Monday, December 30, 2019

Don't Move On To A Brand New Year With An Old Mindset

                   "By leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown,
                                    you find out what you are truly capable of becoming."





Do not move on to 2020 without letting go of something significant from 2019.

As I am sitting here today writing this blog I want to share with you a great exercise that I am in the process of completing, myself.
I want to share it with you today because I think this exercise is very powerful and very freeing.

It's simple to do and it won't take very long time to do.
It will definitely help you in this brand new year and this brand new decade that will be here in less than two days.


Exercise

Get pen a piece of paper.

Draw a line down the middle.




Left Column
Things that will remain in the past year and in the past decade.

Things that are weighing you down.
Bad and destructive habits.
Old ideas that are no longer working.
Outdated mindsets that won't help you where you are planning on going in 2020.
People who are negative and won't be supportive of you and what you are wanting to accomplish with your life.

Right Column 
Things you are taking with and that are good for you and will help you in 2020 and this coming decade.

New habits that you must develop.
New skills you must learn to be able to take your life to the next level.
People that are supportive, loving, encouraging. People that will assist you on your path to where you want to go in the future.


Write it all down. Yes it will take a little time but it will be so empowering to do this exercise.
The list is for you. You don't have to share it with the world. Post it on FB or even tell the people closest to you.
The list is for you and it will help you stay on keep you on track in 2020.


The benefit of doing and completing this exercise is that it will allow you to let go of things in your life that are no longer serving you and create space for something new and much better to enter in 2020.




                                              Today is a good time to begin a new; 
                                    throwing away old habits as you would old clothes 
                                                    and never putting them on again.

So what and who will you let go of in order to free up some space in 2020?




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Sunday, December 15, 2019

How To Feel Happier And Healthier Quickly

                                                     "I have decided to be happy 
                                                   because it's good for my health."


We all want to feel happy and healthy....but how to we accomplish this on a regular basis?

Here are a few simple tips on how to go about bringing some more happiness and health into your life daily.


1. Move More


Let's face it....not moving our bodies on a regular basis doesn't make anyone, happy or healthy. I am not saying that you have to go to the gym all the time. NO....actually a 30-minute walk several times per week will do the trick. Most of us can do this simple exercise of walking. If you haven't tried this simple tip I suggest you start it right now. You will be surprised how much better you feel just by moving your body more often.


2. Sleep More


When we don't get enough sleep we get tired, sluggish and cranky. Being sleep deprived doesn't make anyone happy or healthy. Moving our bodies is very important but sleeping enough hours is also part of a healthy and happy lifestyle. Make sure you get your ZZZzzzz's. About 8 hours per night is what most of us need on a regular basis to feel great and energized about ourselves and our lives.



3. Meet Face To Face

We are super connected online but in reality we are unfortunately getting more and more disconnected. Connecting via email, phone and social media is okay but in the long run if that is the only way that you are connecting the majority of the time you are setting yourself up for being very unhappy, unhealthy and disconnected and lonely down the road. Face time on social media cannot be replace by real in person face to face time.


                                            "Happiness is the highest for of health."
                                                               - Dalai Lama 



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Monday, December 2, 2019

Year In Review

                                            "Good times become good memories;
                                                 Bad times become good lessons."




I think we all know that we must reflect upon our life in order to learn, grow and expand.

I like to always to do a end of year inventory.
I take some time to myself to review the ups but also the downs.

Many people do not desire to do this "year in review inventory" for the fear of what they might discover with such a reflection.

It requires us of course to be totally honest with ourselves. We have to take a good look at ourselves and what we did and didn't do during the year that just went by.
We must review what went wrong during this past year. What we must improve on in the coming year and also we mustn't forget what went right and celebrate our victories too.




A lot of times we have a tendency to only focus on the negative and also exaggerate our losses and failures and we downplay all the great things that we did and the things that worked out in our favor.

A year in review shouldn't be something that you beat yourself over the head with. It's something that you simply must look at in order to discover where you need to improve, change so that you can grow and expand into the person that you are actually striving to become.

