Monday, October 7, 2019

Can You Trust Yourself?

                                             "Self-trust is the first secret of success."
                                                          -  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have you ever lied to someone?

I think that we are all guilty here.
Some lies have been bigger than others. But I believe that most of us probably lied sometime in our lifetime. Maybe more than once, if we are going to be honest. Usually we lie to make ourselves seem a little better, more important and more successful than we are, because we want to impress someone that is important too us. Or maybe we have lied to escape from having to take responsibility for something, that we actually did and that didn't turn out so well.
There are many different reasons why people will lie.

Have you ever lied to yourself?
Many times…..right? I know I have.
I tell myself that I am not going to have any more chocolate and then a week later when things get a little stressful in my life I found myself in the store holding a candy bar in my hand, even though I promised myself a week ago that it wouldn't happen again.

Have you ever decided to start going to the gym on Monday. Monday comes around and where are you?....not at the gym! What happened? You lied to yourself.

How about all those New Year's resolutions that you have made during your lifetime.....what happened to all those promises to yourself? How many of those did you actually keep? Not too many.....right?

You are in a relationship with your partner and if you are going to be honest with yourself, after 10 years you don't have anything in common anymore and he/she is actually almost abuse to you. What do you tell yourself? ….."It's not that bad" or another good one...…"He/She will change, if I just love him/her enough." You know deep inside that this isn't true. So what are you doing? You are lying to yourself again and again and again. Year in and year out.

                                             "Deep down, you already know the truth."

So my question to you is.....Do trust yourself? Since you have been lying to yourself for years....can you actually trust yourself?

If your spouse, partner, friend lied to you as much as you have been lying to yourself.....would you trust them?

A lot of times we often say that we can't trust others, but I wonder if it isn't that we can't really trust ourselves?
In order to trust others, we first have to be able to trust ourselves. We can't give away to others what we first don't have ourselves.

I read the following words in some article a few months ago and I thought it was very powerful so today I want to share it with you.

When you do what you say you are going to do, you build self-respect and a positive identity. Successful people understand that every time you break a promise you made to yourself, you feed your identity as an imposter and it weakens your self-confidence as a person of action.
For example, if you commit to exercising 30 minutes each day, the do it. Regardless of the outcome your character is being positively molded, and that will generate momentum along your journey.

                                                 "Trust yourself, you've survived a lot, 
                                             and you will survive whatever is coming."

Time for reflection, my friends!
Where in your own life do you need to stop lying to yourself?


Wednesday, August 21, 2019

Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

                      Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything at once.
                                             Breathe. You are strong enough, you got this.
                                                             Take it day by day.

Do you feel overwhelmed?
Do you feel physically exhausted?
Do you feel mentally drained?
Are your relationships not working right now?
Are you are workaholic?

I talk to a lot of people that are feeling overwhelmed in today's world.

In order to bring some more balance into our life we first have to acknowledge that balance is important to us.

Then we have to take the risk of changing our life, if we want to feel better.
We can't keep on doing the same thing day in and day out, and expect change to happen by itself.
We have to make the changes that we want in our life.

WE have to take a good look at ourselves and be totally honest where we are and then set some realistic goals.

We must have goals in evert area of our lives.

Relationships/Friendships/ Family
Personal Development

Then we have to deal with any area that are taking too much energy and put them in perspective, align them, so we have energy available for all areas.

                                          Life has many ways of testing a person's will,
                                               either by having nothing happen at all
                                              or by having everything happen at once.


Monday, August 19, 2019

Make Your Dreams Happen!

                                             A dream doesn't become reality through magic.
                                              It takes sweat, determination and hard work.

I love to read books and articles about personal development and I also love to listen to podcasts and watch videos on YouTube on the same subject.

But we can't just be listeners and readers. We eventually have to become doers. We actually have to apply what we have learned. In other words, we have to go to work.

We must take action. It doesn't matter how much we know if we don't put it to good use. We have to make sure that we got a game-plan to go with our wishes and dreams, otherwise they will always be wishes and dreams.

                                          Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try. 

Why should we try?
Why not? What else are you going to do with your life?

Why me?
Why not you? Some people have done the most incredible things with a limited start.

Why now?
Why not now? Why postpone your great future any longer? Get going today. Make a new effort.

It's time to apply all that we have learned. We must go to work. Set goals. Embark on the journey that will lead us to our vision for our life. We must follow a well-defined plan.

We  must enjoy our life as we seek to improve it. Seek knowledge, so that our value to ourselves and others will increase.

Discipline time, which is in limited amount. Don't waste our time on things/people that are not in alignment of where we want to go in life.

                                      There is no telling how many miles you will have to run
                                                            while chasing your dream.

Examine associations. We become like the people that we spend most of our time with. Who are we spending a lot of time with? And is that OK?

Stop doing what is easy. Do what actually will bring the achievement that we seek. Commit ourselves to ourselves and to do the work that it will actually take to achieve our dream for our life. Never accept less than we can be.

                                       If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Think of two actions that you have been putting off. Two things you need to do but you keep putting them off.

If you would take action on these two things right now it would immediately change the quality of your life.
What are those two actions?


Wednesday, August 14, 2019

You Can't Fix Yourself By Breaking Someone Else

                                               It's a lot easier to hurt others with our pain, 
                                                    than to deal and sit in our own pain. 
                                        That's why we hurt others with words and actions. 
                                                             Or we hurt ourselves.
                                                                  - Brene Brown

The majority of people do not intend to hurt or harm others.
However, many do cause harm, not because if their intention, but because they are too stuck in their own pain and suffering to consider the needs of others.
Hurt people will hurt others.

These people are not in a state of love.
They cannot love themselves and others. In others words, they cannot give away what they don't have.

                                           "People who love themselves, don't hurt other people.
                                                           The more we hate ourselves,
                                                     the more we want others to suffer."
                                                                      - Dan Pearce

Some people can't love us.
And it's not because we are unlovable. It's because these people's capacity to love is impaired. Often these people are so scared to get hurt that they are constantly protecting themselves from further hurt by avoidance, neglect, rejection or trying to hurt others before they can hurt them.

I have learned that some people we just have to learn to love from a distance.
It doesn't mean that we don't love them but they are so unhealthy to be around and their lives are so filled with drama, and maybe addiction that the only thing we can do is to let them go and love them from far away.

                                                 "Our prime purpose in this life is to help others.
                                             And if you can't help others, at least don't hurt them."
                                                                       - Dalai Lama


Friday, August 9, 2019

Your Mountain Is Waiting - Melanie's Story

                                                           Resolve says, "I will."
                                      The man says, "I will climb that mountain.
                   They told me it is too high, too far, too steep, to rocky and too difficult.
                                             But it's my mountain. I will climb it.
                  You will see me soon waving from the top or dead on the side from trying."
                                                                - Jim Rohn

Melanie Michealchuk conquered her mountain!!!
Her mountain was Kilimanjaro. A dormant volcano in Tanzania. It's the highest mountain in Africa with a summit about 4900 meters or 16,000 ft. from it's base.
On July 11 of this year, Melanie reached the summit.

So who is Melanie and why did she want to conquer this mountain?
I first me Melanie at a Conroe Chamber networking breakfast in Conroe, TX, in December of last year. Melanie is a fitness/health coach working for Curves both in Conroe, TX and Huntsville, TX. And since I am a Life Coach and work a lot with the health and wellbeing of people Melanie, and I connected right away.

We later met for coffee and in February I headed up to see Melanie at Curves in Conroe and I had a BioAge test done. If you don't know what it is, here is a BLOG about the one Melanie did on me.

While Melanie and I got to know each a little more she shared with me about a dream that she had had since her early twenties. She wanted to hike up to the summit of Kilimanjaro. In her twenties she had read some article about a woman setting a big goal and climbing this mountain and it struck a chord with Melanie and she could never really get it out of her head. But as for many of us the dreams that we have in our early life, sometimes gets to be put on the backburner because we get a career going, get married, have kids. Life happens and we push that goal away and say to ourselves that someday I will do that.

Melanie and her husband are both Canadians, from Edmonton and they have two children, both boys. In 2005 they moved to The US because of a transfer that her husband got. He is working in the oil business.

