Take 100% Responsibility for Your Own Life

What is the #1 thing holding you back from achieving your goal?

- An unsupportive spouse
- The economy
- Your health
- A lack of time
- A lack of resources
- A lack of skills or knowledge

Wrong.....You Are!

Almost 100% of the time we are our own worst enemy.

But you have the power to change that!

That means giving up.....

- All your excuses
- All your victim stories
- All the reasons why you can't
- Blaming outside circumstances

You have to take 100% responsibility for your life in order to be able to change it.

The sooner you stop wasting your energy on blaming other people and events for your circumstances the faster you will be able to reclaim your life.


Blame is a very hard thing to let go of. But you also have to understand how much of your own power you are giving to the people and the events you are blaming.

You are letting them prevent you from moving forward in life.

So who do you need to stop blaming today so you can move on to truly crate the life that you truly want?

                                           

                                                Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

A Great Rule for "Letting Things Go"

Yesterday I read something interesting.... a comment made by Coach Don Shula of the Miami Dolphins. He was talking about a "twenty-four-hour rule" that required players and coaches alike to adjust their attitude within twenty-four hours after a game to prepare for the next one.

In other words, regardless of the outcome..... it was past history that could not be changed, so now they were expected to adapt to the next challenge.


What and excellent rule....
You can only hang on to what happened for the next 24 hours..... good or bad ....it doesn't matter ....and then it tis time to refocus on your next challenge in life.

The sooner you stop wasting your energy on something that happened in the past, the more you can focus on what is going on in the present. Can you image how much more power you would have if you let go of the past and focused 100% on your next task.

Where Focus goes Energy Flows.....stop leaking your mental energy on something that  is already in the past..... you can't change it anyway!

Take 24 hours...and then......Let It Go!

 

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Why Did You Quit?

                                                     "Fear is an idea-crippling,
                                      experience-crushing, success-stalling inhibitor
                                                    inflicted only by yourself."
                                                                -Stephanie Melish



                                       "Fight your fears and you'll be in a battle forever.
                                              Face your fears and you'll be free forever."
                                                                 -Lucas Jonkman



Why do most people quit.....Maybe it is because they allow their fear(s) to overwhelm them.

Do you ever wonder why some people that have already been through so much, all of a sudden quit?

Have you ever reached one of your goals..... or you were well on your way to accomplish a big goal and when you were almost there.....you quit .....WHY?

Did you get overwhelmed by your fear? when the sun went down ...did you allow your mind to fill up with things that could go wrong in the future. Maybe you focused on all the pain that you had to endure to reach your goal and how difficult that it might be to reach it.

The fear built.....and built.....and built!!!!

And you thought that you would never be able to make it. You focused on everything that could go wrong and then you convinced yourself that it would probably go wrong.....and then you stopped and pulled back into your comfort zone, yet.... again.

You know what you have....but you don't know what you will get.

TIP
Don't allow the fear to rest in your mind. Guard your mind constantly.
Another way of saying it.....don't allow the "weeds" (fearful thoughts) to take root in your garden. You don't have to plant weeds ...they show up automatically.

Learn to recognize the feeling of fear...welcome it and the say......
"Hello Fear....I don't have time for you right now.....or I don't need you any longer....and then shift you focus on your goal and what you need to do to continue towards your goal and vision.

Witness your negative thoughts.
Train yourself to move from negative thoughts....stop feeding them....as quickly as possible.
Counteract with a positive statement...something positive from your current goal or vision.

Don't allow your mind to get saturated in fear.
Notice it immediately and counteract with a positive more empowering thought.

If you want more information....
Please watch this coaching Tip!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UuZ73py0dWA

 

                                             Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Are you Allowing the "Weeds of Life" to Take over your Garden?

Do you take the time on a daily base to appreciate and feel grateful for everything that you have in you life?

Rather that focusing on what we don't have in our lives...perhaps we should instead acknowledge that there is so much to be grateful for in our lives that has nothing to do with money.

Our health, clean water to drink and shower in, a roof over our head, food in the grocery store, roads to drive on, freedom, friends, opportunities, cats & dogs, having a job, a walk in nature.

Did you know that almost half of the world or more than 3 billion people, live on less than $2.50 per day?

How much did you spend on your cup of coffee at Starbucks today? I bet it was more than $2.50.

It is so easy to lose track of all the wonderful things that we already have.
If we don't consciously do something every day to plant the "right seeds" in our minds.....gratitude, love, courage.....
then the "weeds"....anger, resentment, stress, envy will tend to creep in.

You don't have to plant the weeds, the will show up automatically

But you do have to plant and take care of the seeds on a daily base.

You alone decide on what to focus on a daily base. You decide on what thoughts and beliefs you allow into your life.

You have to guard your mind every day and be careful on what seeds you plant and make sure that the weeds of life don't take root.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Focus On What You Can Control

There are things within our control and there are things that are outside of our control.

We need to identify and learn to discipline ourselves to focus on what we can control.

So many times we continue to focus on things that we don't want in our lives. Instead we need to learn to make a shift and figure out what it is that we do want instead and learn to focus on it

                                                      "Where Focus goes Energy flows."
                                                                 - Tony Robbins

We only have so much mental energy in one day...make sure you use it wisely. Don't waste your energy on things that you cannot control.

Instead figure out what you really...really want and then shift your focus onto it.

Where in your life do you need to make a shift?

What do you need to stop focusing on.......... something that you cannot control?

                                               Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

My Most Important Lesson

The story that I want to share with you today I came across a couple of months ago.

One day, a scorpion looked around at the mountain where he lived and decided that he wanted to change. So he set out on a journey through the forest and hills. He climbed over rocks and under vines and kept going until he reached a stream.
The stream was wide and deep, and the scorpion stopped to reconsider the situation. He couldn't see any other way across. He walked upstream for a bit and then back downstream, looking for a way to get across to the other side. he came upon a frog sitting in the rushes by the bank of the stream.

"Hellooo, Mr. Frog!" the scorpion said in his nicest voice, "Would you be so kind as to give me a ride on your back across the stream?"

"Well now, Mr. Scorpion! How do I know that if I try to help you, you won't sting me?" asked the frog.

"I would never do that," the scorpion replied. "If I sting you, then I would drown along with you, for I cannot swim."

Now this made sense to the frog, but he was still suspicious. "Yes that's true, but how do I know you won't sting me anyway?"

"I would have to be crazy to do that." the scorpion reassured him. "I don't want to die. I just want to get to the other side of the stream."

"You have a got a point there." said the frog as he mulled it over.

Finally the frog agreed to take the scorpion across the river. "OK, I'll take you across. Hop on my back and we'll get going. Just be careful with your stinger."

"Sure, sure of course, " the scorpion replied.

He crawled onto the frog's back and the frog slid into the river. The water swirled around them, but the frog stayed near the surface so the scorpion would not drown.
He kicked strongly through the stream, his webbed feet paddling surely and steadily against the current.
But about halfway across the stream, the frog suddenly felt a sharp sting in his back. A deadening numbness began to creep into his limbs.

"What have you done?" croaked the frog, looking back over his shoulders at his passenger. "Why on earth did you sting me? Now we both are going to drown!"

"I couldn't help myself." the scorpion shrugged as he sank with the frog. It's just my nature."



This little short story reminds me of one of my favorite quotes.....

           "When people show you who they are, believe them."     - Maya Angelou


Believe people when they tell you who they are....because they know themselves better than you do.

If someone tells you that they lie to other people....guess what .....they will lie to you too.

If someone gossips about other people in from of you....they will gossip about you.

If people show that they can't be trusted....don't trust them.

Trust people to be who they are. Know that they will behave in keeping with their character.

If your friend is a liar..... deal with him/her accordingly. You expect him/her to lie. You can still be a friend, just recognize who you are dealing with and take appropriate steps to protect yourself.  Accept the way he/she is but don't allow it to have a negative impact on you.

                                               Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Success is.........

                                                             SUCCESS


Self-acceptance and self-love
Unconditional love of family and friends
Contribution and service to others
Commitment to living in integrity
Excellence in achievement
Serenity, Security, and Sanity about money
Spiritual growth and inner peace

                                     "When it is obvious that the goal cannot be reached,
                                            don't adjust the goal, adjust the action step."

                                                                  - Confucius


                                                 "It is not the mountain we conquer,
                                                                     but ourselves."

                                                             - Sir Edmund Hillary

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Persevere - And You Will Win!

Be like a postage stamp....stick to one thing until you get there!

Most people fail because they quit too soon. Make a plan and commit to see it through ....
No Matter What!

 

Are you like most people...you start something and then you quit?

Why?

I have found that a lot of people want to change something in there life ...so they get excited and they make a few plans and then they start, only to quit a few weeks or months later.

Most of the time people quit way to soon or they quit just before they succeed.

Often I see people try something new and if it doesn't work in a few weeks they will jump over to the next popular thing and when is doesn't work....  they quit.

Diets are a great example of this. A brand new fad dies shows up and a lot of people try it. After a few weeks when they see no results they declare that it wasn't a good diet and they try another diet...and another and yet another. The things is if they only would have stayed with one and concentrated on that one.... persevered and hung in long enough..... they would have been successful.

My suggestion is to concentrate on one thing (don't jump around) ....persevere a little longer and you will win.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Why Reading Books is so Important

                                        The more you read, the more things you know.
                                     The more that you learn the more places you'll go."
                                                                -Dr. Seuss

I am sure that you have heard the saying "Who we are is the result of the books that we read and the people we hang out with."

So I want you to think about the books you have read lately?

Or maybe you haven't read any books in the last couple of years?

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU TODAY IS TO CUT OUT ONE HOUR OF TELEVISION AND START READING BOOKS.

                                      "Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body."
                                                               - Josef Addison


We are not talking about any books here....we are talking about professional books - books on self-help, finances, psychology, parenting and so forth.

I very seldom watch any TV and I try to read one book per week. Sometimes I will fall short of that goal but I do believe it is very important to read instead of watching mindless TV.

If you read one book per week...that will amount to 52 books per year or you would have spent 365 hours of reading. Divide that by forty-hour week and that's nine and a half weeks of education every year.
Just imagine all the important information that you will have in one year if you just read one hour instead of watching TV.

You will become more effective as you gain more skills, more insight, and more knowledge.

If you don't like reading you can listen to audio books.

I always have a Tony Robbins cd ready in my car when I have to drive somewhere. He always inspires me and motivates me to continue working on my goals.

So I want to know..... what books are you going to start reading........ since you are going to watching one hour less TV, every night?

Leave me a comment and let me know.......... or if you need some information and suggestions about great books to read I will be glad to suggest a few.

 

                                               Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                             www.karinglannstam.com

Are you Giving your Body High Octane Fuel?

People use and think of food in so many different ways. It is used as a comfort, entertainment, as love but the most important way to think of food in my opinion is like fuel.

Fuel is something that we take in to nourish our bodies and keep it functioning and to give us energy.

Think of your body as a car. If your body was a car and you want it to perform at a high level you would put excellent fuel in it. If you want high performance you would need high octane fuel.

So why are so many of us eating foods with low nutritional value?
It is like putting cheap, low octane gas into your car. Would you do that?

On top of eating food with low nutritional value a lot of people depend on stimulants to compensate for lack of energy. We eat food that will make our blood sugar rise and then quickly drop.

Drinking coffee and sodas with a lot of caffeine so that we can stay awake...especially in the afternoons.

We ignore signs of food sensitivity and we continue to eat foods that we know that our bodies don't agree with and that will create health issues and sometimes make us sick.

Often we eat food for pleasure and comfort instead of fuel.

And a lot of times we don't make good choices and we over-indulge.

So my question to you is....if you wouldn't put cheap fuel into you car...why are you putting low octane (unhealthy) fuel into your body?

If you put good fuel into your body you will perform at a better level and have more energy throughout the day.

We need to follow a well-balance diet, a mixture of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, beans, healthy fats, and proteins from free-roaming animals.

So next time you are going to the grocery store, pay attention to what kind of fuel you are purchasing for your body.
Is it going to be fuel that will give you a lot of energy, so that you can perform all day without getting tired and sluggish?
Or are you going to buy the same low octane foods that will make your body sick, slow moving and giving you no nutritional value, and no energy?

Choose High Octane Fuel for Your Body!

                                              Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

You Learn by Doing

Isn't it about time you got your butt off the fence and just jumped into life!

                                      "Learning is not just knowing what to do,
                                           but doing what you already know."
                                                    - Nourma F Fauzihyah

                                       "I am always doing which I can not do,
                                           in or that I may learn how to do it."
                                                           -Pablo Picasso

Don't remain on the fence. By jumping off the fence and into the game you will learn, but if you stay on the sideline or the fence..... thinking, planning, ruminating, getting-ready, having the perfect plan before you get started..... then you will miss the chance to learn, expand and grow, and respond to the world. Get out of your comfort zone. Get a little uncomfortable for a while....you will be surprised how much you will learn by taking a few small steps out of your comfort zone.

You learn by doing!

You don't have to have the perfect plan to get started.... just jump in it......get going..... the rest will come to you..... when you need it.

Are you ready to just do it?

How can you get off the fence today?

 

                                                 Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                           www.karinglannstam.com

Develop a Thankful Attitude

                                                  Be thankful for what you have;
                    you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have,
                                             you will never ever have enough."

                                                            - Oprah Winfrey


A thankful spirit is a happy spirit. As the twists and turns of life lead to feelings of being out of control, sometimes our attitude is all that we have control over......
Here are a few ideas and some food for thought for you to develop a thankful attitude.

I am sure that most of you have heard about a gratitude journal!
At the end of the day you write down 5 things that happened during the day that you are grateful for.

And today we are going to reflect on gratitude in a similar way.

I am grateful for......

- My breath.....If I am still breathing, that means that I am alive.

- A huge AC bill...... because that means I will stay cool this summer.

- A house that needs cleaning......because that means I have a home.

- The alarm goes off early in the morning hours....because I have a job to go to.

- All the complaining about sitting in traffic....because that means I have a car.

- Aching muscles at the end of the day.....because it means I have been active and productive.

- The noisy kids next door......because that means I can hear.

- All the laundry....because it means my loved ones are nearby.

- The spot I find at the far end of the parking lot.....because it means I am capable of walking.

 

 

"It's not the happy people that are thankful

                                                   It is the thankful people that are happy."


                                                       "Develop an attitude of gratitude
                                         and give thanks for everything that happens to you."
                                                                      - Brian Tracy

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

True Friendships

                                                   "Life is a partly what we make it,
                                   and partly what is made by the friends we choose."


                                                    A true friend won't judge you.
                                         A true friend will keep your secrets a secret.
                                       And a true friend will always be there for you

Are you a true friend? In this culture of "being busy" all the time.....do you have time to nurture your old friendships and create new ones?

Do you always send a text-message, a message via Facebook or emails instead of actually taking the time to pick up the phone to connect with friends and family members?

Do you plan to get together in person....... or are you too busy with working?
Spending countless hours at work and not having time for friends or family, so that you can buy the latest new fancy car, a bigger house, fancy vacations, expensive designer clothing and new latest technical gadgets?

If this sounds like you.....you might want to stop and think for a minute!!!

What happens the day when you can't work all the time or if you get sick for any reason end up in the hospital?
Will that new fancy car..... the big house...... or the latest computer come and visit you in the hospital??

Probably NOT!!!

This is why it is so important to have friends and family and to always take time to nurture those relationships.
Remember to have friends .....you also have to be a friend.

Don't be so busy that you don't have time for you friend and family. Remember this is not a dress rehearsal...this is it! We don't get a second chance at life.

I always think that when someone I know dies....it is a message for me to step up the volume in my own life.

So the next time you are tempted to just connect with text-message, or Facebook.....Maybe it would be great to pick up the phone instead to connect!

I believe that you will be glad that you did!


                          "A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than
                                       a lot of friend who only know your smile."

 

                                              Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

The Power Of Forgiveness

                 "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you."

We all experience resentment: resentments when someone cheats us, resentment when we are accused or punished unjustly, resentment when someone doesn't treat us the way we want to be treated, resentment when life isn't fair, and so on. Having resentments isn't such a bad thing - it's a human thing. it's holding onto them that causes problems.

It is no accident that all the world's great religious emphasize the need for forgiveness. What great spiritual teachers know is that forgiveness helps the forgiver even more than it helps the forgiven. For as long as a person holds a resentment or a grudge against another person, the person with the resentment suffers much more than the person who is the resented one.

This is a strange paradox. We are angry at a person, so we punish them by staying angry, being resentful, perhaps even hating that person. Who are we really hurting with our vengeful anger? Whose jaw tightens? Whose fists clench? Whose blood boils? Whose mind is obsessed with thoughts of vengeance and retribution ? Who loses sleep nursing their anger? Whose digestion is upset? So, who's really being hurt here? The person you're mad at.....or you?

Where does it get you to continue nursing your old wounds and resentments? It keeps you a prisoner. You have no freedom when you are carrying the burden of angst and resentment.

Until you can forgive others (not forget - just forgive) and let go of your resentments, you cannot find lasting peace and happiness.

Resentment will poison you. Give them up


                   
              "Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting."
                                                                
                                                                                                     by William Arthur Ward



Is there someone in your life right that you need to forgive right now?

Don't be a prisoner of the past, be a pioneer of the future.

Forgive and let it go!

                                                             

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com