Never change for anyone, after you do, all they´ll want you to do is change again.
And as hard as it was to change the first time, to give up everything you knew, and be half empty afterwards isn´t worth it.
Don´t change so people will like you.
Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
A lot of times we might feel that it is more important to be liked than to be real.
But how can we love and enjoy our lives if we are not honest and authentic?
How can we create something extraordinary if we are not speaking and living our truth?
If you continue to live a life without being honest and authentic, resentment will build and your head and your heart will be out of balance.
Stop trying to please other people. A lot of times it is an attempt to seek validation to increase your own self-worth.
Don´t be afraid to speak the truth even if you think it might cause some people not to agree with you or even disapprove of you.
Validation is fear based. Unfortunately we live in a society that are constantly telling us that we are not enough.
TV, the internet, magazines or social media are constantly letting us know that we would feel a lot better if we bought a certain product or did a certain thing.......Only then we will be validated and feel good about ourselves.
This will keep us in a constant battle and the result is a never ever feeling of not ever being good enough.
A Couple of Tips!
The less you look for other peoples validation or approval - the more they will give it to you.
Learn to validate and approve of yourself. Then you won´t need any help from the world out here, it will come from within yourself.
And if it comes from within it can never be taken away from you.
Also remember that most people will respect "The Real You".
You don´t have to be perfect in order for people to like you.
Be human.....it is OK. If you are going through a hard time, let people know.
It´s liberating to not have to pretend that everything is just fantastic in your life...all the time.
So be authentic. Express your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and your fears.
Share your experiences with people.
If in doubt...always be yourself and keep it real.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach