Friday, February 24, 2017

How To Change Your Life - Become Emotionally Fit

                                                        "Having a healthy mind
                                               is just as important as a healthy body."


If you want change your life.....become emotionally fit.
Get stronger mentally and emotionally. Drive yourself.
Master it and your life will be so much easier.

Become emotionally fit and it will be a lot easier to handle your life and your career.
Get emotionally fit my accepting 100 % responsibility of the experience of your life.

Learn  to control your thoughts and your mind instead of your mind controlling you.
Use your mind. Don't let your mind use you.
Anything can happen in life but remember that you are bigger than the moment.

A few tips!

Read at least 30 minutes every day. Not the internet but books. Read something that will inspire you and motivate you. Something that will teach you a new skill or a new strategy. Something that will open you to a new way of thinking. Something that will transform you.
Leaders are readers.

Exercise every day. Move your body for at least 30 minutes a day and it will change how you feel emotionally.
Challenge your body and make it grow. Try a new sport.  Go for a quick run. Lift weights.

Find a role-model. Figure out what they are doing and then do the same. Find someone that have gotten the results that you are after and then model them.

Find someone that is hurting worse than you are and help them. We all have problems and there is always going to be someone in worse shape than you.
And when you help them it will put things in perspective.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Great Things Come Out Of Patience

                                                  "Patience  is not the ability to wait,
                                  but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting."
                                                                   - Joyce Meyer


Todays topic......PATIENCE!

Something that most of us could use a little more of. If you are blessed with a lot of patience, you are truly BLESSED.

In todays society where everything is available 24/7, we have become so used to NOT having to wait for anything. We want it now. If the truth comes out, we probably wanted it yesterday.

- Things we order online to be shipped the same day, so we can get it tomorrow.

- The weight that took us 10 years to put on, we want it all gone in 3 month or less.

- Building a business. If we don't see any results within 6 months, we give up and try something new or tell ourselves..... it didn't work.

- We want our money to grow so we invest it in risky adventures and sometimes gambling. We don't want to wait. We want our money to grow quickly so we can spend it.

- We want to get in shape and have the perfect body in 1-3 months, after sitting on the couch every night for 5 years.

- We want our relationships to be like the movies from "Hollywood". Easy, fast and without complications.

- We want our children to be perfect angels.

- Traffic.....no comment needed!

And the list goes on.

Can you relate?

While there is always room for improvement when it comes to having more patience with other people. More patience with you partner, children, parents, your boss, friends and people in stores and restaurant..... serving us. We also could use some more patience with ourselves.

I know that I lose my patience with my computer when it isn't fast enough or isn't working. I also have a dog that is sometimes is a little bit nervous and can bring my impatience to the surface. But the good thing is that she as actually taught me to slow down and she has helped me with to develop a little more patience.

Patience is not created overnight. First you have to become aware of that you might be running a little low on patience. Then make a conscious decision that you must start to work on your patience-muscle. And yes it is a muscle. It can get bigger with constant practice. Usually we lose our temper and our patience over things and people that we have no control over anyway. All we are then doing is wasting a lot of mental energy.

Becoming a master of anything worth doing requires wisdom of patience. Everything worth while will take time. It is a creative process. Take the first step..... and then the next..... and the next.

Where in your life might more patience be needed?



                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                              www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, February 20, 2017

Book Signing Party

                    I had a book signing party for my first book.....
                                 Bounce Don't Break


Have you read my book?
If not..... this is how you order it
www.amazon.com if you are in the US
www.amazon.co.uk if you are in Europe

www.karinglannstam.com

Celebrate Yourself and Nurture Your Friendships

                                          "The more you praise and celebrate your life
                                             the more there is in life to celebrate."
                                                           - Oprah Winfrey


I turned 55 a couple of days ago and today I want to tell you about my my wonderful birthday celebration.
I also want to thank my friends for giving me some wonderful memories that I will cherish for the rest of my life.

Around 20 women came together to celebrate my big day. Since I am spending time in Sweden right now the celebration took place here and with all Swedish friends. It is really great because even though I have been living in the US for almost 30 years I still have some fantastic friends here in Sweden. I have also met some new friend since I have been back.
At this party there were friends that I have known for 30 plus years, some 20 plus years and some that I have gotten to know lately. The ages of the people varied a lot too.

I know a lot of people that don't want to celebrate their birthdays as they get older. I used to fall in that category for many years, but not any longer. I think we should celebrate that we have made it this far..... because a lot of people didn't. Some people's lives were taken way too soon.
We must also celebrate all that we have gone through. All the ups and also the downs. The ups are easy to celebrate but the downs are usually a little more difficult. But we usually learn a lot more through our difficulties in life than our easy and smooth times.

Yes, if you have lived to be 55 you have probably gone through a lot of stuff in your life. We have gotten dented and banged up a little but just imagine all the experiences that we have accumulated in the process. How smart and educated we actually are. Our experiences are valuable and should be shared with others.
Celebrate your body instead of always complaining and finding faults with it. It is the only body that you have got to live in. Take good care of it.

