"Breakdowns can create breakthroughs.
Things fall apart so things can fall together."
Most people don't like change and they definitely don't want to change themselves.
If you missed Monday's Blog....here it is....3 Reasons People Resist Change
But then how does change happen in people?
Because there are some people that actually change and they transform their lives after living and doing the same thing for many, many years.
I call it a serious Wake-Up Call.
You are forced to wake up and examine the life that you are living because it's giving you so much pain at the moment and may have given you pain for many years and you know that you can't go on living like this anymore.
You are experiencing pain right now. Your past has been painful and when you look into the future you see nothing but pain.....if you continue to live the way you are living right now.
This will eventually create a wake-up call or a breakdown.
A Breakdown is a great word for it because the old ways of doing things is breaking down to open a door to a much better way of living and doing things in the future.
But in order for something new to move into your life you first have to be open to looking at the old ways of being and doing things. If you are not open to looking at yourself, your behavior and to new ideas, it will just slip on by you. But it won't disappear and will only show up later with even more force and pain.
But when you are finally in extreme pain, you are forced to slow down and open yourself to new thing and it is at this point a breakthrough and a transformation can happen.
Another name....The Significant Emotional Experience.
Something happens that really gives people a jolt or a chock. It can be the death of a loved one, a serious illness, loss of a job, loss of a business, divorce or bankruptcy..... just to name a few.
It gives you a huge smack in the face so that you will be able to see what is really going on and it opens you up to a new way of thinking.
It opens people up to that maybe there is another and better way to do things.
It's very painful and it often changes people completely and they come back from that experience a totally different person. They get a new perspective of what is truly important to them and what is important in life.
They change everything.
So unless you actually have this kind of chock or dramatic and painful experience, it's very difficult for people to change because of the power of the 3 reasons that I talked about in Monday's BLOG.
You can call in a mental collision. You are suddenly questioning and realizing that what you are doing..... isn't working.
This is exactly what happened to me back in 2012.
It was the most painful experience that I have experience in my life, so far. I was dealing with tremendous pain in the present, and the past had been bad and I also realized that the future didn't look any brighter either, if I didn't change myself and where I was going in life.
Today, six years later, I am so glad that I had this experience because I really needed to change myself and the way I was living my life. Almost everything in my life fell apart and I was left with very little.
But out of all the confusion and all the pain I have now created a completely different life for myself.
I went back to school and became a certified life coach. I started my own coaching business and I have now written and published two books and the third one is almost completed. My life has changed completely. I was on the wrong path and eventually back in 2012 I was knocked completely off this path that actually wasn't my own.
Has it been easy? NO.
But I am so grateful that it happened because it forced me to take a good look at myself, my thinking and the life I was living
The life I was living was slowly suffocating my own soul.
I written a book about my experience in 2012, to help others understand and also how to navigate out of a breakdown or significant emotional experience.
It's called Bounce Don't Break - How to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down.
I also did a presentation a couple of months ago about my experience in 2012 and I called it the Perfect Storm.... because you feel like you are in the middle of a hurricane and you are being tossed around like a ragdoll.
But when it's all said and done..... you will come out of the storm a lot wiser and a more experienced person, than went into the storm.
Remember that no experience is ever wasted. Use it to make your future better.
"What if all the bad things that have happened in my life are leading me to activate some great potential in me?"
Karin Glannstam - Life Coach