"Some people are not capable of giving
what you're trying to get from them."
- Sonia Friedman
I don't think that I am lying when I am saying that we all want love. We all want to be seen and heard and we want to feel that we matter.
When we want love, we sometimes adjust ourselves to that person that we are with, at the time.
We adjust ourselves so that we can get love from this person.
We want love, so in order to get love from our parents, we tried to keep them happy and later in life we try to keep a partner, spouse or a friend happy, so that we can get love.
Sometimes the problem is that we don't get love no matter how happy we try to make them, and in the meantime we sometimes end up losing ourselves.
"Don't lose your dignity and self-respect to make people love and appreciate you,
when they just aren't capable."
We try and we try to make them happy.
If we don't get any love back, we try even harder because we don't think that we are trying hard enough.
What we don't realize is that sometimes there is no love to get from this person, and best thing we can do is to move on.
Learn that it's OK to be ourselves, and that we don't need other people to love us, because we can learn to get love from ourselves.
When we love and respect ourselves, than we won't try to get love from places where we can't get it (parents, spouse, siblings, friends).
Stop betraying yourself.
When there is no love to be found, just move on.
"Stop putting an effort into those who show no effort towards you.
There is only so much you can do before you're wasting your energy and time."
Learn to love yourself first.
Then if you find someone that loves you, that is just icing on the cake.
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