It's simply a way of just opening our eyes. To face the truth and also to celebrate.


                     "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes,
                                                             but in having new eyes."
                                                                    - Mancel Proust


Year In Review Inventory
Here are just a few questions for you.

1 Did you attain your goals(s)?
2 How did you do financially?
3 What kind of experience did you have in your marriage, partners, family, friends and co-workers?
4 What kind of health/fitness did you experience?
5 Are you feeling harmony and are you feeling engaged with others and the world in a positive way?
6 ___________________________________ Add your own question(s)


                                             "Life can only be understood backwards;
                                                      but it must be lived forwards."
                                                               - Soren Kieregaard



Finish of the 2019 on a beautiful high note and then set yourself up for the best 2020 possible.



                                                                    Karin Glannstam
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Monday, October 7, 2019

Can You Trust Yourself?

                                             "Self-trust is the first secret of success."
                                                          -  Ralph Waldo Emerson





Have you ever lied to someone?

I think that we are all guilty here.
Some lies have been bigger than others. But I believe that most of us probably lied sometime in our lifetime. Maybe more than once, if we are going to be honest. Usually we lie to make ourselves seem a little better, more important and more successful than we are, because we want to impress someone that is important too us. Or maybe we have lied to escape from having to take responsibility for something, that we actually did and that didn't turn out so well.
There are many different reasons why people will lie.

Have you ever lied to yourself?
Many times…..right? I know I have.
I tell myself that I am not going to have any more chocolate and then a week later when things get a little stressful in my life I found myself in the store holding a candy bar in my hand, even though I promised myself a week ago that it wouldn't happen again.

Have you ever decided to start going to the gym on Monday. Monday comes around and where are you?....not at the gym! What happened? You lied to yourself.

How about all those New Year's resolutions that you have made during your lifetime.....what happened to all those promises to yourself? How many of those did you actually keep? Not too many.....right?

You are in a relationship with your partner and if you are going to be honest with yourself, after 10 years you don't have anything in common anymore and he/she is actually almost abuse to you. What do you tell yourself? ….."It's not that bad" or another good one...…"He/She will change, if I just love him/her enough." You know deep inside that this isn't true. So what are you doing? You are lying to yourself again and again and again. Year in and year out.


                                             "Deep down, you already know the truth."


So my question to you is.....Do trust yourself? Since you have been lying to yourself for years....can you actually trust yourself?

If your spouse, partner, friend lied to you as much as you have been lying to yourself.....would you trust them?

A lot of times we often say that we can't trust others, but I wonder if it isn't that we can't really trust ourselves?
In order to trust others, we first have to be able to trust ourselves. We can't give away to others what we first don't have ourselves.

I read the following words in some article a few months ago and I thought it was very powerful so today I want to share it with you.

When you do what you say you are going to do, you build self-respect and a positive identity. Successful people understand that every time you break a promise you made to yourself, you feed your identity as an imposter and it weakens your self-confidence as a person of action.
For example, if you commit to exercising 30 minutes each day, the do it. Regardless of the outcome your character is being positively molded, and that will generate momentum along your journey.


                                                 "Trust yourself, you've survived a lot, 
                                             and you will survive whatever is coming."


Time for reflection, my friends!
Where in your own life do you need to stop lying to yourself?



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Wednesday, August 21, 2019

Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

                      Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything at once.
                                             Breathe. You are strong enough, you got this.
                                                             Take it day by day.





Do you feel overwhelmed?
Do you feel physically exhausted?
Do you feel mentally drained?
Are your relationships not working right now?
Are you are workaholic?

I talk to a lot of people that are feeling overwhelmed in today's world.

In order to bring some more balance into our life we first have to acknowledge that balance is important to us.

Then we have to take the risk of changing our life, if we want to feel better.
We can't keep on doing the same thing day in and day out, and expect change to happen by itself.
We have to make the changes that we want in our life.

