A Great Book About Creating Financial Freedom

                                "The financial goal the wealth-minded persons pursue is,
                                                              FREEDOM,
                                                               not riches."
                                                        - Felicia Woodside


Is one of your goals in life is to create financial freedom?
If it is..... I have a great book that I want to recommend.

It is ....The 9 Steps To Financial Freedom ....written by Suze Orman

This book has a lot of useful advice and inspiration from one of the leading voices of personal finance.
It is combining real-life recommendations with the motivation to overcome financial anxiety.

The book includes.....
Seeing how your past holds the key to your financial future
Facing your fears and creating new truths
Trusting yourself more than others
Being open to receiving all that you are meant to have
Understanding the lessons of the money cycle


     If you saw a quarter on the street, would you stop to pick it up? Of course you would - we all would. Would you throw a dollar on the street for someone else to pick up? I doubt it. Yet without even knowing it, you may be throwing away hundreds of dollars in found money for you and your future just by the way you're dealing with your financial life.
     Most people try to set up their lives for convenience, to make things easy. But easy can be costly. Respecting yourself and your money means wanting to put every penny you can to work for you. Respect attracts money, remember? You might have "found money" right now, a few hundred dollars a year here, a few hundred there, or more. Wouldn't you like to find it? You can if you are willing to look. If you're willing to re-arrange the pieces of your financial life just a little, you'll be able to see the solution to the puzzle - and find the money.

From the book.....The 9 Steps To Financial Freedom.....by Suze Orman

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Don't Sit On the Sidelines Of Life

                                           Struggles are required in order to survive in life,
                        because in order to stand up, you got know what falling down is like.


Can you remember when you were a kid playing on the playground with all your friends?
You were doing all kind of things. Playing, laughing and also falling down. What happened after you fell down? You got up, brushed yourself off and jumped right back into the fun and the game.
Did you think that you were a failure because you fell down? Or didn't know how to do something right away? No....you didn't.
You just laughed together with your friends and you tried again. If you didn't know how to do something you asked your friend to show you how and then you tried.
And your friends did the same thing.....if they fell or did something funny or silly.....they got back up and you all laughed at it. No big deal.
Did you sit on the side of the playground not participating in the fun? I am sure you didn't. Who wants to sit and just watch other kids having fun and not joining them?

So when did we decide that falling down equals failure?
And if we fall down, we now stay down instead of getting back up and we decide that we can't do it.

When did we decide that we can't ask for help from our friends, family members or from a mentor?
Ask for help and have them show us how they did something that we would like to do?
Instead we have decided that asking for help is a sign of weakness.

At what point did we decide to just remain on the sidelines instead of playing and having fun , like we used to do when we were kids?

Did you know that the majority of people won't even try once to do something new?
They talk themselves out of doing something before that have even tried it and they tell themselves that they can't possible do it, or make it happen.
People are so fearful of failure that they won't even try.


They tell themselves things like.....

"I can't possible be able to create financial freedom in my life. I am thousands of dollars in debt right now and my job doesn't pay very well"

"I am way to old/young to start my own business. No one that I know has done it so who is going to be able to help me and show me how?" 

I have had this extra weight since I was a teenager and now I am forty so I guess I will be like this the rest of my life. I have tried every diet there is and I guess I am just not suppose to be thin and fit"

My dad/mom was an alcoholic so I guess I am just stuck in this addiction for the rest of my life like they were"

In my opinion there is no such thing as failure. It is only feedback.
What you did wasn't working for some reason.

Failures or setbacks can also be viewed as steppingstones to success. In order to be truly successful at something you must know how it feels to fall down.

Sometimes I believe it is more like a lesson that we needed to learn. An important life lesson and if you really look at the lesson it will probably give you some valuable information that you didn't have before.

Be more like the kid you used to be playing on the playground. When you fall down, get up and brush yourself off.
Sometimes laughing at yourself when things happen is a great way of turning something unpleasant into something more pleasant. Tell a friend about and then laugh together.

Anything worth doing is worth doing badly until you get there. Until you get better at it.

Don't sit on the sidelines of life anymore. Get on the field and start playing.
And if you fall down, you just get back up, brush yourself off, laugh and then jump back into the game again.

Remember to bounce and not break when you fall.
Because you will fall down in life. We all fall....but don't stay there. Get back up.
Ask for help if you need it.

               

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Fantastic Book - The Millionaire Next Door

                                   "A big part of financial freedom is having your heart
                                and your mind free from worry about the what-ifs of life."
                                                             - Suze Orman

                                   "Too many people spend money that haven't earned,
                                                     to buy things they don't want,
                                                 to impress people they don't like."
                                                               - Will smith

Here is a fantastic book.....
The Millionaire Next Door.....by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko

You must read it!
It is filled with fantastic insight on wealth in America and it lets you know that nearly anybody with a steady job can accumulate financial independence in their life.

Who are the rich in this country?
What do they do?
Where do they shop?
What do they drive?
How do they invest?
Where did their ancestors come from?
How did they get rich?
Can I become one of them?



The Seven Factors

Who becomes wealthy? Usually the wealthy individual is a business-man who has lived in the same town for all of his adult life. This person owns a small factory, a chain of stores, or a service company. He has married once and remains married. He lives next door to people with a fraction of his health. He is compulsive saver and investor. And he has made his money on his own. Eighty percent of America's millionaires are first-generation rich.
Affluent people typically follow a lifestyle conclusive to accumulating money.
In the course of our investigations, we discovered seven common denominators among those who successfully built wealth.

1. They live below their means.

2. They allocate their time, their energy, and money efficiently, in ways conductive to building wealth.

3. They believe that financial independence is more important than displaying high social status.

4. Their parents did not provide economic outpatient care.

5. Their adult children are economically self-sufficient.

6. They are proficient in targeting market opportunities.

7. They choose the right occupation.

In The Millionaire Next Door, you will study these seven characteristics of the wealthy. We hope you will learn how to develop them in yourself.

From the book.....The Millionaire Next Door


Maybe you are living next door to a millionaire right now?

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Stand Up For Yourself, Your Dream and Your Life

                                                    "How am I going to live today
                                                    in order to create the tomorrow
                                                                I'm committed to?"
                                                                - Tony Robbins


I don't know what your dream is.

I don't know what you are trying to accomplish in your life right now.

But one thing I do know is this....
If you are going to make it happen for you and your dream..... you sometimes have to say NO to doing things and to do what other people want you to do, and say YES to yourself and to your dream.

No.....I can't go out tonight. I have to be at a workshop at eight in the morning.
No.....No I am not spending money on entertainment this month because I must buy some new
          books.
No.....I can't work overtime this month. I have to work on my dream.
No.....I am going to read a book instead of surfing social media.
No.....I don't want to listen to your complaining and gossiping anymore.
No.....You have to learn to take care of yourself. It is not my job to save you.
No.....I can't work this weekend. I am attending a seminar in another city.
No.....I am going to the gym in the evenings instead of watching TV.
No.....I don't want to listen to your sad story over and over again. Nothing has changed since
          the last time you told me about it.
No.....I am going to save my money instead of wasting it on impulsive purchases.

You must learn to say no to other people's agendas, urgencies and drama in order for you to have some time to work on yourself, increase your knowledge and your skills so that you will be able to live your dream.

Other people can't see your dream nor do they care about your dream. Everyone has their own agenda and most people want to make it easy as possible for themselves. And if you are continuing to say yes to certain people you will eventually wake up one day realizing that you are behind on your dream. You have constantly put other people and their demands of your time, before you and your dream.

It takes a lot of courage to go against other people.
It takes courage to walk your own path and to say no.
A lot of people will constantly keep you busy with every day demands of your time, pointless drama in their own lives, complaining, gossiping and tremendous negativity. And if you allow their urgencies to become your emergency, you will lose valuable time that you must invest in yourself and your dream.

Your time is valuable. Don' let anyone waste it. Once it is gone or lost you can never get it back.
You can get you money back if you lose it. You can get you car or your house back if you lost it.
If you lose a friend you can make some new friendships.
But it's different with your time. It the most valuable thing that you have got. Learn to say no to other people's demands on your time.
Besides that ....it is not your job to save everybody.

Great Tip!

Before you commit to something or somebody ask yourself..........
Do I really want to do this?
How much time is this going to take?
Do I have this time to give away?
Always sleep on a decision because it looks very different in the morning than it did the night before.


I was talking to a good friend the other day about this exact topic and I said to her....."Do you realize that every time I say .....Yes to certain people, giving them my time.....I am saying..... No to myself and my dream?"
I am the only one that has to live with the consequences of saying yes to others and no to myself. Other people don't care. They just want you to do what they want you to do.

To go against the dominant thinking of your family, friends, co-workers and people that you associate with on a daily base is no easy task.
It is probably the most courageous act you can perform.

When you have your own dream for your life, you will have your own agenda. You will have something that you are doing on a daily base. And if other people can put you on a guilt trip, they will. They will use you and abuse you over and over again and you must learn to draw the line.

You are very powerful and you have to use that power to put your foot down and to change things.

When you are committed to dance to the beat of a different drummer you must learn to except that most people won't understand you.
Don't expect your dream to make sense to anybody but yourself.
You are doing if for you..... and it doesn't matter if others won't understand or support you.
You have a calling on your life and you are doing it for you.

You have made a different kind of commitment for your life and this is something that you have to do. You have to go and to do what you were put on this earth to do.
Being committed means taking a stand for you.

Stand up for yourself, your dream and your life.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Do You Feel Excited About Your Goals?

                                        "Reasons come first - answers come second."
                                                             - Tony Robbins


Most people have a very vague plan or a very unclear vision of what they want in life.

Most of us want something to happen in life. Something new and exciting, but unfortunately we don't take time to actually sit down and become clear on what we really want.

What kind of change are you looking for? What will actually make you excited about your life?

Just wanting something isn't enough for taking it all the way to accomplishing a goal. We must decide on what we want, create a plan and then take action on that plan on a daily base.

A lot of people will talk about goals but very few actually set them. I believe that  it is only around 5 percent of  people that have goals in writing..... for all areas of their lives.

Sometimes we might have created some goals but the goals are so lousy that they don't get us excited and we quickly abandon them.

Is your goal that the only thing that you want in life is to pay the lousy bills?....I can understand your excitement on a Monday morning. "Yeah....I am getting out of bed today so that I can go to work and make enough money to pay the lousy bills!"

How about "I just want to lose a few pounds so that I can gain it back during the holidays because I really want to be able to eat then." Sounds really exciting!!!

Your dream and your goals will work as a giant magnet. It will pull you through anything that is going on in your life right now. The bigger and stronger that your vision and your goals are, the stronger the pull will be.

How can you create some great goals for yourself.....something that will make you hop out of bed every morning of your life (or almost every morning)?

A lot of people won't act on their goals because they have no idea how they will ever be able to do it.
If you can inspire yourself to act on your goal, the how will take care of itself.

In other words we must create important and exciting REASONS why we want to accomplish our goals.

The stronger the reasons..... the easier it will be to take the right action and stay motivated to continue until you have reached your goal(s).

First you have to decide what is that you do want? Then you must be clear about the "WHY" behind the goal(s).

Why do I want this for myself?
When you have figured out the WHY.....the How will take care of itself.
                                            ______________________________

Great Tip!

Take some time to sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write down you answers to these questions.

- Find 5 reasons why it is important that you will be able to accomplish your goals and live your dream. (Maybe you can find more than five. Write them all down).

- What are another 5 reasons that you won't give up on your dream and your goals.

                                            ______________________________

What are you planning to do about your goals and your dream?

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

How Are You Coming Along With Your Goals For 2017?

                                        Climb mountains not so the world can se you,
                                                   but so you can see the world.

How are coming along with your goals for this year?

Six months of 2017 are already gone and there are only six more months left for you to accomplish those goals that you set out to accomplish and the beginning of this year.

What was the goals you decided that you wanted to make your reality at the beginning of this year?

Was it to finally leave a dead-end job and start your own business? Or maybe start a new healthy lifestyle by exercising and eating healthier? Maybe it was to leave a relationship that was leading to nowhere? Maybe to start dating again after being single for serval years? Or starting a new hobby?
What was it for you?

One of my goals for 2017 was to read at least two books per month.
And I am not talking about just any kinds of books. I am talking about educational books that will make me learn, stretch and improve myself and my skills so that I will be able to create more value for my coaching clients and also in writing my books, newsletters and blogs.
I have read books about personal development, leadership, financial books, relationship books and books about spirituality.
I want to constantly grow, expand and learn new things.

