"You teach people how to treat you by what you allow,
what you stop and what you reinforce."
- Tony Gaskin
"If I am not good to myself,
how can I expect anyone else to be good to me."
- Maya Angelou
We are never responsible for another person's behavior. We don't have control over what they say and do.
But we do have control over our own reaction.
So if a person in your life isn't treating you with the respect that you deserve, you might want to make a few decisions.
Do you want the behavior from this person to continue?
Or do you want to do something about it?
If you do want to make a change, you might first want to take a look at yourself and ask.....am I doing something to trigger this behavior in this person?
Or why am I allowing this behavior to continue without me saying STOP!
By not doing anything about the situation, says something about you.
Why are you allowing this person to continue to disrespect you?
Maybe you are afraid that if you speak your mind this person doesn't want to be friends with you anymore?
If you start saying "NO" to a person that you are romantically involved with, you might fear that the person will walk away from the relationship. So to remain in the relationship you will tolerate that he/she disrespects you.
You are afraid to speak up at work or in a meeting, because you fear that might loose your job or that your co-workers won't like you?
Or maybe you might even enjoy feeling wronged, because then you will have a story to tell everyone?
There is a payoff in everything that we do.
But if you want change...… if you want to see a different result, then you need to teach people how to treat you.
You have control over you.
This is great because now you are the one who has been allowing others to disrespect you, but now you can change that.
"I teach people how to treat me
by what I will allow."
- Stephen Covey
Is it time to examine what you tolerate?