Find The Courage To Be Authentic

 "Never change for anyone, after you do, all they´ll want you to do is change again. And as hard as it was to change the first time, to give up everything you knew, and be half empty afterwards isn´t worth it. Don´t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you."

- Unknown

A lot of times we might feel that it is more important to be liked than to be real and authentic.

But how can we love and enjoy our lives if we are not honest and authentic?

How can we create something extraordinary if we are not speaking and living our truth?

We can´t.

If you continue to live a life without being honest and authentic, resentment will build and your mind and your heart and your whole life will be out of balance.

Stop trying to please other people. A lot of times it is an attempt to seek validation to increase your own self-worth.
Don´t be afraid to speak the truth even if you think it might cause some people not to agree with you or even disapprove of you.

Unfortunately we live in a society that are constantly telling us that we are not enough.
TV, the internet, magazines or social media are constantly letting us know that we would feel a lot better if we bought a certain product or did a certain thing... only then we will be validated and feel good about ourselves.
This will keep us in a constant battle and endless confusion and the result is a never ever feeling of not ever being good enough. 

Don't you dare to shrink yourself for someone else's comfort. 

Do not become small for people who refuse to grow.

Here Are A Couple of Tips!

The less you look for other peoples validation or approval - the more they will give it to you.
Learn to validate and approve of yourself. Then you won´t need any help from the world out here, it will come from within yourself.
And if it comes from within it can never be taken away from you.

Also remember that most people will respect "The Real You".
You don´t have to be perfect in order for people to like you.
Be human... it is OK. If you are going through a hard time, let people know.
It´s liberating to not have to pretend that everything is just fantastic in your life... all the time.

Be authentic. 

Express your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and your fears.
Share your experiences with people.
If in doubt... always be yourself and keep it real.

Authenticity  requires vulnerability, transparency and integrity.

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Excuses Don't Get Results

                                               "A comfort zone is a beautiful place, 

                                                           but nothing grows there."

Are you feeling fenced in?

How many of us are slaves to our past?

How many of us are not doing the things that we are really wanting to do because of the past?

Choosing is important.

The power to choose is the greatest power.

Yet we often fail to decide on what we actually want in life.

Getting in life is not difficult.
But deciding on what we want is tough.

We are where we are in life today because of the choices that we have made.
If we want something bigger in life, we must choose something different - Starting today.

Fear of failure is the #1 reason people don´t try to do things.

A lot of people will tell you that they didn´t get what they wanted in life because they were afraid to try.

To overcome the fear of failure we must have a goal big enough worth failing for.
Failure is great. You can´t have success without failure.

If you shoot at nothing - you will hit nothing.
Take a chance.

We must begin to see possibilities.
We must begin to see doors instead of walls.

It is not where you are, that counts. It is who you are.
You can change your life by changing the way you think.

TIP!

Take some time by yourself.
Decide on what you REALLY WANT. 
Start creating the picture in your mind. Write it down. 
Take action and go after your dream!

                           "A year from now you will wish you had started today."

What are you waiting for?

Tomorrow is not a day of the week. Start TODAY.

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Having Trouble Saying No?

              "Half the troubles in this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly
                                                      and not saying no soon enough."
                                                                       - Josh Billings

Are you afraid of the consequences if you say NO to someone?

Are you a YES-person?

Every time someone is asking you to do something, you are always saying YES... even if you don´t want to do it? You actually want to say NO!

Why do you always say yes to people?

Are you afraid that if you say no to someone... they will get upset with you?

Are you telling yourself that you don´t want to upset people because you are actually afraid that they won´t like you anymore?
And maybe they will actually walk away and leave you if you say no to them?

I have news for you... if you are afraid that the people that you say no to will walk away and leave you... let them.
If the only reason they are hanging out with you is because you always say yes to them, they are not worth keeping around.

A true friend doesn´t mind that you tell them no. They will understand and they won´t get mad and leave you over it.

The longer you wait to start to say no... the more pain you will feel yourself.

In the end you will feel much better about yourself for speaking up for what you really want.

Be true to yourself. If someone wants to leave... let them.
You will be just fine!

New friends will show up in your life. True friends that don´t care if you tell them no, if you don´t want to do something.

Make sure that when you say yes to others... that you are not saying no to yourself. 

                          "Freedom isn't the ability to say yes. It's the ability to say no." 

                                                                     - Anonymous 

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What Are You Willing To Fight For?

 

                                                 If you are not willing to do the work,
                                                     don't complain about the result.

We all want changes in our lives.

We want to be healthier and in shape.

We want to have more energy. Both physical and mental.

We often want a job that fulfills us and we usually want to make more money.

We want passionate intimate relationships with our partners.

We want great relationships with our children and our parents.

We want to have more time for our friends and for our hobbies.

We want to have more money saved.

And the list goes on and on.

So why doesn't more people create what they want in their lives?

It usually comes down to one question... Are you willing to the work that it takes to create whatever you want in your life?

Are you willing to get up an hour earlier so that you can go to the gym before you go to work?

Are you willing to turn off the TV or the internet and read instead so that you can learn something new ?

Are you willing to save your money instead of buying the latest purse or shoes?

Are you willing to cook instead of going out to eat?

Are you willing to change your eating habits?

Are you willing to start saying NO to people?

Are you willing to do the work that it takes to loose the weight?

Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone and do new things that will make you feel awkward in the beginning?

Are you willing to start a new business even though you don't know if it will ever be successful?

Are you willing to go to school in the evenings to learn a new skill?

Are you willing to find a new job that is more in alignment with who you are and what you want to accomplish in life?

Are you WILLING? 

"Everyone wants success... 

some try it, but few actually do whatever it takes." 

- John Assaraf

For anything to change in our lives... we must be willing to do the work that will be involved in making what we want into our reality.
We can dream and plan all that we want but if we are not willing to back it up with some kind of action... nothing will  ever happen.

If you want to change, 

you have to be willing to be uncomfortable.

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