Is It Really True?

                              No matter how many people believe or don't believe in you, 
                                          you must be the ultimate believer in yourself.

Have you ever stopped yourself and thought about where your beliefs and views actually came from?

Why you believe what you believe?

Where is your belief coming from?

Is it a belief that came from you?

Or are you believing what you believe because it came from your parents? Maybe your spouse? Your boss? Co-workers? Your friends? Or society?

Where did this belief come from and why do your believe it?

Maybe it's about time to start looking at some of those old views and beliefs that you have? Are they really true?

As you try to find out why you hold these views and beliefs many of your old views will fall to pieces.

Form a clear and definite idea regarding your convictions as to why you do and to why you think as you think.
You know, most people never really never examine their views and then ask themselves …..why do I believe that?

I bet a lot of the beliefs that you are still holding onto you have inherited. They were built into you by your parents, their parents and their patents. Some of them go way back and they have been built into your genes.

Why do you continue to do the things that you really don't want to do? And why don't you do what you really want to do?
Is it because of some old belief that you have of yourself? Are they yours? If not....where did they come from?

The thoughts, views or beliefs that we repeatedly think will become fixed in our own mind and then these thoughts and beliefs are going to determine what happens in our life.

Why do you believe what you believe?
Have you ever analyzed your own thought patters and beliefs?
Why do you think what you think?

Time to start looking and examine those thought patterns or beliefs.  Do it before you allow your belief, views or thought patterns to limit you.

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Taming Your Stress

                                           "We can never obtain peace in the outer world,
                                                   until we make peace with ourselves."
                                                                  - Dalai Lama

Are you overloading yourself with responsibilities, getting busier and busier so that you don't have to feel?

Are you trying to do everything you can, so that you don't have to deal with pain?

Are you just making it through the day and through life, living in anger, blaming society, yourself and blaming everyone else?

You can continue to be busy for the rest of your life constantly trying to escape and avoid the pain....but is this starting to cause a lot of stress in your life?


Everyone has stress in their lives. Most people want to have less stress, but I believe that a lot of people would like to have less stress reaction to things that are happening in their life. They want to learn how to cope with stress, when they feel overwhelmed.

Here are a few tips!

Change your  perception of stress. 
You can continue stay busy for the rest of your life and avoid the pain. Bur avoiding the pain usually with some form of addiction will only wreck bigger havoc in your life down the road.

Heal the underlying pain so that you no longer have to stay busy trying to escape it. If you don't deal with the underlying pain you will continue to run and stay busy for the rest of your life. You must look at the wound, clean it out and heal it. Don't just put a band-aid over it, without cleaning it out.
Feel the pain..... Deal with the pain and …..Heal the pain.


Fill up your energy tank every day for your energy bank account. 
Think of your body as your energy tank. If you don't fill up your energy tank daily, you will end up having an energy overdraft. It works just like the money in your bank account. Take care of the energy overdrafts quickly before they pile up. Make sure that you don't wait for and emergency our crisis to happen before you tend to your energy overdrafts. Practice "Balance Tools" when everything is normal. Don't wait for a crisis to happen because then you are under stress you will operate less effectively and it will be harder for you to bounce back unless you have developed a practice.


Learn to set boundaries with people. 
Guard your ME-time. Tell your spouse, family, friends that this is your time and Don't Disturb. You ME-time can be anything you choose. Like exercising, meditation, yoga, reading a book, listening to a podcast, slow walk in the park or simply just sitting still and reflect. You decide the activity and for how long. Practice self-care and remember that self-care isn't selfish. It's an investment in yourself. You will show up more effectively for yourself, others and also the world, when you feel more centered, more at peace, and less reactive.

Setting boundaries is learning to say NO. If you constantly continue to say yes to others, your body will eventually say NO to you, usually in the form of some kind of illness.


Time to change the perception of time.
A lot of people feel like they are so busy and that there is never enough time.
The truth is that we all have the same amount of time per day. The difference is your attitude towards managing your time.
Is it time to change your perception of time? Maybe you must learn some new time management routines so you can learn to run the day instead of the day running you?


