum.

Today make a commitment to yourself to never ending improvement.

A commitment of a small improvement every day will produce a massive success.

I know that most people hate repetition. But if you are going to master anything in your life you must be willing to do the boring thing every single day and also find a way to improve on it.
(Compounding effect)

Are you going to raise your standards?

What are you willing to start doing today on a daily base that will improve your life?

How can you improve on it once you get started?

Success doesn´t happen by accident. It will take consistent practice. And since you have committed yourself to certain activities on a daily base, it will help you in reach your goals.

We are only going to feel good about ourselves, long-term if we constantly increase the quality of our lives.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Are You Making Other People Responsible for Your Happiness?

                                                  "I will take care of me for you,
                                              if you will take care of you for me."
                                                              - Jim Rohn

When we judge ourselves, we also have a tendency to judge others as well.

In your relationships....are you judging and being hard on your partner?

When learning to love and value yourself there will be no need to judge yourself and others.

It starts with you.

The more you learn to love yourself and take great care of yourself and your own needs and not abandon yourself....the less you will feel needy, causing you to pull on your partner for the love that you are not giving yourself.

This is why it is so important to learn to love ourselves before we can love someone else.

We can´t give away what we don´t have. If you don´t have love for yourself  you will expect your partner to give it to you. At this point you will probably become needy and expect your partner to provide you with the love that you are not giving yourself.

If you don´t have a partner you might become needy of love and easily attach to someone else to try to get love from them.

We can´t expect others to give us something that we have to learn to give to ourselves.

Most people don´t want the responsibility for making you feel good about yourself.

The more you pull on people for love, the more they will pull away from you.

Learn to love and take care of yourself.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, July 18, 2016

How NOT to Lose Yourself in the Process of Pursuing Your Dream

                                           As I follow my heart I am guided to right path
                                              that leads me to my dreams and desires.
                                     I am entering a new phase of heightened enlightment
                                 and I know that my life is unfolding in miraculous ways.

Are you fixated on your goal but you are missing out on the journey?
If the answer is might have missed out on the most important part of the ride.

A lot of us get so goal oriented that we forget to live and enjoy life while we are pursuing our dream.

How to get to our goal is as important as the goal itself.

Here are a few tips!

Be kind and gentle with yourself
You are probably doing a lot better than you realize. Never beat yourself up if the results are not showing up fast enough. Most of us want things to happen yesterday but that isn´t how things work. Time to work on that patience - muscle.
Sometimes a setback is a setup for something much better. For greater success down the road.
Try to relax and to enjoy the journey.
Give yourself credit for small wins and small successes. They are as important than the big ones.

Combine work with play
We all need some time away from work and our goals. Spend some time in nature, or with friends and family. Start a new hobby.
Most of the times we get the best great ideas when our minds are clear and relaxed. A relaxed mind is filled with creativity and great new ideas.
Make sure you schedule some play time into your busy schedule and when you return to work and your goals you will be more efficient and ready to go.
Play and have fun!

Ask for what you want
If you don´t ask for what you want then you will probably not get it. Asking for what we want is very important. You must always state clearly where you want to go......otherwise how will you ever get there....if you don´t know what you want or where you want to go?
Be precise!

Be flexible
Make sure that you are flexible when it comes to the result of your goal. It might come in the different direction than you are thinking and expecting it to. In other words might come in through a different door than you expected. Always pay attention to the doors behind you!
Allow miracles to happen!

Nurture your soul
Make sure that you feed your soul on a daily base. Do things that will nurture your spirit.
We feed our bodies on a daily base to gain strength but we must also give our souls plenty of soul food to keep us going and to keep us inspired and motivated.
Maybe it is meditation, prayer, journaling, reading or a walk in nature.
Make sure you give yourself plenty of soul food
When your soul is nourished you will have more energy for what is important and you will attract other people and events into your life.
Feed your soul!

I hope these tips will help!
Make sure that you will never give up on your matter how long it will take you to accomplish it.
Little by little a little become a lot.
Have fun and relax on your pursuit of your dream.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, July 15, 2016

Do You Have Enough Reason To Make a Change?

                                                        "People change for two reasons....
                                        Either they learn enough that they want to change.
                                         Or they have been hurt enough that they have to."

Change is mostly about motivation.

You have to be willing to make a commitment to change and then make it happen.