Get out of your comfort zone. Meet some new people that you don't already know. A lot of times we stay where it is comfortable. We feel uncomfortable when we don't know anybody and decide that we don't want to attend a party where there will be a lot of people that we have never met before.
But that is how you meet new people and that is how you create new friendships. Don't be nervous about striking up a conversation with a person that you have never met. Don't feel that you don't have anything to talk about and that you don't have anything to offer at a party. Stop being so critical about yourself.
A lot of people at my birthday party told me that they loved the mixture of people and that they loved meeting new ones.

Make a big deal out of your birthday. Connect with old and new friends. Make and effort to arrange a party. Invite, share and laugh together.
We are all so "busy" and we neglect our friendships a lot of times. If the truth comes out..... we are not too busy we are just plain lazy. It is not important to make the phone call or getting together in person. Instead we sent a text, a message via Facebook or email.
I understand that if you are in different cities or countries  your only option might be to connect electronically. But how hard is it to pick up the phone?
Spend some quality time with friends. Nurture your friendships. You never know when you might need a friend to talk to.
Be there for your friends and family. Don't ignore to place the phone call or to reach out to a friend.
You are never too busy. Make the effort.

Celebrate Your Birthday, Your Life And Live Well!



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com





Friday, February 17, 2017

Focus... Focus... Focus

                                              "Our thoughts create our reality,
                             where we put our focus is the direction we tend to go."
                                                       - Peter McWilliams


If you wan to be successful, you have got to develop the discipline of not letting anything take your focus off the important things that will get results.

It doesn't matter if you are trying to lose weight, saving money, getting out of debt, starting a new company or growing your business.

Focus.....Focus.....Focus.

You have to be focused on what is important now, if you don't you won't be successful.

You have to know what is important in the moment and then you have to be relentless in getting it done, and don't get distracted by unimportant stuff.

Being successful is often quite boring. It means doing the same things over and over again.

Establishing repetitive habits that lead to effective performance is the key.

Being consistent is a big key to success. You have to keep at it week after week, month after month even year after year. Slow and steady will win the race.

Always focus on the next step. Even when your goal seems too big and it feels impossible, remember bite-size pieces. Stay in motion and build momentum.

Never stop moving. Persist no matter what. You will find out later that the reward was worth the effort.

It will take time to reach your dream. Focus on what you need to do right now.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                                www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

A Great Goal Exercise That Will Only Take 5 Minutes

                                                    Write Your Goals Down
                                                   if they're not written down.
                                                       they're just dreams.
                                                  When you write things down,
                                                   it sets off a chain of events
                                                    that will change your life. 

Write out your goals.
All goals have to be in writing. If you don't have your goals in writing they are not goals, only wishes.
Write down you goals specifically and clearly.

1. Every single morning rewrite your major goals in the first person singular as though they already existed. Doing this will take about 2-5 minutes.
If you goal is to  earn $ 100.000 a year.....write down.....I earn $100.000 a year.
If your goal is to weigh 135 pounds.....write down.....I weigh 135 pounds.
If you goal is to become financially independent.....write down.....I am financially independent.
If your goal is to become a teacher.....write down.....I am a teacher.
If your goal is to live in Colorado.....write down.....I am living in Colorado.

2. Every single evening take 5-10 minutes and review your progress. Take time to sit down and review what you did in the course of the day.

3. Ask yourself....what have I done right today that has moved me toward my goals?

4. What would I do differently if I had to do today over again?

Commit yourself to do this exercise for 30 days. You will be amazed at what you will be able to accomplish.

Every time that you are writing down your goals you are programming your subconscious mind. You will activate the RAS(reticular activation system) and it will attract things, people, circumstances, money or opportunities into your life. These things will harmonize with your dominate thoughts.....Your Goals.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, February 13, 2017

Never Settle For A Life That Isn't Yours

                                   In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take

Are you settling for a life that isn't yours?
Are you living a life that you didn't design yourself?
Do you prefer security to adventure?
Are you afraid to act on you dreams because you don't think you will be able to pull it off?
Do you believe that you don´t have what it takes to be able to do it? That you will probably fail and if you fail you will feel even worse than if you not had acted on your big dreams?
Or are your dreams buried so deep inside that you have almost forgotten about them? And only once in a while do you think about them and wonder..... what would  happened if I would have taken a chance back then?

Time to uncover those dreams. Time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Time to make a plan to try to accomplish some of those dreams and allow them to become a reality.
Make sure that you don't die with the dream still inside of you.
You dream might be travelling the world, living in another country, have the "right" relationship for you,  your dream-job that aligns with who you are deep inside, starting a organization and help people with problems, write a book, paint, start a company, write music or poetry.
Whatever it is for you.....make sure you start be taking some action steps towards your dreams.
Never settle for a life that isn't yours.

The reason that I an writing this blog is because I had this interesting conversation with a good friend of mine a couple of  days ago. I have known him my whole life so I know his background and his life very well. I know that he had to live a life that wasn't his own for a very long time. He had to take care of people and probably had to do work that might not have been in alignment with who he authentically was. He had a lot of big responsibilities when he was quite young because some adults in his life didn't take care of their own responsibilities. He had to grow up very quickly and I don´t think that anyone ever asked what he wanted to do with his life. Now he is a little older and wiser.
He and I can talk about a lot of things openly.
We had a conversation about our dreams as we were younger. I asked him about his. What he was dreaming about as a young man. What would he have done with his life if could have decided for himself?