Mind full
or Mindful?

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We Are Much Better At Causing Hurt Than Feeling Hurt

                                        Feeling pain means feeling human...….
                              by allowing ourselves to feel we become stronger,
                            more resilient, and better equipped to manage adversity.

What do you do when one of your buttons have been pushed?
In other words what do you do when you are feeling hurt, shamed, embarrassed or angry?

Are you trying to offload your pain onto someone else?
Or do you find yourself in the pantry looking for some carbs to calm your nerves?
Or are you reaching our for a glass of wine or two?

When something happens in our life that makes us react, that energy doesn't just disappear into the air. Every time that we feel hurt, angry, guilty, embarrassed or ashamed we are usually going to do something with that energy. Some of us will end up in the pantry but some of us might pass that energy onto the next person.
Have you ever done this.....someone gets angry at you or makes you feel hurt or guilty and immediately you lash out at them..... or you walk away and later you take it out on someone else, like a co-worker, spouse, child,  friend or dog? Most people off load their pain instead of feeling it themselves.
Ever heard the saying..... "Hurt people will hurt other people"?

Have you ever worked for someone who acts like this? Or maybe you were raised by a parent like that? Or maybe you have been in a relationship with someone like that?
That is egg shell environment.

Back in 2010 when I was in a relationship with a narcissist, this happened pretty frequently. I could say something innocent, but without knowing, I triggered a button within him and he could go off in a rage attack. Sometimes it could be my tone of voice or I might have been looking at him in the wrong way and he would fly off the handle. Not a great environment to be in. Very stressful because it didn't matter what I said or did, he would be triggered and lash out at me. I left that man in 2012 because no matter what you do when you are in a relationship with someone like that, you are always walking on thin ice. This man was a lot better at inflicting pain onto others instead of dealing with it himself. And the truth is, I had nothing to do with his anger, hurt and pain. Those were wounds that  had been inflicted on him as a young child and that never got healed during adulthood.

When it comes to anger, blame, avoidance or hurt, people will push it down so far and at a later date they will explode when there might just be an innocent comment made by someone. This seemingly innocent comment is enough to send them into a rage.

Also some people will push it down for so long that finally their body can't handle it anymore. Your body will always keep the score and eventually it will turn on your in the form of an illness. Or depression, anger, anxiety, fear or problems with sleeping. You body is taking in that energy all the time and then the energy gets stuck in the body, creating all kinds of problems, later in life.

What can we do when we get triggered or when our buttons get pushed?

First we have to acknowledge that our button has been pushed.
Then we have to realize that something emotional is going on.
We must get curious about our emotions.
What does it mean? Why am I feeling this way? Where is it coming from?

Are you going into an old crazy story about what is going on, or are you willing to look at why you are emotionally hooked, hurt or stressed out about it? Is there something that you need to figure out?

Realize you have been triggered.
Lean into the pain and the hurt..... instead of trying to escape it or unload it on someone else.
Be crious about it. Figure out what is going on.
Find the truth instead of going into your "crazy" story.

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20 Nuggets of Wisdom

Today I have decided to change things up a little bit.
Instead of a BLOG post I will give you some "Nuggets of Wisdom" for you to ponder on today and hopefully for the rest of the week.

I hope you find these "Nuggets" insightful, mind opening and inspiring.

1 - No matter how much experience you  have, we all feel doubt and anxiety when we are creating new things or share ourselves in front of others.

2 - The key to create any habit, healthy or unhealthy is consistency.

3 - If you remain positive in the face of an obstacle, it will motivate action instead of submission and you will conquer the obstacle.

4 - Successful people have more than education and experience. They have great habits and great attitudes.

5 - Attitude creates the way you feel about people and situations. Your actions are a result of your attitude, which in turn creates a reaction from others.

6 - There are no short cuts to any place worth going.

7 - Never be too big to ask questions, and never know to much to learn something new.

8 - You must have an open mind to the awesome possibilities and opportunities out there.

9 - If your desk is messy, your mind may be more frantic and cluttered.

10 - In the end it's how we feel about ourselves that will provide us with increased courage and creativity.

11- Realizing how valuable we are will play a major role in our lives. Our self-worth makes a difference in being active or lazy. If we don't feel good about ourselves, we won't seek advantages and opportunities to make our lives better.

12 - Having inner resources to deal with the ups and downs of life, whether it's reliance or inner strength, will give you an advantage against stress.

13 - Life doesn't demand perfection. It simply requires that you keep showing up.

14 - Feeling anxious or nervous or afraid doesn't mean you are not "good enough" to do what you are about to do. It is usually an indication that you are doing exactly what you should be doing.

15 - Courageous patience is the willingness and the ability to stay the course in the face of uncertainty, doubt and after criticism from others.

16 - You have to take great care of yourself. Not only will you be healthier but you will be more productive and when great ideas and when opportunity comes your way, you will be ready to take advantage of the success or idea.

17 - The greatest source of unhappiness is.....self-unhappiness. The greatest source of unhappiness doesn't come from the outside, it comes from the inside.

18 - Realize when others treat you badly, it's not about you, but about their own suffering.

19 - The road less travelled is full of obstacles, steep inclines, detours and distractions. But it's the only true path to success.

20 - Your future is not determined by luck. It is determined by your willingness to make small investments consistently in the direction of your dreams.

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Keep Showing Up Every Day

                                                "Believe in yourself and all that you are.
                                                Know that there is something inside you
                                                  that is GREATER than any obstacle."


On our journey to success in life we will occasionally meet with temporary defeat. It will probably happen more than once, so be prepared. Most people will quit when they are met with an obstacle or a setback. They often believe that it's final and at this point they simply give up.

Most people will experience a setback as being final instead of simply looking at it as something temporary. At this time we might just need to make a few adjustments.  This is not the time to quit.
Remember this.....it's temporary.

A lot of people are very interested in accomplishing their goals. Well, I believe we all are interested. But it takes a little more than just being interested to be able to reach anything worthwhile in life. It's takes commitment. In other words, it takes stickability. We need to stick to accomplishing our goal, no matter what kind of setbacks and delays that we encounter on our path.

They say that a dream is just a dream, until it's written down. Only then does it become a goal.
A goal is a actually a contract with yourself. A commitment to YOU. You are promising yourself that you will do something for yourself. Don't break that promise to yourself, just because you are encountering a temporary defeat or delay, right now. Don't give up at a low point. Keep on going.

Stop focusing what you have lost. Instead focus on what you have left. Keep your eyes on the ultimate goal or the price and then believe in your own talents.

Also make sure that you give yourself some breathing room. Sometimes when we are in the middle of a setback or delay, we have to step back and look at the situation from a different angle, to find a solution, get our energy back so that we can rise and start walking on our path again.

Have faith. Keep showing up every day and do your best..... and eventually things will happen for you.

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Empower Yourself By Reading Books

                                                     Learning is a treasure that will 
                                                       follow its owner everywhere."
                                                             - Chinese Proverbs

When was the last time you read an educational book....cover to cover?
Do you even remember?
If you don't.....you are not alone.

I read a lot of books when I was a teenager and also in my early twenties. But after I got married and moved to the US, I seldom read a book.
I believe this is very common for a lot of people. As soon as school and our education is over, we feel like we don't need to read and learn anymore, so we stop reading books, except for some fictional books that we read once in a while.

In April of 2010 all of that changed for me.
At that time I was told by my therapist that the man that I was in a relationship with was a narcissist.
Heck, I didn't know much at that time about what it meant to be a narcissist. I just knew that they were usually very selfish. At this time I had sought the help from a therapist, because the man that I was with, was acting very strange and being in a relationship with him, made me feel extremely bad, anxious and uncomfortable. It got worse as the days went by, and I couldn't understand why.

