Wednesday, April 17, 2019

Don't Listen To People Who Tell You What To Do

                                              "Don't listen to people who tell you what to do.
                                   Listen to people who encourage you to do what you know,
                                                              in your heart is right."

Have you got anyone around you that is telling you what you should do, or what you should want?

If the answer is YES, you are not alone.

There are plenty of people out there that will quickly tell us what we should do or not do. What we should want and not want, regardless of how we feel about it.

Sometimes these kinds of people will make our head spin.
Unfortunately if we spend too much time around these people, we will start telling ourselves what they are constantly telling us, even if we don't feel that way down deep inside.

If we are not careful we might get stuck, stay stuck for years or sometimes even a lifetime in situations that will cause us pain, because we rather defend these non-truths, then upset or disappoint anybody.

A lot of people will rather do what is expected of them instead of giving themselves permission to be, do and have what they want and what will make them truly happy and fulfilled.

When we have a big dream for our life it's important that we don't engage to much with people that don't support our dream. Unfortunately those people can often be the people that are the closest to us, like family-members and friends.
What do we do then?
We might not want to share our hopes and dreams with these people, especially in the beginning, because that is when we have all the fears and doubts ourselves and we don't need others to help us stack their fears and doubts on top of ours.
Keep it to yourself.
Only share with people that will be supportive of what we are wanting to accomplish.
Also remember, never take anything personally. A lot of times it isn't about our fears and doubts. It's almost always about the other person's fears, doubts and insecurities.

Instead find people that are supportive and that are themselves going somewhere in life.
Hire a mentor or a coach.
Read books.
Listen to podcasts and webinars online.
Attend live seminars.
Join some groups with likeminded people.

                                            It's hard to imagine a more stupid
                                and more dangerous way of making decisions
                                      than by putting the decisions in the 
                                               hands of people who pay
                                               no price for being wrong.
                                                     - Thomas Sowell

You have to decide what is right for you and the life you want to live. 
Only you know. 
No one else is walking in your shoes.


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