Change Starts With YOU

                                            "Breakdowns can create breakthroughs. 

                                        Things fall apart so things can fall together." 

                                                                - Unknown

Why does change seem to be so scary and so painful?

Most people don't want to change.
They usually don't mind others changing or something around them to change, but when it comes to most people, they are not willing to change themselves.

Why are the majority of people this way?

There are three things or enemies that holds us back in life.
We all have these enemies in common, no matter where we live in the world.

Here They Are

The Comfort Zone
Most people love the comfort zone. They seldom want to leave it behind.

When we become comfortable doing a thing a certain way, and we are reluctant to change, we get stuck in the comfort zone.

People usually fall in love with a method of doing things. And even if it doesn't work, even if they are getting bad results and it makes them unhappy, they keep doing it.
People make little or no effort to learn new things or to upgrade their skills.

If you continue to live like this you will eventually get stuck or passed over.



The Path of Least Resistance 
Starting something new is the hardest thing of all.

We do everything possible to justify not changing. When you present a new idea to people, it will automatically trigger all the reasons why it won't work.

The path of least resistance is that human beings always seek the fastest and easiest way to get what they want. 

So people are always looking for easy ways or quick fixes.
If anyone suggest changing or to do something new and different, that's difficult for most people.

Most people find it hard to try and to do something new and they will fight you every step of the way.


The Fear of Failure
People are afraid that if they try something new, and it won't work... then what are they going to do?

They know that what they are doing right now is working, so why change it. You know what you got, but you don't know what you will get.

So... most people convince themselves that they are happy with what they got right now and where they are, when in fact they are not happy at all but they are fearful of failing so they remain in their comfort zone and then they deal with their unhappiness in a different and sometimes unhealthy way.

There is actually a 4th way to create change. 

This one is more drastic and a lot of times we don't choose it ourselves.

I call it a serious Wake-Up Call.
You are forced to wake up and examine the life that you are living because it's giving you so much pain at the moment and may have given you pain for many years and you know that you can't go on living like this anymore.

You are experiencing pain right now. Your past has been painful and when you look into the future you see nothing but pain... if you continue to live the way you are living right now.
This will eventually create a wake-up call or a breakdown.

A breakdown is a great word for it because the old ways of doing things is breaking down to open a door to a much better way of living and doing things in the future.
But in order for something new to move into your life you first have to be open to looking at the old ways of being and doing things. If you are not open to looking at yourself, your behavior and to new ideas, it will just slip on by you. But it won't disappear and will only show up later with even more force and pain.

But when you are finally in extreme pain, you are forced to slow down and open yourself to new thing and it is at this point a breakthrough and a transformation can happen.

Here is another name for a wake-up call... The Significant Emotional Experience.
Something happens that really gives people a jolt or a chock. It can be the death of a loved one, a serious illness, loss of a job, loss of a business, divorce or bankruptcy... just to name a few.

It gives you a huge smack in the face so that you will be able to see what is really going on and it opens you up to a new way of thinking.
It opens people up to that maybe there is another and better way to do things. 

                                                    "If you do what you've always done, 

                                                       you'll get what you've always got."

                                                                       - Henry Ford

How about you... do you spend a lot of time in the comfort zone?

Do you like to learn new things and develop new skills?

When was the last time you did something that you had never done before?

When we leave the comfort zone we will actually feel more alive.
Yes, everything is scary at first but soon we will get the hang of it.

Staying in the comfort zone will make us feel bored, unfulfilled and eventually it will suck the life out of our soul.

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