without your participation."
- Wayne Dyer
I am sure most of you have been fishing sometime in your life.
I remember when I was a child my parents had a vacation cottage by a wonderful lake in Sweden. Sometimes we would go fishing. I thought it was a lot of fun because the whole family did it together. Most of the time we caught some fish and then we would bring it home and my mom would cook it.
When you fish you start with a fishing pole and on the end of the line there is a hook. You bait the hook with a worm, toss it out in the water and wait for a fish to take the bait. Once the fish takes the bait and get hooked to pulled the fish into the boat.
Same thing in life. There are a lot of people in the world that like to pull you into their conflicts, drama, arguments and other crazy behavior. They too bait a hook and the they throw it out there to see who will take the bait first. Once someone is interested in the bait, they set the hook and reel you in.
There are people out there in this world that can't wait to stir up trouble. In other words, they are trouble makers and they thrive on creating drama and trouble in other people's lives. They are trying to bait you. But you got to learn to recognize these types of people and make sure that you don't take the bait.
If someone is rude to you, the best way to act is like, it is no big deal to you. Don't get upset and don't allow theses people to disturb your inner peace. Stay calm and continue to move forward on your own journey.
There are no perfect people out there. We must give people room to be human. They are not going to be perfect all the time, and neither are you. Don't have unrealistic expectation because some people are not capable of doing what you want them to do or be who you want them to be.
Sometimes people will disappoint you, no matter how good they are. People are going to say hurtful things so we must leant to not be so easily affended. Don't take things personally. Other people behavior has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. It will tell you who they are, not who you are. Just let it slide off you.
Don't allow other people to disturb your peace and don't depend on other people for your happiness. If someone says something hurtful, you will be unhappy for the rest of the day. Don't put the keys to you happiness in someone else's pocket. You are responsible for YOU and your own happiness. Don't put too much pressure o other people, because then you will feel disappointed. Let these people off the hook.
There are going to be a lot of bumps on our journey in life. It's normal to expect this. But it's up to us to not get to upset when it happens. Protect your own peace of mind. Don't allow the same things upset day after day. Even if people are grumpy, critical, unfair, angry, jealous, mean, bitter and try to pull you in to conflict and arguments, decide that you are going to have a great day. Keep on pursuing your dream. Don't take the bait.
You can't control what other people are doing. You can only control what you do. So shake of their bitterness, anger, envy, jealousy. If you are allowing people to upset you, bait you into conflict and joining them in their drama, you are giving away your power. You are actually letting them control you. Remain calm in the face of adversity. Don't let them ruin your day.
Let's face it, there are some people that have the gift on getting on your nerves. It seems like some people have the calling in life to make other people miserable. But remember that you are in control of you. They can't make you feel a certain way without your consent. If you become angry or frustrted, it's a choice that you make.
When people are rude, critical, angry, jealous they have issues that they are not dealing with. Sometimes they are like a poisonous snake. Make sure that they don't bite you and allow their poison to get into you. Don't start arguing with them. Don't allow them to get you upset. Don't take the bait.
Rise above these people. Don't go down to their level. Try to be kind and respectful to these people, even when it's difficult. People will constantly try to offer you the bait. Next time it happens, just say...."No thanks, I am not taking that bait."
Always be selective which battles you are going to get involved with. Will it somehow benefit you to get involved? If it's not between you and your destiny, I suggest that you don't get involved. Don't get involved in every conflict because it will drain your energy and then you won't have enough energy left for your own dream. Learn to walk away from distractions. Know what battles to fight. Fight the battles that do matter. Don't take the bait.
Walk away from people that don't matter. Learn to keep your mouth shut. Don't say things you shouldn't say and that you will regret later. Stay on the right road, which is the high road.
Walking away from a fight isn't a sign of weakness. Quite the opposite. It takes a strong person to walk away from and argument or a fight. Never fight battles with small-minded people. People that don't value who you are. Don't get involved because it might prevent you from making progress on your own goals and dreams. These are simply distractions that might get you off track to reaching your own destiny.
Learn to ignore things. Ignore negative and critical people. Ignore negative comments. Ignore disrespect and rudeness. Keep your inner peace.
Are you fighting battles right now that don't matter?
Are you being distracted by little things that will prevent you or are slowing your down from reaching your destiny?