You've Got The Power To Accomplish Your Dream

                                        "Low self-esteem is like driving through life

                                                       with your hand-break on."

                                                            - Maxwell Maltz

I just finished reading the book Psycho-Cybernetics for the second time, and I absolutely love this book. 

It's written by Maxwell Maltz, and it was first published in 1960.

I have to say that it is on my top 10 list of favorite self help books that I have read so far.

If you haven't read it yet you must get a copy and read it. It's filled with so much wisdom, teachings and insight. In other words....priceless!

Maltz was the first researcher and author to explain how the self-image has complete control over an individual's ability to achieve (or fail to achieve) any goal. And he developed techniques that anyone can use to improve and manage self-image - visualization, mental rehearsal, relaxation. These techniques have informed and inspired countless motivational gurus, sports psychologists, and self-help practitioners for more than fifty years.

The teachings of Psycho-Cybernetics are timeless because they are based on solid science and provide a prescription for thinking and acting that leads to quantifiable results.

                                                   "Accept yourself as you are.

                                         Otherwise you will never see opportunity.

                                         You will never feel free to move toward it;

                                              you will feel you are not deserving."

                                                            - Maxwell Maltz

Chapter Thirteen

How to Turn a Crisis into a Creative Opportunity

A "crisis" is a situation that can either make you or break you. If you react properly to the situation, a "crisis" can give you strength, power, wisdom you do not ordinarily possess. If you react improperly, a crisis can rob you of the skill, control, and ability that you ordinarily have to call upon.

In order to perform well in a crisis: (1) We need to learn certain skills under conditions where we will not be over-motivated; we need to practice without pressure. (2) We need to learn to react to crisis with aggression, rather than a defensive, attitude; to respond to the challenge in the situation, rather than to the menace; to keep our positive goal in mind. (3) We need to learn to evaluate so-called crisis situations in their true perspective; to not make mountains out of molehills, or react as if every small challenge is a matter of life and death.

From Psycho-Cybernetics.

                                         "Within you right now is the power to do things

                                                      you never thought was possible.

                                       This power becomes available to you just as soon

                                                      as you change your beliefs."

                                                                   - Maxwell Maltz

If you don't have a copy of this book yet.....I recommend that you get one TODAY.

                                                   Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author

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Life Is Like A Puzzle

                                                               "Life is like a puzzle.

                                            Only if you fit the pieces to the right places,

                                                         you will see the beauty of it."

                                                                     - Dave Nahar 

Are you having a hard time visualizing your future goals?

Do you have a crystal clear picture in your mind what your final destination will look like when you get there?

If you can't visualize this, you are not alone. A lot of people can't see the picture in their mind of what it will look like when they have finally reached their goal.

So today I want to share a great exercise that I read about in a book a while back.

Have you ever done a puzzle? 

One of those puzzles that has a pretty picture on the front and has anywhere from 500 to several thousand pieces that you must put together to be able to make it look like the picture on the front of the box.

I believe most of you have done one of these puzzles sometime in your life. I have done a few of  these puzzles, but it has been a very long time now since I did one. 

Maybe you haven't done one either in a while, but I am sure you remember the idea of doing it.

Now think of your vision as a puzzle with a 1000 pieces.

First you have to decide what the picture on the front of the box is going to look like.

Then you have to start putting the puzzle together, one piece at a time. Sometimes the piece you pick up might fit right away, but sometimes it doesn't and you have to put it back and try another one and then yet another one, until you will find one that fits.

You keep doing this. One piece at a time. And the whole time you are putting the pieces together you have the picture of the front of the box constantly reminding you what it it will look like when you finish it. This picture will guide you and keep you on track and it will help you make sense of all the pieces and also where they need to go. 

This is the way we build our vision for our life. 

First we have to decide what kind of  picture we want on the front of the box. We must have the picture of the goal in mind and then we can start building. It's a process that is done one step at a time. Sometimes the step we take will work and sometimes it won't. At other times we have to leave that step and try it a little later and then all of a sudden it will work. The steps have to be done in a certain order to work.

We must keep working on this puzzle, a little bit every day and then finally we will lay down the last piece, and then the puzzle is complete and you can see the whole picture and it looks exactly like the picture on the front of the box. 

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Time To Clean Out The Toxic Influences

                                           "Sometimes ... cleaning house...  

                                means removing what is toxic in your life.

                                           People, places, and things."

                                                          - Linda 

Last week I wrote a BLOG talking about how our body is our temple and that we must keep it clean from toxins crossing our path every day. It's our own responsibility to keep our body and our mind clean and healthy.

Here is the link to the BLOG if you missed it: 

http://karinglannstam.blogspot.com/2021/02/the-body-is-your-temple-keep-it-clean.html

In this BLOG I was mainly talking about how to cleanse our body in 3 simple steps. 

Here they are:

1. Stop the poisoning
2. Cleanse the body
3. Add the good stuff

Today I want to focus on the mind and how to keep it clean from toxins. I felt like I didn't have enough time to cover it it last week so I figure that today will be the perfect day to dig in a little deeper on how to cleanse our mind.

Some people and situations can be very negative and even toxic and it's important that we become aware of this as soon as possible.

I am sure you have had and experience with a negative or even toxic person in your own life. Maybe at work, in your family, in a romantic relationship or friendship. 

It's easy to ignore the early warning sign because they are often very slow to appear. Unfortunately we often allow the people closest to us to continue with their negativity far longer than it's healthy for us.

And we often allow it to continue because in some way we feel we must tolerate it. Or we are afraid to speak up because we don't want to rock the boat at home or at work. Or we might even fear abandonment if we start setting boundaries.

I speak from experience, and I will use myself as an example.

Exactly 11 years ago I left a very narcissistic abusive partner. The relationship was wonderful for many years but slowly it became negative and eventually very toxic. It was time for me to exit before it got worse. And I did.

I am not writing this BLOG to talk about negative and toxic people, but instead how to cleanse ourselves from the very negative poison that we have been exposed to for a short period of time and sometimes we have been exposed for years, maybe even decades.

Here is the process to cleanse the mind:

1. Stop the poisoning
2. Cleanse the body
3. Add the good stuff

Yes, it's the same process as cleansing the body.

First we have to stop the poisoning. 

In 2012 I left the abusive relationship. I was no longer going to allow this person to poison my body, mind, spirit and also the environment where I was living. I would not have been able to cleanse my body and mind if I was still exposed to the poison. 

Maybe it's time to spend less time with certain people and sometimes we might even have to cut them out of our life completely. It doesn't matter who they are, if they are negative or toxic and they are not willing to change, we must  protect ourselves, our health, and our own peace of mind. 

Another great way to stop poison in our environment is to be very selective when we watch TV. Especially the news. Stop reading the newspaper. 

Start paying attention to what we read, watch and listen to online and on social media. 

If there is a lot of negativity at work, maybe it's time to brush up on our skills, create a new resume and start looking for a better job.

Time to do a complete cleanse.

Pay attention to what we think, talk about and write. Pay attention and stop ourselves from spreading poison to others.

In 2012 I had to start cleaning up my own thought patterns that I had developed for several years. I had to let go of talking about my ex and the life that I used to have and also my dreams for the future. It was all gone and I had to start all over again building  a new dream for my life. 

Grieving was past of the cleanse and so was therapy and also group therapy. Doing a huge research project about narcissism and after getting enough understanding of it, letting it go.

Time to add the good stuff. 

I have immersed myself in personal development for the last decade. I have created a new dream, new goals for my life and I also became a life coach and started my own coaching business in 2013. I continue to add the good stuff on a daily basis. I have taken some big steps out in the unknown, taken chances, had huge setbacks, got back up again, learned a lot and continuing to add more good stuff. 

Learning, growing and expanding on a daily basis.

Start reading some personal development books. Listen to inspiring podcasts. Read great articles. Attend seminars live and now you can find a lot of seminars via Zoom. 

Set new goals. Create a new dream for our life.

Hire a mentor or a coach to show us the way.

What types of mental poison do you need to eliminate in your life?

Are you ready to do a cleanse?

