but that´s not the end of your story.
That´s the end of their part in your story.
Have you ever been a reflection of what other people wanted you to be?
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone that didn´t allow you to be yourself?
In order to get love or even any attention you had to give yourself up.
You had to perform and be a certain way to be accepted.
You were trained to give yourself up.
And if you stood up for yourself , you got in trouble.
A lot of times we choose a romantic partner in life who has similar energy to one of our parents.
The parent we have the most difficult time with and then we try to get our romantic partner to love us the way we were never loved growing up by this particular parent.
This is a losing battle.
If you have to give yourself up in any romantic relationship in order to get love, the love will eventually die anyway...because it´s not love.
If you have to give yourself up....it is never love.
If this has happened to you in the past or maybe you are in a relationship right now where you are giving yourself up.... try to learn from it.
Are you trying to get the love from someone right now...that you didn´t get from your parent(s)?
Are you always abandoning yourself and are you afraid to speak up because you are afraid that your partner will get angry and leave you?
Tip!
Be compassionate with yourself.
Be open to learning. Understand why you abandon yourself in your relationship(s).
After you learn and understand.....
you won´t pick someone that will expect you to give yourself up and you won´t be willing to abandon yourself either in order to get love and attention.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
www.karinglannstam.com
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