I could tell right away that this question made him puzzled. He appeared surprised, slightly uncomfortable, and he became very quiet. Then he told me without looking at me..... that of course he had had some dreams as a young man but that he didn't even want to talk about them because they brought up a lot of sadness and anger. He said  that just thinking about his old dreams made him feel so uncomfortable and sad. So we let the conversation go and started talking about something else instead.

But I couldn't stop thinking about it and I am just wondering how many people out there that are not  acting on any of their dreams. They try to forget about them.
As children we have big dreams. But as we get a little older these dreams somehow get buried somewhere in the back of our minds. Eventually life takes over and we completely stop thinking and talking about them.

But where do these dreams go? Do they eventually go away if we bury them so deep down that we don't even think about them very often?

I don't believe that dreams will ever go away. It doesn't matter how deep down that you try to bury them. I think they will be there in the back of our mind and once in a while they will come up to the surface and remind us. Maybe because of something happening in our lives..... they are brought up to the surface again. But instead of acting on these dreams we push them down again. As far as we can because we don´t want to be reminded of them.
But can we ever stop thinking about them? I don't believe so. I think they will always be there as a sad reminder, if we don't act on them.

So why don't people act on their dreams?
I believe that a lot of people are afraid of failure. Somehow they feel like they are not going to be able to accomplish their dream. They are afraid to take risks because of what they might lose. We don't believe that we are capable of doing what this dream will require us to do. Maybe we don't feel like we have enough money, friends that can help, knowledge, experience, not the right information, we are too old/young, don't have enough time, man/woman.....etc.
The risk drives most people crazy. On the other hand.....everything in life is risky.
Living is risky. Getting married is risky, having children is risky, investing money is risky, changing jobs is risky and driving your car is risky.
We are so afraid to take a risk and trying to do something new. But how about the risk of doing nothing? The risk of not trying? Trying to change feels almost impossible.
There are no guarantees in life, no matter what you are doing.
Don't come to the end of your life and ask yourself.....what would have happened if I would have taken that chance?
Don't have regrets at the end of your life.

I have been knocked down many times in my own life and for many years I was living someone else's life. A life that wasn't my own. But my dreams on the inside would never die. They surfaced many times. But I kept on pushed them down for many different reasons. But I don't do that any more. My life and my dreams are important. I don't want to settle for living someone else's life, a life that I didn't have any part in designing.
I want to be the star of my own movie. The movie that I created, edited and directed.

It is about having peace of mind. I want to have peace of mind and that includes being true to myself and making sure that what I am doing is in alignment with who I am and what I want. I want to live up to the very best that I can be as a human being and that also means constantly working on myself.
Yes..... it takes tremendous courage to be who I am and not to go along with the crowd.

In the end I don't think anyone can be happy unless they are completely true to themselves.
I also believe that no success in any area of your life is possible without commitment. If you can't commit wholeheartedly it probably means that it isn't right for you.
Find the work that you can commit yourself to.
Find the relationships that you can commit yourself to.
Find the life that you can commit yourself to living.

Never Settle.



                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com




















Friday, February 10, 2017

Stop Wasting Valuable Time

                                "I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships,
                                                           forced interactions,
                                                  or unnecessary conversations."

It is time to stop wasting valuable time!

We often do the fun and easy things instead of doing the hard and necessary. One major reason that people fail in life is because they usually do and take the easiest and fastest route to get to the things that they want.

But the easiest and fastest route in life, is most often the route to failure.
Short term gain for long-term pain. We want instant gratification.
We do what is fun and easy today..... instead of what is necessary.
And later in life we are forced to do what is necessary and at that time it will be a lot more difficult.

The willingness to do the difficult task at hand, the willingness to discipline yourself will work miracles in your life.
No person will be successful in life if they cannot discipline themselves. Doing what is hard and difficult today instead of putting it of to a later date or maybe not even doing it at all, is a recipe for living a life of mediocrity.
Do what is necessary today, so that you can enjoy the fruit of your labor at a later date in your life.
It doesn't matter if it is having a successful career in business, a healthy and vital body, financial independence, great relationships in life. It will all require you to discipline yourself.

Start today by doing what is necessary. Be willing to do the uncomfortable.  The things that will take some effort on your part to accomplish.Things that will lead you towards living the life of your dreams, instead of leading you away to a less desirable place.
Stop doing what is fun and easy. It will NOT lead you to living your dream.
Short term pain will lead to long term gain.

Stop wasting valuable time on things, people or conversations that don't matter.


                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Share YOUR Message With The World

                                                      "Start today, not tomorrow.
                                    If anything, you should have started yesterday."
                                                             - Emil Molycka

Are you getting closer to reaching your goals? but when you are almost there, for some strange reason you always hold back?
Doing this will not only ruin you..... but it will also ruin other people's lives because they need your information, talents and knowledge. Are you setting up roadblock after roadblock, obstacle after obstacle? Are these obstacles really true obstacles or are they obstacels that you created in your own mind?
It is time for you to stop procrastinating and take action. Massive action.