What healthier things are you going to add?

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The Body Is Your Temple... Keep It Clean!

                                                 "Take care of your body.

                                    It's the only place you have to live."

                                                          - Jim Rohn

One week ago I completed a 4 day event with Tony Robbins and 15 other speakers in the field of health, wellbeing, vitality and energy. Life Mastery was the name of the event and usually Tony does this event in Fiji, but this time we got to do it virtually from our own living room. 

We were 2000 people, from almost 80 different countries that came together live via Zoom for this event. I absolutely loved Life Mastery. So much important and life changing information and wisdom presented by Tony and his team and also by the 15 guest speakers. 

It started with a ice bath the first night and I have to admit, I did not participate in this ice bath.

We also went through a cleanse that Anthony William, one of Tony's speakers and the author of the book...Cleanse To Heal, had designed for us. About seven to ten days prior to the event we were all informed to drastically decrease or eliminate certain foods and drinks so that we would be ready for the cleanse when the event started.

Here are a few things that they recommend us to drastically reduce or eliminate: Sugar, gluten, dairy, processed foods, alcohol, caffeine, soda, animal flesh, cigarettes...... just to name a few. Then they suggested to bring in more vegetables and fruits and drink plenty of water.

The cleanse consisted of certain vegetables, certain fruits, smoothies, celery juice, lemon water, herb teas and plenty of water.

It was an interesting experience and not that difficult to do.

All the recipes that we used are in the book.....Cleanse To Heal.

1. Stop the poisoning
2. Cleanse the body
3. Add the good stuff

First we have to take a good look at what are the poisons in our life. Here are a few examples to watch out for. Cleaning items we use in our home, perfume, scented candles, air fresheners, deodorant and certain cosmetics. Plastic is another thing that isn't good for us. Things we use in our yard to fight the bugs and the weeds.

Then we have to look at the food we eat and what we drink. A lot of items we buy at the grocery store isn't even food. The meat and dairy contain so much added stuff that is often unhealthy for us. Even vegetables and fruits have been sprayed with pesticides, so we should try to select organic as often as possible. 

Lastly, all the information we are picking up via newspapers, TV, radio and the internet. Other people opinions and agenda. Who we spend time with will have an affect on us. We must constantly guard our mind from poison from the outside world and then we also have our own stinking thinking to deal with.

Then we have some poison that we have less control over and pollution is an example of that. 

                                               The body is your temple!

                             Keep it pure and clean for the soul to reside in.

How can we win? 

How can we stay healthy in a quite unhealthy world?

Stop The Poison

First we have to look at our life and become aware of all the poison and then figure out what we have control over and stop it. We do have control over a lot more than we think we do. Awareness is key. We must study, learn, seek out knowledge and then make an educated decision. Ignorance isn't bliss. Remaining ignorant can make us sick.

Cleanse The Body

When we have figured out all the poison and things that are bad for us, it's time to get rid of them. Time to cleanse to body and the mind. Get rid of things that are not good for us and that also includes people and habits.

Add The Good Stuff

Once the poison and bad stuff has left the body, it's time to add the good stuff that make us feel whole, healthy, happy and filled with energy again.

What types of poison do you need to eliminate in your life?

Are you ready to do a cleanse?

What healthier things are you going to add?

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The Power Of Persistence

                                                    "A river cuts through rock,

                                                      not because of it's power,

                                                  but because of it's persistence."

                                                             - Jim Watkins

What is PERSISTENCE?

Persistence : the quality that allows someone to continue doing something or trying to do something even though it is difficult or opposed by other people : the state of occurring or existing beyond the usual, expected, or normal time.

Here is the book selection for the month of January.

Think and Grow Rich.....written by Napoleon Hill.

Have you read it?

I believe this was my fourth time reading it. Actually this time I was listening to the audio version of it.

Think and Grow Rich is a guide to success by Napoleon Hill, which was first published in 1937 following the Great Depression. It was immediately welcomed as an antidote to hard times and remained a bestseller for decades. Many people still find its philosophy of positive thinking and its specific steps for achieving wealth both relevant and life-changing. Hill contends that our thoughts become our reality, and offers a plan and principles for transforming thoughts into riches, including visualization, affirmation, creating a Master Mind group, defining a goal, and planning.

