Monday, February 18, 2019

Your Body Is A Reflection Of Your Lifestyle

                                                        "Take care of your body.
                                               It's the only place you have to live."

                                                               - Jim Rohn

A little over a month a go I decided to do something that I have been wanted to do for a while.
I went up to Curves in Conroe and had a BioAge test done.

What is a BioAge test?

It is a health assessment tool using a series of metabolic, physical and behavioral evaluations.
We all have a chronological age. We can never get away from that number, even if we sometimes want to lie about our age.
But we can't change the year that we were born, and how old we are today.

But there is also a BioAge. Your actual body age.

In this test they will look at your blood pressure, nutrition, smoking/day, your alcohol intake/week, stress level. Your waist/height ratio.

You also have to do 4 physical tests.

I legged balance

Sit and reach

Core endurance 

Chair squats

Then they will take the results of all the answers and tests and put it together to figure out your BioAge.
Hopefully it will come out lower than your chronological age.

My good friend Melanie Michaelchuk did the test.
Melanie is a fitness specialist at Curves and she put me through this tough testing procedure.
It wasn't that bad at all, and we had a lot of fun.

Since today is my 57th birthday, I thought it was a great time to share my experience and my results with you.
When the test was done my chronological age was 56 and my BioAge was 47....WOW!!!!

Thanks Melanie.....I had so much fun! 

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Dress for Success

                                                   "You cannot climb the ladder of success
                                                        dressed in the costume of failure."
                                                                      - Zig Ziglar

I have said for a long time....take me inside your house and show me your kitchen, and I can pretty much figure out what kind of person you are.

If your kitchen is messy and unorganized with the sink full of empty dishes, and your refrigerator is dirty, chances are that you are also that way.
Messy and unorganized.

Yes, our own environment will tell other people who we are.
Of course there are always exceptions to every rule, but overall I believe this is true.

Your level of self-esteem, in other words how much you like yourself and how much you respect yourself is largely determined by your self-image.

Self-image is the set of ideas you have about your own qualities and abilities. Self-image is how you perceive yourself.

Our kitchen in our house is a way of telling others who we are. How we see ourselves. Our character.
Almost about your car? What does it look like?
And your desk?

                                                 "You can have anything you want in life
                                                                     if you dress for it."
                                                                       - Edith Head

Now, another way of finding out who someone is, finding our about their character, is to look at the way they dress.

They way we dress, is a way of telling people who we are.
If you dress like a bum, you are in fact saying to the world....."This is who I am. I am a bum."
If you dress like a successful person, you are saying to the world....."I am successful."

You see, human beings are very visual and the way we groom and dress, tells the world, who we are.

How you dress and groom is a statement to others about the person that you are, on the inside.
Now, the good thing is that we all have control of our dress and grooming.

Successful people look like they are doing well.

What are you telling the world and other people about you, by the way you dress?


Monday, February 11, 2019

Getting Through The Fence Of Fear

                                                     "Fear is the highest fence."
                                                             - Dudley Nichols

My first dog was a Labrador retriever named Holly. It was in the early nineties and I absolutely loved that dog. But when she was a young dog she loved to dig in the yard. Looking back on it now I believe that she was just bored and that she just wanted something to do. On one side of the fence lived another dog and they both dug from each side of the fence to try to meet each other. After a while we finally had to put up an electric fence at the bottom of the tall wood fence to keep Holly from digging and trying to get out of the yard. It helped and she learned quickly to stay away from the electric wire because it would give her an electric chock and that would give her some pain. Holly learned that to avoid the pain she needed to stay on a certain distance from the fence and don't try to get to close to it ever again. Because if she did it would certainly give her pain and make her feel uncomfortable.

You also see the same type of fencing when it comes to cattle. They put up electric wire fencing to keep the cattle inside the designated area. If they get too close to the fence it will  most certainty give them a chock. Animals learn quickly that they don't want to experience pain and learn not to attempt to get out into the other side of the fence. In other words they are staying inside their comfort zone. They know if they remain where they are they won't get hurt and experience pain. Even if the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence and there might be some other cows on the other side of the fence that they might want to meet. They learn quickly to remain where they are.

                                   Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear

This is also true for us humans. As long as we stay within our comfort zone, we usually won't feel any pain or get hurt. But remaining in our comfort zone will eventually choke the life out of our souls. We want to try new things, grow, learn, meet new people, take on new jobs, start new businesses, meet new life partners, make new friends. But we know that this will involve certain risks and also taking a chance that it might not work out. In other words, getting chocked by the electric fence.

Instead we remain at a safe distance from the electric wire, just like the animals do. We continue to dream of bigger and better things, but actually getting to those things means having to go up against the electric wire, feel and endure the pain for a while in order to get to the next level of our lives.
You know if you just walk up to the fence, feel the discomfort and then continue to move on, the pain and the uncomfortable feelings will soon dissipate.

                                          Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will

This past month I have been dealing with a somewhat painful situation. I have been unloading a lot of things in my life in order to be able to move on and get to where I want to go. By now I have done this many times and you think that it would have gotten a little easier. But NO, it hadn't.
Even through it was change that I, myself chose, it was very painful, sad and downright uncomfortable. But stepping out into the unknown is seldom easy and it requires a lot of courage.

It's mentioned a lot that courageous people somehow don't feel fear. Not true. They feel the fear but they decide do go ahead and do what they want to do anyway, despite the fear. They know that they just have to get passed the electric wire for a little bit. Feel the pain for a while. And they also know once they have endured the pain for a little while, they will be on the other side of the fence and there anything is possible.

So, I did what I had planned to do for a while. In order to get to the next level I had to unload some things that were weighing me down. I was excited to do this because I knew it would help to get to the next level.
Sometimes we have to unload things, people, an old job, a relationship that we have outgrown. Maybe we need to move away from the town or the city that we live in for a while to get to start a new more exciting chapter in our lives. Or maybe even move to another country.

                                             To escape fear you have to go through it

During this past month I was brushing up against this electric fence many times. Yes, it was painful. And yes, it was uncomfortable. But I also knew if I persisted, I would be able to push on through the fence and the pain and eventually get to the other side. And I am happy to announce that I did.
But towards the end I really felt that my own mind was playing a trick on me. It felt like my brain got hijacked by all the fears and all the "stinking thinking" of all the things that could go wrong and why I just needed to remain where I was and play it safe. But I knew that it was my brain trying to protect me from danger and letting me know that I better not try to get to this new level.

I kept on pushing and I am happy to announce that even though the pain was uncomfortable, it didn't last too long. I got up to the fence and then I pushed through.
Now I am on the side of the fence and when I reflect back on the experience I am so excited and proud of myself for sticking to my vision and my goals and for enduring the pain while getting to get to the other side of the fence.

                           You gotta get through your fear to see the beauty on the other side.


Monday, February 4, 2019

Create Balance In Your Life

                                                             "Take care of your body.
                                                It's the only place you have got to live."
                                                                - Jim Rohn

It is extremely important that we all take excellent care of our physical health.
We have to make sure that we eat healthy and nutritious food. Make sure that we don't overeat and that we have the proper balance in our diet.
An excellent and well balanced diet will have an immediate effect on our thought and our feelings.
What we put in your mouth will make a huge difference in how we think.
What we think we can feel in our bodes. But what we eat will also effect the way we think. It's a two-way street.

                                         "Those who think they have no time to exercise,
                                          will sooner or later have to find time for illness."
                                                           - Edward Stanley

Resolve to get regular exercise. At least 30 minutes per day or around 200 minutes per week. Choose an exercise that you enjoy doing and you will be more likely to do it. Walking, running, cycling, hiking, swimming or working on equipment in the gym are all excellent choices of movement.
When you exercise on a daily basis, you will feel happier, healthier and you will also experience lower levels of stress, anxiety and fatigue compared to someone who spends their entire evening on the couch glued to the TV, day in and day out.

Make sure that you get plenty of rest and relaxation. Make sure that you will recharge your batteries on a regular basis. If you are going through periods of stress and difficulties in your life, it is even more important that you take time to recharge your batteries. Fatigue doesn't lead to anything good in our lives.

                                                      "Fatigue is different than being tired.
                 When you are tired, you know that if you can just get some rest you will feel better,
                                 but fatigue is still there when you wake up, it stays with you all day.
                    It is a lack of energy, a feeling of mental, emotional and physical exhaustion."

There are a few factors that will predispose us to negative emotions of all kinds and they are..... not taking excellent care of our health, not exercising, non-stop working without proper rest and also fatigue.

In in the end we must all create a balance in our lives.


Wednesday, January 16, 2019

One Month To Live

                                                      "Do what you feel is right,
                                                           and back yourself up.
                                                   Live the life you want to live."
                                                              - Jack Barakat

What would you do if you only have 30 days to live?

Would you change a few things in your life, right away or would you continue to do the same things?

I bet you would change, if you knew that the next 30 days would be your last on this earth.

What kind of changes would you actually make?

Who would you spend time with?

Would you care about what people thought about you?

Would you have any regrets?

Would you continue to waste your time?

The things that you tell yourself that you would do..... "Someday"....would you do those things?

I read this wonderful book a couple of weeks ago written by Kerry and Chris Shook....
One Month To Live.

Kerry and Chris Shook founded Woodlands Church in Texas and they wrote this book together in 2008.

I recommend this book. Pick it up today.

                                                       "One day you will wake up 
                         and there won't be any more time to do the things you always wanted.
                                                                    Do it now."
                                                               - Paulo Coelho


Monday, January 14, 2019

Keep On Learning

                                                               "Never stop learning,
                                                     because life never stops teaching."

I knew this woman once that had a living room filled with bookshelves and all the bookshelves were filled with books.
Almost all books were about nutrition, health, diets and how to have a better life. I was impressed by her library.

I was thinking to myself the first time I met her ……."WOW, this woman must really be a very healthy and nutritious person. She must really live a perfect lifestyle when it comes to being healthy and in shape."

Not so, quite the opposite. She wasn't in good shape at all. And her lifestyle wasn't anything to brag about.

So I finally asked her, "Have you read all of these books?" and her answer was "NO."

"Have you read most of them?" was my next question.
Again her answer was "NO. But I have looked through them a little when I bought them."

And then she told me that she loved to buy books and that she wanted to get in better shape and live a healthier life. But that was a far as she gotten.

In other words her self-help books had become shelf-help books.

You know, the books that you don't read will never help you.
You won't getter better and improve just by buying the books. You you actually have to take the time to read them. And them on top of that you must also implement some of the ideas in the book if you want to grow, learn and expand in life.

I love to buy books too. And I have to admit that I haven't read all the my books that I have bought.
But I have a goal to read a book per week and most of the weeks I am accomplishing this goal.

You never know what kind of ideas you can find hidden in all these books. Be willing to read and look for them.
You never know when you will find the information and the next idea, that will totally change your life.
Be willing to set some time aside to further your own education.
There are books about every topics that you can think of. Be willing to do the work. Read the books.

You know, the majority of people don't ever make it past the first chapter. Don't let that be you.

Reading one book per week will require you to read about 40-50 pages per day. I think it's a great goal to have for 2019.
Read more. And I am talking about..... non-fiction books.

Do yourself a huge favor this year and work on improving yourself and your own mind. At this time next year, you will be glad that you did.
Our education never stops. But once you leave school, it's up to you to keep your education going. No one can make you do it.
It's easy to do.....and easy not to do.

So today I want to challenge you to get that book out that you have been wanting to read for a long time. Take time to actually read it. Cover to cover.
Learn something new and then implement it in your life.


Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Love Heals

                                                             "Love cures people,
                                                        both the ones who give it
                                                       and the ones that receive it."
                                                               - Karl Menninger

It is true that love heals. What do you think?

Unconditional love is the most powerful stimulant of the immune system. The truth is: love heals.
Miracles happen to exceptional patients every day - patients who have the courage to love, those who have the courage to work with their doctor's to participate in and influence their own recovery.

I read an amazing book about a month ago...…
Love, Medicine & Miracles, written by Bernie S. Siegel, M.D.
Lessons learned about self-healing from a surgeon's experience with exceptional patients.

Bernie S. Siegel is also the author of another wonderful book.....Peace, Love and Healing. I read that book a couple of years ago, it too was a fantastic book.

Taking care of unfinished business may someday come to be recognized as the most effective pain reliever and preparation for surgery.

To live is to suffer: to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.

We will never meet anything we can't handle.

A frightened person is really saying, "Love me." But we tend to reject that person and get angry. Then he or she gets more frightened and often hoards anger until it hardens into resentment or hate.
To hate is easy, but it is healthier to love. When you are feeling afraid, if you ask someone for a hug, for some love, the fear will quiet down.

When we choose to love, healing energy is released in our bodies.

Get people to love themselves and listen to their bodies.

Good nutrition is an essential part of any treatment program.

Time after time, research has shown that people who give vent to their negative emotions survive adversity better than those who are emotionally constricted.