After my therapist told me that the man that I was with was narcissistic, I started my research online into narcissism. Back then 10 years ago, people wasn't talking as much about narcissism as they do today and at that time there wasn't as much information online and not as many books to buy, as you can find today. But I searched and immersed myself in reading and learning as much as I could about narcissism. I read article after article. And I listen to countless podcasts and I bought books at Barnes & Noble, to try figure out what I was dealing with at home.

Starting my research into narcissism in 2010, saved my life.
After reading and learning for a while, I understood what I was dealing with when it came to my narcissistic partner and our relationship. I understood what was going on, and after a while I could anticipate his next move(s). I did all of this to understand and also to protect myself, so I wasn't going to get hurt. Because this man was emotionally and psychologically abusive and he was manipulating and using brainwashing techniques to control me.

I left him in 2012, and I don't have any contact with this man today.
After I had left the relationship  I read and learned a lot more about narcissism and why some people become narcissistic, and also the best way to deal with these kinds of people in the future, when we run into them again. Because we will.

Reading books and articles, listening to audio-books, podcasts and webinars, changed my life, forever.

Fast forward 10 years. Today a lot more people are now talking about narcissism, and unfortunately there are a lot of people who has become victims to narcissistic abuse. I won't say that I am expert when it comes to this subject, but I know a lot about narcissism. First I had the experience with a narcissist and then I have spent countless hours researching the subject.

Today I don't read a lot about narcissism, but once in a while I have to do some more research.
Today I focus completely on personal development. I also started reading books, blogs, listening and attending seminars online on this topic, back in 2010.

During these past 10 years I have no idea on how many books or articles that I have read, as I continue to read on a daily basis. I have no idea on how many online podcasts and seminars that I have listen to during these past 10 years, but I know it's a lot.
I love to learn and I feel I must continue to learn, grow and expand so that I can become and handle things better.

And by constant never ending learning,  I can also better serve my coaching clients, write my books, and build my coaching business. (My own coaching business got started in 2012)

When GOD want to give you a gift, he wraps it up in a problem. 

Today I am grateful for what happened to me back in 2010, because it woke me up from sleepwalking through life and not using my gifts and living up to my full potential. At the end of the day I didn't feel like I was living my purpose. I was drifting in life and it was time for me to wake up and change myself and my life.


"Don't wish things were easier. Wish you were better."

"For things to get better for you, you have to get better."

Both quotes are by Jim Rohn. One of my favorite virtual mentors.


How do we get better? By developing ourselves.
How do we develop ourselves? By reading, learning, expanding, growing and trying new things.
In other words....by Personal Development.


We have to participate in our own recue

I don't know what is going on in your life right now.

Back in 2010, I was facing a very difficult situation. I was dealing with a partner that was abusive to me, so I started reading books about narcissism and emotional abuse, to help myself.

If you are facing problems in your marriage, start reading books on how to improve your intimate relationships.

Are you dealing with a bankruptcy or any other difficult financial situation, then read books about how to improve your finances.

Are you facing a serious illness, like cancer, then start helping yourself by reading about how you can can improve your health and fight cancer.

If you are dealing with any type of addiction, read books about how to beat the addiction and live a better and healthier life.

If you are having problems connecting with your kids, then find books on how to improve your relationships with you children.

If you want to be more successful in life, pick up a book about success.


Books are everywhere. Written by people that have gone through what you might be facing right now and they are telling us how they came through their difficulties that they were facing and how they improved their lives.

Remember that the books you don't read won't help you.

Here are just a few benefits of reading books

It will give us knowledge
It improves our brain
It improves our memory
It improves our imagination
It gives us ideas
It improves our focus and our concentration


It's never too late to start reading books and the beautiful thing about knowledge is that no one can take it away from you.

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A Healthy Outside Starts From The Inside

                                               "It's not that some people have willpower
                                                                  and some don't.
                                            It's that some people are ready to change
                                                             and other's are not."
                                                               - James Gordon

Our health is tied to our happiness. It's difficult to perform well if we are not taking properly take of ourselves.
When we prioritize our health and wellbeing we become more productive and we also have more energy.....and as a biproduct, we become happier.

Our health is tied to our happiness and our happiness is tied to moving towards something that is important to us, like..... our most important goals.

When we are moving towards something that is purposeful, important and something that we really enjoy, we feel happy, energized, satisfied and content.
We actually feel a sense of growth and wellbeing.

A healthy lifestyles not only changes our body. It also changes our attitude and our mood.
In 2020 make a commitment to yourself to take excellent care of your body, because that is the only place that you've got to live.

It's easy to neglect our health. It's easy to push off exercising to another day because we are too busy.
But our dreams will require all the energy that we have, so staying in shape should be a priority.


Love yourself enough to live a healthy lifestyle.

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Stay Away From "No Man's Land"

"Create the highest, grandest vision for your life, because you become what you believe." - Oprah Winfrey Do I Really Need A Vision For My Life? As a life coach, I get asked this question a lot and the short answer is....YES you do.

Let me tell you why.

Think about the New Year's resolution you just made. That serves as a kind of a vision for your life.....well, at least for a short period of time for most people. About 6 weeks, to be exact. Then you quit and for the rest of the year you are just drifting around until the next year comes along and then you make the same or a similar attempt again. This goes on for many year, without making any progress.

Every time you let go of your vison you start drifting and after years of doing this, most people will become discouraged, disappointed, angry, feel like a failure and then bitter. And some give up completely.

At this point you have entered..... as Tony Robbins calls it.....No Man's Land..... and it's not a good place to be.

Your situation is neither very bad or very good either. You  don't you feel like you need to take action to make anything happen. Like getting out of your comfort zone to try something new. You don't really feel like putting in the effort to grow, improve, expand and learn. You are in your comfort zone and you are somewhat comfortable, right now. Are you happy? Probably not. You are just drifting along hoping that something or someone will eventually change, but no real hurry because you are not to miserable yet. Welcome to No Man's Land.

A place where you don't want to be. It's not too hot or too cold. Just lukewarm. Why wait until we get so miserable that we can't take it anymore, before we decide to do something about it? It is exactly at  this point the majority of people start looking around and deciding that they must do something.  They must commit to making a change. Their situation has gotten so bad that they can't deal with it anymore.

Stay away from No Man's Land. Create a vison for your life and leave this land behind. No one want to live there.

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Sometimes We Win and Sometimes We Learn

                                                       "I don't believe in failure;
                                   I believe there are setbacks that are put into our path
                              to teach us something and move us in a different direction."
                                                                 - Geri Jewell

I have had my fare share of losses and setbacks during 2019. Some of them very hurtful and I  wish that I wouldn't have had to through them, but I did. As we all know.....no one is exempt from pain.
So what do we do when we have gotten knocked down by big losses and failures in our lives?
We learn.

I believe that there are no wrongs paths in life. Failure is nothing but something or someone trying to move us in a different direction from the path we were going on.

The failures and the losses are there to wake us up from sleep waking and not paying as close attention as we should have. We learn as much from our failure as we do our wins, in life. Actually I believe we learn more from our losses, if we are willing to look at the lesson that is presented to us in the from of pain.

Pain isn't given to us to make us suffer. It's given to us to wake up in our lives and take action.
Our lives are bigger than any one experience....so just RELAX. You can handle it!!!

Are you on a detour right now? Do you need to turn around?
Don't allow yourself to get thrown off for too long. If you have fallen off the horse, get back on it, as quickly as possible and start moving in a new direction.

One way to get through a challenge is to get still and then ask yourself.....what is the right next move or action that I need to take?
Let you head clear for a while after a loss, because it will feel like you have been in a car wreck and you can't think clearly at this time.

Be still and don't get overwhelmed by thinking about everything all at once. Only think of the next right action step and then take it.


                                             If you don't jump darling, you will never fly.


Failure is only there to point us in a different direction.
Forgive the past.
Take responsibility and move forward.


Where in your own life have you been on a detour and need to take a brand new path?

                                 

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Don't Move On To A Brand New Year With An Old Mindset

                   "By leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown,
                                    you find out what you are truly capable of becoming."

Do not move on to 2020 without letting go of something significant from 2019.

As I am sitting here today writing this blog I want to share with you a great exercise that I am in the process of completing, myself.
I want to share it with you today because I think this exercise is very powerful and very freeing.

It's simple to do and it won't take very long time to do.
It will definitely help you in this brand new year and this brand new decade that will be here in less than two days.


Exercise

Get pen a piece of paper.

Draw a line down the middle.

Left Column
Things that will remain in the past year and in the past decade.

Things that are weighing you down.
Bad and destructive habits.
Old ideas that are no longer working.
Outdated mindsets that won't help you where you are planning on going in 2020.
People who are negative and won't be supportive of you and what you are wanting to accomplish with your life.

Right Column 
Things you are taking with and that are good for you and will help you in 2020 and this coming decade.

New habits that you must develop.
New skills you must learn to be able to take your life to the next level.
People that are supportive, loving, encouraging. People that will assist you on your path to where you want to go in the future.


Write it all down. Yes it will take a little time but it will be so empowering to do this exercise.
The list is for you. You don't have to share it with the world. Post it on FB or even tell the people closest to you.
The list is for you and it will help you stay on keep you on track in 2020.


The benefit of doing and completing this exercise is that it will allow you to let go of things in your life that are no longer serving you and create space for something new and much better to enter in 2020.

                                              Today is a good time to begin a new; 
                                    throwing away old habits as you would old clothes 
                                                    and never putting them on again.

So what and who will you let go of in order to free up some space in 2020?

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How To Feel Happier And Healthier Quickly

                                                     "I have decided to be happy 
                                                   because it's good for my health."


We all want to feel happy and healthy....but how to we accomplish this on a regular basis?

Here are a few simple tips on how to go about bringing some more happiness and health into your life daily.


1. Move More

Let's face it....not moving our bodies on a regular basis doesn't make anyone, happy or healthy. I am not saying that you have to go to the gym all the time. NO....actually a 30-minute walk several times per week will do the trick. Most of us can do this simple exercise of walking. If you haven't tried this simple tip I suggest you start it right now. You will be surprised how much better you feel just by moving your body more often.


2. Sleep More

When we don't get enough sleep we get tired, sluggish and cranky. Being sleep deprived doesn't make anyone happy or healthy. Moving our bodies is very important but sleeping enough hours is also part of a healthy and happy lifestyle. Make sure you get your ZZZzzzz's. About 8 hours per night is what most of us need on a regular basis to feel great and energized about ourselves and our lives.



3. Meet Face To Face

We are super connected online but in reality we are unfortunately getting more and more disconnected. Connecting via email, phone and social media is okay but in the long run if that is the only way that you are connecting the majority of the time you are setting yourself up for being very unhappy, unhealthy and disconnected and lonely down the road. Face time on social media cannot be replace by real in person face to face time.


                                            "Happiness is the highest for of health."
                                                               - Dalai Lama 

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Year In Review

                                            "Good times become good memories;
                                                 Bad times become good lessons."

I think we all know that we must reflect upon our life in order to learn, grow and expand.

I like to always to do a end of year inventory.
I take some time to myself to review the ups but also the downs.

Many people do not desire to do this "year in review inventory" for the fear of what they might discover with such a reflection.

It requires us of course to be totally honest with ourselves. We have to take a good look at ourselves and what we did and didn't do during the year that just went by.
We must review what went wrong during this past year. What we must improve on in the coming year and also we mustn't forget what went right and celebrate our victories too.

A lot of times we have a tendency to only focus on the negative and also exaggerate our losses and failures and we downplay all the great things that we did and the things that worked out in our favor.

A year in review shouldn't be something that you beat yourself over the head with. It's something that you simply must look at in order to discover where you need to improve, change so that you can grow and expand into the person that you are actually striving to become.

It's simply a way of just opening our eyes. To face the truth and also to celebrate.


                     "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes,
                                                             but in having new eyes."
                                                                    - Mancel Proust


Year In Review Inventory
Here are just a few questions for you.

