"Self-trust is the first secret of success."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Have you ever lied to someone?
I think that we are all guilty here.
Some lies have been bigger than others. But I believe that most of us probably lied sometime in our lifetime. Maybe more than once, if we are going to be honest. Usually we lie to make ourselves seem a little better, more important and more successful than we are, because we want to impress someone that is important too us. Or maybe we have lied to escape from having to take responsibility for something, that we actually did and that didn't turn out so well.
There are many different reasons why people will lie.
Have you ever lied to yourself?
Many times…..right? I know I have.
I tell myself that I am not going to have any more chocolate and then a week later when things get a little stressful in my life I found myself in the store holding a candy bar in my hand, even though I promised myself a week ago that it wouldn't happen again.
Have you ever decided to start going to the gym on Monday. Monday comes around and where are you?....not at the gym! What happened? You lied to yourself.
How about all those New Year's resolutions that you have made during your lifetime.....what happened to all those promises to yourself? How many of those did you actually keep? Not too many.....right?
You are in a relationship with your partner and if you are going to be honest with yourself, after 10 years you don't have anything in common anymore and he/she is actually almost abuse to you. What do you tell yourself? ….."It's not that bad" or another good one...…"He/She will change, if I just love him/her enough." You know deep inside that this isn't true. So what are you doing? You are lying to yourself again and again and again. Year in and year out.
"Deep down, you already know the truth."
So my question to you is.....Do trust yourself? Since you have been lying to yourself for years....can you actually trust yourself?
If your spouse, partner, friend lied to you as much as you have been lying to yourself.....would you trust them?
A lot of times we often say that we can't trust others, but I wonder if it isn't that we can't really trust ourselves?
In order to trust others, we first have to be able to trust ourselves. We can't give away to others what we first don't have ourselves.
I read the following words in some article a few months ago and I thought it was very powerful so today I want to share it with you.
When you do what you say you are going to do, you build self-respect and a positive identity. Successful people understand that every time you break a promise you made to yourself, you feed your identity as an imposter and it weakens your self-confidence as a person of action.
For example, if you commit to exercising 30 minutes each day, the do it. Regardless of the outcome your character is being positively molded, and that will generate momentum along your journey.
"Trust yourself, you've survived a lot,
and you will survive whatever is coming."
Time for reflection, my friends!
Where in your own life do you need to stop lying to yourself?