Monday, November 9, 2015

Are You Addicted to "Busyness"?

                                           "No one is "too busy" in this world,
                                                     It´s all about priorities."

                        "Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life."

You have probably listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are?

Most of the clients that I coach are stating that one of the biggest issues they have is feeling overwhelmed all the time. They feel like they have no time.....always being too busy.
In other words.......They can´t find any balance in their life.

So the next thing I ask them .....
What are you doing to make yourself feel so overwhelmed?
They move all the time, always doing something. It seems like a lot of people can´t even be still for one minute. The constantly have to stay busy doing something.

I notice that some people are afraid to stop moving because their sense of importance comes from "being busy". They feel important when they have a packed schedule and a lot of things to do.
A packed schedule might eventually lead to burnout or stress. In other words feeling overwhelmed all the time.
The truth is that busyness does not result is greater productivity.

Busy can be a way of life. We feel important by all the incoming emails and text messages that makes us feel wanted and validated. We post things on FB to see how many likes we can get. Constantly changing  our profile picture or posting "selfies to get a feeling of worthiness by the comments that we are getting.

Busy has a dangerous allure but it is exhausting and ultimately an empty way of living.

Many people feel great when other people make demands on their time.  Our ego gets a large boost and we feel wanted. A lot of people need to get validated by constantly helping others or staying busy.

I see people staying so busy that they neglect to take care of themselves. They are constantly on the go and a lot of times the neglect their health, wellbeing, their family, hobbies and often end up feeling depleted and stressed out.

Sometimes we make ourselves busy doing less important things to avoid doing the work that will be beneficial to ourselves. Of course working on our own goals  and our own vision will require more work of us than being busy with less important things.

I read something a while back about a Buddhist monk by the name of Sogyal Rinpoche. He calls it "active laziness" - the filling of our lives with unessential tasks so we feel full of responsibilities or, as he calls them, "irresponsibilities."

People tell me all the time that they don´t have the time to exercise, cook, read a book, getting together with friends.
Not true. You simply choose not to.
The things that makes us busy is the result of our own decisions

Challenge yourself to go a week without needless busyness or social media saturation.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

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