1 Did you attain your goals(s)?
2 How did you do financially?
3 What kind of experience did you have in your marriage, partners, family, friends and co-workers?
4 What kind of health/fitness did you experience?
5 Are you feeling harmony and are you feeling engaged with others and the world in a positive way?
6 ___________________________________ Add your own question(s)


                                             "Life can only be understood backwards;
                                                      but it must be lived forwards."
                                                               - Soren Kieregaard



Finish of the 2019 on a beautiful high note and then set yourself up for the best 2020 possible.

                                                                    Karin Glannstam
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Can You Trust Yourself?

                                             "Self-trust is the first secret of success."
                                                          -  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have you ever lied to someone?

I think that we are all guilty here.
Some lies have been bigger than others. But I believe that most of us probably lied sometime in our lifetime. Maybe more than once, if we are going to be honest. Usually we lie to make ourselves seem a little better, more important and more successful than we are, because we want to impress someone that is important too us. Or maybe we have lied to escape from having to take responsibility for something, that we actually did and that didn't turn out so well.
There are many different reasons why people will lie.

Have you ever lied to yourself?
Many times…..right? I know I have.
I tell myself that I am not going to have any more chocolate and then a week later when things get a little stressful in my life I found myself in the store holding a candy bar in my hand, even though I promised myself a week ago that it wouldn't happen again.

Have you ever decided to start going to the gym on Monday. Monday comes around and where are you?....not at the gym! What happened? You lied to yourself.

How about all those New Year's resolutions that you have made during your lifetime.....what happened to all those promises to yourself? How many of those did you actually keep? Not too many.....right?

You are in a relationship with your partner and if you are going to be honest with yourself, after 10 years you don't have anything in common anymore and he/she is actually almost abuse to you. What do you tell yourself? ….."It's not that bad" or another good one...…"He/She will change, if I just love him/her enough." You know deep inside that this isn't true. So what are you doing? You are lying to yourself again and again and again. Year in and year out.


                                             "Deep down, you already know the truth."


So my question to you is.....Do trust yourself? Since you have been lying to yourself for years....can you actually trust yourself?

If your spouse, partner, friend lied to you as much as you have been lying to yourself.....would you trust them?

A lot of times we often say that we can't trust others, but I wonder if it isn't that we can't really trust ourselves?
In order to trust others, we first have to be able to trust ourselves. We can't give away to others what we first don't have ourselves.

I read the following words in some article a few months ago and I thought it was very powerful so today I want to share it with you.

When you do what you say you are going to do, you build self-respect and a positive identity. Successful people understand that every time you break a promise you made to yourself, you feed your identity as an imposter and it weakens your self-confidence as a person of action.
For example, if you commit to exercising 30 minutes each day, the do it. Regardless of the outcome your character is being positively molded, and that will generate momentum along your journey.


                                                 "Trust yourself, you've survived a lot, 
                                             and you will survive whatever is coming."


Time for reflection, my friends!
Where in your own life do you need to stop lying to yourself?

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Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

                      Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything at once.
                                             Breathe. You are strong enough, you got this.
                                                             Take it day by day.

Do you feel overwhelmed?
Do you feel physically exhausted?
Do you feel mentally drained?
Are your relationships not working right now?
Are you are workaholic?

I talk to a lot of people that are feeling overwhelmed in today's world.

In order to bring some more balance into our life we first have to acknowledge that balance is important to us.

Then we have to take the risk of changing our life, if we want to feel better.
We can't keep on doing the same thing day in and day out, and expect change to happen by itself.
We have to make the changes that we want in our life.

WE have to take a good look at ourselves and be totally honest where we are and then set some realistic goals.

We must have goals in evert area of our lives.

Business/Career
Finances
Relationships/Friendships/ Family
Health/Wellbeing
Personal Development
Spirituality

Then we have to deal with any area that are taking too much energy and put them in perspective, align them, so we have energy available for all areas.


                                          Life has many ways of testing a person's will,
                                               either by having nothing happen at all
                                              or by having everything happen at once.

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