WE have to take a good look at ourselves and be totally honest where we are and then set some realistic goals.

We must have goals in evert area of our lives.

Business/Career
Finances
Relationships/Friendships/ Family
Health/Wellbeing
Personal Development
Spirituality

Then we have to deal with any area that are taking too much energy and put them in perspective, align them, so we have energy available for all areas.


                                          Life has many ways of testing a person's will,
                                               either by having nothing happen at all
                                              or by having everything happen at once.




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Monday, August 19, 2019

Make Your Dreams Happen!


                                             A dream doesn't become reality through magic.
                                              It takes sweat, determination and hard work.






I love to read books and articles about personal development and I also love to listen to podcasts and watch videos on YouTube on the same subject.

But we can't just be listeners and readers. We eventually have to become doers. We actually have to apply what we have learned. In other words, we have to go to work.

We must take action. It doesn't matter how much we know if we don't put it to good use. We have to make sure that we got a game-plan to go with our wishes and dreams, otherwise they will always be wishes and dreams.


                                          Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try. 


Why should we try?
Why not? What else are you going to do with your life?

Why me?
Why not you? Some people have done the most incredible things with a limited start.

Why now?
Why not now? Why postpone your great future any longer? Get going today. Make a new effort.


It's time to apply all that we have learned. We must go to work. Set goals. Embark on the journey that will lead us to our vision for our life. We must follow a well-defined plan.

We  must enjoy our life as we seek to improve it. Seek knowledge, so that our value to ourselves and others will increase.

Discipline time, which is in limited amount. Don't waste our time on things/people that are not in alignment of where we want to go in life.


                                      There is no telling how many miles you will have to run
                                                            while chasing your dream.


Examine associations. We become like the people that we spend most of our time with. Who are we spending a lot of time with? And is that OK?

Stop doing what is easy. Do what actually will bring the achievement that we seek. Commit ourselves to ourselves and to do the work that it will actually take to achieve our dream for our life. Never accept less than we can be.


                                       If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.


Think of two actions that you have been putting off. Two things you need to do but you keep putting them off.

If you would take action on these two things right now it would immediately change the quality of your life.
What are those two actions?


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Wednesday, August 14, 2019

You Can't Fix Yourself By Breaking Someone Else

                                               It's a lot easier to hurt others with our pain, 
                                                    than to deal and sit in our own pain. 
                                        That's why we hurt others with words and actions. 
                                                             Or we hurt ourselves.
                                                                  - Brene Brown





The majority of people do not intend to hurt or harm others.
However, many do cause harm, not because if their intention, but because they are too stuck in their own pain and suffering to consider the needs of others.
Hurt people will hurt others.

These people are not in a state of love.
They cannot love themselves and others. In others words, they cannot give away what they don't have.


                                           "People who love themselves, don't hurt other people.
                                                           The more we hate ourselves,
                                                     the more we want others to suffer."
                                                                      - Dan Pearce


Some people can't love us.
And it's not because we are unlovable. It's because these people's capacity to love is impaired. Often these people are so scared to get hurt that they are constantly protecting themselves from further hurt by avoidance, neglect, rejection or trying to hurt others before they can hurt them.

I have learned that some people we just have to learn to love from a distance.
It doesn't mean that we don't love them but they are so unhealthy to be around and their lives are so filled with drama, and maybe addiction that the only thing we can do is to let them go and love them from far away.
     

                                                 "Our prime purpose in this life is to help others.
                                             And if you can't help others, at least don't hurt them."
                                                                       - Dalai Lama
      

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Friday, August 9, 2019

Your Mountain Is Waiting - Melanie's Story

                                                           Resolve says, "I will."
                                      The man says, "I will climb that mountain.
                   They told me it is too high, too far, too steep, to rocky and too difficult.
                                             But it's my mountain. I will climb it.
                  You will see me soon waving from the top or dead on the side from trying."
                                                                - Jim Rohn





Melanie Michealchuk conquered her mountain!!!
Her mountain was Kilimanjaro. A dormant volcano in Tanzania. It's the highest mountain in Africa with a summit about 4900 meters or 16,000 ft. from it's base.
On July 11 of this year, Melanie reached the summit.



So who is Melanie and why did she want to conquer this mountain?
I first me Melanie at a Conroe Chamber networking breakfast in Conroe, TX, in December of last year. Melanie is a fitness/health coach working for Curves both in Conroe, TX and Huntsville, TX. And since I am a Life Coach and work a lot with the health and wellbeing of people Melanie, and I connected right away.

We later met for coffee and in February I headed up to see Melanie at Curves in Conroe and I had a BioAge test done. If you don't know what it is, here is a BLOG about the one Melanie did on me.
http://karinglannstam.blogspot.com/2019/02/your-body-is-reflection-of-your.html




While Melanie and I got to know each a little more she shared with me about a dream that she had had since her early twenties. She wanted to hike up to the summit of Kilimanjaro. In her twenties she had read some article about a woman setting a big goal and climbing this mountain and it struck a chord with Melanie and she could never really get it out of her head. But as for many of us the dreams that we have in our early life, sometimes gets to be put on the backburner because we get a career going, get married, have kids. Life happens and we push that goal away and say to ourselves that someday I will do that.

Melanie and her husband are both Canadians, from Edmonton and they have two children, both boys. In 2005 they moved to The US because of a transfer that her husband got. He is working in the oil business.

Melanie tried some different jobs here in the Houston area. She has been in the printing business. She taught water aerobics, taught pre-school and she told me that she dabbled in real estate for a while but didn't feel like any of those jobs was something that did fit her.

At this time challenges were also happening in her marriage. She and her husband Dan, were drifting apart and this pushed Melanie into depression and she gained 60 pounds during a 6 year period. She told me that she was self-soothing instead of dealing with her relationship problems with her husband. Neither Melanie nor he husband wanted to address the disconnection they were experiencing in their marriage.



Then something happened. Her husband started a course with Landmark Worldwide. This company is a personal and professional growth, training and development company, focusing on people achieving success, fulfillment and greatness.

After her husband finished the course Melanie saw big changes in him and she decided to check it out herself. So she too joined Landmark Worldwide for a long weekend workshop. After completing this course Melanie noticed great growth in herself and she decided that she wanted to work with empowering and inspiring other people. Both Melanie and her husband took charge of their lives. They decided that they needed to change and they both took action to do so and today they are having an amazing marriage again and Melanie has lost all the weight that she gained.

In December of 2017 an ad for Curves showed up on Melanie's radar and she got an interview with them and at that interview she was offered the job. She is still with Curves and she loves her job. On a daily base she gets to help people taking their life to a new level. Becoming healthier and stronger and more empowered.



Last year this dream of hiking up to the summit of Kilimanjaro was surfacing again for Melanie and she made a decision that it was time to accomplishing this goal that she had been thinking about for over 25 years.

She knew what she wanted. And she had a very strong why she wanted to do it. Having a strong reason for wanting something will allow you to get through obstacles, setbacks and distraction on the road to reaching your goal.



Melanie created a game-plan and set a deadline of one year to accomplish this goal. Then she took action on a daily base. She had to prepare physically by hiking, biking, running and swimming. She also had to save money, because it would take money to accomplish that dream. She had to find a company and a guide that she could hire to assist her in reaching the summit. She also had to prepare mentally and emotionally, because our mind is going to tell us on a daily base that we can't accomplish our goals.



Melanie worked hard on herself and her goal and I am so excited that she accomplished her dream on July 11, when she stood waving at the top of her mountain.

Did she have obstacles on her way to reaching the summit of Kilimanjaro? Of course she did. Many of them. Originally she was going to do this trip with 2 other friends, but they backed out and she had to go at it alone. A wall of doubt got the best of her a couple of days before it was time to leave and on her way to the airport here in Houston she almost turned around. She didn't have the right shots and had to get some at the last minute. They lost her luggage with her hiking shoes and her backpack, but she got it back. Yes, it's never going to be easy but I know she forgot all about her obstacles and setbacks when she stood at the summit waving at the world.