There are no incurable diseases, only incurable people.

The healing is better in our conscious minds, but we must look for healing in the dark unconscious.

The body responds to the mind's messages, whether conscious or unconscious.

The mind and the body are not separate units, but one integrated system. How we act and what we think, eat, and feel are all related to health.

                                                    "Love itself is the healing power
                                                         and the remedy for all pain."
                                                              - Hazrat Inayat Khan


Monday, January 7, 2019

Invest In Yourself, Or No One Else Will

                                                 "Investing in yourself is the best investment
                                                                   you will ever make.
                                                        It will not only improve your life, 
                                            it will improve the lives of all those around you."
                                                                    - Robin S. Sharma

It's  sad but true that the majority of  people don't spend time on personal development.
They spend time on developing other skills but most of the time they don't even spend 10 minutes to help and develop themselves. Maybe it's more like one minute per day, if even that.

If we want to live a happy and fulfilling life we must put a little more effort into it.
Learn to exercise your mind on a daily base. Either by reading something or by listening to something educational, empowering and uplifting. Something that will strengthen our mind.

You know, our environment is a lot of times tearing us down. And sometimes the people that we have to be around can be negative and sometimes toxic. So in order to withstand the pressure of the negativity that we are being bombarded with on a daily base it's important that we take some time to work on ourselves and to strengthen our own mind.

We must constantly also work on our own thoughts and feelings. Little by little every day will in the end make a huge difference. But we have to start somewhere. Why not start today, right where you are. No more excuses. Today is the perfect day to start making a change in your life.

Make yourself the most important person right now and decide that you are going to work on yourself for a few minutes per day, every day.
Decide that you are going to do the work.

This is why I wrote my latest book.....
A Daily Dose of Soul Food - 365 inspirations that will change your life today.
You can order it here.....

If you only have a few minutes to spare to start making a change in your life, I suggest that you pick up my book today.

In this book you will find inspiration, strength and comfort in the special messages and it will give you the impetus to keep moving forward on your path.

Invest in yourself, or no one else will.


Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Living On Less

                                                         "Whatever your income,
                                                   always live below your means."
                                                           - Thomas J. Stanley

                                           "Average people live beyond their means.
                                                       Rich people live below theirs.
                                                                 - Steven Siebold 

Have you read the book.....The Millionaire Next Door, written by Thomas J. Stanley Ph. D and William D. Danko?

It's a fantastic book and I strongly recommend it.

But today I want to talk about another great book also written by Thomas J. Stanley..... called Millionaire Women Next Door. The Many Journeys Of Successful American Businesswomen.

Do you have a clearly defined set of daily, weekly, monthly, annual, and lifetime goals?

Do you want to become wealthy to consume more?

Do you usually live below your means or beyond?

Most Americans are not free. They are chained to their paychecks.
The women profiled herein will not tolerate such an existence. They are a different breed.
They are cultivators of wealth and satisfied with life. They are in control of their own destiny.

So how did these women become wealthy?

What contributes to their happiness and high self-esteem?

What types of vocations did these women choose?

How many hours per week do they work?

Why are they so successful?

How do some women become millionaires while working part-time?

You will get the answers to these questions and many more questions that you might have, by reading this great book. I recommend it!

                                                       Just because you can afford it,
                                                  doesn't mean that you should buy it.
                                                                 - Suzy Orman


Monday, December 31, 2018

You Have The Power To Stay Calm

                                             "One of the best lessons you can learn in life,
                                                                 it to remain calm."
                                                               - Catherine Pulsifer

Have you ever paid attention to animals out in nature when they fight?
Most of the time the fighting only last for a short period of time. Probably only a few seconds. When birds are through fighting they move away from each other, shake their bodies, flap their wings and then they move on.
Same things when dogs or cats fight. It might sound bad when they are rolling around on the ground, showing their teeth and growling, but most of the time it's over with in a matter of seconds and then they get up, shake their bodies and move on.
Animals don't hold a grudge. They don't plan to get even with the animal that started the fight. They are not gossiping and posting mean and hurtful words on Facebook. They don't gossip and try to sabotage for other animals.
What do they do? The fight quickly, shake it off and then they move on.

What do we humans do?
The opposite. We hang onto anger, resentment, jealousy, bitterness for a very long time. For some people, maybe their whole life.
"My parents did me wrong, so I will never forgive them for what they did." or  "My spouse treated me like crap, so I will talk bad about him/her every chance that I get. And I don't care who listens. Every person that I met for the rest of my life, will know what I bad husband/wife, he/she was.
I will show him/her."

I believe we have a lot to learn from the animals. We must learn to let things go. And the sooner we can do this, the better off we are. But instead of acting like the animals we hang onto things forever and that will eventually wreck havoc in our own lives.
We allow other people and the world to disturb our peace.

Have you ever paid attention to the waves of the ocean.
They come in all sizes and sometimes when there is a storm going on, the waves are huge. But if you go below the surface just a little bit, you will discover that there is always calm there. If we can learn to just remain there in the calm water, just below the surface when upsetting things, other people's drama and the chaos in the world is going on, we will feel so much better. And in the end we will have happiness, freedom and peace of mind.
But what do most of us do? We just jump straight into the water and the waves. The problem with this approach is that most people don't know how to surf and the waves will constantly keep on knocking them over.
This is an exhausting way to live. Being reactive all the time. It will wear you completely out. You will waste a lot of precious mental energy that can be used for something better, like pursuing your vision, for example.

One reason why I think that having a vision for our life is a must, is that I will actually work like a giant magnet. It will pull us through thinking and spending too much of our time in the past. And it will also help us with the every day distraction that are pulling us sideways.
What do I mean by distractions. Other people's agenda, the chaos in the world, people's drama and their craziness. If you keep on focus on these things, the distractions from the past and also the distractions form the world and other people, it will be hard for you to reach your destiny. What you're meant to do on this earth.

A few weeks ago a got off track and ended up in the ditch, as I call it.
I had gotten involved with a little bit of drama from another person, which I allowed to disturb my own peace of mind. I allowed it to get in the way of where I was going.
You know our own mind can sometimes hijack us. Well I have to admit that my own thoughts hijacked me that day and allowed my mind to take me to a place where I really didn't want to go. I allowed myself to get in the middle of the waves in the ocean, without knowing how to surf.
It is a good way to drown in your own "stinking thinking."

Later in the day, I was talking to a great friend and confidant about what had happened and she told me a story about when she was young and allow the actions of her boyfriend to disturb her peace of mind. Actually she couldn't sleep for one night and she told me that the next morning she made an agreement with herself, to not to ever allow the little stuff, that is actually not that important, to ever disrupt her sleep again. It really wasn't that big of a deal.

Later, I was talking to another good friend of mine, but I didn't not tell her what had happened during the day and she was basically telling me the same thing, never sweat the little stuff. Learn to let it go quickly.

And then a few hours later, the same day I was watching my dog Lady, chewing on a piece of rawhide on the floor. At the same time another dog was running back and forth in front of her, just barking up a storm. But the neat thing was that Lady didn't even look up. She didn't allow this dog to disturb her peace and her enjoying chewing on that bone.

So I told myself....."Wow, my own dog is better than me at not allowing the little stuff  to bother her." Amazing.....I must learn from her.
Both my friends told me not to let the little stuff, that really isn't between me and my destiny to affect me. In other wasn't important and I was making a big thing out of something small. I allowed my own brain to take me for a big ride.

So I have decided that I need to work on being in the calm water below the surface of the ocean.
I must stop reacting and stay out of the choppy waters as much as I can.

Does this sound familiar to you?
Do you spend a lot of time in choppy water, but you don't know how to either swim of surf? I believe a lot of us do. We are more reactive instead of just responding and then shake it off as quickly as possible.
In this area we have a lot to learn from the animals.  Your own peace of mind is the most valuable thing that you have. Don't allow other people's drama and the chaos of the world to take you down on a undesirable path.

(Here is a blog a wrote a while back..... react vs respond)

We have the power to choose our own thoughts.
We also have the power to react or to just simply respond and then release. It's totally up to us.

We mustn't allow the actions of the world and the actions of other people to hijack our brain. I know …….sometimes it's easier said than done, but with some practice we can remain in the calm waters below the surface and simply decide to respond and walk away.
That way we will conserve our energy for more important battles and storms in our lives. The battles that are worth fighting for. But if the battle isn't between you and your destiny, let it go. Because if you get involved in it, you might even miss your destiny.

Stay on your path and stay in the calm water, below the surface.


