"He who control his own thoughts,
controls his destiny."
- Ross Arntson
Our own mind constantly plays games with us.
Our brain is 2 million years old and it is not designed to make us happy. It is designed to make us survive. It is always looking for what is wrong so it can fight or flight.
Since we have no bears to run from like we used to have, our brain is now thinking and worrying about "What are people going to think of me?" or "I wonder if my picture looks good enough on social media?" or "Am I good enough?" and "Do I have enough money?"
We have a constant chatter going on in our minds.
A lot of times what makes us suffer is our own thoughts.
We can have thoughts that will make us feel like crap. Thoughts like anger, frustration, worry, overwhelm, lonely or stressed. These thoughts will make us suffer.
Or we can have thoughts that will make us feel good. Thoughts like gratitude, happiness, joy, love, support or creativity.
Most people will never learn how to master their mind, or their "Inner World." So instead their minds go crazy and it is racing all over the place.....all the time.
We believe our thoughts. "If this doesn't happen, I will be so stressed and forever unhappy."
Most of these thoughts are just a lot of nonsense.
First rule.....don't believe everything that you think. The mind is looking for what is wrong.
Rule number two.....change your thoughts of frustration, anger, resentment, guilt and unhappiness to thoughts of love, joy, gratitude and happiness.
Where focus goes.....energy flows. Stop suffering today by changing your thoughts.
Train your mind to be in a beautiful state most of the time. When you feel a negative thought coming, just allow it to show up, but only give it a limited time to stick around and then send it off.
For example say....."Thank you for your concern but I don't need your help right now. I got this!"
Remember our mind likes to play games with us. To fall into this trap.
When you are in a beautiful state..... you feel better and you treat others better. It is also a lot easier to solve problems when you are in a great state. Life is way to short to suffer.
To have beauty in your life you must decide to be happy no matter what is going on or happens in your life. A lot of times we can't control the "Outer World" but we can control how we react, what we think and what we do.....our "Inner World."
Become emotionally fit. Become stronger mentally and emotionally. Learn new things. Drive yourself and take action. As long as you will allow your stress and thoughts to dominate you.....it will be hard to change. Make yourself be in a wonderful state.
Control your thoughts and what you focus on.
Take control of your life. Don't let life just happen to you.
Stop negotiating with your mind.
Design your life the way you want it.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach