Have You Outgrown Your Old Life?

A common problem that happens to a lot of people when they change, grow, become more empowered and successful....a lot of people around them won´t like it.
They want you to remain the same. Be just like the them.
When you become successful at something, unfortunately a lot of your old friend will become envious.
Maybe you remind them of something that they should do for themselves. Maybe they have tried to do what you now are doing, without success and they can´t accept that you were able to do it.
That you were able to succeed.

A few months a go I was talking to a client of mine.
We were having a conversation over the phone and she was bringing up a great subject that I want to talk about today.

This particular client has been going through a lot of personal development  and growth in the last couple of years. She has learned a lot and raised her conscious level tremendously.
She has now come to the point that she feels bored and angry with  most of her old friends, because they continue to live small lives. They haven´t grown and developed themselves.
They are still stuck in the daily grind or the status quo, and they refuse to change.

She told me ....."we don´t have anything to talk about any longer" or "they never learn or do anything new...they just settle for the old ways of living. And every time we get together they are always complaining, but at the same time they don´t want to do anything about it. I am just so tired of hearing it over and over again and I want them to change. I want them to grow and do some new things."

She also explained that she is longing to have some soulful conversations with a particular friend of hers. A friend that she has known for over 40 years.
She said " I am just so frustrated with her and our conversation are very boring. I want her to change, to grow. Do something. If she did she would have a better life."

What my friend is going through is a very typical scenario when we are embarking on a journey of growth and personal development. When we are starting to become successful, when we are starting to feel so good in the process...... we want the whole world to follow.
At least we want our old friends to be as excited as we are, and try this new way of living.

Well guess what....they are not interested in changing.
And frankly they have no intention of wanting to do anything different with their lives.
At least not right now.

If we want people around us to change and only then will we feel better and happier.......
we are setting ourselves up for a life of suffering and misery.


When we change and grow as individuals ..... a few things in our lives will happen.

1. Either people and friends around us will find it interesting, but they don´t want to change.
But it is OK that we have changed.
2. They don´t like our change and they don´t want to be around as any more.
So they leave. At least for right now.
3. They like what they see in us...and they also want to learn, grow and change.

Now what each individual is willing to do is up to them.
We can not tell them what to do.


All we can do is to continue on our own path and hope some of our friends will follow.
But if they don´t we must´t be afraid to let go of a few friends .
There will be more along the way that might be a better match for us and where we are in life.
And hopefully after a while the old friend(s) will come along.

But if they don´t we must keep on going.
Don´t fall back into the old way again........because it will never work for you.
Once you have grown and gotten bigger you will not be willing to go back to living the small life again. You simply won´t fit in it.
It´s like wearing clothes that you outgrew several years ago. They won´t fit you anymore.

In the case of my friend..... she was mostly upset about her long time friend of over 40 years. She didn´t want to lose her but at the same time she didn´t feel like they had much in common any longer.
She told me she was angry with her friend, but deep down inside she was afraid and sad.
She was afraid to lose the friendship of more than 40 years. But the also knew that she couldn't continue to have meaningless interactions filled with complaining, gossiping and resentment either.

The truth is that as we would love for our friends to follow........But they seldom do.
They remain stuck. And until they are willing to change and grow there is nothing that we can do.
The faster we recognize this the happier we will be.

We just have to lead by example. Continue on our new path.
New exciting friend will eventually appear.
Any maybe some of your old friends will eventually follow.
But never under any circumstances should you go back to living the small and dis-empowering life again.

Keep on walking your new path.

 

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Why Being Curious Is A Great Thing

                                                "I am neither clever nor especially gifted.
                                                        I am only very, very curious.
                                                                   - Albert Einstein

I am by nature a very curious person. And as long as I can remember I have always been curious.
When I was younger I was very intrigued with other countries and people from other parts of the world.
What they did, what they ate, what language they spoke and how they lived their lives. (I still am )

One of the reasons that I left Sweden when I was 25 years of age, was that I found it to be..... way to small for me. I wanted to grow, learn and experience the world.
Besides....I always found the weather to be quite dark and gloomy in Sweden.
Anyway in 1987 I left Sweden for The US and I don´t regret leaving because I have learned so much by living half of my life in The US.

I always asked a lot of questions. Questions about anything and everything.
I always wanted to know and to learn new things. I wanted to grow as a person.

And I still do. I always make sure that I learn something new almost every day.
Due to my life coaching business I am on the constant hunt for new things.
New ideas on how to do things better and faster. How to live a better, healthier and happier life.
Learning and growing every day.
It is very exciting.

One things that I have noticed  with people .......most of them don´t ask questions.
In conversations they usually don´t ask the other people questions.
A lot of people only want to talk about themselves.

How would you ever find out or learn anything new....if you didn´t ask questions?

The definition of curiosity
A strong desire to know and learn something.

                                   "Curiosity is the compass that leads us to our passions.
                                            Follow it and you won´t be disappointed.
                                              The future belongs to The Curious."

Remember when you were a child.....Did you ask any questions?
You asked questions all the time.
You were very curious and you wanted to know and to learn new things.
What happened?
Why don´t you continue to ask questions as an adult?
Do you know everything?
Or maybe you feel like you don´t need to learn anything new?

Curiosity is the foundation of life-long growth.
If we remain curious, we will remain teachable and our minds and our heard will grow and expand on a daily base.

Either you grow or you die.

We can retain our beginners mind by always looking forward and discovering new experiences and new information.

This way you will allow your mind to stay active and you will be more observant of new ideas.
And a lot of time all we need is a new idea to make things happen in our lives.

If you allow your mind to stay active it will open up a whole new world of possibilities.
It will create adventures that can lead you in a new exciting direction.



Today....start asking some new questions.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Learn To Love Yourself First

                  "We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.
             If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others."
                                                             - John Lennon


If you want to attract something into your life you must first become it.

What do I mean by that?.......let me explain.

If you want to attract more love into your life, you have to become more loving towards yourself. You have to learn to love and value yourself.
Then when you start to radiate love.....you will then be able to attract it into your life.
In other words you have to become love, give love in order to receive love.

You can´t give away what you don´t have yourself.
If you don´t have love for yourself.....then how can you give it to someone else?

If you are empty...... you are probably entering relationships to get love and not to share love.
All that will do is to make the other people feel very uncomfortable and they will feel a pull from you.

You cannot have what you are not willing to become. And if you get it...... you will eventually lose it.

A great example of this is lottery winners.
All of a sudden you are a millionaire. But if you don´t become a millionaire vibrationally .....you will not be able to keep the money.
So you must learn how to become a millionaire quickly or you will lose the money.

You have to become it, radiate it before you can attract it into your life.

Personal Development.
It starts with you. First you have to go to work on yourself.

                                            "Learn to  love yourself first,
                           instead of loving the idea of other people loving you."

You have to like yourself....... when you are by yourself.

If you don´t like yourself .........how can you expect anyone else to like you?

And when you are not liking yourself you are pulling on others to make you happy.

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                    www.karinglannstam.com

What is "The Dark Night of The Soul"?

                                   You don´t go through a deep personal transformation
                                            without some kind of dark night of the soul."
                                                                  - Sam Keen

                                           

Have you ever heard the expression "The dark night of the soul"?

What is it?

It is a term that goes back a long time.
The dark night of the soul is a kind of death that you die.
Often it is an awakening process. The death of the old self and the birth of the true self.

It can be triggered by an external event such as a disaster, the death of someone close to you or a life that you have planned that suddenly collapses.
Some kind of disaster which seem to invalidate the meaning that your life had before.
Nothing makes sense anymore and there´s no purpose to anything.

The dark night of the soul is a kind of re-birth.
You are losing your old identification. Your previous identity is lost and you don´t yet have an identification of what is new and what is emerging.

You are in the dark. You don´t know where you are and where you are going.
Like feeling lost in the darkness of a forest. You can´t go back and you don´t know which path to follow. Or maybe there isn´t even a path. You have to make your own.