You probably have big dreams and you have great ideas. You might even have a website with a product that is almost ready? Or maybe you are an author with a book that is almost done? or you have a blog or newsletter in your mind that you want to start writing? Maybe a painting or some music?

Maybe you have great ideas for teaching weight-loss to other people or how to improve their finances. You probably want to write a book about how you solved a particular problem in your own life and now you want to share it with the world.
But while you are procrastinating other people are getting frustrated. Thanks to your lack of action many people don't know how to shed the weight or they can't get their finances back on track. They are waiting on your almost done book or the book that is only "in your mind" right now. They are waiting on your weekly newsletter or daily blog to help them solve their own problem(s).

And what are you doing? You are still deciding on the colors of your website. How many photos to put on it. What to name you new company that you started online. Maybe you are still editing your book and can't decide on the orders of the chapters. Or maybe you haven't even started writing that book, but you are thinking about it. The name of your newsletter or how many times per week you will post a blog.
But what are you doing? you are worrying about how other people will judge you or maybe they will even criticize you? And this is your excuse for not taking action?

Right now as I am writing this blog, I am afraid that you might not like it and that you will think it is rubbish. But I will not let that stop me. Because this blog might help someone else.
It is not up to me to judge my own work. My job is to share it with the world.

These silly little distractions are stopping so many people from achieving their dream and living the life that they truly want to live. And if you don't conquer these obstacles and distractions you will ruin your year and your life.

But the good news it that you can change. You can change today my making a decision to stop procrastinate and take massive action.
Every day that you are not taking action with your website, blog, books, painting or music, you are holding someone back out there in the world that needs what you have got. They are getting more and more frustrated and feel beat down because they need your knowledge and talents to be able to change their lives for the better.

You are thinking that there are already plenty of people doing what you are wanting to do. The world doesn't need another blogger or book. Not true. Yes, there are plenty of people doing things every day but there will never be one person exactly like you. With your background, your experiences and you perspectives.

So don't hold back. Allow you light to shine. People need solutions to their problems and you probably have exactly what they need.

You have great gifts and talents and you can do better. You have knowledge to help others and you are a person that cares about other people and what happens to the world. Share you message without fear. Every action makes an impact.

Time to take action. Time to start helping other people to be able to change their lives for the better.
The world needs YOU.

Eliminate procrastination and move through the obstacles that are standing in your way.
Make 2017 you best year ever by helping others.
Help people by giving them a solution to their problems.

How do we change? One small action at a time. One little step starts the journey.
Make sure that you take the first step. By taking small steps every day you will get better. You will grow and get stronger.
Keep on going.

Write the book, start your website, create you art or music, start the blog.....Start Today!
You can do it!

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, February 6, 2017

We Are Capable Of Doing Anything

                                       "If we all did the things we are capable of doing,
                                                 we would literally astound ourselves."
                                                            - Thomas Edison

Most people usually minimize the things that they are able of doing, the goals and dreams they can accomplish. And for some strange reason people have a tendency to believe that others can accomplish things that they themselves are not able to accomplish.
This is not true.
We all have great talents, reservoirs of resources and abilities within ourselves that we can bring to the surface at any time to be able to achieve what we all desire and dream of.
We are capable of doing anything.

Start focusing on all the reasons that you can get what you want
Take an honest look at the results that you have gotten so far in your life. Does it make you happy? If you are happy, then continue to do what you are doing.
On the other hand if you are not, I suggest that you set aside some time and start to focus on what you really want.
Start reading some books to get a few new ideas. Sometimes it only takes one great idea to change your whole life. Be curious.....make a commitment to find out. Read books of people who have already accomplished what you are trying to accomplish. Ant then model what they are doing. Make a commitment to yourself to learn and do as much as possible to be able to change your life.
A lot of people don´t believe that they can change, but that isn´t true. We all can decide to change right now.
The only thing you have to do is to decide that you want to change.

Study
Begin with books but also start listening to recordings. Something that will make you grow and expand. Realize that a lot of things that you have been thinking might not be true? Maybe that some people are just lucky? and you are not one of the lucky people. Everyone have exactly the same potential.
Believe that you can.

Dream big dreams.
Take the lid of your mind and let it soar. Most people alive today don´t realize what they are capable of doing and creating. We think small most of the day. We have quit dreaming of what we want to accomplish with our lives. Remember when you were a kid, you had big dreams and you weren't afraid of telling everyone about them either. But what happened to those dreams? Somewhere along our journey we settled for a life of existence instead of designing our life, the way we want it
Dream big. Go after something big,
Even if you miss, it can be a great thrill and adventure and you will probably learn a lot about yourself that you didn't know.

When you learn something new, pass it along to others.
What you now know will help others all across the world. Share you wisdom and your knowledge. You never know who is in need of the information and knowledge that you now have.


You have a magnificent mind....use it!

Believe that you can do what you believe others can accomplish!