Melanie did not do it alone. She had many people that helped her accomplish her dream. She credits Landmark Worldwide and Curves for a lot of her success.



She had an amazing guide by the name of Elly Anase with Kili Dreamers, here is their link
https://www.kilidreamers.com/?fbclid=IwAR0jK-zvT3QqvR3R3DlkIS6UUTWvbB9-I_6xAfmg0rl7U_6Jq8tZk1dEnVs

and she could not have done it without his expertise, help and encouragement.
And of course her whole family and friends were also cheering her on to reach the summit

Amazing job Melanie!!! You did it!!!

What Is Your Mountain?



                                      Written by Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author
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Wednesday, August 7, 2019

I Don't Know, Right Now!

                                                    Everything will work out in the end.
                                                           You don't need to know how.
                                                      You just have to trust that it will





Sometimes we just don't  know how something is going to turn out before we start. And sometimes when we are in the middle of something, we don't know either how it will work out. We simply have to believe that it will.

We can plan all we want but sometimes we can't plan everything and we just have to say.....I don't know what to do next and I am not sure how this will turn out. I doesn't mean that you should stop what you are doing but you have to get comfortable in not knowing exactly what to do and say "I am OK, with not knowing right now."

Yes, of course it's nice to know everything in advance, but a lot of times that isn't possible. Sometimes we have to just let go and say.....I simply don't know, right now.

Just because you don't know how every single step of your journey is going to unfold, that shouldn't stop you from getting started. All you need to do is to get clear on what you want and then take the first step.

All you need to do is to put one foot in front of the other and keep taking the logical next step toward your goal. And trust that answers and resources you seek will appear.


                                                                Use what you know.
                                                  Don't worry about what you don't know.



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Monday, August 5, 2019

Pathways To Health


                                                        "Take care of your body.
                                               It's the only place you have to live."
                                                                - Jim Rohn






Your health and wellbeing is tied to your success in life. It's going to be hard to perform well if you are not properly taking care of yourself.
When you are taking excellent care of yourself you will be more productive, creative and you will have more energy.

I believe that most of us have been there at some point in our life, where we have been neglecting our health. It's easy to push our exercise to the following day when we are running out of time in our busy schedule. But we must remember that pursuing our dream will require all the energy that we have, so staying in shape should be a priority. Your dream is worth it.

Make sure that you find an exercise that you enjoy doing, or chances are that you won't do it. Sometimes it might be great to switch things up a little so that you won't get bored with the routine. Find a workout partner is another great way to hold yourself accountable or hire a personal trained that will be waiting for you at the gym.

Make sure that you schedule time to exercise on a daily base, even if it's only for a short walk. Take the elevator instead of the stairs. Park far away in the parking lot when you are going to the store. Schedule some stretching exercises for 5 minutes every hour, if you are sitting down a lot during the day.

Make smart food choices that will give you a lot of energy. Spend a little more time in the kitchen., cooking your own meals. Eating out a lot isn't great for your health and wellbeing. Designate one day a week to be in the kitchen and cook a lot of food that you can freeze and later warm up quickly for a healthy meal. Health is not very complicated. Make it simple and fun. Get the whole family involved.

Make time for mental health. Make sure that you allow 7-9 hours for sleep and also that you have some downtime before you go to bed to allow your brain shut to shut down and get it ready to relax and prepared for bed.
Stay away from using electronics 1-2 hours before you go to bed. Don't bring your cellphone to bed with you. Create a space to relax in and turn down the lights to allow your body and your mind to calm down.

Limit stress. What can you give up? Maybe it's time to reassess your priorities? You don't have to help everyone and especially not at the expense of your own health and wellbeing.
Yoga, meditation, soft music, hot bath or reading are all excellent ways to relax and to limit stress.