You remember who you used to be, but you know that you are not that person anymore.
Who are you becoming? You don´t know that either, at this point.

It is dark and it is painful. Very painful.
The dark night is filled with fear and disconnect.

Why is it so painful?
Because you are getting rid of the old. (Like a snake shedding its skin).
The Universe is pushing you. Giving you pain until you can articulate a new vision and purpose for your life.


                                                "Soul work is not a high road.
                                        It is a deep fall into an unforgiving darkness
                       that won´t let you go until you find the song that sings you home."


The old life is no longer who you are. Your new vision for your life is what you are becoming.
The pain will keep on pushing you until you will get pulled by a bigger vision for your life.

You were actually on the wrong path in your old life and that is why it was giving you so much pain.
(When your life path is starting to hurt you, you are on the wrong path.)
And it got worse and worse until you could not take it anymore and you had to enter the dark night of the soul.

The pain is forcing you into having a vision.
A vision that is bigger than the pain.

When you are beginning to have a vision of what is possible for your life you will start to get pulled by it.

When you can describe and embrace your vision you can start to walk in that direction.
You can start to align yourself with what is possible for your life instead of remaining on a path that was never meant for you in the first place.

Instead of being stuck you can now walk in the direction of your potential and your possibilities.

When you start walking the path of your true purpose, The Universe doesn´t need to hit you with pain as much.

Yes...I have experienced this.
In 2012 I went through the dark night of the soul. It started with my mother´s death in late December of 2011 and then the collapse of a 8-year relationship with a narcissist in March of 2012. And to top it of I had to return to Sweden April 2012, after living 25 years in The US. I had built up a life, a lot of plans, activities and dreams and it all collapsed.

For me.... the dark night of the soul was filled with tremendous pain. I felt like I had gotten side swiped by a freight train and left bleeding on the side of the track. The pain was excruciating and no one could help me.
 
You feel like you would do anything to get out of this state, but it will take the time it will take.
You feel totally alone. You have friends but most of them are not capable of feeling what you are feeling or knowing what you are going through..

What helped me to get through the dark night of the soul was that I had learned about it before it happened. So when It did happen I was a little more prepared.
But what I wasn´t prepared for was how painful it actually was and how disconnected I felt.

But what happened after spending a couple of months in Sweden I came up with a new meaning and vision for my life. I was going to become a life coach.
I had always loved psychology but I never pursued that  particular path when I was younger. But now I had a second shot at it, by becoming a life coach.
I started my own on-line coaching business over 3 years ago. I turned my "Wounds into Wisdom" my breakdown (dark night of the soul) lead to my breakthrough.
I would never have been able to learn and grow this much if I would have remained where I was in 2012.

Challenges will activate the potential in you.
The dark night of the soul is a very difficult time but it is a time for marvelous growth.
You hang on and you persist through the dark night of the soul because you can´t conceive going back to your old ways of life. That would be like going back to prison.

The dark night of the soul is about transformation.
Leaving the old and entering a higher consciousness and your true nature.

 

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Mind Your Own Business

                                           "Everyone seems to have a clear idea
                                      on how other people should lead their lives,
                                               but none about his or her own."

We all have to be respectful of other peoples recoveries, paths or journeys.

We must learn to mind our own business.

There are always several paths that will lead to the same thing.
In other words ........there are several paths that will lead to the top of the mountain.
It really doesn´t matter how you get there.
The important thing is that you actually get to where you want to go.

I have meet so many people that have been trying to tell me or convince me that their way is the only way for me to accomplish what I am trying to accomplish.
Their way of solving a problem or accomplishing a particular goal is the right way or the only way to do it.
It might be their way of doing something.... but it is never the only way.
You can take advice from people but never take orders from them.

Everyone must figure out what will work best for them.
Through my own battles and life-lessons, I have found out that there is usually a combination of several things that will work the best.
There is no such thing as One Size Fits All.

Be respectful of other peoples journeys.
It might not be the right one for you....... but for them it is the perfect path.

You don´t have the right to tell people what to do or try to control them.

You don´t have the right to help anyone else unless they ask you.

You can present an experience to them and you can be a living example of what it is to have been changed by your own experience.
What you have learned through your own battle and storms.
How you turned your breakdown into a breakthrough.
How you handled it and what worked for you.

If someone wants to know...they will ask you.

Lead by example. Never not by forcing your advice and opinions onto others.

Mind your own business

When I write my blogs and newsletters I often write about what has worked for me.
My own experience.
I also write about what I have learned from other people that have travelled a similar path before me. What has worked for them.

Take the information that makes sense to you and leave the rest.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Great Book - Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

                                       "Getting rich begins with the right mindset,
                                             the right words and the right plan."
                                                        - Robert Kiyosaki

                             "Before you can transform your wallet from poor to rich,
                                 you´ve got to transform your spirit from poor to rich."
                                                        - Robert Kiyosaki

Have you read the book Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki?

It is a great book if you want to gain control of your financial future.
It is a book about taking responsibility of your financial affairs and improving your wealth by mastering money.
This is not a book about getting rich quickly.

Rich Dad Poor Dad is a true story on the lessons about money that Robert Kiyosaki, the author learned from his two "Dads". One Dad, a PhD and Superintendent of Education never had enough money at the end of the month and died broke.
His other Dad dropped out of school at age 13 and went to become one of the wealthiest men in Hawaii.
In Rich Dad Poor Dad, Robert explains how to make money work hard for you instead of you working hard for money.


There is an old cliché that goes, "¨Job is an acronym for `Just Over Broke.`" And unfortunately, I would say that the saying applies to millions of people. Because school does not think financial intelligence is an intelligence, most workers "live within their means." They work and they pay the bills.

There is another horrible management theory that goes, "Workers work hard enough to not be fired, and owners pay just enough so that workers won´t quit." And if you look at the pay scales of most companies, again I would say there is a degree of truth in the statement.

The result is that most workers never get ahead. They do what they´ve been taught to do; "Get a secure job." Most workers focus on working for pay and benefits that reward them in the short term, but is often disastrous in the long term.

Instead I recommend to young people to seek work for what they will learn, more than what they will earn. Look down the road at what skills they want to acquire before choosing a specific profession and before getting trapped in the "Rat Race."

Once people are trapped in the lifelong process of bill paying, they become like those little hamsters running around in those little metal wheels. their little furry legs are spinning furiously, the wheel is turning furiously, but come tomorrow morning, they´ll still be in the same cage: great job.

From Rich Dad Poor Dad


I recommend reading this book.
It is easy to read and it is filled with key messages.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                     www.karinglannstam.com

Start Where You Are

                                                        Start where you are.
                                                         Use what you have.
                                                         Do what you can.
                                                           - Arthur Ashe


Start where you are.
Do away with any other illusion that things should be any different than they are right now.

A lot of times we want things do be very different than what they are.
We feel like we should make more money, have a better job, be in better physical shape, live in a different location, have better relationships or have more money put away for retirement or a rainy day.

When things are not the way we want then to be, it will sometimes prevent us from even trying to create something new and something better.
We usually don´t start something, because we don´t know how to start or where to start.

If you are willing to start where you are today, there will be no limits to where you can go.

Bring yourself to the now
This is where you are today.
Accept it.
Own it.
Now...Take Action!

                         Your present circumstances don´t determine where you can go.
                                           They merely determine where you start.


If you make a commitment to stop complaining about your situation and what is......
you can enter a new space called gratitude.

It is impossible to complain and to be in a state of gratitude at the same time. IMPOSSIBLE.

Be grateful what you have been through in your life. The good things and also the bad things.

You are where you are today because this is exactly where you are suppose to be.

Never be afraid to start something new. Just because you don´t know how to do something, doesn´t mean you shouldn´t try

You can start doing what you know and then you can learn as you go.

Let today be the start of something new.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Why You Should Listen To Motivational Recordings

                                                                      "Old ways
                                                            Won´t open new doors."

I absolutely love to listen to motivational recordings. Almost every morning I have made a habit of listening to something great and inspirational . I do this right  after I get out of bed. I light some candles on my coffee-table, get my cup of hot tea and then I listen to some kind of recording for about an hour.

My day wouldn´t be the same without it. It really sets me up for a more positive day.
I call it my "Power Hour".
Tony Robbins calls it "Priming yourself for the day".
Actually you are making a conscious decision to have a more positive and empowering day.

I have been listening to these kind of recording since 2012 when my own life completely fell apart.
I did it as a way of motivating myself. To get out of the slump and to learn to focus on a better today and a better future for myself instead of focusing on my breakdown, what I had lost and what had not worked in my life. I felt like I was trying to reprogram my brain.
Shifting from what was not working and had not worked for many years to what I wanted my future to look like.

Fast forward to today. I make a point of getting up an hour earlier every morning, so that I can get my "Power Hour" in before I start to work. It doesn´t matter how early I have to start working.
 I make sure I get up early enough to get my hour of motivation in before I start the day.

Of course you don´t have to do it for a whole hour. 15 minutes is good enough. Just make sure that you try to make it into a daily habit.

I believe that is very important that we feed our minds.
Either by reading book or listening to recordings.

When you are down it will give you a lift.
It is good to listen when you are feeling down but the ideal time to listen is actually when you are feeling really great.

Let me tell you why......

When you are already feeling great,  motivational recordings will trigger your imagination, creativity and it will stir up all the stored information which you already have in your mind.

A lot of good ideas will come forth at this time.

But if you are too down it might be hard for you to accept these great ideas and you might turn away the very best ones.

Listen when you are up and feeling good.
When you feel good your endorphins will pop up as a result of listening to these recordings and when you listen and new ideas pop up in your mind it will generate even more excitement.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Take Care of Your Health

                                                       "Take care of your body.
                                             It´s the only place you have to live."
                                                              - Jim Rohn


If you had a racehorse that was worth a million dollars, how would you take care of it?
Would you let it drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, eat junk-food and stay up all night and not getting enough sleep?

Would you treat a million dollar investment like that?
I didn´t think so. I bet you would take excellent care of it.

How about this billion dollar body of yours?
Are you taking good care of this huge billion dollar investment?
This is the only body that you will have.
Do you treat it with care and love or do you neglect it?

Make sure that you take care of your health.

Here are a few simple steps.

Eat a balanced diet.
What you eat affects your productivity in a lot of different ways.
We must fuel our bodies with a well balanced diet and keep out poisons like cigarettes, too much alcohol and caffeine. Also try to stay away from too much sugar in your diet.

Exercise.
Working out is a great way for relieving stress and also to distract us from daily pressures and at the same time getting fit.
An exercise program will make a dramatic difference in your life.
Choose the exercise that will fit your lifestyle and one that you will enjoy doing. The important thing is that you will make it a daily habit. Don´t become a weekend warrior and end up hurt and in serious trouble. Be sensible about your routine.

We are all very busy and a lot of you might ask....When will I have time to exercise?

When you exercise your body will get flooded with endorphins and these endorphins are more powerful than morphine
The result is that you will get a natural chemical high that will last for several hours and during this time you will be more productive, creative and energetic than you would have been if you didn't exercise.
Schedule 30-60 minutes of exercise 4-6 times per week
Treat your workout as an essential aspect of your success.
Invest a few minutes in working out and you will get back hours of energy.

Sleep.
You need a certain amount of sleep every night. 7-9 hours is recommended.
Sleep deprivation has been linked to higher levels of stress, higher blood pressure and lower brain function.
If sleep is cut short the body doesn´t have time to complete all of the phases needed for muscle repair, memory consolidation, creative connections, and your brain won´t have enough time to clean out toxins.

A few tips!

- Stick to a regular sleep schedule, including the weekend.
- Create definite work hours.
- Give yourself enough time to unwind after finishing work.
- Get up when your alarm goes off. Resist the temptation to stay in bed.
- Avoid eating at least 2 hours before going to bed.

Another great thing that the brain can do is to process information and prepare for actions during sleep......so make sure you get your ZZZZs

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Are You Searching for Meaning in Your Life?

