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Are you having a heard time saying NO?
Do you take on more than you can handle even though you know that you should say no?
In other words..... do you let your mouth overload your back?
Maybe you don't want to do something, but on the other hand you don't want anyone to get mad so you agree to do this "thing" that you have no interest in doing. And maybe you don't actually have enough time to do it, and now you have to cancel something fun that you have planned to do..... just so that you can help someone else out?
How is that going to make you feel?
It is very important to set limits and especially women are having a hard time learning how to say no.
Both at work and at home. With their families and also with their friends.
There are usually two reason that makes a lot of women say "Yes"..... when they actually want to say "No"
We are afraid how other people will react when we say no.
We want to be kind and helpful.
Often we feel selfish when we say no, but we must learn to set limits otherwise we will feel drained of our energy and it might eventually lead to burnout.
A lot of times we feel that we give more that we get back and we often feel that people don't appreciate what we do.
If we continue to help people that we feel don't appreciate our efforts we will eventually get very angry with that person(s).
But remember.....in the end....we were the ones that offered our help and our services and we have made other people used to expecting and getting our help.
It is time to put your foot down and start to set limits.
Will it be easy?
Actually I don't believe that people will be as upset as we think that they are going to be.
By setting limits you will get more respect from others and you will eventually have more respect for yourself and that will in the end give you..... peace of mind.
A Few Tips!
Now if you are not a person that are used to putting your foot down.....it might take a little practice and it will feel uncomfortable for a while. But the longer you keep on doing it, the easier it will get and the more confident you will feel.
When you start saying no to people, you never have to explain to them why you can't do it or don't want to do it. A simple and kind "no"..... is a perfect answer.
Just remember when you have put your foot down and said "no".....keep your foot down. Don't allow other people to talk you into changing your mind.
Be kind and clear..... but be firm.
Tell the person "no" right away. We don't do this because it is hard to say no.
But it won't be any easier to say "no" tomorrow or the next week.
Or you can tell people..... "No! But if I change my mind I will call you and let you know."
Just remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation why don don't want to do something.
That is your business and no one else's.
Your needs and wants are important too..... and you don't need anyone's approval. Only Yours.
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