Friday, November 20, 2015

Self-love isn´t Selfish......It is Necessary

                           "Self-love requires courage. Have the strength to be who you are
                                     in a world that tries desperately to make you different.
                                             Never compromise to be who you are not."

We all want love, so a lot of times we will adjust ourselves to the person that we are with at the time. We do this so that we can get love.

In order to get love from our parents we try to keep them happy and later we try to keep a partner or a friend happy so in return we can get love.

But sometimes we don´t get love, no matter how happy we try to make them. What happens then?

We try so hard to make others happy that in the meantime we end up losing ourselves.

We try harder and harder to make them happy, but we get less and less back.

We try even harder because we don´t think or feel that we are trying hard enough.

What we don´t realize, that there might not be any love to get from this person and that we better off moving on.

What we must learn to do is to love ourselves, then we don´t need other people to love us. And if they love us, that is just icing on the cake, but we are OK without it because we love and respect ourselves and we won´t try to get love from places where we can´t get it.

Don´t betray yourself when there is no love to be found. Just move on and the Universe will always love you and support you.

Remember to always love yourself first.

                          "Self-love requires you to be honest about your current choices
                                     and thought patterns and undertake new practices
                                                       that reflect self worth."

Think about it like this....

If I want give away a dozen apples....I first have to get a dozen apples so I can give them away to somebody.
If I don´t have a dozen apples I can´t give a dozen apples away.
It´s simple.....we can´t give away what we don´t have.

Same thing with love. First you have to have love for yourself. If you don´t love can you give love away to other people? You can´t.

Again...we can´t give away what we don´t have. It starts with you. You can´t give away what you don't have. No matter what it is.

If you choose to love yourself then you never have to look for it elsewhere. You don´t have to stay in toxic relationships, bad jobs, sacrifice your dreams and living someone else's life.

Self love isn´t selfish, it is necessary.

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

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