Change is to a lot of people a scary word. One of the biggest subconscious blocks that we have when it comes to changing our lives...... is the risk of the unknown.
Especially if we feel like the unknown is a scary place and we can't handle living in uncertainty.
When we are trying to create change in our lives it can also be difficult for the people around us. Especially in our closest personal relationships.
Ex.....if you have been an overweight person for years. Eating unhealthy food and never exercising and you decide to make a huge change in your life. Deciding on a healthy lifestyle where eating healthy and exercising is now part of your daily routine.........it will change your relationships.
Your spouse will be affected, children, friends and co-workers.
Let me explain more in detail what I am talking about.
Every relationship has a balance-point. It is the state of a relationship which both people subconsciously agree. "This is how it is in our relationship and this is how it will continue to be."
Change will shake things up for all the people involved in the relationship.
When someone makes a drastic and permanent change, it disrupts the balance-point and there are only 3 possible outcomes......
#1. The other person accepts the changes as they are. This could be.........
A... Actual acceptance or
B... They don't want to rock the boat.
If it is an real acceptance , the relationship will quickly reach a new balance-point.
But if it is B.....not to rock the boat, it might lead to #2
#2. The relationship ends.
This might happen if there is a huge, significant change and both people can no longer agree on a balance-point. This happens because one person made a huge change while the other person was unable or unwilling to change.
#3. The other person will also make a change.
In an empowered relationships, both people will elevate their consciousness, make change for the better and ultimately find a new, more fulfilling balance-point.
No matter which of those outcomes happens. When we change our lives, we are putting ourselves and others at risk.
In my blog on Wednesday I will talk about how I risked everything I had and knew about myself. The year was 2012.
More on that on Wednesday.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach