Yesterday has nothing to do with today or tomorrow
unless you decide it does."
- Grant Cardone
It's easy to blame others for our misery, failures and misfortunes in life.
Our parents weren't there for us when we were kids. Our siblings gave us a lot of misery while we were growing up. Our teachers didn't have faith in us and put us down. Our spouse wasn't supportive and didn't care and our friends are negative and self absorbed.
And the list goes on and on and on.
You can always come with some reason(s) why your current situation is not working because of something someone else did or didn't do.
Of course blaming others allows us to take ourselves off the hook because it wasn't our fault.
It was theirs.
"When you think everything is someone else's fault.
you will suffer a lot."
- Dalai Lama
Now I get it....there are a lot of miserable and terrible people out there in the world.
I have met some of those people myself. And yes, there have been some awful things done to me, and some people that were very close to me betrayed me in the most awful way
But even the most negative and miserable person can teach us something....if we are willing to look at the lesson.
Here is another way of thinking about it.
This "bad person(s)" that did you wrong and created such a mess in your life.....you blame them for all the bad things...…right?
Now, how about all the good things that they did or the good things that came out of the experience?
Are you also blaming them for those?
If you blame someone for all the bad, you also have to blame them for all the good.
I don't believe that anyone is "all bad" and that any experiences is ever "all bad" or wasted.
Even the worst parent, spouse, sibling, friend, teacher, boss or co-worker can teach us something.
If you keep on blaming people, you will end up stuck in life.
Yes, they might have done something terrible to you, but now you can make a decision to move on and create a better future for yourself or you can remain stuck in the past.
The choice it totally up to you.
"To solve a problem you have to recognize your share of responsibility. "
If you reflect back on the person and the situation, do you think that you can find something good that came out of it?
You might have to look a little closer..... but let's be honest...... this person might have ignited some great talent in you that you didn't know you had but you had to develop it when this person walked away from you?
Maybe you have to become very resourceful on your own because your parents didn't care to help you as a child?
Maybe by being abused by someone, you are now working with helping others to deal with their own abuse situation and you are now their inspiration and motivation that they too can heal and move on with their lives.
Maybe by being deep in debt, you now have turned your life around and are helping others how to manage their money in a healthy way.
Maybe by being in a very bad relationship you have now learned why it didn't work and you are now assisting others who are trying to understand and work on their relationships.
So again, if you blame people and situations for the bad, you must also blame them for the good.
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