Melanie tried some different jobs here in the Houston area. She has been in the printing business. She taught water aerobics, taught pre-school and she told me that she dabbled in real estate for a while but didn't feel like any of those jobs was something that did fit her.

At this time challenges were also happening in her marriage. She and her husband Dan, were drifting apart and this pushed Melanie into depression and she gained 60 pounds during a 6 year period. She told me that she was self-soothing instead of dealing with her relationship problems with her husband. Neither Melanie nor he husband wanted to address the disconnection they were experiencing in their marriage.

Then something happened. Her husband started a course with Landmark Worldwide. This company is a personal and professional growth, training and development company, focusing on people achieving success, fulfillment and greatness.

After her husband finished the course Melanie saw big changes in him and she decided to check it out herself. So she too joined Landmark Worldwide for a long weekend workshop. After completing this course Melanie noticed great growth in herself and she decided that she wanted to work with empowering and inspiring other people. Both Melanie and her husband took charge of their lives. They decided that they needed to change and they both took action to do so and today they are having an amazing marriage again and Melanie has lost all the weight that she gained.

In December of 2017 an ad for Curves showed up on Melanie's radar and she got an interview with them and at that interview she was offered the job. She is still with Curves and she loves her job. On a daily base she gets to help people taking their life to a new level. Becoming healthier and stronger and more empowered.

Last year this dream of hiking up to the summit of Kilimanjaro was surfacing again for Melanie and she made a decision that it was time to accomplishing this goal that she had been thinking about for over 25 years.

She knew what she wanted. And she had a very strong why she wanted to do it. Having a strong reason for wanting something will allow you to get through obstacles, setbacks and distraction on the road to reaching your goal.

Melanie created a game-plan and set a deadline of one year to accomplish this goal. Then she took action on a daily base. She had to prepare physically by hiking, biking, running and swimming. She also had to save money, because it would take money to accomplish that dream. She had to find a company and a guide that she could hire to assist her in reaching the summit. She also had to prepare mentally and emotionally, because our mind is going to tell us on a daily base that we can't accomplish our goals.

Melanie worked hard on herself and her goal and I am so excited that she accomplished her dream on July 11, when she stood waving at the top of her mountain.

Did she have obstacles on her way to reaching the summit of Kilimanjaro? Of course she did. Many of them. Originally she was going to do this trip with 2 other friends, but they backed out and she had to go at it alone. A wall of doubt got the best of her a couple of days before it was time to leave and on her way to the airport here in Houston she almost turned around. She didn't have the right shots and had to get some at the last minute. They lost her luggage with her hiking shoes and her backpack, but she got it back. Yes, it's never going to be easy but I know she forgot all about her obstacles and setbacks when she stood at the summit waving at the world.

Melanie did not do it alone. She had many people that helped her accomplish her dream. She credits Landmark Worldwide and Curves for a lot of her success.

She had an amazing guide by the name of Elly Anase with Kili Dreamers, here is their link

and she could not have done it without his expertise, help and encouragement.
And of course her whole family and friends were also cheering her on to reach the summit

Amazing job Melanie!!! You did it!!!

What Is Your Mountain?

                                      Written by Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

I Don't Know, Right Now!

                                                    Everything will work out in the end.
                                                           You don't need to know how.
                                                      You just have to trust that it will

Sometimes we just don't  know how something is going to turn out before we start. And sometimes when we are in the middle of something, we don't know either how it will work out. We simply have to believe that it will.

We can plan all we want but sometimes we can't plan everything and we just have to say.....I don't know what to do next and I am not sure how this will turn out. I doesn't mean that you should stop what you are doing but you have to get comfortable in not knowing exactly what to do and say "I am OK, with not knowing right now."

Yes, of course it's nice to know everything in advance, but a lot of times that isn't possible. Sometimes we have to just let go and say.....I simply don't know, right now.

Just because you don't know how every single step of your journey is going to unfold, that shouldn't stop you from getting started. All you need to do is to get clear on what you want and then take the first step.

All you need to do is to put one foot in front of the other and keep taking the logical next step toward your goal. And trust that answers and resources you seek will appear.

                                                                Use what you know.
                                                  Don't worry about what you don't know.


