The Meaning We Make Of Our Experiences

                    

                    "Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it."

                                                                    - Tony Robbins 

Do you make meaning of things without enough evidence?

Have you ever gotten upset over how someone else treated you?

Maybe they didn't understand what you were trying to tell them or you felt like they were disrespectful and that they didn't care?

It happens all the time and to all of us.

If we can accept our helplessness over others behavior and not to get angry with the other person we would be a lot better off.

What do you do when you get upset with someone? Are you asking yourself... what do they mean?  What does this mean?

Are you maybe adding meaning to something that doesn't exist?

Most stress is coming from making things more important then they are.

In the future when you get upset with someone or with a situation ask yourself...
What could this mean?

A lot of times we will come up with a negative meaning to what is going on. That is just the way our brains are wired. 

Rejection doesn't mean you are not good enough. 

It just means the other person failed to notice what you had to offer.

Instead of attaching a negative meaning to what is going on, try to come up with several positive ones instead.

Don't assume that a person has done something deliberately to hurt you.

When people do things it is rarely about you. It is more often about them.

They are usually trying to meet their own needs. They are trying to deal with their own fears and frustrations.

So if it's not about you... then what else could this mean?

Come up with a more powerful meaning.

Never assume the worst.

A lot of times when we get upset with someone it is usually because something from our own past is getting triggered by this person or the situation. 

"Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. 

Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their life 

and create a meaning that disempowers them 

or one that can literally save their lives." 

- Tony Robbins

So, the next time something happens ask yourself...

What does this mean?

Can I come up with a more powerful meaning?

Also ask yourself... why you are being triggered? Why are you getting upset?

Is it really about the other person or is it about you?

Maybe it is a fear showing up?

What is your fear about? 

"We are not determined by our experiences, 

but the meaning we give them is self-determining." 

- Ichiro Kishimi

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