You are capable of doing anything!



                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com




Friday, February 3, 2017

Are You Caretaking Others In Order To Get Love, Attention or Approval?

                                                   "When you show up authentic,
                                      you create the space for others to do the same.
                                                           Walk in your truth."

Are you a person that gets your self-worth, love, approval and significance from caretaking others?

Lets be honest .....who is the person that really needs to be taken care of here?
Yes....it is YOU.

A lot of times people get so wrapped up in caretaking others that they neglect their own needs. These type of people are usually women and they will eventually get totally drained in their efforts of caretaking others instead of taking care of themselves.

So why do so many women choose to take care of others at the expense of their own wellbeing?
I believe it is a way of not wanting to focus on what is going on in their own world. It is a lot easier to focus on something "out there" instead of lifting the lid on their own life and maybe start dealing with some issues that they..... themselves have.

What do I mean by this
Maybe you marriage isn´t where you want it to be. Your partner doesn't acknowledge and love you the way you want to be acknowledged and loved. So instead you shift you attention onto someone else that will acknowledge and love you.

Maybe you are unhappy at work and you will pour all your efforts into caretaking someone to get significance from this particular person.

Your friend don't pay attention to you they way you want  them to and instead you overwork. Spending a lot of extra hours at the office signing up for all kinds of assignments outside your work schedule, to prove to everyone how good you are and how much you care about your job and that you deserve attention and significance.

In other words you want other people to give you what you are not giving to yourself. You are giving with attachments. You expect something back from others that you don't give yourself on a regular base. The problem with doing this is that other people will feel a pull on their energy from you. They feel that you are wanting something back from them. So instead of getting what you want from these people, whether it is love, approval, attention or significance. These people will pull away from you and that will leave you feeling even more empty on the inside.

The solution to this dilemma is that we all must learn to give ourselves what we most need from other people.
If is love....give yourself some love on a regular base. Same thing with attention, approval and significance. Learn to give it to yourself so than you don't have to pull on other people to give it to you. And another great bonus is..... by giving love, attention, support to yourself, it can never be taken away from you.....because you are giving it to YOU.

Now of course there are a lot a lot of people out there that want to be taken care of. The absolutely love when you do a lot of things for them. They don't want to be responsible for taking care of themselves so they absolutely love to be friends or in a relationship with a caretaker. The problem with these relationships is that eventually the caretaker will get totally drained of their own energy and when they are no longer able to be the caretaker, the other person...."the taker" might move on to the next "new" caretaking person because you are no longer willing or able to take care of them.

It takes a lot of courage to focus on loving yourself and letting go of caretaking. The people that you have been giving a lot to in order to get love, attention or approval, may become angry at you for withdrawing your caretaking and they might feel like you are abandoning them.
They loved your caretaking and they may not want to be with you and they might not want to be supportive of you when you stop caretaking them
.
So when you decide to stop caretaking certain people, you might lose them.
So what!!! There will be other people filling their spot. People that appreciate you for who you are and they don't need for you to take care of them.







Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Great Series of Books - Chicken Soup For The Soul.

Today I want to mention a great book.
Or actually it is a series of books called....... Chicken Soup For The Soul.
Written by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.

It is a great series of books that will guarantee give you a lot of inspiration and motivation.
Every book contains a wonderful collection of short stories about timeless wisdom, love, friendships, family, attitude, learning and overcoming obstacles.
Every story offers touching and profound examples of human caring, compassion and love.
If you need a "pick-me upper"....I recommend these wonderful books.
They are guaranteed to lift your spirit. They are food for your soul.

                               "Effort is a commitment to seeing a task through to the end,
                                                  not just until you get tired of it."
                                                                - Howard Cate

At ten minutes to seven on a dark, cool evening in Mexico City in 1968, John Arkwari of Tanzania painfully hobbled into the Olympic Stadium - the last to finish the marathon.
The winner had already been crowned, and the victory ceremony was long finished. So the stadium was almost empty as Arkwari, alone, his leg bloody and bandaged, struggled to circle the track to the finish line.
The respected documentary filmmaker, Bud Greenspan, watched from a distance. Then, intrigues, Bud walked over to Arkwari and asked why he had continues the grueling struggle to the finish line.
The young man from Tanzania answered softly, "My country did not send me nine thousand miles to start the race. They sent me nine thousand miles to finish the race."

Story written by Walter Anderson


                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, January 30, 2017

What You Focus On Will Affect Your Life

                                              "If you don't learn to control your thoughts,
                                      you will never learn how to control your behavior."
                                                                 - Joyce Meyer

What you focus on totally affects your life. Whatever you focus on you are going to feel, even if it isn't true.

If you focus on that the economy is going to hell......you are going to feel like hell.

Are you a person that will focus on what you can´t control?
Like the weather, what other people did or didn't do or say, how you parents/siblings act, how your boss is rude, how you wife/husband is ignoring you or what is going on in the world and the news.

Or are you focusing on what you don't have in your life?
Are you constantly focusing on that you don't have enough money, a bigger car or a bigger house, that you don't have the perfect partner in you life, your friends are all rude or that you don't have the right job or resources available to you.

