"Ask for what you want
and be prepared to get it."
- Maya Angelou
Back in 2013 I had just started attending networking groups to spread the word about my coaching business, learn new things and meet new people.
I remember one meeting in particular. At this meeting the owner of the networking group happen to attend the meeting and at the end of the meeting he told us than if anyone wanted to get some help with their business, he was willing to meet with us one-on-one and assist us in any way that he could, for free.
There was only one requirement, we had to ASK for his help.
I knew I needed all the help that I could get, so I immediately took him up on his offer and walked up to him and asked if he would be willing to meet with me, and he was. The following week we meet for a 3 hour long one-on-one meeting, where he answered many of my questions and gave me a lot of insight and great information that I still use in my business today.
What is my point here?
Many people are afraid to ask.
It's not going to kill you if you ask for something.
Many people don't want to ask because they are afraid they will get a NO.
How about if you get a YES!!!
People don't like to be rejected, so they never even consider asking anyone for anything.
"If you don't ask,
you don't get."
- Stevie Wonder
I have heard about sales people turning rejections into a fun game. Every morning they start a game to see which one can get to 10 rejections first. That person will win a price. They hurry up and get started making phone calls and who ever manages to get rejected 10 times, is the winner.
After doing this for a while, rejection isn't that bad and they start looking at rejection as part of doing business and part of life.
If you knew that you would succeed and win a great price on your 10th attempt of doing a specific task, but to get to the success on the 10th try you had to go through being rejected 9 times, wouldn't you do it???
"You get in life what you have the
courage to ask for."
- Oprah Winfrey
Don't be afraid of rejection. You will get used to it and it won't kill you.
If you start asking for what you want, you will probably get it.
Develop a new habit of asking for what you want. Like any new habit, it will take a while to get use to doing it. Hang in there, and eventually you will become a pro.
But remember, if you don't ask, the answer will always be NO.