Monday, August 5, 2019

Pathways To Health

                                                        "Take care of your body.
                                               It's the only place you have to live."
                                                                - Jim Rohn

Your health and wellbeing is tied to your success in life. It's going to be hard to perform well if you are not properly taking care of yourself.
When you are taking excellent care of yourself you will be more productive, creative and you will have more energy.

I believe that most of us have been there at some point in our life, where we have been neglecting our health. It's easy to push our exercise to the following day when we are running out of time in our busy schedule. But we must remember that pursuing our dream will require all the energy that we have, so staying in shape should be a priority. Your dream is worth it.

Make sure that you find an exercise that you enjoy doing, or chances are that you won't do it. Sometimes it might be great to switch things up a little so that you won't get bored with the routine. Find a workout partner is another great way to hold yourself accountable or hire a personal trained that will be waiting for you at the gym.

Make sure that you schedule time to exercise on a daily base, even if it's only for a short walk. Take the elevator instead of the stairs. Park far away in the parking lot when you are going to the store. Schedule some stretching exercises for 5 minutes every hour, if you are sitting down a lot during the day.

Make smart food choices that will give you a lot of energy. Spend a little more time in the kitchen., cooking your own meals. Eating out a lot isn't great for your health and wellbeing. Designate one day a week to be in the kitchen and cook a lot of food that you can freeze and later warm up quickly for a healthy meal. Health is not very complicated. Make it simple and fun. Get the whole family involved.

Make time for mental health. Make sure that you allow 7-9 hours for sleep and also that you have some downtime before you go to bed to allow your brain shut to shut down and get it ready to relax and prepared for bed.
Stay away from using electronics 1-2 hours before you go to bed. Don't bring your cellphone to bed with you. Create a space to relax in and turn down the lights to allow your body and your mind to calm down.

Limit stress. What can you give up? Maybe it's time to reassess your priorities? You don't have to help everyone and especially not at the expense of your own health and wellbeing.
Yoga, meditation, soft music, hot bath or reading are all excellent ways to relax and to limit stress.

Spending time with friends and family is a great way of feeling connected, reducing stress and increasing your health and wellbeing. Healthy relationships will make you feel like you can conquer the world.

Bottom line is.... that you must love yourself enough to live a healthy lifestyle.


Monday, July 29, 2019

Don't Take The Bait

                                                         "Conflict cannot survive 
                                                       without your participation."
                                                                 - Wayne Dyer

I am sure most of you have been fishing sometime in your life.

I remember when I was a child my parents had a vacation cottage by a wonderful lake in Sweden. Sometimes we would go fishing. I thought it was a lot of fun because the whole family did it together. Most of the time we caught some fish and then we would bring it home and my mom would cook it.

When you fish you start with a fishing pole and on the end of the line there is a hook. You bait the hook with a worm, toss it out in the water and wait for a fish to take the bait. Once the fish takes the bait and get hooked to pulled the fish into the boat.

Same thing in life. There are a lot of people in the world that like to pull you into their conflicts, drama, arguments and other crazy behavior. They too bait a hook and the they throw it out there to see who will take the bait first. Once someone is interested in the bait, they set the hook and reel you in.

There are people out there in this world that can't wait to stir up trouble. In other words, they are trouble makers and they thrive on creating drama and trouble in other people's lives. They are trying to bait you. But you got to learn to recognize these types of people and make sure that you don't take the bait.

If someone is rude to you, the best way to act is like, it is no big deal to you. Don't get upset and don't allow theses people to disturb your inner peace. Stay calm and continue to move forward on your own journey.

There are no perfect people out there. We must give people room to be human. They are not going to be perfect all the time, and neither are you. Don't have unrealistic expectation because some people are not capable of doing what you want them to do or be who you want them to be.

Sometimes people will disappoint you, no matter how good they are. People are going to say hurtful things so we must leant to not be so easily affended. Don't take things personally. Other people behavior has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. It will tell you who they are, not who you are. Just let it slide off you.

Don't allow other people to disturb your peace and don't depend on other people for your happiness. If someone says something hurtful, you will be unhappy for the rest of the day. Don't put the keys to you happiness in someone else's pocket. You are responsible for YOU and your own happiness. Don't put too much pressure o other people, because then you will feel disappointed. Let these people off the hook.