Spending time with friends and family is a great way of feeling connected, reducing stress and increasing your health and wellbeing. Healthy relationships will make you feel like you can conquer the world.


Bottom line is.... that you must love yourself enough to live a healthy lifestyle.


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Monday, July 29, 2019

Don't Take The Bait

                                                         "Conflict cannot survive 
                                                       without your participation."
                                                                 - Wayne Dyer




I am sure most of you have been fishing sometime in your life.

I remember when I was a child my parents had a vacation cottage by a wonderful lake in Sweden. Sometimes we would go fishing. I thought it was a lot of fun because the whole family did it together. Most of the time we caught some fish and then we would bring it home and my mom would cook it.

When you fish you start with a fishing pole and on the end of the line there is a hook. You bait the hook with a worm, toss it out in the water and wait for a fish to take the bait. Once the fish takes the bait and get hooked to pulled the fish into the boat.

Same thing in life. There are a lot of people in the world that like to pull you into their conflicts, drama, arguments and other crazy behavior. They too bait a hook and the they throw it out there to see who will take the bait first. Once someone is interested in the bait, they set the hook and reel you in.

There are people out there in this world that can't wait to stir up trouble. In other words, they are trouble makers and they thrive on creating drama and trouble in other people's lives. They are trying to bait you. But you got to learn to recognize these types of people and make sure that you don't take the bait.

If someone is rude to you, the best way to act is like, it is no big deal to you. Don't get upset and don't allow theses people to disturb your inner peace. Stay calm and continue to move forward on your own journey.

There are no perfect people out there. We must give people room to be human. They are not going to be perfect all the time, and neither are you. Don't have unrealistic expectation because some people are not capable of doing what you want them to do or be who you want them to be.

Sometimes people will disappoint you, no matter how good they are. People are going to say hurtful things so we must leant to not be so easily affended. Don't take things personally. Other people behavior has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. It will tell you who they are, not who you are. Just let it slide off you.

Don't allow other people to disturb your peace and don't depend on other people for your happiness. If someone says something hurtful, you will be unhappy for the rest of the day. Don't put the keys to you happiness in someone else's pocket. You are responsible for YOU and your own happiness. Don't put too much pressure o other people, because then you will feel disappointed. Let these people off the hook.

There are going to be a lot of bumps on our journey in life. It's normal to expect this. But it's up to us to not get to upset when it happens. Protect your own peace of mind. Don't allow the same things upset day after day. Even if people are grumpy, critical, unfair, angry, jealous, mean, bitter and try to pull you in to conflict and arguments, decide that you are going to have a great day. Keep on pursuing your dream. Don't take the bait.

You can't control what other people are doing. You can only control what you do. So shake of their bitterness, anger, envy, jealousy. If you are allowing people to upset you, bait you into conflict and joining them in their drama, you are giving away your power. You are actually letting them control you. Remain calm in the face of adversity. Don't let them ruin your day.

Let's face it, there are some people that have the gift on getting on your nerves. It seems like some people have the calling in life to make other people miserable. But remember that you are in control of you. They can't make you feel a certain way without your consent. If you become angry or frustrted, it's a choice that you make.

When people are rude, critical, angry, jealous they have issues that they are not dealing with. Sometimes they are like a poisonous snake. Make sure that they don't bite you and allow their poison to get into you. Don't start arguing with them. Don't allow them to get you upset. Don't take the bait.

Rise above these people. Don't go down to their level. Try to be kind and respectful to these people, even when it's difficult. People will constantly try to offer you the bait. Next time it happens, just say...."No thanks, I am not taking that bait."

Always be selective which battles you are going to get involved with. Will it somehow benefit you to get involved? If it's not between you and your destiny, I suggest that you don't get involved. Don't get involved in every conflict because it will drain your energy and then you won't have enough energy left for your own dream. Learn to walk away from distractions. Know what battles to fight. Fight the battles that do matter. Don't take the bait.

