Tuesday, October 2, 2018
Some People Are Part Of Your History - Not Your Destiny
"Letting go means to come to the realization
that some people are part of our history,
but not our destiny."
- Steve Maraboli
A couple of weeks ago I met with a dear friend for lunch.
After talking for a few minutes she said to me "It's amazing how much energy and how tiring it is to deal with relationships in our lives that are not working."
If we are unhappy in our intimate relationships, we are usually not happy at all.
Unhappy and unfulfilling relationships will bleed over into all other areas of our lives. So it's very important to keep the relationships that are closes to us healthy. If not we will suffer greatly.
A lot of us have a tendency to hang onto relationships in our lives that have been over for years. Relationships that are actually weighing us down. We are afraid to be alone and scared that we will not be able to handle the situation.
You know what you got - but you don't know what you will get.
If you want to fly,
you have to get rid if what is weighing you down.
If you have a spouse or partner that have grown apart, it might be time to let go and to move on?
If you are in a job where your boss is not supportive and there will never be any opportunities or growth, maybe it's time to let go and move onto something bigger and better?
Sometimes family members can weigh us down and it might be hard to walk away and let go because after all they are family.
Our friends can be a great source of happiness but also unhappiness. You might want to take a closer look at who you are spending most of your time with.
As they say, you will become like the 5 people that you spend most of your time with.
Sometimes some people are so "messed up" that if you don't leave, it may rub off on you.
Don't allow someone's disfunction to become your disfunction.
Some people you just have to love from a distance.
You might not have to walk away from people forever.
But if they are constantly being negative, blaming you or others for their misery, angry, jealous, complaining all the time....it might be time to take a closer look at what they are doing to you, and your relationship with them.
"Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there
are signs of great strength.
However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know
when to let go and then do it."
- Ann Landers
One thing that I have learned as I have gotten older is that some people will be in your life for a very short time. Some will stay a little longer. And then there are a few that will stay with you
throughout your whole life.
The trick is to understand which ones are only here for a short time and which ones will stay forever. And then there are also some people that you should not allow into your life, even for a very short time.
Some people come into our lives
to teach us how to let go.