So how am I doing on my goal?
So far I have read 16 books so that leaves me with 8 more to go. I believe that I will reach my goal at the end of this year.
Eventually I want to be able to read a book per week. Maybe that will be my goal for next year?

Books are a great source of inspiration and motivation on those days when doubt, fear creeps into our lives and on those days when our self-confidence takes a deep dive.
Books will keep us motivated to keep on going and they will remind us that anything is possible for you and me .....if we continue to work on ourselves, our skills and our talents.


Goals are like magnets. They will pull us through almost anything that is going on right now in our lives and they will pull us towards a brighter and better future. Make sure that you have a clear vision of where you want to go in life or you might find yourself driving around in your car not having a map and not knowing where you are going.

Unfortunately a lot of people won't reach their goals or live up to their true potential.
And here are a few reasons why.


A lot of people will allow fear to stop them dead in their tracks. Almost all fears are fears that we have learned and picked up on our journey called life. Sometimes we might even pick up someone else's fear if we spend a lot of time together with them. Fear of failure is a big one and also fear of success. We are afraid that we won't be able to handle it.
What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn't fail?

Some people will get too comfortable. They stop growing. They stop wanting anything and they become satisfied. People will stop looking for new ways that they can improve themselves.
Progress and growth = happiness. If you keep on growing you will live but if you stop growing you will eventually die. Maybe not physically but you will die spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

A lot of people will not feel worthy of having their goals so as they get closer to accomplishing their goals they will unconsciously start sabotaging their own success by destructive habits like procrastination and also by wasting and spending time on things that will eventually prevent them from reaching their goals.

People will also complain and blame everyone and everything. They are not hurting bad enough yet to do something about their situation, they just want to constantly complain about it.
They constantly moan and groan about their job, their finances, their health, their spouse or their friends but they don't do anything about it.
They haven't yet gotten to the point that they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Complaining takes a lot of mental energy that these people could instead use to better themselves and their situation.
Actually a lot of people think that complaining is equivalent of doing something about it.

Another thing that will prevent people from reaching their goals is their circumstances and their environment. Just because they haven't seen it modeled in front of them, they don't think it is possible for them to change themselves and their environment.
Where they are right now is all they know.


You can always become more by having goals and work towards them.
In life we usually don't get what we want - You get in life what we are. We can always become more by working to develop ourselves.

This is the reason why a constantly work on myself and reading insightful and inspiring books of what is possible.....is one way of accomplishing more in my life.
If other people can do it - so can I and so can you!!!

A few TIPS!

Start by looking at your life. Where are you today?
Look at your strengths and weaknesses. (If you can't figure it out ask a trusted friend or family-member.)
What will give your life meaning, fulfillment and a sense of joy?
What does a meaningful and rich life mean to you?
What can you love and can see yourself doing seven days a week?

Think about those questions when it comes to all areas of your life.
Your personal life, professional life, financial life, family life and spiritual life.

In Wednesday's blog I am going to talk about the next step in accomplishing your goals.....
REASONS..... Why do you want to pursue and accomplish your goals?

What is it that you would like to have in your life?

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Learn To Forgive

                                           "Holding a grudge is letting someone live
                                                         rent-free in your head."


A lot of times we will allow our wounds from the past to bleed into our future.
We must learn to heal those wounds once and for all if we are going to be able to live a happy and fulfilled life. But often people will bond with their wounds from their childhood and the past. Most of our unhealed wounds come from parents, siblings and ex-lovers.

We must learn to forgive others and ourselves so that we can let go and move on with our lives.

If you missed Monday's blog.....here it is.....Close The Wound
http://karinglannstam.blogspot.se/2017/06/close-wound.html


Today I want to talk about forgiveness.
I read a fantastic book this month and the name of it is .....
The Book of Forgiving.....written by Desmond & Mpho Tutu.

In this book they talk about that if we don't forgive a person we will be chained to them for the rest of our lives. As long as we have hatred and anger towards this person that hurt us we will remain in prison and they will be the prison guard that will continue to hold the key to our happiness.

When we forgive we are taking back the control in our lives. The control over our destiny, our feelings and emotions. In other words..... we set ourselves free. We don't forgive to help the other person. We don't forgive because of others. We forgive to make ourselves feel better and to be able to move on with our own lives. We are helping ourselves.
When we can let things go..... we become free from the past instead of being chained to it forever.

As long as we can't forgive we will remain in our own pain and also in prison.

Forgiveness will sooth depressions, give us renewed hope and it will it make the anger go away.
To hang on to rage and bitterness and to constantly live with stress can hurt our bodies as well as our souls and our spirits.

Fantastic book.....I recommend reading it..... even if you don't feel like you need to forgive anyone.

The Book of Forgiving by Desmond & Mpho Tutu.
(Swedish title is Förlåtelse.)

                                       Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Close The Wound

                                        "Our most common unhealed core wounds are usually
          sourced from the relationships we had with our parents, siblings, and ex-lovers."
                                                            - don Mateo Sol


Last week I got stung by a bee for the first time in many years. It hurt a little when it happened but then I didn't pay much attention to it. The next day my whole lower arm was red, swollen and warm to the touch. This bee sting made me feel quite uncomfortable for many days and I wanted it to heal  quickly so that I could go back to feeling" normal" again.
About a week later it is almost gone except a little redness and some itching.

I guess you are wondering where I am going with this story about being stung by a bee?

Let's say that instead of a bee sting I got a cut on my arm. It was bleeding some and it hurt for a while. In a short while after getting this cut, the wound on my arm would try to close up and to heal. It is a very natural process.

If the cut didn't heal and close up it would soon cause all kinds of trouble. The disease process would begin and soon it would have started an infection..... if the wound or cut would continue to stay open.
If a cut or a wound never would close up.....than the person would eventually die if the infection spread to the rest of the body.

The natural tendency for a wound would be to close up and heal. Same thing with the bee sting that I got. After about a week the spot where I got stung has almost returned to normal.

Now let us look at the same thing more in the spiritual and the psychological dimension.
Most of us get wounded from our childhood.....and from our past. We were abused, abandoned, neglected. We weren't feeling loved and not taken care of. We sometimes even felt that we were taken advantage of. Our parents were maybe alcoholics, drug-abusers or gamblers. Maybe some were poor and maybe they were rich or whatever it was.....we all have this stuff in our past..... and the funny thing is that a lot of us will bond to it.

Sometimes we might use these old wounds from the past to get attention or we use it for pity and a lot of people will lead with their wounds.
When we meet someone new, it won't be long before we know that they weren't loved by anyone. They will tell us right away. Or maybe they were abused as a child. Their husband/wife left them for someone else. Their father/mother was an alcoholic and that is now why they are also an alcoholic.
I am sure that you have met someone in your life that immediately after you met them for the first time they started telling you all about how miserable their life is and how unfairly they had been treated by others.

It doesn't matter what it is..... but some people will keep holding on to these wounds and one of the reasons that we don't heal in our lives and why we don't manifest what we desire is because we are attached to these things in our past rather than saying to ourselves and others.....

"Whatever happened to me in the past, whatever lesson, I have learned from it.....I now got it!
I got the lesson.
And now since I got the lesson I no longer need to be attached to it and I can now stop and remove the poison from my body. I refuse to allow it to continue to spread in my body like a huge infection and preventing me from healing. I decide to let it go because I want to close the wound forever.
I want to heal."

Most people whose lives are not fulfilled with the things that they would like to see manifest in their lives are experiencing this..... because they are in the past hanging on to their wounds and refusing to allow them to heal. They keep on re-opening the same wound over and over again.

You hear a lot of people talking about their past and their old wounds. For example you might hear them say
"How can you talk to me about this when you don't understand the pain I have suffered in my life." "How can you possible say this after you know what I have been through as a child."
"You want me to forgive him?......I was only a child. I didn't do anything wrong."

If you don't do this to yourself you will do it others..... and it comes from this idea that all of us are entitled to a perfect childhood. What is a "Perfect" childhood anyway???

No one escapes their childhood without being wounded. But our parents, siblings, teachers and friends did their best. They didn't mean to wound us.

Back in 2012 after leaving a narcissistic abusive partner (that I had been in a relationship with for over 7 years), I was trying to understand what would make a person do something so mean and ugly to another person. I flooded my brain with information from books and articles about narcissism and narcissistic abuse.  I listened to webinars and teleseminars about other people's experiences. I wanted to understand on a deeper level. I had been terribly wounded by the behavior of this person and I wanted to understand why he did what he did. I craved answers and I wanted to know so that I could later heal and then let it go.
It was during this year that the idea of having my own coaching business got started and in 2013 my idea became my new reality. I started my own coaching business. My experience has made my a lot stronger and I can now understand people on a lot deeper level than I would have been able to do if I had not gone through what I did for many years.
Because of what I went through I now have knowledge and experiences that are priceless. And all the knowledge that I have accumulated through books, webinars, other people and online articles has made it possible for me to understand and close the wounds of my past.

The fact is whatever you needed to go through in your life in order to get the lessons why you are here, you went through. And as you look back on all those things you can either say to yourself.....
"They taught me to be stronger" or you can say "Poor me" and continue to bleed with your wounds and keep them open.
If you continue to keep the wound open you it will eventually prevent you from ever feeling worthy of anything good in your life.

Close The Wound.....And Let It Go!

                                      Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Check Out This Book.....See You At The Top.....By Zig Ziglar

                                       "What lies behind us and what lies before us
                                    are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
                                                     - Ralph Waldo Emerson


Today I want to mention a great book by Zig Ziglar......See You At The Top.

In this book Zig Ziglar talks writes about how to improve your self-image, goals, attitude, your relationship with others, work and desire. The is also a chapter in the book about the power of your subconscious mind. Great Book.


Do you have a target or a goal? You must have a goal because it's just as difficult to reach a destination you don't have, as it is to come back from a place you have never been..    
     Unless you have definite, precise, clearly set goals, you are not going to realize the maximum potential that lies within you.
     You'll never make it as a "wandering generality." you must be a "meaningful specific." What about you and your goals? Are they clearly in focus, or still pretty fuzzy?
     A man or a woman without a goal is like a ship without a rudder. Each will drift and not drive. Each will end up on the beaches of despair, defeat and despondency. John Henry Fabre, the great French naturalist, conducted a most unusual experiment with some Processionary Caterpillars. These caterpillars blindly follow the one in front of them. Hence, the name. Fabre carefully arranged them in a circle around the rim of a flower pot, so that the lead caterpillar actually touched the last one, making a complete circle. In the center of the flower pot he put pine needles, which is food for the Processionary Caterpillar. The caterpillars started around this circular flower pot. around and around they went, hour after hour, day after day, night after night. For seven full days and seven full nights they went around the flower pot. Finally, the dropped dead of starvation and exhaustion. With and abundance of food less than six inches away, the literally starved to death, because they confused activity with accomplishment.
     Many people make the same mistake and as a result reap only a small fraction of the harvest life has to offer. Despite the fact that untold wealth lies within reach, they acquire very little of it because they blindly, without question, follow the crowd in a circle to nowhere. They follow methods and procedures for no other reason than, "it's always been done this way."

From.... See You At The Top ....by Zig Ziglar

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                   www.karinglannstam.com

Never Underestimate Your Long-Term Power

                                                    "The longer you hang in there,
                        the greater the chance that something will happen in your favor.
                                                    No matter how hard it seems,
                                the longer you persist, the more likely your success."
                                                            - Jack Canfield

Lord give me patience.....and give it to me right now!!!

Are you running out of patience when it comes to getting your business going?
Or trying to get out of debt and putting some money away?
You are not losing the weight and getting in shape is taking a lot longer than you expected?
How about your relationships.....are they where you want them to be?

Are you telling yourself that you are doing all the right things and still it doesn't happen for you?
You don't see any results and for every day that goes by you are feeling more and more frustrated and you are now wondering if it will ever happen for you at all?

Don't worry. You are not alone in feeling this way.

Don't make yourself wrong and stop beating yourself up because you don't think that you are working hard enough or doing the right things, because you are not seeing the results that you are after.

It takes time.

A lot of people will overestimate what they can do in a short period of time and they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.
It takes time to create and to build something. You can call it.....Lag time, the provision of conditions for growth and development. How about preparation time or another great word is incubation time.