How about the past.....are you focusing most of your time on the past?
You constantly think about what happened in the past and you actually have taken up residency there.
What your parents did or didn't do, what you teacher said to you, someone mistreated you or even betrayed you.
It´s only when you life isn´t working, that your past matters. You learn from the past.....but you don't live there and you can´t drive yourself into the future by using a review mirror, called the past.
If you do....you will crash.

If you focus a lot of your time on what you can't control, on what you don't have or the past you are going to feel terrible.

Instead learn to focus in a different direction. Learn to see the opportunities instead.
Learn to control your focus......or the environment and the world will do it for you.

The news is always trying to get our attention. It is everywhere....TV, Internet, FB, Twitter and even on your phone. The news follows us wherever we go....... trying to get our attention.
The news is trying to get us to pay attention to a story that will jolt us. If it bleeds.....it leads.

There are also people in our own lives that are also trying to constantly get our attention through everyday drama, email or social media. Family members, friends, neighbors and co-workers.

So again.....if you don't take control of your thought the world will do it for you.

It is not what you focus on once in a while that will get you. It is was you regularly focus on that will affect you.

If you want to change your life you first have to wake up. Pay attention to what you have a tendency to focus on at a regular base.

We all decide on what to focus on.
If you realize that most of your thought are in the past, on what you can't control and what you don't have in your life......you can change your thoughts right now.

Make a conscious decision today to change what you focus on.
Don´t allow the environment to do it for you.

When you focus on what you want, everything else falls away.

Start by focusing on what is already working, what you are can control and what you are grateful for.
Focus on what is possible for you and what you want to create in your life.

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach



Friday, January 27, 2017

Start Before You Are Ready

                                             "The key to success is to start
                                                   before you are ready."
                                                        - Marie Forleo


It isn't necessary to have a perfect plan before we take the first step towards our goals.

We don't have to have a business plan before we start following our passion, purpose and our dreams.

You can start today by taking one small step.

If your ultimate vision is to write a book, why don't you start today by writing something on FB.

Maybe the next step will be writing a blog post.

Start a weekly newsletter.

Start doing something today. Every step matters.


                                        "Little by little, a little becomes a lot."


Don't wait for the perfect moment to start your business or to write that book you have been wanting to write for several years.

Don't wait for the conditions to be "just right".
I have news for you.....the conditions will never be just right.

Or there will never be the perfect moment to start.
If you are waiting until you "feel like it" you will be stuck in a state of inaction.

Today is the day.
Start!



                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                    www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

                                              "There is only one of you in all time,
                                       This expression is unique, and if you block it,
                      it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost."
                                                            - Martha Graham


Most of us are terrible judges of our own work.

Not only are we terrible judges of our own work but really it isn't our job to judge our own work.

Don´t compare yourself to others and stop trying to figure out how valuable your work is.

Our job is to continue to create what we are good at.
If it is writing, music, singing, designing, dancing or painting. Nearly everyone is an artist in one way or the other and unfortunately every artist will judge their own work.

Your job is to share what you have to offer right now, with the world.
Continue to do what you are doing and don't stop because you don't think that you are good enough.
Unfortunately a lot of people will allow their own self-judgment to stop them from bringing their gifts and talents to the world.
Make sure that you allow your light to shine.
Give yourself a chance.

Your gifts and talents are needed. Someone out there is looking for exactly what you have got.
Share you knowledge, wisdom and your experiences. We are all teachers and we must share our experiences because they are valuable.

You are running your own race. Stop looking at other people. They are running a different race.
Your dream was given to you. Nobody needs to approve of your dream. If no one else can see it, it's because that dream was given to you and not them.
Hold it, cultivate it, nourish it and work it.

Start trusting and listening to yourself. Listen to the small voice within you.
Trust your ideas and your instincts.

Your job is to do the work and not to judge it.

Stay in your own race and share your talents with the world.

 
                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, January 23, 2017

How to Create a More Positive Attitude

                         A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances,
                                instead of you circumstances having power over you.


Having a positive attitude is very important if you want to be successful in anything that you do in life. So one big goal for  2017 should be to create and maintain a positive attitude.

Now if you already have a positive attitude .....you don't have to continue to read this blog.

So what is a positive attitude?
It is an attitude about optimism, enthusiasm, expectancy, growth oriented...."anything is possible" attitude.

Here are a few tips!

Know your outcome.
What are you trying to accomplish? What is your ultimate vision?
Before you take action you must know what you want and why you want it.
Decide how you are going to accomplish it and make sure that you actions will serve your greater goals and you ultimate vision.

Seek out other people who share a positive attitude.
We are like chameleons and we absorb through our skin other people's attitude, their language, beliefs and their way of talking and dressing. Make sure that you are hanging out with the people that are going somewhere in life. That are excited about the future.
Surround yourself with likeminded people. The positive thinkers and make sure you stay away from those who are excessively negative.

