instead of loving the idea of others loving you."
- John Spence
If you love yourself first than you don't have to look for love, validation and attention from anyone else. You are capable of creating it from within yourself. In that way you will never be dependent on anyone else to love you, validate you and to give you attention because you are able to do that independently of what anyone else does or doesn't do.
Unfortunately a lot of us can be our own worst enemies and critics. It's not the enemy out there that will most of the time get us.
It's the enemy within.
Society most often won't allow us to see our own worth.
Unfortunately we are constantly bombarded with messages that we are not good enough and that we have very little worth.
So when we look in the mirror, it's really hard to see the good in ourselves.
If you are trying to adjust to what society, your parents, siblings, friends and partner what you to be, it will be very difficult to become the person that you were truly suppose to be.
If you are not careful, you might even miss your destiny, if you keep on always adjusting to others.
"You have to love yourself because no amount of love
from others is sufficient to fill the yearning
that your soul requires from you."
- Dodinsky
Never try to get validation from others. Learn to find it in yourself. Are you keeping people around right now, because they are giving you validation and attention?
A lot of people that we are allowing to clutter up our lives are not really serving any purpose and they might even prevent other people who truly care and people that will actually contribute to our growth and health to enter our life.
Take a good look around you and make sure that you only have people in your life, that believe in you, and that are helping you grow and become the wonderful person that you are suppose to be.
Like Jim Rohn says, you will become the average of the 5 people that you spend most of your time with.
Who are you spending a lot of time with?
Are they contributing to your growth? Or are they giving you sleepless nights and are they a threat to you own peace of mind?
If your peace of mind is threatened it might be time to get out the pruning sheers and do some cutting back. No person is worth keeping in your life if they are threatening your growth, self-worth and piece of mind.
Toxic people will create constant drama that will divert all the attention onto them.
It will give you less time to focus on your own dreams, because you are constantly being interrupted by drama and attention-seeking behavior. It will also create a blockage in your mind that will often keep you from realizing your own potential.
In order for you to continue on your path of growth and development, you might have to let someone go?
Always make sure that you love yourself so much that people that don't see your worth will be automatically rejected.
"To fall in love with yourself
is the first secret to happiness."
- Robert Morley
Let People Go So You Can Grow!!!
Fabulous!!! My son has been telling me this and now your article. I think God is getting the message to me. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteHi! Sorry, I must have missed your comment. This is so true. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. It always happens in my own life. When I need an answer..... some book, article or podcast will suddenly appear, to give me the information or insight that I must have. Amazing isn't it!! Thanks for you comment and have a blessed day!
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