It's a lot easier to hurt others with our pain,
than to deal and sit in our own pain.
That's why we hurt others with words and actions.
Or we hurt ourselves.
- Brene Brown
The majority of people do not intend to hurt or harm others.
However, many do cause harm, not because if their intention, but because they are too stuck in their own pain and suffering to consider the needs of others.
Hurt people will hurt others.
These people are not in a state of love.
They cannot love themselves and others. In others words, they cannot give away what they don't have.
"People who love themselves, don't hurt other people.
The more we hate ourselves,
the more we want others to suffer."
- Dan Pearce
Some people can't love us.
And it's not because we are unlovable. It's because these people's capacity to love is impaired. Often these people are so scared to get hurt that they are constantly protecting themselves from further hurt by avoidance, neglect, rejection or trying to hurt others before they can hurt them.
I have learned that some people we just have to learn to love from a distance.
It doesn't mean that we don't love them but they are so unhealthy to be around and their lives are so filled with drama, and maybe addiction that the only thing we can do is to let them go and love them from far away.
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others.
And if you can't help others, at least don't hurt them."
- Dalai Lama