There are going to be a lot of bumps on our journey in life. It's normal to expect this. But it's up to us to not get to upset when it happens. Protect your own peace of mind. Don't allow the same things upset day after day. Even if people are grumpy, critical, unfair, angry, jealous, mean, bitter and try to pull you in to conflict and arguments, decide that you are going to have a great day. Keep on pursuing your dream. Don't take the bait.

You can't control what other people are doing. You can only control what you do. So shake of their bitterness, anger, envy, jealousy. If you are allowing people to upset you, bait you into conflict and joining them in their drama, you are giving away your power. You are actually letting them control you. Remain calm in the face of adversity. Don't let them ruin your day.

Let's face it, there are some people that have the gift on getting on your nerves. It seems like some people have the calling in life to make other people miserable. But remember that you are in control of you. They can't make you feel a certain way without your consent. If you become angry or frustrted, it's a choice that you make.

When people are rude, critical, angry, jealous they have issues that they are not dealing with. Sometimes they are like a poisonous snake. Make sure that they don't bite you and allow their poison to get into you. Don't start arguing with them. Don't allow them to get you upset. Don't take the bait.

Rise above these people. Don't go down to their level. Try to be kind and respectful to these people, even when it's difficult. People will constantly try to offer you the bait. Next time it happens, just say...."No thanks, I am not taking that bait."

Always be selective which battles you are going to get involved with. Will it somehow benefit you to get involved? If it's not between you and your destiny, I suggest that you don't get involved. Don't get involved in every conflict because it will drain your energy and then you won't have enough energy left for your own dream. Learn to walk away from distractions. Know what battles to fight. Fight the battles that do matter. Don't take the bait.

Walk away from people that don't matter. Learn to keep your mouth shut. Don't say things you shouldn't say and that you will regret later. Stay on the right road, which is the high road.

Walking away from a fight isn't a sign of weakness. Quite the opposite. It takes a strong person to walk away from and argument or a fight. Never fight battles with small-minded people. People that don't value who you are. Don't get involved because it might prevent you from making progress on your own goals and dreams. These are simply distractions that might get you off track to reaching your own destiny.
Learn to ignore things. Ignore negative and critical people. Ignore negative comments. Ignore disrespect and rudeness. Keep your inner peace.

Are you fighting battles right now that don't matter?
Are you being distracted by little things that will prevent you or are slowing your down from reaching your destiny?


Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Why Do You Want To Suffer And Inflict Unnecessary Pain On Yourself?

                       "When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself,
                                                    your world changes for the better."

Has anyone been trying to change you lately?

There are plenty of people out there in the world that are spending an enormous amount of energy on trying to change the people around them, to make themselves feel better.

Women are very good at this. The minute some women get into a relationship or marriage with a man, they try to change the man. This often confuses the other person because just a short while back everything they did was great and then all of a sudden there isn't anything that they are doing that is good enough. Have you ever been there? I know I have.

I am sure that most of us have been on the receiving end of people trying to control us and have us change our ways. And I know that sometimes it might be a good thing to change something that we are doing or some aspects of ourselves. But we can never force a person to change by nagging and complaining about them.

                                                "Stop trying to change other people:
                                          The only person you can change is yourself."

I am sure that most of us have also tried to change someone else.
How did that work out for you?

We must stop expecting other people and situations to be a certain way, so that we can be the way we want to be and so that we can feel good. This is a very powerless place to be. In the end people have the right to be the way they are and you also have the right to be who you are.

If you don't harmonize with certain people, it isn't that they are wrong or that you are wrong. It's simply that you have different types of energy, values and beliefs and all of those does not harmonize,

There are 7 billion people out there.
If you don't harmonize with someone, you can always find another person. And don't change yourself just because you want to be in a relationship with someone because in the end that will suffocate your soul and you will eventually die on the inside.

Always be who you are and find the people that you are in alignment and harmonize with. Life is too short to be miserable with people that are not in alignment of who we are. Stop trying to change them and don't change yourself just to fit in.

You can't wait for people/things to change. It's a very weak and powerless situation to be in.
Take charge of your own life. Create a new story. Be the hero of your own journey.

Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author


Monday, July 22, 2019

Learning From Adversity

                                            "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, 
                                                                   more intelligently."
                                                                   - Henry Ford  

Is failure fatal?
No, it isn't.

Is failure ever a benefit to a person?
Yes, it is, because every failure or adversity brings with it a seed of an equivalent advantage or opportunity.

Failure is never permanent.
Unless you quit because of the adversity. Only the person him/herself will make a failure permanent. Failure is only temporary. Failure will also give way to brand new opportunities, not yet seen, if a person continues to fight.
Success is usually just a short step beyond where someone quits.

Failure is a state of mind and a person can control their own mind unless they neglect to use this power.

Sometimes failure serves as a blessing in disguise. It will bring your mind to brand new start. Just remember that rejection is often protection and re-direction.

                                                              "Failure is not fatal,
                                                     but failure to change might be."
                                                                - John Wooden

Unfortunately too many people will quit when they encounter the first sign of failure.

Usually failure will bring you to a stop.
It's the dead end to the path that you have been following and it will force you to re-direct where they are going.
It forces you to leave the old path and pick up another fresh new path.

Failure will also prove to you how much willpower you have. It will also force you to discover traits about yourself that you would never have discovered about yourself, unless you were being faced with adversity or failure.

Failure might lead a lot of people to go on a journey inwards, and that will bring a greater understanding about him/herself and his/her habits and they will also be faced with forming some brand new habits.
It will break the pattern of being mostly on auto-pilot for most of our days and our lives.

Failure will break up old automatic patterns and habits, to make room from brand new more empowering habits and brand new opportunities.

It's up to you to look at failure or adversity as a learning experience and then redirect your own patterns of thought and habits.

Also expect something great to show up on your brand new path.
It's called opportunities. You might not see them right away. But they will arrive.

If I look back on my own life I can say this is very true. In 2012 the life that I knew came to a dead end. Old thought patterns and habits had to go. Basically my whole life had to go to make room for something brand new. At the time when everything fell apart I could not see any opportunities, but after doing a lot of work on myself and what I wanted my life to look like I saw a brand new opportunity that took me in a completely new direction. I had to discover things and traits about me that I didn't know. Some were good and some were not so good. It wasn't easy at the time, but well worth the effort. 
My coaching business was born at this time. And I am so grateful for the protection and re-direction that I got in 2012.

If you want to find out more about my complete smackdown in 2012, you can get my book
Bounce Don't Break - how to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down.

Here is the link to order on Amazon

                                              "Failure is success if we learn from it."
                                                              - Malcolm S. Forbes


Wednesday, July 17, 2019

Never Give Up! Set a Goal And Go For It!

                                                      You Are Invited
                                         Sip & Learn!

                          Just wanted to let you know that I will be doing a presentation
                                                   on Aug.1, 2019 at GenuWine

   Come and join us for a relaxing evening of socializing, networking and a little bit of learning.

     I will be doing a 30 minute presentation about Why We Must Have A Vision & Set Goals

                                              "If you don't design your own life plan
                                          chances are you will fall into someone else's plan
                                            And guess what they have planned for you?
                                                                  Not much!"
                                                                  -Jim Rohn


5 Ways To Make Goal-Setting Not Just What You Say But What You Do

When: Aug.1, 2019  6.30-8pm

Where: GenuWine  6503 FM 1488
              Magnolia, TX, 77354

6.30 -7pm   Mix & Mingle, Order Food and Drinks
7 - 7.30pm  Presentation
7.30 - 8pm  Q&A, Discussion

Feel free to bring a friend.

               Come And Enjoy A Great Time At GenuWine!


Karin Glannstam
Life Coach & Author

For information you can contact me via email:
or website:

Monday, July 15, 2019

The Power of YOU

                                 You were not born to play it small. You were born to sail. 
                       To expand, to grow and to live a bigger and brighter version of you.

How are you coming along with your goals for this year?

What was the goal that you decided that you wanted to make your reality at the beginning of this year?

You can become more by having goals and working towards them. In life you don't get what you want - you get in life what you are. But you can always become more by developing yourself.

Today I want you to take a look at your life. 

Where are you right now?

What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses?

What gives your life meaning and a sense of fulfillment and joy?

What does a full, rich life mean to you?

What is it that you can love doing 7 days a week, that will bring a smile to yourself?

Think about that. In all areas of your life. Your professional life, personal life, family life and your spiritual life.

What is it that you like to have?

                                      Embrace the unknown and be okay with letting go 
                                   of something or someone that isn't meeting your needs.

Once you have your vision and goals determined you must make sure that you surround yourself with people that will contribute to your growth. Align yourself with people who think like you do. Who dream like you do. Other people who also want more out of life. You must find people who are stretching, searching and seeking some higher ground in life.

Get on top of life because it's the bottom that is overcrowded. It's easy to be on the bottom because it doesn't take any effort to be a non doer and a drifter. It doesn't take any motivation or drive to stay on a low level.

                                            If you don't have anything to move towards, 
                                         chances are that you will settle for where you are.

You must have energy when it comes to your dream or your vision. You must have a burning desire and you must be willing to do the things today that will give you what you want, tomorrow.
Commit to your dream long term. Whether it's easy or not. It doesn't really matter. You are going to do it.

                                                The wait is that critical period between
                                                              wanting and getting.

Put together a system in your life - and follow it.


Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Don't Quit, Because You Do Make A Difference

                                                 "You were given this life to live,
                                           because you are strong enough to live it."
                                                                - Unknown

We must all have a vision for the future. In other words, we must create a compelling future.

If we don't have anything to move towards chances are that we will settle for the way things are. Most people accept the reality that they have been given.

We are not born to play small. We were born to shine our light. We were born to expand, to grow and to live a bigger and brighter version of ourselves.

You can't step into the future with an old way of looking at things. A new life comes from a new mind and a new way of looking at yourself and your life.

It's impossible to step into the future and if you remain constantly thinking about the past. The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited or erased. It can only be accepted.

The more you ruminate on negative thoughts and your past, the more power you give them. Time to move on. What happened to you in the past - happened. You can allow it to destroy you, or you can allow it to build you up.

It's up to each and everyone of us to step up and take care of our own lives and deal with the consequences of our own action or inaction.

Stay on your own path in life. The path that was designed for you, and only you. If you aren't following your own path you might never realize your own potential.

Keep on moving. Momentum is everything. The less you move, the less you are able to move. Action leads to more action.

Take action today. It doesn't have to be perfect action. Imperfect action is perfect. Do it messy, if you have to. That's OK.

Don't quit, because you do make a difference. Never give up on your dream. The reasons will take you through the storms of life. The reasons you started - think of those when you want to quit and feel like you can't go on. The reasons will comfort you.

You have to have energy when it comes to your dream. You must have a hunger or a burning desire to keep on going.
Be willing to do things today that will give you the tomorrow that you are looking for.

Put together a system in your life. Daily empowering and inspiring rituals. Sometimes they may not be that easy to follow, but I want you to raise your standards for yourself and follow them anyway.
Be committed to doing it long-term. Whether it's easy or not. It doesn't matter. You are going to do it.
Commitment means taking a stand for YOU.

Never let anyone's opinion of you, become your reality. Doubts kills more dreams then failure ever will. Invest in yourself and expect to win.

                                             Only as high as I reach can I grow:
                                                 only as far as I seek can I go:
                                                only as deep as I look can I see:
                                               only as much as I dream can I be.

Stand up for your life!!!


Monday, July 8, 2019


                                              "Getting knocked down in life is a given.
                                           Getting up and moving forward is a choice."
                                                                 - Zig Ziglar

Have you ever reached a very important goal and thought that when you accomplished it, you were going to feel absolutely amazing, so happy, proud of yourself, content with your accomplishment but instead you felt absolutely nothing?

Actually you might even have felt disappointed, let down and far from the amazing feeling that you were counting on would happen. Instead you actually felt a big void in your life and you were asking yourself.....
Is this it? What do I do now?

I remember when I graduated from my one year online coaching program back in May of 2014, I thought I was going to feel so wonderful that I had finally accomplished something that I had been thinking about and planning for, for over 3 years. And after it was all said and done, I felt disappointed, sad and discouraged. And I didn't really know how to procced with my life and my new business for a month or two after I graduated.
I wasn't depressed, but I felt very lost without my daily work with the coaching school. With the online lessons and the projects that had to be done and sent to the school for review. I also missed my coaching buddies in my pod group , that I had gotten to know during this year. It was like a big void, and I remember thinking many times, what am I going to do now?

A few weeks ago I was listening to and interview that Tony Robbins had done with Michael Phelps, the amazing Olympic swimmer that competed in four Olympic Games in a row and won 28 metals all together.
His whole life consisted of training and getting ready for the next competition. He talked to Tony about that after he retired from being an Olympic swimmer and when he didn't train and compete the same way he was used to doing throughout almost his entire life, he became depressed.
The question is, where do you go now? Michael Phelps had done nothing but train and compete most of his life.  He had been to the Olympic games four times and won 28 can you now adjust to being just a regular guy?

When the first astronauts had come back from the moon and then tried to adjust to normal life after training for years and then walking on the moon.....some of these astronauts became depressed and became alcoholics and they abused drugs. How do you adjust to just being a regular guy after you have walked on the moon? Where do you go from there? How can you now adjust to every day normal life?

Back in 2012 after I had walked away from a very emotional and psychological abusive relationship that I had been in for several years, I thought I was going to feel so relieved, great and get my energy back within a few months, but that did not happen.
Instead I felt disappointed, let down, sad and almost depressed and I did not get my energy back for a very long time.
What happened was that I had been focusing on this man's bad and unpredictable behavior for years. I had walked on eggshells, read everything I could get my hands on when it came to how to deal with a narcissist, planned my escape and once I got away, I felt absolutely nothing. No joy, no happiness.....nothing. Instead I felt completely lost, sad and very lonely. I was thinking many times.....

So what is going on here and how can we plan in advance so this doesn't happen, after we complete a big and amazing goal?

We must develop an "after plan" for when we have reached our most important goal.

How do we do this?

We have to have two or more goals going on at the same time, so when we complete one goal and after we have celebrated our success, we have to have something else to focus on right away. Because if we do, then we won't feel disappointed, sad, let down or depressed because now it's time to move on to the next big goal and accomplish it.

Every time after I finish writing, editing and publishing a book, I feel a void. 
I have usually spent quite a bit of time with every book and when the project is completed, I feel a little bit of sadness and I think.....
Answer: I start writing another book.

Always have a plan ready to go after you accomplish your goal, so that you won't fall into depression or waste time feeling lost on your path.
And if you happen to fall off the path, make sure you get up quickly and keep on going towards your new amazing goal(s) and your amazing future.


Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Feeling Stuck?

                                                     "Staying stuck in the past
                                                   is stealing from your future."
                                                            - Robin Sharman

Do you feel stuck in some area(s) of you life?

You do want to change but for some reason you keep doing the same thing day in and day out.
Year in and year out.

If we don't change something that we do, then nothing is going to change in our lives.

A lot of people walk around hoping that things will change for them, without them having to do anything about it themselves.

They hope that their spouse is going to change. That their boss is going to change. That their job is going to change and that the economy is going to change.

Do you believe that things will actually change without you having to do something about it, yourself?

It's so easy to point the finger at everyone else, but yourself.

                                                 "If you stay stuck in the past,
                                                no one will stay there with you.
                                                  If you look back on the past,
                               you'll just speed your life walking backwards."
                                                               - Unknown

I believe that for things to change for you, you must first make a decision that you want things to change and that you yourself are going to do something to make it happen.

After the decision has been made and you are committed to change, you actually have to act on that decision.

Most people don't actually make true decisions, because they can't see how that are going to get to where they want to go.
Instead they keep on doing things that they can see how they are going to get there and this is usually why their life really never changes.

                                            "You are not stuck where you are
                                                   unless you decide to be."
                                                         - Wayne Dyer

Do you have a major challenge right now that is keeping you stuck?

How long are you going to repeat the same thing over and over again?

Think of one small change that you can start doing today that will change your life for the better.
It doesn't have to be a huge thing. Start small and work your way up.

Start doing that thing today. Don't delay. Don't wait until you feel like it.
Make a decision and.....
Do It NOW!!!