How to change is easy.

We all know how to lose weight. We all know how to start exercising. We all know how to quit smoking, drinking, gambling, texting or shopping to much.

Sometimes what we don´t have is the WHY.

Why we should do something.
Why should we stop or start something?

Why is more important than the how.

Find enough compelling reasons why you must change now.
It will make it a lot easier to make the change.

Make a list TODAY of enough reason why you must change something.
The more reason the better.
It might take a little time to do this and maybe a little soul-searching on your part.

The how will be easy to figure out.

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Are You Having a Hard Time Trusting Others?

                          "Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime.
                                                     It´s what unites us.
                 The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens.
                                             Don´t let them take that from you."
                                                      - Sherrilyn Kenyon

Are you having a hard time trusting other people?

I know a lot of us have been betrayed and disappointed by people in our lives.
And it is especially hurtful if the person is very close to us.

Only through trusting yourself will you be able to trust someone else.

Life is about taking a step back, examine the situation, breath and then tell yourself...
If this doesn´t work out, I will be OK.
I will be able to figure it out and no matter what happens, I will be fine.

Life is also about being selective while choosing people that are the closest to you.
Your inner circle.
And also the people that you do business with.

Make sure you are choosing people who are good for you..... and then you must trust your own judgment.
Learn to listen to you intuitive voice.

Don´t turn away from what is painful.
Examine it!
Challenge it!
Try to understand what it is here to teach you.

Don´t let other people sway you in your defining moments.
Sticking to your character requires a lot of courage.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, July 11, 2016

Is Your Life at a Standstill?

                                                        "I am not afraid of storms
                                                 for I have learned to sail my ship."
                                                          - Louise May Alcott

Life is like a ship, in a lot of ways.

A ship is not built to stay in the harbor (safety).

It is built to sail and it is also built to handle the storms (adventure).

A ship is equipped for adventure and not to stay still too long.

And so are we.

We are not suppose to stay in the same place our whole entire life.
We are suppose to learn new things and to grow as individuals.
And we are also equipped to handle the storms in our lives.

There are always going to be storms in our lives.
Some storms will be smaller and some will be like giant hurricane and sometimes like tornados.
But we can handle all the storms.
They won´t break us and they won´t kill us.

If you are feeling like you are at a standstill in life...... maybe it is time to look to see if you have spent too much time lately in the safety of the harbor?

Maybe you haven´t sailed your ship in a very long time?

Time to change that. Time to start sailing again.
Get out from the safety in the harbor. Get rid of the anchor that prevents you from sailing and taking action in your own life. Toss the ropes and get going.
Set your own sail and get out there and get some adventure in life.

Remember we only live once.

Decide that today it is time to set a brand new sail.
Just make sure it is your own sail that you are setting.
The one that will take you in the direction that you want to go or sail in life.

You decide where you want to go by setting the right sail for you.

Happy Sailing Everyone!!!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, July 8, 2016

Are You Living Someone Else´s Life?

                                                       "Your time is limited,
                                      so don´t waste it living someone else´s life."
                                                              - Steve Jobs

Unfortunately too often we will talk ourselves out of what we really want.

Why do we do this?

A lot of times it can be old beliefs and old feelings associated with our dream.
They will pop up in our mind and mess with us and with our self-esteem.
Things like past failures and doubts that we will ever be able to accomplish what we really want.

Can you remember how many times in your life that you have abandoned something that was important to you because of feelings like......

It is way too hard
There is not enough support
Not enough time or money to make my dream happen
People won´t like me if I pursue my dream
I am afraid to be too visible and to show the world who I am
I am too old...or too young
I don´t know the right people
I can´t learn the skills I need to have to pursue my dream

How many excuses have you heard yourself use in your lifetime?
How many times have you abandon your new ideas?
How many dreams have fallen by the wayside?

Now this is not about judging yourself and your past.
This is about starting fresh, no matter what has gone on before.
It is about trying something new.
It is about letting go of your old beliefs and not to allow them to interfere or stop you.

The first thing you need to do is.......
To visualize your desired outcome.
What do you really...really ..really want?
Can you actually see what it is that you want for yourself and your life?

To be able to do this process you most likely need to spend some time alone.
Listen to your inner voice or dialogue.
Not the one that tells you to get busy and the one that keeps pushing you to look "out there".