Get out of your comfort zone.
Doing the same old thing over and over again gets boring and even depressing. Besides you won't learn anything. Yes...staying in your comfort zone might make you feel comfortable because it is familiar, but you won't grow. To expand and grow you must get out of your comfort zone.
Try to do something every day that scares you a little. Try something new. Meet new people. Learn a new skill.
If you don't stretch yourself you will become old, slow and brittle. Just like the branches of a tree.

Take action on a daily base without any guarantees.
We all expect big results quickly when we start something new. Try instead to launch something without any guarantees of any results right away. Progress and growth takes time, persistence, focus, patience and a lot of creativity. These skill are all like a physical muscle. The more you use them, the bigger they get.
Do your best, but don't get stuck on the outcome. The joy is in the journey.
Who you become in the process of accomplishing your goals and your vision is what is the most important thing.

Develop and attitude of gratitude.
Be grateful for what you already have, while you are pursuing what you really want. Take sometime to appreciate yourself and everything that you have done, up until now.
Learn to say "Thank You" more often. Appreciate other people and compliment them often. When you compliment someone you will automatically feel better yourself.
Appreciate your family and your friends. Call them, meet with them, send them a card or buy them a gift expressing your appreciation of  them. You will be surprised how your own attitude will change.
Smile more often. I don't think that there is anyone who doesn't appreciate a smile from a stranger.
I know I do.

Laugh and be playful.
Don't take life so seriously. Play and have some fun. Do things. Get out more and learn to laugh at yourself. Start a new hobby something that will make you feel more joy and happiness. Be around animals. My dogs always make me smile and laugh. They sure can pull me out of a funk quickly.

Use obstacles and setbacks as stepping stones to greater success later.
Don't be afraid to fail. Really there is no such thing as failure. It is called feedback. You just learned a lesson and in the future you won't make the same mistake again.
Rejection won´t kill you either. Of course it will sting a little, but I guarantee you will get over it and you will live. Just get out there and try again. You will eventually get the hang of it.


I hope you will try these few simple tips on creating a more positive attitude.

A positive attitude won't allow you to do anything, but it will allow you to do everything that you do a lot better than a negative attitude will.


 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach





Friday, January 20, 2017

Don´t Wait Until You Feel Like It.....Because It Will Never Happen

                            "There is a choice you have to make, in everything you do.
                       So keep in mind that in the end, the choice you make, makes you."
                                                          - Philip B. Bliss

Do you want to change any area of your life?

Are you the kind of person that will wait until you "feel like it", before you do or change something?

To change something in our lives, we must learn to ignore how we feel, and do it anyway.


I don't feel like reading this book..... so I'll watch TV for a couple of hours.
 
I don't feel like going to the gym to exercise..... so I'll  go home and call a friend instead.
 
I don't feel like cooking tonight..... so I'll grab a hamburger on my way home from work.
 
I don't feel like calling my mother tonight..... so I'll update FB for a while.
 
I don't feel like eating this apple...... so I'll  have a candy bar instead.
 
I don't feel like going on a walk...... so I'll sit in front of my computer instead.

I need to get out of bed 15 minutes earlier to meditate.....but I don't feel like it right now so instead I hit the snooze button.


It doesn't matter in what area of your life that you are wanting to change.......you are never going to feel like it.
Inspiration isn't happening.
Motivation isn't happening.
It is your job to make yourself do the things that you don't want to do.

If you want something new in your life and if you want any kind of change.....you have to force yourself to get our of your comfort zone and do it.
You have to get past your feelings.

It is simple to change and to get what you want......but it isn't easy.

Do it today...whatever it is.
Don't wait until your feel like it......because it will never happen.

I will be honest with you..... I didn't feel like writing this blog.
My schedule got totally rearranged this morning and now it is late in the evening and I am stuck with writing this blog for tomorrow morning. I usually do my best writing early in the mornings because at that time my brain is more alert and awake and right now it is almost 8 pm in the evening.
But in the morning I will not have time to write this blog because I have an early morning meeting and the rest of the day is filled with activities. So if I don't write my blog tonight, it won't get gone and it needs to be published tomorrow morning.
Right now I just want to sit down and relax after a busy day.

It would have been so easy to say "I don't feel like writing this blog".
I had to get past my feelings .....and just force myself to do it.


                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com




Wednesday, January 18, 2017

The Magic Of Thinking Big - Fantastic Book

                                                            "Dream big.
                                                            Work Hard.
                                                   Never stop believing
                                                 that anything is possible."


I am sure that you have heard the saying ..."Without a vision people will perish"

We all must have a vision or a dream for our lives.
And it has to be bigger than just wanting to be able to pay the lousy bills. That one won't get you going on a Monday morning.

We must dream big dreams. We must have something to look forward to. Something great in the future that will pull us through the sometimes gray days and all the BS that environment and the world throws at us on a daily base.

We must have something to go for that inspires the heart and the soul.

Today I have the perfect book for you if you are ready to start dreaming big.



     Many ambitious people go through life with admirable persistence and show of ambition, but they fail to succeed because they dot experiment with new approaches. Stay with your goal. Don't waver an inch from it. But don't beat your head against a wall. If you aren't getting results, try a new approach.
     People who have bull-dog persistence, who can grab something and not let go, have an essential success quality. Here are two suggestions for developing greater power to experiment, the ingredient, that, when blended with persistence, gets results. 

     1. Tell yourself. "There IS a way." All thoughts are magnetic. As soon as you tell yourself, "I am beaten. There is no way to conquer this problem," negative thoughts are attached, and each of these helps convince you that you are right, that you are whipped.
     Believe instead, "There is a way to solve this problem," and positive thoughts rush into your mind to help you find a solution.   
     It's believing "there is a way" that is important.
     Marriage counselors report no success in saving marriages until one and preferably both partners see that it is possible to win back happiness.
     Psychologist and social workers say an alcoholic is doomed to alcoholism until he believes he can beat his thirst.
     This year thousands of new businesses are being formed. Five years from now only a small portion will still be in operation. Most of those who fail will say, "Competition was just too much. We had no choice but to quit." The real problem is that most people hit the TAR (things are rough) barrier, they think only defeat and so they are defeated.
     When you believe there is a way you automatically convert negative energy (let's quit, let's go back) into positive energy (let's keep going, let's move ahead).
     A problem, a difficulty, becomes unsolvable only when you think it is unsolvable. Attract solutions by believing solutions are possible. Refuse, simply refuse, to even let yourself say or think that it's impossible.

     2. Back off and start afresh. Often we stay so close to a problem for so long that we can't see new solutions or new approaches.
     An engineer friend was retained a few weeks ago to design a distinctly new aluminum structure; in fact, nothing even resembling it had ever been developed, or designed, before. I saw him just a few days ago and I asked him how his new building was coming along.
     "Not too well", he replied. "I guess I haven't spent enough time with my garden this summer. When I live with tough design problems for a long stretch, I´ve got to get away and let some new ideas soak in.
     "You'd be surprised," he continued, "to know how many engineering ideas come to me when I'm just sitting beside a tree holding a water hose on the grass."

From the book.....The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz




                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                   www.karinglannstam.com






                                                              

Monday, January 16, 2017

I Am Fine......But Are You Really?

                                    "The average person tells 4 lies a day or 1460 a year:
                                                 a total of 87 600 by the age of 60.
                                                       And the most common lie is:
                                                                    I'm Fine."


You hear people say it everywhere. At home, at work, at parties and on TV.
It is a very common phrase and people say it all the time.
Maybe you have even said it once or twice yourself?
I know I have said it many times.

Someone asks you how are you are doing, and you respond without hesitation......I am fine!

I am FINE.....does that express how you really feel?...... or is that something that you just have gotten used to saying because you don't want to tell the truth?

You are frustrated at work and you know that you should start looking for a new job, but instead of doing that you tell everyone....... including yourself that you are FINE?

You are deep in debt, but instead of trying to do something about it.....you are fine, and you go shopping some more.

How about your intimate relationship with your partner. You sleep in separate bedrooms and you never talk to each other......and you tell me that you are doing fine?

How about the new business you want to start but you feel like you have to wait until the kids graduate and move out of the house before you can act on your dream....... and you are fine?

How about all those extra pounds that you are carrying around year after year....and you are fine?

I don't think so!!!

But you are very smart........because if you are fine......you don't have to do anything about it.

Time to change. Start by telling yourself the truth.

I am fine.
You can lie to other people about how you feel.....but stop lying to yourself.

The things that you want in your life....... you have now convinced yourself that you cannot have them......and that you are......... FINE..... not having them.

And this is why you have stopped pushing yourself and you have given up and settled........and every time someone asks you say.............. I Am Fine!

But are you?

 
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach







Thursday, January 12, 2017

The World Needs Your Talents

                                                "Your talent is Gods gift to you.
                                   What you will do with it is your gift back to God."


Did you know that there is only one of you in this whole world?

There will never be another person exactly like you, ever again.
You are unique.

Did you also know that every single person on this planet is designed from birth with their own special talents.

If you develop these abilities and talents, they can enable you to accomplish anything that you want in life.

Everyone is genetically created to be able to do something extraordinary, something they enjoy doing, something they can do well and something that will give them great satisfaction from doing.

Your job is to find out what your special abilities or talents are and then start using them.

Don't hold back.

The world needs what you got.

You can order my book at www.amazon.com if you are in the US
If you are in Europe you can order it at www.amazon.co.uk.


                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Get Back On Track

                                                  "Appreciate a lesson learned means:
             Being grateful you have wisdom for tomorrow that you didn't have yesterday."
                                                          - Doe Zantamata

People are a lot like trains. A train isn't going anywhere if it is off its track.

Same thing with people. If we are off track in our lives we will have problems moving forward and enjoying our journey.

Since we have no track to run on, we will find ourselves getting stuck.

It is very important that as soon as you realize your life is off track..... that you get back on it as quickly as possible.

The longer you stay off track the harder it will be to get back on it.

When a crisis or a setback occurs in our life...... it is trying to clear a space for something new that is trying to be born.
It is never the end.
It is the beginning of something new.

Bounce Don't Break - How to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down.

My book is available at  www.amazon.com in the US
In Europe it is available at www.amazon.co.uk.



                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com