                                                   "What is the meaning of life?
                                                      To be happy and useful."
                                                                - Dalai Lama


Do you feel like your life has meaning or a purpose?

Today we can hear a lot of discussions about fulfilling ones purpose in life.

We all want to live a meaningful life. We all want to feel that we matter, that we are seen and heard and in the end we all want to feel that our lives meant something.

A lot of people are wondering what their purpose might be and they are looking and searching all over for it. A lot of times we feel that our purpose must be a huge thing and sometimes we are driving ourselves crazy trying to figure out what our purpose and what the meaning of life is.

Some people may find meaning in life even when they are confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a situation that cannot be changed. Example, an incurable disease such as inoperative cancer. In that situation we are challenged to change ourselves.
Transforming a personal tragedy into triumph.
To turn one´s breakdown into a breakthrough

In Viktor Frankl´s book Man´s search for meaning he is describing life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Based on his own experience and the stories of his patients, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it and move forward. At the heart of his theory, known as logotherpy, is a conviction that the primary human drive is not pleasure but the pursuit of what we find meaningful.
Man´s search for meaning has become ones of the most influential books in America; it inspire us all to find significance in the very act of living.

Logotherpy teaches, there are three main avenues on which one arrives at meaning in life.

The first is by creating work or by doing a deed,

The second is by experiencing something or encountering someone; in other words, meaning can be found not only in work but also in love.

The most important, however, is the third avenue to meaning in life; even the helpless victim of a hopeless situation, facing a fate he cannot change, may rise above himself.
He may turn a personal tragedy into triumph.


"Jerry Long has been paralyzed from his neck down since a diving accident which rendered him a quadriplegic three years ago. He was seventeen when the accident occurred. Today Long can use his mouth stick to type. He attends two courses at Community Collage via a special telephone. The intercom allows Long to both hear and participate in class discussions. He also occupies his time by reading, watching television and writing." And in a letter I received from him, he writes; "I view my life as being abundant with meaning and purpose. The attitude that I adopted on that fateful day has become my personal credo for life: I broke my neck, it didn´t break me. I am currently enrolled in my first psychology course in college. I believe that my handicap will only enhance my ability to help others. I know that without the suffering, the growth that I have achieved would have been impossible."
From Man´s Search For Meaning


In 2012 I was facing my own hopeless situation.
My mom had just died.
I had to walk away from a narcissistically abusive man after being in a relationship with him for several years.
And when I decided to walk away from my relationship I had no option but to leave The US and to return to the country where I was born in (Sweden). I had not lived there since 1987.

When I went back to Sweden I was able to take my was my 2 dogs, some clothes and some personal items with me. At this time it would have been very easy for me to give up..... but I didn´t.

After a couple of months in Sweden and after feeling like it was a hopeless situation I turned things around and started my on-line coaching business.
I wanted to help other people and especially women to find meaning in their own life after a personal tragedy.
I have to make the same statement that Jerry Long did..... without the suffering that I had to go through I would not have been able to achieve the growth that I now have. And because of my own suffering I am now in a better position to help others.
It didn´t break me...it made me stronger.


Man´s search for meaning is a book you must read.
It has sold more that 12 million copes in a total of twenty-four languages.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Are You Adding Meaning To Something That Doesn´t Exist?

                                                      "What is the meaning of life?
                                                      Whatever meaning you give it."
                                                                     - James Frey


Have you ever gotten upset over how someone else treated you?

Maybe they didn´t understand what you were trying to tell them or you felt like they were disrespectful and that they didn´t care?

It happens all the time ...and to all of us.

If we can accept our helplessness over others´ behavior and not to get angry with the other person we would be a lot better off.

What do you do when you get upset with someone? are you asking yourself..... What do they mean? What does this mean?

Are you maybe adding meaning to something that doesn´t exist?

Most stress is coming from making things more important then they are.

In the future when you get upset with someone or with a situation ask yourself...
What could this mean?

A lot of times we will come up with a negative meaning to what is going on. That is just the way our brains are wired.

