instead of having it use you.
If you do that, you are in control of your life.
If you don't, life controls you."
- Anthony Robbins
Nature had designed two sensors PAIN and PLEASURE.
The reason behind this is to help lower forms in nature, like animals to go in the right direction.
When we are doing the right thing, we will feel pleasure. Nature encourages us to go this way because it leads us to feeling pleasure.
We are usually feeling pain when something is threatening our survival and we are not being supported. Pain means that it's the wrong way. Do something different.
As humans beings when we find ourselves dealing with problems, crisis or are maybe experiencing trauma in our lives, we will naturally seek a way to get out of it.
But if you can't seek or find a way out of it, than we do some other behavior to lessen the pain, because if you can't move and you are stuck in pain.....what are you suppose to do? Just remain in the pain?
At this point we can put in some other kind of behavior and override the current experience. We find a way to deal with the pain.....even if it's only temporarily.
Where do we notice this in life? Addiction.
In addiction a person is really just trying to solve or to overcome some kind of pain in their life or some kind of threat for their survival or existence, and they choose another alternative behavior.
Something that will lessen the pain and the threat for a while.
Unfortunately the alternative behavior doesn't necessarily take us of the problem. So we remain in the problem, even though we are mentally trying to get out of the problem. And this will eventually create more and usually bigger problems.
We are trying to solve a problem or pain with something that will later cause us even greater pain.
What we tried to solve the initial pain with, will cause us much greater pain down the road.
We are not paying attention and we are often not willing to look at the original pain so therefore we are continuing to live in this dream world.
Unfortunately the problem that arises from alternative reality, sometimes has more and more negative consequences for us and our lives than the original problem.
We are trying to feel better and lessen the pain.....even if it's only for the moment.
People will find a way to reduce and sometimes completely avoid the pain of the situation and then this new way becomes habitual.
It has now become the "new daily normal."
Why does this happen?
Because if we start to feel the same pain again, we will automatically go back and check and find out what allowed us to avoid the pain....and then we do this other behavior that now will be our "new" habit whenever we are starting to feel pain again.
Are you dealing with situations, problems or new or past life-experiences in your life with some type of addictive behavior or substance?
A great definition of addiction is.....something that you will continue to do in your life, and that you won't give up even though it's bringing negative consequences to your life.
Short term gain for long term pain.
So the question is.....what pain are you trying to avoid in your own life?
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