no other person is or can ever be."
- Oprah
As human beings we have a tendency to take responsibility for the good things that happened in our lives and we blame unfavorable things on others or circumstances.
Do you know any person that likes to blame their misery or failures on someone else?
I am sure you do. Or maybe you are that person that is usually blaming someone else or you blame circumstances when things go wrong in your life?
My boss makes me miserable. My parents did not support me when I was a kid. My brother beat me up all the time when we were growing up . The economy is to blame for my financial problems. My spouse is never there for me. My kids drive me crazy.
Throughout my life I have met many men and women who are still grumbling and complaining about earlier unhappy experience in their lives. They are blaming their problems on other people and circumstances. They are angry with parents, siblings, bosses, ex-spouses, children and friends. And when they talk about the past you can see that they are still fuming over these people.
Unfortunately these people are trapped in the past and they can't get free. They are living behind invisible prison doors.
The problem is that every time you blame someone else or make excuses, you are giving away your power. You automatically get weakened and diminished.
If you are not able to take personal responsibility, no progress is possible and you will remain stuck where you are.
"The choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
Accept total responsibility for your life and you will be amazed what a difference it will make.
Set yourself free by letting go of blame.
I know there are times when our lives are significantly influenced by outside forces. Like losing a job due to downsizing or poor economy
I also know that there are a lot of really bad people out there doing really bad things, but blaming someone or something that happened to you isn't going to help you. Actually you will remain attached to this person for the rest of your life if you don't stop talking about them and stop blaming them. You will remain a prisoner in a prison that you have created yourself.
If the problem is poor personal relationships, addiction, poor health, overspending, joblessness or excess weight..... the minute you say....I am responsible....you reclaim your own power.
People might have been really bad to you and caused you a lot of pain. Your parents were really bad role models, your ex-spouse was abusive to you. Yes, at this time you were a victim and it wasn't your fault. But it's up to you to do something about the situation. Remaining a victim won't create change.
You have the power to take responsibility for what actions you choose to take. It's when you focus on what you can do and how you should act that you gain power.
"Accept responsibility for your life.
Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go,
no one else."
- Les Brown
www.karinglannstam.com
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