Wednesday, December 26, 2018

If You Have A Dream, Do Yourself A Favor And Pursue It

                          It's not about what you have. It's about what you do with what you have. 
                                I am talking about knowledge, talents, wisdom and experiences.
                                             Apply what you have. Share it with the world.

Now is the perfect time to think about where you are and where you wan to go from here.
I believe we always need a big goal to help us grow and evolve.
So think of a dream that you really want to achieve.

                                                 "The start is what stops most people."
                                                                   - Don Shula

What do you want to accomplish in the next year, 2, 3 or 5 years?
What do you want to be, to have or to do?

Since this year is soon coming to an end, I just want you to spend some time thinking about what you want for 2019.
Have you got some goals already written down?

I suggest that you set some goals for every are of your life
- Your relationships
- Your physical being
- Your job/career
- Your mental development
- Your finances
- Your spiritual alignment

                     "Believe in your vision for the future even when others don't understand you."
                                                                      - Billy Cox

When you truly decide to do something, you are committed to achieving the result. You cut yourself off from any other possibility.

                           Nobody is going to knock on your door and push you to do anything.
                                                         It has to come from you.

- Do you know what you really want?
- Are you ready to commit to it?

If you desire something greater for yourself, 
don't put off your plans to change until some later date.
Make today the day.


Monday, December 17, 2018

A New You - The Story About Ditto, The Dog

                                              "The new year will be like the old one
                                            if you keep on doing the same old things."
                                                            - Jean-Paul Mafatti

A dear friend of mine has a dog and his name is Ditto.
He is three year old Springer Spaniel. Wonderful dog, except for one thing, he is not disciplined at all. He is full of energy, just like you would expect an adolescent is going to be. But not being disciplined is creating a pretty big problem in his life. He constantly jumps on people and he is big and powerful enough to knock you down. He doesn't listen to anything you tell him to do. Basically, he runs the show, around my friends house. Not good.

Now we know that there usually aren't any bad dogs, just bad dog-owners. It isn't his fault that my friend hasn't take the time to discipline him. I have to admit that my friend is a little on the lazy side ( I hope she isn't reading this blog) and she doesn't want to take the time to teach him. She doesn't have the patience either to follow through on her discipline. Don't get me wrong, this dog is very loved and well taken care of and Anne is a wonderful person and a great friend.

Cesar Milan, also known as "The Dog-whisperer" on TV,
always talks about how a dog needs three things to live a happy and balanced life and those three things are 1. exercise, 2. discipline and 3. love. They need all three. And if you have ever watched his show you will soon realize that most people are great at giving love, some exercise but very seldom do they want to disciple their dogs. And this is why Cesar Milan has a lot of work to do with the dog-owners. It's the dog-owners that need the training, not the dogs. See the thing is,  dogs love discipline and they love routines. It makes them very happy and fulfilled. (same thing with humans).

In the beginning the dogs might fight you for a while when you are starting a new program with them that now includes discipline. You must be patient with them because they have been able to do whatever they wanted for a long time, and all of a sudden they are not able to do it, and they now have a new daily routine. And the things that they did before, they are no longer allowed to do. It can be a little confusing to them in the beginning.

My friend Anne asked me to help her with her dog Ditto. He needed more discipline in his life. I took him on as my new project. To be honest with you both my friend Anne and Ditto both need discipline in their lives.
At first Ditto fought me like crazy. When I took him on walks, he didn't want to walk on a leash or do anything I wanted him to do. But I am stubborn and I have patience, and I have also trained a quite few dogs of my own, so I knew what to expect. It got a little easier as the days and weeks went by. But somedays he didn't want to do anything and simply refused. The next day he did a lot better. It is taking some time, but overall he has gotten a lot better and he is well on his way to becoming a very well behaved dog. Now I just have to go to work on my friend, Anne. She too have to become more disciplined herself and also she must now enforce the new disciplines or Ditto will eventually just go back to being a stubborn dog and he will probably be and running the household again. And we don't want that to happen.

By now you are probably wondering where I am going with this story about my friend Anne and her dog, Ditto?

It's the same thing in our own lives, as human being. Here is an example of what I am talking about.
Maybe you have been eating wrong for many years and you decide that you are now going to start eating healthier and start exercising. In other words you are going to develop a few new disciplines in your life, on a daily base.
First your "old you" is not going to like the new disciplines but your potential "new you" is fighting back and trying to keep the "old you" on track with healthier habits. Some days are easier than others. All of a sudden one day you are taking several steps forward, but then a few days later, something happens and you are now back to where you were a week or two ago. You feel frustrated and sometimes you might even want to give up because you can't see any change.

Progress and new disciplines take time to develop and you have to be very patient with yourself. But at the same time the new disciplines makes you feel better. You are happier and your life seems to be a little easier.

We are all very much like the dog Ditto, that I am talking about. It's hard to learn new disciplines when you have been able to do whatever you wanted to do, when you wanted to do them.
Yes, it's hard to get off the coach in the evening, and go for a walk or go to the gym, especially since you have been on it for years watching TV every night.
It's hard to quit eating the hamburgers or the ice-cream and instead choose a salad and some fruit for dessert. It's difficult in the beginning because you don't see any changes and you might even think that you are an impossible case, and that it's too late for you to accomplish your dream.

But you have to keep on going. You will eventually see great results. Maybe not as fast as you want them to happen, but I promise you..... they will happen. Unless you quit your new routine and give into the "old you."
In the end it's all  worth it. A few new disciplines implemented on a daily base will make your life so much easier down the road.
Do the work today and then live like a champion later.

My work with Ditto isn't over with. But now I also have to go to work on his human, Anne, because she needs to continue the disciplines on a daily base or Ditto will go back to his "old self"' and we definitely don't want that.

It's like a constant fight in the beginning between the "old you" and the "new you" that wants to emerge.
Yes, it takes a lot of work and self discipline. It's simple to talk about new disciplines and new plans for your new life but it is not always that easy to make it happen . The "old you is fighting hard to keep you were you used to be while the "new you" is showing you a better and more empowering  way to be and to live. Make sure that the "new you" wins. Even thought some days you might want to go back to the "old you." If you get knocked off your new path and end up in the ditch, just make sure that you will not stay there too long.
Simply, get back on track on the journey of becoming a better, happier, healthier and more empowered "new you."

                                                         "If you want something new,
                                                you have to stop doing something old."
                                                                   - Peter Drucker

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Wednesday, December 12, 2018

Give The World What You Got

                                              "Don't cheat the world of your contribution.
                                                              Give it what you got."
                                                                 - Steven Pressfield

It's not about what you have. It's about what you do with what you have. It doesn't matter if it's talents or your gifts, knowledge, wisdom or experience. What matters is that you start applying what you have, right now. Share it with the world.

You are good enough and you have something to share with the world to make it a better place. Start sharing today. Do be shy. Don't bury your talents by your fear. Come out of hiding today.

                                                     "Fear and self-doubt have always been 
                                                     the greatest enemies of human potential."
                                                                         - Brian Tracy

You know, there will never be the perfect time to start. Actually the perfect time is NOW.

Stop trying to be perfect. Perfectionism is an illusion and prevents you from reaching your goal. Act quickly, doing the best you can. Look around you right now, can you see any opportunities? Are there things that you have been thinking about that you would like to do? Have you had any great ideas lately? You know, you have to act on these ideas and opportunities, or nothing will happen.

                                              "Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence
                                                     is the key to unlocking our potential."
                                                                 - Winston Churchill

Are you playing it safe or going for what you really want? For those who take a leap, it's always worth it in the end. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
What if in just one year, your life could be transformed?

                                                       "We'll never know our full potential
                                                        unless we push ourselves to find it."
                                                                        - Travis Rice

Now is the perfect time to look at where you are right now and where you want to go from here.
We need a big goal to help us grow, expand and for us to be happy.
So right now, I want you to think of a dream that you would really like to achieve. Go for something big. Something that makes you jump out of bed every morning and during the day you can hardly stop thinking about it. Something that will change your life forever.
Go Big!

                                              "There is no paycheck that can equal the feeling
                                              of contentment that comes from being the person
                                                                  you are meant to be."
                                                                       - Oprah Winfrey


Monday, December 10, 2018

You Don't Know Your Full Potential Unless You Push Yourself To Find It

                                                  "The vision that we create in our minds,
                                                        is the blue print of our destiny."

2018 is almost over with. Three weeks left of this year.

How are you coming along with your goals and your future vision for your life?

Were you able to accomplish the goals that you set up for yourself and your life?

If not, do you know what happened? 
What did you do wrong and how can you correct it for this coming year so that you can get back on track towards the future you want to see and experience?

If you were able yo accomplish your goals, what did you do right and what are you going to do for this coming year to continue on your path towards living the life that you have envisioned for yourself?

I believe that we must all sit down at the end of the year and reflect back on this year that went by and figure out what we did that worked. 
What we can do better and what we must improve on. What we must stop doing because it doesn't work. 
And last we must celebrate and appreciate ourselves for doing a great job and striving to want to do better for this coming year.

If you don't have a future vision for your life, I suggest that you take some time to sit down and figure out what you really want. Have a pen and a notebook and start writing down all the things that come to your mind.
It might take a little time to figure out what you want, because a lot of people are so busy taking care of the need of all the people around them that they seldom have time to think of what they actually want for themselves.

But how can you strive for something if you don't know what it is?
How can you hit a target if you don't know what it is?
You can't.
But only you can figure it out. 
You have to figure out what you want and what will work for you. Not what anyone else think and what will work for them. 
No, what you want and what will work for you.

Here are a few steps for you to follow.

Develop a vision. Let's call it future visioning.
What do you want your life to look like?
Your job, your intimate relationship, friendships,  health, hobbies, finances and your personal development.
Who do you want to become?

Develop a vision and then work towards it. 

You want to be going somewhere.
Figure out what isn't working in your life and then stop doing those things.
Then figure out your ideal future. What does it look like, and the figure out what you must start doing in order to move closer to where you want to be in the future. 
We can call it a planned sequence of behavior. 

So tonight sit down and have a conversation with yourself. Plan the life that you want to have.

Develop a vision.
Break down the goal into micro processes.
Make a daily schedule and stick to it.
Learn from your errors.
Aim high and strive to attain it. 
Put some effort into your life. Doing nothing is easy.
Take great care of yourself because you are valuable.

Your future depend on what you do today. 
You are what you do, not what you say you will do.
Don't wait, the time will never be right.
Be the energy that you want tot attract..

                                    "There is no heavier burden that an unfulfilled potential."
                                                                - Charles Schultz

If you do the work, the change you want will happen
No more trying. Get it done.
It's not easy. But it's worth it.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Wherever You Are, Be All There

                                                             "Be here, be present.
                                                               Wherever you are,
                                                                     be there."
                                                              - Willie Nelson

Today I wan to talk about a pattern that most of us are seeing and experiencing more and more of in our lives.

We are having a hard time being present in the moment and we are having a hard time being present with other people.

It's sad to see families eating together, but instead of talking and connecting with each other they are all on different electronic devices.

I see mothers out walking with their children or at the playground and instead of paying attention and being there 100 percent with their child, they are on the phone, talking or texting.

What has happened? Why can't we be present with each other anymore, without constantly looking at our phone or staring at an iPad or a computer?

About a month ago I was in a business meeting with a man in his office. I was there for about an hour. The whole time we were talking he was constantly glancing at his computer screen.
I felt as we were three people in this meeting. Actually I felt more like he didn't really wanted to be there talking to me. This meeting wasn't important to him.

But I also know that his behavior had nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. He just wasn't present in the moment. And I would imagine that he is doing this with a lot of other people too.
It's a pattern of behavior. Not a good one, I might add.

Can you imagine when you do this to your child. They don't have the brain capacity to understand that the parents behavior, isn't their fault. Instead they will blame themselves and think that they are not important in their parents life. Maybe they might even feel like they are not lovable, because if they were, their parents would be paying attention to and spend time with them, instead of constantly staring at a screen.
What kind of messages are we sending to our children?

A couple of years ago I remember having dinner with this particular man. We probably met about three times. And every time we sat down to eat, he always made sure that his phone was on the table and that he could see the screen. Ever so often the phone would make a sound, indicating that there was a notification for him. So every time the phone would make a sound, this man would stare at the phone and read the message.
I can understand that if you are expecting an important phone call that you want to keep your phone close to you. But then you need to inform the other person what is going on. That you need to answer the phone when this person is calling you.
You can imagine how much I enjoyed dining out with this man? Well, after doing this for a couple of times, I didn't want to meet with this person anymore. I gave him my undivided attention and I expected the same treatment from him.
Again his behavior had nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. My time is precious and I will only spend it with people who appreciate it.

Don't get me wrong, I love my computer and what it can do. I use it almost every day in my business. And I think a cell phone is also a wonderful invention. But too much of anything will wreck havoc in our lives. But what is too much?

What do you think?
Are you spending a lot of time staring at screes, when instead you should be present with other people?

Be Present, Be Mindful, Be There!


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