Have some alone time and focus on your dream.
Spending time alone will start the process of discovering or re-discovering your dream.

Make sure you carve out some quit-time for yourself every day. Even if it´s only 5 minutes.
Increase little by little.

You don´t need to fill your life and your precious time with people or activities that undermine or sabotage your dream.

Just remind yourself that you deserve to live your dream.
You deserve to feel whole and empowered.
You are enough.

                                              Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

How to Stay Motivated When You Want to Quit

                                                     "If you are tired of starting over,
                                                                   stop giving up."

Sometimes our goals seem out of reach.
We lose our momentum and our motivation especially if we have been working on a project for a long time.
Maybe we have also become frustrated with our sometimes "slow progress" and we feel like we have nothing to show for our hard work. The project is at a standstill and we want to throw in the towel and quit.

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

I know that I have felt like this many times. But I also know that quitting is never going to be an option for me. I have had to regroup several times. Try some new strategies and ways of going about what I am doing.
But never quitting. Never losing sight of my ultimate vision.

Here are a couple of tips for you if you feel like your life and your project is at standstill right now.
How do we stay motivated when we just want to give up and quit the whole project.

Don´t lose sight of the big picture. Why did you start it in the first place? What is all about?
Stop focusing on the daily grind and put your focus back on why you want to do this......the reason you started it. Keep your goal in sight. Always write it down so that you can look at every time you feel unmotivated and want to quit.

Ask for help from a mentor or a coach. Someone that has been down the path that you are trying to walk. They can tell you about the pitfalls....what to look out for and how they stayed motivated on their journey toward their own goal. How they got through the uninspired days....because we all have those days.
We must always prepare for those day. They will always come.

Get inspired by reading some books. Or listen to webinars, seminars.
Attend a live seminar. It´s a great way to get your inspiration back. But if you can´t do that...
there are plenty of great videos on YouTube.

Learn to relax. Maybe start a new hobby.
I always spend time out in nature with my two dogs. It is always a great way to relax and to recharge my batteries. Learning something new can always be exciting. Take up paining, or join a choir, learn a new language or maybe some Salsa lessons to get your mind of the project for a while.

Volunteer is a great way to get your focus off yourself. Helping someone else is a great way to relax and it makes us realize how fortunate most of us are.

Surround yourself with positive and like-minded people.
They can help lift you up.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, July 4, 2016

Face Your Fear Today!

                       "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience
                                    in which you really stop and look fear in the face.
                               You must do the thing which you think you cannot do."
                                                    - Eleanor Roosevelt

Do you know what the #1 fear is?
According to most studies it is the fear of public speaking.

The #2 fear is death.
So I guess the ultimate fear would be doing the eulogy at a funeral.

So is public speaking actually about the fear of speaking?
Most of us talk to friends, family-members and co-workers all day long.
We can talk to our trusted friend and tell them anything and everything.

So why do we feel such fear when we have to speak to five or more strangers?
The fear is about being judged. Either for what we say, how we say it or how we look.
We doubt ourselves, out ability and we are scared of the response from people.

A lot of problems could be solves by believing in ourselves and care less about what people think about us.

Look at the most successful people....they have put themselves out there and they have endured criticism. Some more that others.

You can not follow your dream and put yourself out there and not expect to get criticized.

Isn´t it about time you start to believe in yourself and less in what other people think.

That´s why you need to enter a space each and every day where fear and doubt can´t touch you.

How do you do that?

Simply by taking action.

Do something that scares you. Do the things that you are fearful of.

Don´t wait. You will never get over your fear by not facing your fears or by waiting for the right moment. It will never happen.

You must take action.

Do it today.

Deal with your fear and after you have faced your fear you will discover that it wasn´t that scary after all.

You can do it!!!

I believe in YOU!

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, June 24, 2016

Are You a Workaholic?

                                                       "I turned into a workaholic
                                   to the point of where my health was in jeopardy."
                                                             - Tab Hunter

Are you addicted to work....are you a workaholic?

Addiction can either be to a substance or a behavior.

Addiction is any behavior you create that gives you some relief or pleasure and has negative consequences that you don´t give up despite the negative consequences in your life.

Are you addicted to work?

In this country people love to talk about all the work they "busy" they are all the time.
How needed and how important they are at work.

I understand that we do have to work a lot but how much work is too much and when does it turn into an addiction?

You are addicted to work if you are ignoring your family, your marriage, your children, friendships and your own needs in order to get the satisfaction of being wanted by the people...... as a doctor, teacher, lawyer, realtor.... etc. " I am so important."

It is an addiction if it affects you family life, friendships, spiritual and physical health.

We can also use an addiction to justify another addiction.

Since I work so hard and long hours I deserve a couple of drinks when I get home.
Or I will stop at "Happy Hour" to relax before I go home.

Or since I make good money I can go on a shopping spree and spend several thousand dollars on shoes, clothes or electronics. Buy a bigger house or a bigger car.

I am working all the time so I can go out to eat dinner every evening. And lunch too.

Since I work so many hours I can relax in front of the TV or surfing the Internet for hours every evening when I get home from work.

You are now using one addiction to justify the other addictions.
The addictive brain is very clever.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Are You Using Addiction as a Surrogate For Your True Calling in Life?

                             "The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings
                                                     of the human soul."
                                                   - Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Addiction is something we do in the moment. Joy or pleasure. It is temporary an escape. It will never lead to lasting happiness. The pleasure is only for the moment.

Addiction is any behavior that you create that give you some relief or pleasure and also has negative consequences. But you don´t give it up despite the negative consequences in your life.

Addiction can be a substance like cigarettes, drugs or alcohol.
Or it can be a behavior like shopping, gambling, watching TV, web surfing, sex or facebooking.

You can go after anything addicting even healthy things like exercising, yoga or spirituality.
These healthy behaviors only become addictive if they are an escape from yourself and doing them while ignoring other important needs, your family or other relationships.
Then they will become an addiction.

You are going after a particular experience. A special outcome - a feeling  - expectation.

Addiction can also be a surrogate for our true calling in life.
We are truly afraid to go after what we really want in life.

Because to follow our true calling requires us to step into the light. To take chances. Risk the chance of failure. Being judged by others. Not feeling good enough.

To follow our true calling requires a lot of work. It´s not easy and it will probably hurt. It demands us to step out of our comfort zone and we will risk exposure.

So instead we choose a career that isn´t our own choice. It is what our parents wanted us to do.

We stay on a job that we dislike, that doesn't lead us to anything and it won´t make us grow - because it will give us security.

We stay in soul-sucking relationships - instead of leaving the relationship for something different that will truly feed our soul.

We know we want adventure in life - but instead we settle for a quiet lifestyle that will slowly make our soul wither away.

Maybe you are living in the past or dreaming about the future, while failing to do the work that is required to progress in the present.

Now instead of doing what you know you "must" do. You escape from yourself and your life for a while with some type of addiction. At least while using some substance or doing a certain behavior - for the moment you won´t feel the pain.
But it´s temporary.
The feeling won´t last.

What is addiction doing for you?

Why are you self-soothing?

Why don't you want to be yourself at this moment?

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, June 20, 2016

Are You Trying to Solve a Problem With Addiction?

                      "Addiction is a secondary problem that comes out of a primary problem.
                               So when we put all the emphasis on the secondary problem
                                       but don´t pay any attention to the primary one,
                                                then how can we possible succeed?"

What do you think about when you see or hear the word addiction?

A person smoking, drinking, doing drugs, gambling, overeating or shopping to much?

Did you know that the addiction isn´t the real problem?

Addiction is actually a way that a person is trying to solve a problem.

People try to solve a problem with addiction but in trying to do so they are creating an even bigger problem.

Addiction is a distraction
A distraction for not wanting to be yourself for a while. .
People are so uncomfortable with themselves and through distracting themselves for a while they don´t have to be themselves, or to think about what is going on in their lives.
An escape or a way to self-sooth.

No one is born an addict.
Addiction goes back to suffering and the suffering usually goes back to early childhood.
Addiction reflects some childhood distress and that is why people self- sooth.
People are finding relief in the addiction.

What is addiction?

Any behavior you create that gives you some type of relief or pleasure and that also have negative consequences.
It´s a behavior that you continue to do despite the negative consequences in your life.

Addiction can be either substance abuse or an addictive behavior.

What are some addictive behaviors....
working too much, overeating, gambling, too much shopping, sex, web surfing, too much TV, compulsive texting, sexting, twittering, Face booking or constantly being on the cell phone with people.