Walk away from people that don't matter. Learn to keep your mouth shut. Don't say things you shouldn't say and that you will regret later. Stay on the right road, which is the high road.

Walking away from a fight isn't a sign of weakness. Quite the opposite. It takes a strong person to walk away from and argument or a fight. Never fight battles with small-minded people. People that don't value who you are. Don't get involved because it might prevent you from making progress on your own goals and dreams. These are simply distractions that might get you off track to reaching your own destiny.
Learn to ignore things. Ignore negative and critical people. Ignore negative comments. Ignore disrespect and rudeness. Keep your inner peace.

Are you fighting battles right now that don't matter?
Are you being distracted by little things that will prevent you or are slowing your down from reaching your destiny?



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Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Why Do You Want To Suffer And Inflict Unnecessary Pain On Yourself?

                       "When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself,
                                                    your world changes for the better."




Has anyone been trying to change you lately?

There are plenty of people out there in the world that are spending an enormous amount of energy on trying to change the people around them, to make themselves feel better.

Women are very good at this. The minute some women get into a relationship or marriage with a man, they try to change the man. This often confuses the other person because just a short while back everything they did was great and then all of a sudden there isn't anything that they are doing that is good enough. Have you ever been there? I know I have.

I am sure that most of us have been on the receiving end of people trying to control us and have us change our ways. And I know that sometimes it might be a good thing to change something that we are doing or some aspects of ourselves. But we can never force a person to change by nagging and complaining about them.


                                                "Stop trying to change other people:
                                          The only person you can change is yourself."


I am sure that most of us have also tried to change someone else.
How did that work out for you?

We must stop expecting other people and situations to be a certain way, so that we can be the way we want to be and so that we can feel good. This is a very powerless place to be. In the end people have the right to be the way they are and you also have the right to be who you are.

If you don't harmonize with certain people, it isn't that they are wrong or that you are wrong. It's simply that you have different types of energy, values and beliefs and all of those does not harmonize,

There are 7 billion people out there.
If you don't harmonize with someone, you can always find another person. And don't change yourself just because you want to be in a relationship with someone because in the end that will suffocate your soul and you will eventually die on the inside.

Always be who you are and find the people that you are in alignment and harmonize with. Life is too short to be miserable with people that are not in alignment of who we are. Stop trying to change them and don't change yourself just to fit in.

You can't wait for people/things to change. It's a very weak and powerless situation to be in.
Take charge of your own life. Create a new story. Be the hero of your own journey.


Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author

                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

Monday, July 22, 2019

Learning From Adversity

                                            "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, 
                                                                   more intelligently."
                                                                   - Henry Ford  



Is failure fatal?
No, it isn't.

Is failure ever a benefit to a person?
Yes, it is, because every failure or adversity brings with it a seed of an equivalent advantage or opportunity.

Failure is never permanent.
Unless you quit because of the adversity. Only the person him/herself will make a failure permanent. Failure is only temporary. Failure will also give way to brand new opportunities, not yet seen, if a person continues to fight.
Success is usually just a short step beyond where someone quits.

Failure is a state of mind and a person can control their own mind unless they neglect to use this power.

Sometimes failure serves as a blessing in disguise. It will bring your mind to brand new start. Just remember that rejection is often protection and re-direction.


                                                              "Failure is not fatal,
                                                     but failure to change might be."
                                                                - John Wooden


Unfortunately too many people will quit when they encounter the first sign of failure.

Usually failure will bring you to a stop.
It's the dead end to the path that you have been following and it will force you to re-direct where they are going.
It forces you to leave the old path and pick up another fresh new path.

Failure will also prove to you how much willpower you have. It will also force you to discover traits about yourself that you would never have discovered about yourself, unless you were being faced with adversity or failure.

Failure might lead a lot of people to go on a journey inwards, and that will bring a greater understanding about him/herself and his/her habits and they will also be faced with forming some brand new habits.
It will break the pattern of being mostly on auto-pilot for most of our days and our lives.

Failure will break up old automatic patterns and habits, to make room from brand new more empowering habits and brand new opportunities.

It's up to you to look at failure or adversity as a learning experience and then redirect your own patterns of thought and habits.

Also expect something great to show up on your brand new path.
It's called opportunities. You might not see them right away. But they will arrive.


If I look back on my own life I can say this is very true. In 2012 the life that I knew came to a dead end. Old thought patterns and habits had to go. Basically my whole life had to go to make room for something brand new. At the time when everything fell apart I could not see any opportunities, but after doing a lot of work on myself and what I wanted my life to look like I saw a brand new opportunity that took me in a completely new direction. I had to discover things and traits about me that I didn't know. Some were good and some were not so good. It wasn't easy at the time, but well worth the effort. 
My coaching business was born at this time. And I am so grateful for the protection and re-direction that I got in 2012.

If you want to find out more about my complete smackdown in 2012, you can get my book
Bounce Don't Break - how to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down.

Here is the link to order on Amazon
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                                              "Failure is success if we learn from it."
                                                              - Malcolm S. Forbes

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Wednesday, July 17, 2019

Never Give Up! Set a Goal And Go For It!

                                                      You Are Invited
                                                 To
                                         Sip & Learn!


                          Just wanted to let you know that I will be doing a presentation
                                                   on Aug.1, 2019 at GenuWine

   Come and join us for a relaxing evening of socializing, networking and a little bit of learning.

     I will be doing a 30 minute presentation about Why We Must Have A Vision & Set Goals

                                              "If you don't design your own life plan
                                          chances are you will fall into someone else's plan
                                            And guess what they have planned for you?
                                                                  Not much!"
                                                                  -Jim Rohn

                                                   
                                 

5 Ways To Make Goal-Setting Not Just What You Say But What You Do



When: Aug.1, 2019  6.30-8pm

Where: GenuWine  6503 FM 1488
              Magnolia, TX, 77354


6.30 -7pm   Mix & Mingle, Order Food and Drinks
7 - 7.30pm  Presentation
7.30 - 8pm  Q&A, Discussion


Feel free to bring a friend.


               Come And Enjoy A Great Time At GenuWine!



Sincerely,

Karin Glannstam
Life Coach & Author


For information you can contact me via email: karin@karinglannstam.com
or website: www.karinglannstam.com





Monday, July 15, 2019

The Power of YOU

                                 You were not born to play it small. You were born to sail. 
                       To expand, to grow and to live a bigger and brighter version of you.





How are you coming along with your goals for this year?

What was the goal that you decided that you wanted to make your reality at the beginning of this year?

You can become more by having goals and working towards them. In life you don't get what you want - you get in life what you are. But you can always become more by developing yourself.


Today I want you to take a look at your life. 

Where are you right now?

What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses?

What gives your life meaning and a sense of fulfillment and joy?

What does a full, rich life mean to you?

What is it that you can love doing 7 days a week, that will bring a smile to yourself?

Think about that. In all areas of your life. Your professional life, personal life, family life and your spiritual life.

What is it that you like to have?

                                      Embrace the unknown and be okay with letting go 
                                   of something or someone that isn't meeting your needs.


Once you have your vision and goals determined you must make sure that you surround yourself with people that will contribute to your growth. Align yourself with people who think like you do. Who dream like you do. Other people who also want more out of life. You must find people who are stretching, searching and seeking some higher ground in life.

Get on top of life because it's the bottom that is overcrowded. It's easy to be on the bottom because it doesn't take any effort to be a non doer and a drifter. It doesn't take any motivation or drive to stay on a low level.

                                            If you don't have anything to move towards, 
                                         chances are that you will settle for where you are.

You must have energy when it comes to your dream or your vision. You must have a burning desire and you must be willing to do the things today that will give you what you want, tomorrow.
Commit to your dream long term. Whether it's easy or not. It doesn't really matter. You are going to do it.

                                                The wait is that critical period between
                                                              wanting and getting.


Put together a system in your life - and follow it.

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