Stop Worrying And Focus On What You Can Control

                             "Understand that not everything is meant to be understood.

                              Live, let go, and don't worry about what you can't change."

Where do you spend your time, your emotions and your focus?

Are you doing things that are urgent or important?

Make sure that you are you spending your time, emotions and your focus on things you can control.
Not on things you cannot control.

There is one thing that you can absolutely control... YOURSELF, and what you focus on and what you feel inside.

You get to determine what you feel inside, no matter what is going on, or what someone says or does in your life.

There is nothing in your life that you are going to feel that you are not creating, and that you can´t change immediately... if you want to.

Here is another thing that you can control... YOUR ATTITUDE about something.
You can control what things mean to you. 

                                      "At the end of the day, you can't control the results; 

                                      you can only control your efforts and your focus."

                                                                     - Ben Zobrist

If you feel like the weather, events, the world and other people are out of your control, stressing about it won´t make it any better.

Another thing that you can´t control is... THE PAST.
You can´t control it and you can´t change it. So stop wasting time on it.

It doesn´t matter how stressful your past was, you can never change it. Since you can´t change the past why would you spend any time there?

If you stay in the past, you will become stressed, and it will keep you from being in the present and it will prevent you from important things that matter to you in a positive way, like creating an amazing vision for yourself and the future.

Spend your time on what you can control... YOURSELF and your ATTITUDE.
Focus on what matters to you and stay away form spending time in the past.
Learn from the past. Use the past as a school... but then move on.

Do not stress out about things you can´t control or change.

Instead of obsessing over the things you can't change, focus on what you can:

Your Attitude

Your Mindset

Your Energy

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It's My Job To Like Myself... Not Yours

                            "Self-love requires you to be honest about your current choices
                                          and thought patterns and undertake new practices
                                                             that reflect self worth."

We all want love, so a lot of times we will adjust ourselves to the person that we are with at the time. 

We do this so that we can get love.

In order to get love from our parents, we try to keep them happy and later we try to keep a partner or a friend happy, so in return we can get love.

But sometimes we don´t get love, no matter how happy we try to make them. 

What happens then? 

                                       "Your relationships with yourself sets the tone for 

                                                  every other relationship you have"

 

We try so hard to make others happy, that in the meantime we end up losing ourselves.

We try harder and harder to make them happy, but we get less and less back.

We try even harder because we don´t think or feel that we are trying hard enough.

What we don´t realize is that there might not be any love, to get from this person and that we better off moving on. 

                                            "You can never meet your potential until 

                                                     you truly learn to love yourself." 

                                                            - Teresa Collins  

What we must learn to do is to love ourselves, then we don´t need other people to love us. 

And if they love us, that is just icing on the cake, but we are OK without it because we love and respect ourselves and we won´t try to get love, from places where we can´t get it.

Don´t betray yourself when there is no love to be found. 

Just move on and the Universe will always love you and support you. 

                                        "In a society that profits from your self-doubt, 

                                                    loving yourself is a rebellious act."

                                                                    - Unknown 

Remember to always love yourself first.

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