Friday, March 31, 2017

Be Committed To Finish What You Started

                     "Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do
                                    long after the mood you said it is has left you."

It doesn't matter where you are in life, in business, or in your relationships. If you are going after something that is important and matters to must keep on going.

Don't give up just because things are hard. You are never given anything in this world that you can't handle. You must stay strong and flexible. Eventually you will have a breakthrough.

Every goal you set comes with challenges. Don't give up. Keep on pushing. You will get there.

You are capable of so much more than you can imagine.
The moment you want to quit you must stop and think of the reason you started. Don't quit.

Your mind will try to quit 100 times before your body will.

Never give up on something that is important to you because of the time it will take to accomplish it or because it gets difficult.

Don't look back because that is not the direction you are going. Move forward.....even if the steps are very small.

Never lose your dream, your drive and your determination. Keep on pushing through anything and everything. No matter what.

You can do this.....I believe in YOU!

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Quit Your Bad Habit Today So That You Can Have A Better Tomorrow

                                                 "Bad habits are easier to abandon
                                                             today than tomorrow."

Have you ever tried giving up something you really cigarettes, alcohol, candy, junk food, coffee, complaining, gossiping, spending too much money, shopping, gambling or watching hours of TV?

Quitting can often seem incredibly hard, so much that we don't want to put ourselves through the suffering that comes with quitting something that we love.

So what is often standing in our way of changing our behavior? One thing is that often we don't believe that we can't do it. We have tried several times before without success and we don't want to repeat that feeling again. The feeling of being a "failure."
At first when you want to give up something that you rely on, it seems easy. "Yes I can do this...... and this isn't bad at all."  Actually it might make you feel excited about it.
But then after a while and things get a little tough your mind start to shout, "This is too hard, I can't do this, It is way too much work and I want to give up." You tell yourself "Just cheating once won't matter. "Just once won't hurt anything..... No one will ever find out."
But in the long run it will matter. One neglect often leads to another and yet another.

You can totally fix this. To be able to be successful you must first examine your beliefs and then you have to change them. Our beliefs are changeable. Change your beliefs is the starting point and then you have to self-experiment with those new beliefs. Maybe you felt like those old beliefs were true but so are your new beliefs, because you tried them out and they worked.

The suffering of withdrawal from actual physical addiction like sugar, caffeine, junk food or cigarettes really only lasts a short period of time. But remember that there are also a lot other things that are very tough that we have gone through and made it the death of a loved one, child birth, losing a job, maybe running a marathon, starting a new business. Things are never as hard as we think they are going to be. Tough times will eventually make us stronger and make us better than before.

Find a few strategies that will work for you. If you are trying to quit smoking or drinking don't hang out with you friends that like to go to bars. If you are trying to lose weight stay away from eating out and instead cook your meals at home.
Learn a few tricks to get through when your urge hits.

One big problem with quitting something is that a lot of times we use our addictions as a coping mechanism. It is our way of dealing with our problems. When we feeling sad, angry, stressed, neglected, not loved, socializing in uncomfortable situations, disappointed or going through a crisis..... we often use the addiction to cope.
A few tips that might help. If you feel stressed go for a walk or a run. Get outside in nature. Talk to other people about your situation and maybe they can help. If you are feeling sad, remind yourself that it is OK to sometimes have this feeling. Life isn't always happy moments. It includes sadness too.
Practice gratitude for what you have in your life. Call a friend. If you are in the middle of a crisis you might want to learn from it. What is it here to tell me? Be curious. There is usually always a reason why it is happening. Get away from the crisis, even if it only for a few minutes. Walk outside, meditate or spend some time out in your garden. It will give you some breathing room and it will give you a new perspective.

Quitting something that you have done for a long time is very hard. But NOT quitting bad habits, addiction and neglect is actually harder. Because if you don't you might have to deal with bigger problems in the future like health problems, excess weight, job loss, money problems or relationship problems.

Using unhealthy habits as a form of avoiding our feelings is only going to give you a temporary relief. They never take away the problem and they can actually make the problem worse.

A little suffering and discipline today..... so that you can avoid years of pain and regret later in life.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 27, 2017

Design Your Own Life

                                            If you don't design your own life plan,
                                  chances are that you'll fall into someone else's plan.
                                         And guess what they have planned for you?
                                                                NOT MUCH!"
                                                                   - Jim Rohn

Do you spend more time planning your vacation than you do your future and your life?
Most people do.

So why don't more people take time to think about how they want their future to look like?
It is a very simple to answer to this. It's because most people get so busy and wrapped up in the current moment that it doesn't seem to matter to them to plan their life and their future.
The problems, the daily drama of people's lives and also the rewards of today and the present moment are so absorbing to a lot of human beings that they never seem to take a break long enough to think about tomorrow and their future.

If we could only develop a little bit of discipline and take a few minutes every day to look a little further down the road. Take a little time on a daily base and sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and ponder on how we would like our future to look like. Really think about what we want. Most people don't even know  what they want. They haven't asked themselves this question for a very long time.

If we could just take a little time every day we would see the impending consequences of our current conduct. And by disciplining ourselves to see the future in advance we would be able to change our thinking, our habits and amend our errors and develop new habits to replace the old.

Never get so busy trying to make a living that you forget to design your own life.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 24, 2017

How To Create A Plan That Will Improve Your Life

                                           "Setting goals is the first step in turning
                                                     the invisible into the visible."
                                                              - Tony Robbins

Anytime you want to you can improve your life.

The starting point of any change and improvement of your life starts with setting a few goals.

Practice "Back from the Future" thinking.
Project forward to the end of the next twelve months and then ask yourself,  "If everything  happened the way I want it to happen, what would my life look like in one year?"

Have the ability to visualize the future in advance and it will assist you in making your plan into a reality.

Here is a goal setting exercise that will help you accomplish your dream.

Step one. Decide exactly what you want in each area of your life. Clarity is the most important single quality of  goals-setting. "You can't hit a target that you can't see." Always be specific. If you want to earn more money.....decide how much and be specific about the time. How long will it take for you to earn this money.

Step two. Always put your goals in writing. Only 3% of Americans or adults have written goals. Most people make huge plans when it comes to their vacation but they forget to plan their own lives. One important key to success is to "think on paper."

Step Three. Set a deadline for when you want to have your goals accomplished. A deadline will let your subconscious mind know that you are serious and it will force you toward your goal and at the same time it moves your goal closer to you.

Step four. Make a list of everything you could possible do to be able to achieve your goal.

Step five. Take the list above and organize it by priority and importance. Decide on what you will do first and what you can do later. Decide on what is most important to you and then start moving towards that goal.

Step six. Take action. Nothing happens until you move. This step is where a lot of people procrastinate. Most people have great ideas.....but they fail on acting on them. Taking action is a must to be able to accomplish your dream.

Step seven. Do something every single day that will move you towards your major goal.

A goal without a plan is just a wish.

                                                 Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

True Change Is Never Easy

                                          "All great changes are preceded by chaos."

Changing is never easy. True transformation never is. But of course it can be done. It doesn't matter where you are struggling in your life right now.....never ever give up on what is important to you.

I have a client, lets call her Amy and her husband Bob. They also have two wonderful children
Amy come to me for help over two year ago. Her husband Bob was having big difficulties with his job and they were having big problems in their family life.

On the surface it looked like they had everything. A perfect life. Nice home in a great neighborhood. Both having great careers and their children were wonderful. Bob had a job as a sales person with a big insurance company. A great job that he liked but it meant long hours at the office and quite a bit of out of town travelling. Amy also worked in the insurance business but only part time.

It all sounds pretty good.....right? But there was a dark side, too.

Bob was struggling with a nagging and hidden insecurity that was messing with his mind on a daily base. He didn't feel like he was good enough for his wife and he was also concerned that he didn't do a good job at his company. He didn't feel good enough at anything. And at times Bob also felt very depressed.

To ease the pain and the negative thoughts, Bob often turned to alcohol. A drink or two almost every evening after work. And then his depression would all of a sudden show up, and to deal with it he turned to a few more drinks.
When Bob was on the road away from the family he would hang out in the hotel bar in the evening to sooth his feelings of loneliness and unworthiness.

As a young kid Bob often witness his own father deal with problems and stressful situation by drinking alcohol every evening after work and sometimes all day on the weekends.

After a couple of years Bob's drinking became a huge problem for his family life and also his job.
Drinking led to overeating and also drugs. And by now his life was spiraling out of control. He could no longer hide his problems at home or at work.

He finally realized that if he continues on his self-destructive path he would end up an alcoholic like his father. He also knew that he would lose his marriage and his relationship with his children. Also he would probably lose his job.

So what did Bob do?

Bob decided to not follow in his fathers footsteps. Instead he decided to clean himself up for the sake of his wife and his beautiful children.

What Bob did took great strength. He checked himself into rehab where he spent two months getting clean and sober. And he has been that way for over a year now.
Today Bob is a lot happier. His marriage is strong. He is more open with his wife, friends and co-workers and he is having the energy to keep up with his children.

But not a lot of people turn their life around. Most take the easier but darker path. Going deeper and deeper into the depth of despair when life is getting tough and they are being tested.

Bob's father took the wrong and darker road, instead of changing. His dad chose the easy way, more drinking and less responsibility. It left huge scars on Bob and he didn't want to inflict such wounds on his own children. Bob wanted to stick around for his wonderful wife and to see their young children become adults.

Fortunately when Bob was faced with the toughest decision of his life..... he decided to fight.
He chose a new direction and he wanted to change because of his family. Bob was embarrassed by his behavior and he felt too ashamed to reach out for help. But he finally did.
He finally admitted that there was a problem. He took responsibility and he knew that he had to make some changes.

So what did Bob to right?
First he admitted he had a problem and he asked for help. Then he held himself accountable for his own recovery and to health professionals. His found an incentive - his family. He made plans of how he wanted his life to look like. He made plans for his future with his family and his job. Finally he set a deadline for changing and checking into rehab.
Today Bob is always willing to ask for help when things get tough.

Don't be afraid of change. It is leading to a new beginning.

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 20, 2017

Listen To Your Body

                                                  Embrace and love your body,
                                  it is the most amazing thing you will ever own.

Our bodies will constantly keep on sending us messages.  Listening to your body is to recognize that it speaks to you.

By listening to your body you can figure out what is working well in your life and what is not.

Are you are having feelings of heaviness, tightness and achiness?

These feelings are associated with things that are lowering your vibration and they are telling you that something isn't working in your life.

But when your body is feeling light, quick and flexible, you are doing something that is heightening your vibration. You are doing something that is working.

Where in your life are you feeling heaviness right now?

Is there maybe at a job that you are not feeling fulfilled?

Or maybe in a relationship that you have outgrown and is now making you feel empty?

Maybe some kind of change is needed to get the energy back in your life?

Time to start listening to your body. It will keep on sending you messages until you start to pay attention.

Be attentive to all messages you receive from your physical, emotional and mental body.

A healthy outside starts from the inside.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach


Friday, March 17, 2017

Turn Your Wounds Into Wisdom

                                               "Turn your wounds into wisdom"
                                                             - Oprah Winfrey

If you are going through a painful situation right now or have in the past. Try to find the higher purpose for your pain and your suffering.

When we go through a crisis, a difficult time or a painful situation, there is always a breakthrough on the other side.

All you have to do is to get to the other side and the willingness to look at the situation.

What is this difficulty or crisis here to tell me?

A new level is waiting for you on the other side of the crisis or the breakdown.

Remember that you can't do anything about your past. You can't change it no matter how hard you try. It's done and over with. You can only learn from it.

But you can do something about your future.

To dramatically improve your odds of making your future better you have to take responsibility for designing your own future.

Start by leaving your old story behind and create a brand new and more empowering one.

Set your own sail and navigate yourself out of the storm and into calmer water.

                                          "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.
                                              It is about learning to dance in the rain."
                                                                  - Vivian Green


Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Learn To Master Your Mind

                                                 "He who control his own thoughts,
                                                            controls his destiny."
                                                                     - Ross Arntson

Our own mind constantly plays games with us.
Our brain is 2 million years old and it is not designed to make us happy. It is designed to make us survive. It is always looking for what is wrong so it can fight or flight.
Since we have no bears to run from like we used to have, our brain is now thinking and worrying about  "What are people going to think of me?" or "I wonder if my picture looks good enough on social media?" or "Am I good enough?" and "Do I have enough money?"
We have a constant chatter going on in our minds.

A lot of times what makes us suffer is our own thoughts.
We can have thoughts that will make us feel like crap. Thoughts like anger, frustration, worry, overwhelm, lonely or stressed. These thoughts will make us suffer.
Or we can have thoughts that will make us feel good. Thoughts like gratitude, happiness, joy, love, support or creativity.

Most people will never learn how to master their mind, or their "Inner World." So instead their minds go crazy and it is racing all over the place.....all the time.
We believe our thoughts. "If this doesn't happen, I will be so stressed and forever unhappy."
Most of these thoughts are just a lot of nonsense.

First rule.....don't believe everything that you think. The mind is looking for what is wrong.
Rule number two.....change your thoughts of frustration, anger, resentment, guilt and unhappiness to thoughts of love, joy, gratitude and happiness.

Where focus flows. Stop suffering today by changing your thoughts.

Train your mind to be in a beautiful state most of the time. When you feel a negative thought coming, just allow it to show up, but only give it a limited time to stick around and then send it off.
For example say....."Thank you for your concern but I don't need your help right now. I got this!"

Remember our mind likes to play games with us. To fall into this trap.

When you are in a beautiful state..... you feel better and you treat others better. It is also a lot easier to solve problems when you are in a great state. Life is way to short to suffer.

To have beauty in your life you must decide to be happy no matter what is going on or happens in your life. A lot of times we can't control the "Outer World" but we can control how we react, what we think and what we do.....our "Inner World."

Become emotionally fit. Become stronger mentally and emotionally. Learn new things. Drive yourself and take action. As long as you will allow your stress and thoughts to dominate will be hard to change. Make yourself be in a wonderful state.

Control your thoughts and what you focus on.
Take control of your life. Don't let life just happen to you.
Stop negotiating with your mind.
Design your life the way you want it.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 13, 2017

The Fear of Feeling Incompetent

                                               "Making a big change is pretty scary.
                                                   But, know what's even scarier?

Most of us have a natural resistance to change.

A lot of people like everything to remain the same. Only then will they feel comfortable. But it is when we are the most uncomfortable that we learn the most.

The need for security will keep us stuck in our comfort zones.  And eventually it will suck the life out of our souls.

We are so worried about changing our lives, so afraid of  the unknown..... that we will often miss out on opportunities to better our lives.

But is it really the fear and resistance to change that is the reason?

If we dig a little deeper we might discover that resistance to change is just the symptom and the deeper reason is that most people have a natural resistance to feeling incompetent.

We don't want to look and feel incompetent..... and change has the potential to activate that feeling within us.

In other words..... we feel uncomfortable trying something new.....because if we don't know how to do will make us feel humiliated and incompetent.

But how can we ever learn anything new..... if we don't allow ourselves to get out of our comfort zone and deal with feeling a little uncomfortable for a while until we learn?
We are all beginners at some point, but we are all capable of learning new things.

Growing and expanding makes our soul feel alive.

Discomfort doesn't lead to breakdowns. It will lead to breakthroughs.

                                                        "Growth is painful.
                                                         Change is painful.
                                But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere
                                                          you don't belong.
                                                             - Mandy Hale

Today.....try something new. Trying something new will often lead to something better.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 10, 2017

Small Steps Can Lead To Big Changes

             "You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.
                              The secret of your success is found in your daily routine."

The reason people fail to change their lives and fail to install new habits is that they try to do too much at once. They bite off more than they can chew.

In other words.....if you new habit requires more willpower than you can muster up, you will fail. If you new habit requires less willpower than you can muster, you will succeed.

Is there anything more important than your habits? Not really. Habits form about 45% of our total behavior and these are behaviors that we repeat frequently. Habits are your foundation and if this foundation is weak, you probably won't be happy with your life.

How can we change this?
By installing some smaller habits or mini-habits.
Shrink everything down to bite-size portions. If you make the new habits smaller, you will immediately get the feeling that you can handle it and then the great thing will take action because you feel capable of doing it.
Remove the pressure and the expectations.

Once you start, you will find that good things will happen.

Do 5 push-ups
Meditate for one minute
Walk outside for 10 minutes
Read for 5 minutes
Drink one glass of water
Write 25-30 words in your journal
Do yoga for 5 minutes
Eat one fruit every day

Small steps can lead to big changes!

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Great Book - The Untethered Soul, by Michael A.Singer

                            "Ninety-nine percent of your thoughts are a complete waste of time.
                                                They do nothing but freak you out."
                                                               - Michael Singer

     What would it be like to be free from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to find this kind if inner peace and freedom? The untethered Soul offers a simple, profound intuitive answer to these questions. Whether this is your first exploration of inner peace or you're devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you.

     Wise beings do not want to remain a slave to the fear of pain. They permit the world to be what it is instead of being afraid of it. They whole-heartedly participate in life, but not for the purpose of using life to avoid themselves. If life does something that causes a disturbance inside of you, instead of pulling away, let it pass through you like the wind. After all, things happen every day that cause inner disturbance. At any moment you can feel frustrated, anger, fear, jealousy, insecurity, or embarrassment. If you want to be free, you have to learn to stop fighting these human feelings.  
     When you feel pain, simply view it as energy. Just start seeing these inner experiences as energy passing though your heart and before your consciousness. Then relax. Do the opposite of contracting and closing. Relax and release. Relax your heart until you are actually face-to-face with the exact place where it hurts. Stay open and receptive so you can be present right where the tension is. You must be willing to be present right at the place of the tightness and pain, and then relax and go even deeper. This is very deep growth and transformation. But you will not want to do this. You will feel tremendous resistance to doing this, and that's what makes it so powerful. As you relax and feel resistance, the heart will want to pull away, to close, to protect, and to defend itself. Keep relaxing. Relax your shoulders and relax your heart. Let go and give room for the pain to pass through you. It's just energy. Just see it as energy and let it go.

From the book..... The Untethered Soul - the journey beyond yourself, by Michael A. Singer

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Monday, March 6, 2017

Don't Allow The Fear Of Criticism To Stop You From Pursuing Your Dream

"It is not the critic who counts: nor the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without errors or shortcomings, but who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt, speaking at the Sorbonne in Paris April 23, 1910

                                            "Whatever you do, good or bad,
                            people will always have something negative to say.

Everyone of us have at some time or another been criticized for something. Sometimes fairly but most of the time, unfairly. Sadly most criticism is not intended to build someone up. Instead it is given with an intentional sting.

Constructive criticism on the other hand is a positive thing. It will allow us to grow and to evolve.

We have to remember that criticism is more a reflection of the critic than the person being criticized.
A lot of us feel so scared of ever being criticized that we won't try anything new. And sometimes it will even prevent us from accomplishing our dreams.

We are afraid to be criticized if we quit a job that doesn't fulfill us and try a new job opportunity. We don't want to leave a relationship that we stayed in way to long and that doesn't make us grow for the fear of being criticized by others. We don't dare to start our own business adventure for we feel that other people will be will criticizing us. An the list goes on.....

We want everyone to like us and to agree with us and when they don't..... and if they criticize us and what we are doing or trying to do.....we get scared and pull back. Never live your life trying to please other people. It will be exhausting and it will make you unhappy. Not everyone is going to like and accept you and what you are doing.

The more successful a person becomes the more criticism they will encounter. Unwanted criticism is most often based on jealousy and it is stems from a competitive spirit.
You have something that somebody else wants. Instead of being happy for you and what you have accomplished, jealousy rises up in the critical person. They try to cover up their own insecurities, shortcomings by being critical towards you or other people. What they don't understand is that they too can have what you got.

Some people will find fault, no matter what. Until they deal with their own issues, they will never be happy.

Don't allow anyone to steal your dream by being critical towards you.

                                             Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

Friday, March 3, 2017

It Is Up To You To Change Your Life

                         "The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions,
                                                  the more credibility you will have."
                                                             - Brian Koslow

No matter how tough a position you feel you might be in right now, there is no one you can count on to change your life for you.

If you are in debt, struggling with your relationships, you business, your health or your finances, no one is going to come along and fix it for you. It is entirely up to you to make the changes that are needed to improve your situation.

No one else can do the work for you. No one will show up at your house to make sure that you eat healthy and go for a daily run or walk. No one can stop you from spending hours and hours in front of the TV. No one can prevent you from spending money that you don´t have. If you have gotten yourself into trouble you are also the only person who can get yourself out of it.

Wherever you are in life, there is only one person who got you into this mess and there is only one person that can get you out.....and that is YOU. You are the only person that can set yourself free by taking personal responsibility for your life and your actions.

It is time to move forward. Time to give up that "old story" about your bad childhood, lousy parents, lack of education, too old, no money, low metabolism, unsupportive family and friends, bad luck or no resources.

It is up to you and you alone to change your life. No one is going to do it for you. You are responsible for solving your own problems. Don't depend on others to rescue you from your mistakes.

Everything that happened to you, good or bad, is your own responsibility. You have made the choices and now you have to accept the consequences of your actions.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach