and not saying no soon enough."
- Josh Billings
Are you afraid of the consequences if you say NO to someone?
Are you a YES-person?
Every time someone is asking you to do something, you are always saying yes......even if you don´t want to do it? You actually want to say NO!
Why do you always say yes to people?
Are you afraid that if you say no to someone..... they will get upset with you?
Are you telling yourself that you don´t want to upset people because you are actually afraid that they won´t like you anymore?
And maybe they will actually walk away and leave you if you say no to them?
I have news for you....if you are afraid that the people that you say no to will walk away and leave you.........let them.
If the only reason they are hanging out with you is because you always say yes to them, they are not worth keeping around.
A true friend doesn´t mind that you tell them no. They will understand and they won´t get mad and leave you over it.
Tip!
Admit what you really want. If you want to say no.....say NO!
Learn to control your fear of the consequences if you start saying no to people.
It will take a little time to get used to saying no. But you will get the hang of it soon.
The longer you wait to start to say no...... the more pain you will feel yourself.
In the end you will feel much better about yourself for speaking up for what you really want.
Be true to yourself. If someone wants to leave.......let them.
You will be just fine!
New friends will show up in your life. True friends that don´t care if you tell them no, if you don´t want to do something.
Make sure that when you say yes to others....... that you are not saying no to yourself.
Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
www.karinglannstam.com
I feel like you had writhen this to me!!
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