Or it can focus on confidence, opportunity, solutions, optimism and success.
You Decide
Don´t let anyone´s ignorance, hate, drama or negativity
stop you from being the best person you can be
Fear is toxic and it is poison.
If you allow it to bite you, it can spread fast through your body and especially through your mind.
If you are an empathic and self-aware person you will become more and more sensitive to other people and their state of being.
You must always guard your own mind and be aware of when you have taken on the thoughts and emotions of other people.
You might be having a great day and your life is moving on fine and then after spending time with someone you know and like you start to feel awful.
Maybe at this particular moment this person was in a fearful and negative state, and after you had spent some time with this person, you started to feel negative and fearful........ for no reason.
What just happened was that you allowed the fear bug to bite you and now the poison is spreading fast in your own mind and body.
You have just allowed this person´s fear to become your own fear. They just dumped their trash and fear all over you.
Doesn´t feel fair does it?
Of course it isn´t! but unfortunately this happens all the time. So we must be careful who we associate with. Who we allow ourselves to listen to, who we spend time with and who we take advice from.
Maybe this particular person is a family member or a close friend and you can´t just stop spending time with them.
But what you can do is that you can limit the time you associate with this person and maybe limit yourself to connecting with this person via phone or text and limit your face-to-face time together.
A couple of years ago I got really tired of being dumped on by this particular friend of mine.
Every time we got together she was always in a negative state and complained about everything and everybody. She was so filled with negativity and she had allowed fear to take over her life.
Finally I had it. I decided that I could no longer spend time with her by myself. Instead I limit our time together, and I just communicated via phone and text.
But I also realized that this person was a very nice person, underneath all that fear and negativity.
I didn´t want to completely stop spending time with her, because she did have a lot of wonderful qualities underneath all that fear.
So instead of spending time with her in person, by myself. I decided to bring along a good friend every time we got together.
It worked. She kept the conversation upbeat and without negativity.
So now when we get together face-to-face, I always make sure I bring another friend with me.
It works every time.
As we all know..... we can´t change anyone.
People have the right to be negative and toxic if they want to be.
But we can control the amount of time we spend with someone.
We can also start sending loving thoughts their way.
Because underneath all that fear and negativity is a yearning for love.
When we understand that the fear and all the negativity is just a cry for love, we can now start sending love instead of answer back with more fear.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
www.karinglannstam.com
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