Here are a few nuggets of wisdom from chapter 9 - Persistence 

Persistence is an essential factor in the procedure of transmitting desire into its monetary equivalent. The basis of persistence is the power of will.

The majority of people are ready to throw their aims and purposes overboard, and give up at the first sign of opposition or misfortune. A few carry on despite all opposition until they attain their goal.

Lack of persistence is one of the major causes of failure. Moreover, experience with thousands of people have proved that lack of persistence is a weakness common to the majority of people. The ease with which lack of persistence may be conquered will depend entirely upon the intensity of one's desire.

The starting point of all achievements is desire. Keep this in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat. If you find yourself lacking in persistence, this weakness may be remedied by building a strong fire under your desires.

You may find it necessary to "snap" out of your mental inertia through a similar procedure, moving slowly at first, then increasing your speed until you gain complete control over your will. Be persistent no matter how slowly you may, at first, have to move. With persistence will come success.

There is no substitute for persistence! It cannot be supplanted by any other quality! Remember this in the beginning and it will hearten you when the going may seem difficult and slow. 

Those who can "take it" are bountiful rewarded for their persistence. They receive, as their compensation, whatever goal they are pursuing. That is not all! They receive something infinitely more important than material compensations - the knowledge that every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent advantage.

A few people know from experience the soundness of persistence. They are the ones who have not accepted defeat as being anything more than temporary. They are the ones whose desires are so persistently applied that defeat is finally changes into victory. We who stand on the sidelines of life see the overwhelmingly large number who go down in defeat, never to rise again.

                                      "Energy and persistence conquer all things."

                                                     - Benjamin Franklin

                                         Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author

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Are You Tied To An Old Belief?

                                                        "The only limits you have 

                                                         are the limits you believe."

                                                               - Wayne Dyer

What is a belief?

A belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over and over again. 

Beliefs can be empowering or disempowering.

If you think and believe you can do a thing, or if you think and believe you can't do a thing, you are right.

                                                    "If I have the belief that I can do it,

                                                I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it

                                               even if I may not have it at the beginning."

                                                                     - Gandhi

Do you know how a circus elephant are trained? 

When an elephant is small and weak, one of his legs is tied with a rope to a wooden stake. The elephant  tries to break free but the rope is too strong and after a while the small elephant is convinced that breaking free is impossible.

Years later when the elephant has grown and become very strong, he still believes that he can't break free from the rope. Despite the enormous strength of the elephant, it is constrained by a small rope and a thin wooden stake.

The elephant leaned his limitations when he was small and weak and unfortunately he remains convinced for the rest of his life that he isn't strong enough to break free. In other words, what was once true when he was small and weak will always be true, no matter how big and strong he has gotten.

The elephant is imprisoned by his own limiting beliefs, that he isn't strong enough to break free and he will remain where he is, tied to a thin stake.

                                      "A belief system is nothing more than a thought

                                              you've thought over and over again."

                                                               - Wayne Dyer

Where in your life do you feel powerless?

In what area of your life do you feel like you are tied to some kind of limiting belief and can't break free?

Is it really true that you can't do something?

The truth is that you can do whatever you believe you can do.

You can change a limiting belief to an empowering belief at any time you decide to.

                                       "Believe you can and you're halfway there."

                                                           - Theodore Roosevelt

             

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A Wish Or A Commitment?

                                        "Most people fail, not because of lack of desire,

                                                  but because lack of commitment."

                                                               - Vince Lombardi

A New Year And A New You!

It's time to recharge ourselves. Refresh ourselves, get energized and re-commit to what is important in our lives.

Every new year a lot of people will make resolutions and decisions that they have been putting off making for a while.

Some people want to commit to losing weight. Starting to exercise on a regular basis. Live a healthier lifestyle. Get a new job. Start a new career or even start a business of their own. Move to another city or country. Leave a relationship that is longer working or maybe start a new relationship. 

Most of us are looking for something that will make us feel better about ourselves and our life.

                                          "The road to success is through commitments."

                                                                    - Will Smith

One common problem with new year's resolutions is that they are usually temporary, and after a few weeks the majority of people will go back to the same old ways and the same old life.

New year's resolutions are suppose to be a commitment, but most of the time the resolutions looks more like a preference or a wish list. 

People prefer or wish for a change, but are seldom committed to the process of getting to where they want to go. 

Anyone can wish for things to change. We all do that. But are you committed to actually make it happen this year?

                                               "If I'm committed there is always a way."

                                                                - Tony Robbins 

True and lasting change will involve that we step out of our comfort zone, and then do what is necessary to make change happen. Sitting on the sidelines simply wishing for something to happen, is not going to work. Sitting on the sidelines is a very comfortable lifestyle, and we love to be comfortable. But it won't create the new life that we are seeking.

If we want true change we must get out of our comfort zone, do things that feel uncomfortable and feel unfamiliar to us. It will require energy and it will also require that we establishing some kind of new daily rituals. Any change that we are looking for and wish for, will require a commitment, effort and energy.

                                "Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality."

                                                           - Abraham Lincoln

The majority of people are looking for temporary and short term solutions to their problems. They are not willing to create and adapt to a new way of living. In other words, long term solutions.

We can't change our life by simply wishing for change. We must be committed.

To create lasting change we must  implementing new habits and behaviors.

It's a lifestyle, not a quick fix to feel better for the moment.

Do you simply prefer or wish that things will change in your life? 

Or are you 100 percent committed to create the changes that you want to see happen in 2021?

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Fall In Love With Yourself First

                                         "Self-love is the air beneath the wings

                                                     of all our relationships."

                                                      - Elin Stebbins Waldal

One major issue that a lot of people struggle with is self-love. Or a lack of self-love.

It's a lot easier to improve relationships when you love yourself because you are capable of giving love and you are also capable of allowing others to love you. 

If you don't love yourself, your relationships will usually be strained. And even if someone else really does love you, you won't be able to feel it.

The truth is that you can only allow someone else to love you to the extend that you love yourself. You can only love and accept another person to the extent that you love an accept yourself.

Look around yourself and understand that everything and everyone in your environment is a reflection of your own selflove or lack of it.

If you want to change what is going on around you, here is the great news....you can!!! 

Since everything comes from you, you don't have to fix other people and the outside world. To change you can start working on your inside world.

A lot of things in your outside world will change when you start working on your inside world. And the best place to start this inner work is by loving yourself more.

When you start loving yourself a lot of things will improve. Your relationships will improve. Your health, happiness, joy and vitality will also improve. You will have more energy and you will also discover brand new opportunities showing up all around you.

                                                                 You Yourself,

                                         as much as anyone in the entire Universe 

                                                   deserve your love and affection.

                                                                     - Buddha

Today I want you to start treating yourself like the very special person that you are.

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Where Do You Want To Go?

                                                 "Your goals are the road maps

                                                   that guide you and show you

                                                  what is possible for your life."

                                                           - Les Brown

Person #1: Would you please tell me which way I ought to go from here?

Person #2: That depends on where you want to get to?

                                                                   Set goals.

                                                                 Make a plan.

                                                                 Go to work.

                                                                 Stick to it.

                                                                Reach goal.

Do you have a VISION of where you want to go in 2021?

Do you know WHY you want  it?

Do you have a VISION of who you want to become?

Do you know WHY you want to become what you want to become?

Do you have a PLAN or some kind of a MAP of how you will get there?

                                            "A goal without a plan is only a dream."

                                                              - Brain Tracy

If you don't know where you want to go......then how will you know where you need to go from here?

Don't start 2021 without knowing where you want to go. Why you want to go there and some kind of written a plan on how you will get there.

If this sounds like you, you must get busy creating your vision for this new year.

Don't allow this year to be exactly like last year. Time to make some changes and time to make some progress in your life.

                                           "Setting goals is the first step in turning

                                                    the invisible into the visible."

                                                                 - Tony Robbins 

                 

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