There are things that are healthy for you but they can turn into something unhealthy if you do it as an escape or distraction.
Physical exercise, yoga, religion or spirituality are a few examples.

Why do people get addicted?
Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, shopping, sex or gambling is not addictive in itself.......or we would all be addicted.

Relief form their suffering. When we suffer too much to be ourselves we want to disconnect through some form of self- soothing behavior or substance.

The first step in healing any addiction is to recognize that we have a problem.

When we reconnect with ourselves we will be able to get rid of the addictive behavior

Be compassionate with yourself.

Be curious .... learn as much as you can.

Learn how you got there. People are usually acting out what happened to them.

Get clear on what happened in the past with your parents, siblings, friends or teachers.
Understand that these people might have hurt you but that they didn´t do it deliberately. They gave you all that they had to give. If they would have had more they would have given it to you.
They did the best that they could with what their parents had taught and given to them.

Awareness and  understanding.
When you understand.... you forgive. It happens automatically.

Find supportive environments. It is hard to do this on your own.
Support groups.
Find people who understand you and what you and going through. People who you can trust and seek their support when you are stressed.
Create some structure in your life.

Addiction is about soothing threats.
That is why when we are more stressed we will go for addiction,
In recovery and self connecting with self we must find functional ways in dealing with stress...because stress is going to happen and it is all around us.

Check your level of stress around you.
The more stressed you are - the more likely you will be to reach for some kind of addiction.
How many stresses are you taking on right now?

The more you stress people - the more they cling to their addiction.

Figure out what is triggering you.
Look at the issue of what is making you addicted in the first place.

When you have recognized you have a problem - try to stay away from stimuli.

If you like to shop - then make a conscious effort to stay away from going to stores or looking on-line.
If you have problem with alcohol - stay away from parties and stay away from friends that will pull you back into drinking.

When you are getting triggered - make a habit of telling someone.
Call a trusted friend and tell them about what is going on, instead of hiding it.

When you bring it into the light or in the open  - you will help diminish it.
When you keep something in the dark it will continue to grow and wreck havoc in your life.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, June 17, 2016

Don´t Stress Out About Things You Cannot Control

                                          "Remember that we get whatever we focus on.
                                             Rather that dwelling on what you don´t want,
                                                    clearly articulate what you do want."
                                                               - Anthony Robbins

Where do you spend your time, your emotions and your focus?

Are you doing things that are urgent or important?

Make sure that you are you spending your time, emotions and your focus on things you can control?
Not on things you cannot control?

There is one thing that you can absolutely control....YOURSELF and what you focus on and what you feel inside.

You get to determine what you feel inside, no matter what is going on, or what someone says or does in your life.

There is nothing in your life that you are going to feel that you are not creating, and that you can´t change immediately....if you want to.

What is another thing that you can control.....YOUR ATTITUDE about something.
You can control what things mean to you.

The weather, events and other people are out of your control. And stressing about it won´t make it any better.

Another thing that you can´t control is THE PAST.
You can´t control it and you can´t change it! So stop wasting time on it.

It doesn´t matter how stressful your past was, you can never change it. Since you can´t change the past why would you spend any time there?

If you stay in the past, you will become stressed - major stress and it will keep you from being in the present and it will prevent you from important things that matter to you in a positive way.

Spend your time on what you can control.....yourself and your attitude.
Focus on what matters to you and stay away form spending time in the past.
Learn from the past. Use the past as a school...... but then move on.

Do not stress out about things you can´t control or change.

                                              Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Are You Missing a Clear Vision in Your Life?

                                       "A vision is not just a picture of what could be;
                       it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more."
                                                    - Rosabeth Moss Kanter

Most people are missing a clear vision on what they want in life.

Create a vision or a desired outcome in every area of your life.

Intimate relationships/family
Relax/time off

Vision - What do you want?

Purpose - Why do you want it?

Action - What are you going to do to make it happen?

Have a flexible plan or goals.
If one plan doesn´t work, make sure you try another one.
And if that ones doesn´t work either....figure out a different one.
Don´t give up.

The way you go about something accomplishing a goal can change.
But the ultimate vision - or your desired outcome will not change.

Never ever give up on your vision - Just try another strategy to get there.

Create options.
Make sure you have different choices.
Create an Action-list.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach