Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Negative Self Talk Can Destroy Your Dreams

                                              We cannot become, who we want to be,
                                                    by remaining where we are.

I want to succeed, but I am afraid of failing.....Does this sound like you?
A lot of us have 2 conflicting thoughts.

Negative self talk can destroy your ability to create the life that you want.

Your thoughts and emotions are influences by what you focus on.
The more you focus on what is important to you, the less thoughts and feelings of fear and worry will hinder you from taking positive action towards what you want.

You will also be more empowered to confront your negative thoughts with act of courage and those actions will reframe your thoughts.

Where focus flows.

Question to ask yourself

What action is this negative thought keeping me from taking?
Write it down.
Study the thought. Question it.
Then redirect your focus to what is really important.


Monday, May 27, 2019

Quit Talking And Begin Doing

           "Little by little a person becomes evil, as a water pot is filled by drops of water.
            Little by little a person becomes good, as a water pot is filled by drops of water.
          Moment by moment, little decisions by little decisions, we are shaping our future.
                                                        So, let's choose wisely."
                                                                    - Buddha


Would a marriage work if you were 70% committed to it?
Would a child thrive if you were only 70% committed to it?
Then, why would your purpose show up fully in all it's glory if you are only 70% committed to it?
Sometimes, we keep one foot in and one foot out in hopes that we can cover all bases.
Unfortunately, that dilutes the potential for your dream to readily come true.
It's time to commit fully or step out completely.

If you desire to create something, you have every ability to bring, what is needed as a resource in many ways, into your life to provide for the accomplishment of your dream.


"It's not what's happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines, whom you become.
Rather, it's what your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you and what you're going to do about them, that will determine your ultimate destiny."
- Tony Robbins


"I've continued to recognize the power individuals have to change virtually anything and everything in their lives in an instant.
I've learned that the resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are within us, merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up and claim our birthright."
- Tony Robbins

"You can't change your genetics, but you can change your attitude, your persistence, your environment, the people you listen to and hang around with, and the things you do.
You can change, so if you want,  just get started."
- Craig Ball


Somehow this will all work out fine

The solutions I seek are on their way

All is good

This will blow over in no time

I trust that everything that I need will be given to me

The money I need will come to me with perfect timing

I am choosing to remain open to opportunity today

I believe that only goodness can come to me today

Only YOU can change your life.
No one can do it for you.


Wednesday, May 22, 2019

Stop Trying To Get Love From People Who Can't Give It To You

                                                   "Some people are not capable of giving
                                                      what you're trying to get from them."
                                                                   - Sonia Friedman

I don't think that I am lying when I am saying that we all want love. We all want to be seen and heard and we want to feel that we matter.

When we want love, we sometimes adjust ourselves to that person that we are with, at the time.
We adjust ourselves so that we can get love from this person.

We want love, so in order to get love from our parents, we tried to keep them happy and later in life we try to keep a partner, spouse or a friend happy, so that we can get love.

Sometimes the problem is that we don't get love no matter how happy we try to make them, and in the meantime we sometimes end up losing ourselves.

            "Don't lose your dignity and self-respect to make people love and appreciate you,
                                                     when they just aren't capable."

We try and we try to make them happy.
If we don't get any love back, we try even harder because we don't think that we are trying hard enough.

What we don't realize is that sometimes there is no love to get from this person, and best thing we can do is to move on.
Learn that it's OK to be ourselves, and that we don't need other people to love us, because we can learn to get love from ourselves.

When we love and respect ourselves, than we won't try to get love from places where we can't get it (parents, spouse, siblings, friends).

Stop betraying yourself.
When there is no love to be found,  just move on.

                  "Stop putting an effort into those who show no effort towards you.
         There is only so much you can do before you're wasting your energy and time."

Learn to love yourself first.
Then if you find someone that loves you, that is just icing on the cake.


Monday, May 20, 2019

Life Doesn't Demand Perfection. It Simply Requires That We Show Up

                                         "Let today be the day you give up who you've been,
                                                             for what you can become."
                                                                     - Hal Elroy

Life doesn't demand perfection. It simply requires that we show up.

No matter how much experience we have, we all will feel doubt, nervous and anxious when we are creating new things and when we share ourselves in front of others.

When you are feeling nervous, anxious or afraid,  I want you to realize that it doesn't mean that you are not good enough to do what you are about to do.
Quite the opposite. It usually means that you are doing exactly what you should be doing.

Never forget that we are all, work in progress.
We are always growing, expanding and improving.

Courageous patience is the willingness and the ability to get out of your comfort zone and to stay the course in the face of uncertainty, doubt and fear. And to be able to remain on the path after experiencing criticism from others.

Make a habit of preparing yourself in advance for the inevitable disappointments, obstacles and setbacks that you will experience on your way to your goal.
Never be surprised when they occur. Because they will.

Instead resolve in advance that you will bounce back quickly, get back on track, rather than break and remain in pieces.
You have to continually encourage, inspire and motivate yourself.

Take excellent care of yourself, both physically, mentally and spiritually.
Not only will you be healthier, but you will be more productive.

You will also be ready when great ideas and opportunities come your way, so that you can be ready to take advantage of these ideas and also the success.

You must keep on moving. Momentum is everything.
The less you move, the less you are able to move. Take daily action steps towards your goal, because action leads to more action.

There will be seasons of uncertainty, and that is absolutely normal.
These seasons of uncertainty are a natural part of life. If you are experiencing a season of uncertainty right now, remember this, these seasons don't last forever.
This too shall pass.

                                                   "The biggest adventure you can take
                                                      is to live the life of your dreams."
                                                                   - Oprah Winfrey

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Time To Re-Charge My Batteries

                                      Time For Vacation

It is time for me to take two weeks off to work on some brand new projects and recharge my batteries.

I won't be writing any blogs or newsletters from May 6 through May 17.
During this time I will also limit my presence on all social media.

I will return again, full force on May 20.

                                                Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author