Instead of attaching a negative meaning to what is going on, try to come up with several positive ones instead.

Don´t assume that a person has done something deliberately to hurt you.

When people do things it is rarely about you. It is more often about them.

They are usually trying to meet their own needs. They are trying to deal with their own fears and frustrations.

So if it´s not about you.....then what else could this mean?

Come up with more powerful meanings.

Never assume the worst

A lot of times when we get upset with someone it is usually because something from our past is getting triggered by this person or the situation.

So next time something happens ...ask yourself

What does this mean?

Can I come up with a few powerful meanings?

Also ask yourself.....why you are being triggered? Why are you getting upset?

Is it really about the other person or is it about you?

Maybe it is a fear showing up?

What is your fear about?

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Are You A Resilient Person?

What does resilience mean?

The ability to return to the original form, position after being bent, compressed, or stretched.
The ability to recover readily from illness, depression, setback or adversity.

In other words being able to withstand setbacks both personal and in business.
Being able to withstand a broken heart, broken dreams, divorce, betrayal, financial crisis or loss of a loved one.


How would you handle it if you lost everything you had today?

Could you handle it?

What would your next step be?

What would it take for you to bounce back?

How long would you be depressed, sad, upset and angry?

Could you learn from your loss or setback?

How resilient are you?


A Resilient Person

Insight - Have the ability to ask tough questions of yourself. To be honest with the answers. Be responsible and to admit to yourself if you had anything to do with the loss or the setback.

Independence - Count only on yourself to be able to bounce back in life.

Resilience is also tied to others - The more people that you are responsible for the stronger the motivation is to begin again. The stronger the reason the stronger the action.

Initiative - The ability to take charge of your situation. The ability to take charge of the problem. The ability to stand back up after being knocked down and to do what is necessary to get back on track.

Creative - Be able to look at the situation and to creatively determine the best way out. To look for solutions and not to focus on the problem.

Humor - Having a sense of humor is very important if you are trying to turn your life around. It is great to be able to laugh at yourself and the situation. Remember....this too shall pass.

Morality - What ever you do to get back on your feet make sure that it is moral. Make sure that your comeback is at the service of others and not at the expense of others.

                                   "Life doesn´t get any easier and more forgiving,
                                            we get stronger and more resilient."
                                                         - Steve Maraboli

Stand up! Always bounce back after a set back. Figure out why the setback or crisis happened. Figure out what part you were responsible for so it won´t happen in the future.

Start to plan for your life again.

Positive self talk is a must. Focus on keeping the negative voice out. Your negative voices and also the negative voices of others.

Avoid blame. Get on with life. Begin again.

Have a lot of self-appreciation and faith. Know that you have the skills and the strength to do it all over again. One more time.

You can´t sit back and dwell on what happened.

Get back on track and never ever give up!

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

How Do You Solve a Problem - Help Someone Else With Theirs.

                                      "Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness
                                                  to pull another hand into the light.
                                                            - Norman B. Rice


Do you know why I write newsletters, blogs, and do my postings on Facebook, Twitter and YouTube?

So that I can read and listen to them all myself.....again and again and again.

I do this because the teacher always receives the greatest lessons he seeks to teach others.
Also we teach what we most need to learn ourselves.


What is the best way to get out of a funky and sometimes depressed mood?
Talk someone else out of theirs.

What is the best way to get out of a mental energy slump?
Talk someone else out of theirs.

What is the best way of trying to solve our own problems?
Talk someone else out of theirs.

WHY?

Because when we start to talk and discuss a problem with someone else we will hear ourselves say amazing and insightful things.

We will share all the knowledge that we have gathered come out of us to try to help this person.

When we hear ourselves talk to help another person to solve their energy slump or their problem it will ultimately help us hearing it again.

Most of the time it is easier to tap into our own wisdom, knowledge, experiences and resources for someone else than it is to tap into it for ourselves.

We easily forget things in life, important things and we have to be constantly reminded.

How do you solve a problem? Help someone else with theirs.





Please share your thoughts in the comments below!

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com