"You never look good,
trying to make someone else look bad."
What Would You Do?
If you had the tallest building in New York City for a while..... but after you built your building several other builders built taller buildings than yours....... what would you do to yet again have the tallest building?
A. You start tearing down all the buildings that are taller than yours.
You might get away with tearing down the first one but sooner or later someone will discover what you are up to and they will start guarding their buildings and telling you to not come around their building. They know what you are up to.
B. You could add more stories to your building or build a brand new one.
You focus on what you can do to create what you want instead of tearing down what other people have build or accomplished.
I know I would go for B.
It would involve more work on my part but in the end I would be proud of what I created myself and I know that I didn't create it by pushing or pulling someone else down.
The above example might not be such a great one..... but what I am trying to get to is that in life often people will rather tear down someone else or something that someone else has created instead of focus on what they themselves are capable of creating for themselves, in their own life.
It seems like it is easier to pull someone down than it is to pull yourself up.
Some people will become jealous or envious if someone else have what they themselves want.
Since someone else has what they want .....then there won't be enough for them. They will never be able to have it. This is a lack-mentality. Since you have it....they must take it from you instead of creating it for themselves.
There is plenty for all..... if you are willing to work for it.....you can have it too.
This is a abundant-mentality.
Sometimes people try to expose what is wrong with you, because the can't handle what is right with you.
Maybe someone has a lot of energy, they are happy and they live a healthy lifestyle. Automatically some people will get jealous of that and they will try to do things or talk bad about this person because they themselves lack energy, health and happiness in their own life. They have in other words chosen example A.
They tear into someone else, trying to bring them down to their own level. Or they try to take away what this person has so they can have it themselves.
Instead they can choose B. A much smarter approach. They can ask the person that is healthy, happy and energetic how they are able to create this in their life. Realizing that they can also create this in their own life. But of course that will require some changes in their own life and some work on their part.
If there is someone that you admire with someone or maybe they created something that you would like to have.....find out how they did it.
Ask them how they created the life and the habits that you want and then you model them and you can live like this person.
It doesn't matter if it has to do with money, wealth, a great career, great relationships, happiness, health & vitality or a lot of energy. If you got it.....some people want it and sometimes they will try to take it from you or they will try to tear you down to get to what they want. And if they can't have it, they don't want you to have it either.
Don't use that approach. Instead ask or find out how this person created great wealth in their life, or how they have such a happy marriage, how they have such a high energy level, how they were able to create a business career or how they can remain so peaceful and calm no matter what is going on in the world.
Just remember that you can never pull yourself up by tearing down others.
If you want to pull yourself up....you have to do the work yourself.