Just because you didn't get it when you wanted it...doesn't mean that you won't get it.

God's delay is not God's denial.

What we do know is that the world will step aside and let you by when you are determined and you won't give up.
The world will move with those who will persist forever and that are flexible in their approach and not getting stuck in going the same thing day in and day out.
If you have faith and trust and act on that trust the world will move for you.

It will happen for you. Maybe not as fast as you want it to.....but it will happen.

Never underestimate your long-term power and your potential.

                                        
                                 Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                   www.karinglannstam.com

There Will Be Great Frustration On The Road To Any Success

                                           "Frustration, although quite painful at times,
                                       is a very positive and essential part of success."
                                                            - Bo Bennet

Have you ever felt frustrated?

I think most of us have..... at some point of our lives. I know I definitely have. And a lot of times.

Frustration - The feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something.

What part of your life do you feel frustrated about?
Is it in your relationships? Your new business is not taking off as planned? You don't seem to be able to shake off the 15 pounds that you have put on during the last 2 years? Don't seem to be able to attract the right people into your life?

I know that frustration comes and goes and I also know that if you are trying to create something great in your life you are going to feel frustrated on your road to success.

Today I want to recommend a great book written by Tony Robbins.
I guess most of you know that Tony is a mentor of mine. I have never met him and I have not attended any of his seminars yet, but I hope to do so sometime in the near future. So I call him my virtual mentor (we can have those too). I listen to a lot of his recordings..... either on CD or on YouTube.

The book I am talking about is Unlimited Power.

Today I want to share a small part of a chapter that actually talks about frustration, and one key to wealth and happiness is to be able to handle your frustration.


     Here's the first key to the creation of wealth and happiness. You must learn how to handle frustration. If you want to become all you can become, do all you can do, hear all you can hear, see all you can see, you've got to learn how to handle frustration.
Frustration can kill dreams. It happens all the time. Frustration can change a positive attitude into a negative one, an empowering state into a crippling one. The worst thing a negative attitude does is wipe out self-discipline. And when that discipline is gone, the results you desire are gone.
     So to ensure long-term success, you must learn how to discipline your frustration. Let me tell you something. The key to success is massive frustration. Look at almost any great success, and you'll find there's been massive frustration along the way. Anybody who tells you otherwise doesn't know anything about achieving. There are two kinds of people - those who've handled frustration and those who wish they had.

From the book.....Unlimited power by Tony Robbins.


Any time I feel frustrated about some area in my life I always pick up this book and I go to this chapter just to remind myself that frustration is part of the game and it is part of your journey, if you want to be successful. It is OK to feel this way.

But the important thing is..... what do you do with the frustration?
Do you allow it to fuel you to continue or do you allow it to stop you?

                                      Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

Your Dream Will Require A Lot Of Energy

                                                 You can't have a million dollar dream
                                                     with a minimum wage work ethic


You have to have energy when it comes to your dream. Both physical and mental energy.

You have to be hungry to want to accomplish your dream. You must have a burning desire to start and to finish.

You have to be willing to do the things today that will give you what you want tomorrow..... and to be able to do this you have to have a lot of energy.

Your dream requires a lot of energy..... and to be able to accomplish it you have to put together a system in your life that you can follow every day to keep you "energy high."

So what is something that you can do on a daily base to create high energy?

First you have to start with your mind because everything starts there. Your mind is limitless and you have to be mentally ready or you will never be physically ready to accomplish your dream.

I listen to inspirational/motivational material almost every morning and I find a lot of it on YouTube. Plenty to choose from there. It gives me a great kick in the right direction every morning.

You must have a vision and goals. Create goals and read them out load every morning is another great way to start off your day right. Look at what you are wanting to accomplish. Great inspiration early in the morning and before you go to bed at night.

Read books. Spend at least one hour per day reading a book in your field. If you are wanting to improve your health, then read books about nutrition. If you want to improve your money situation, then read books about finances. How about improving your marriage, then you must seek out books about relationships. If you don't feel like spending a lot of money on books you can go to the library. How much does a library card cost? It's FREE.
You can also read a lot of great articles online.

I set a goal this year to read at least 2 books per month in my field. That is 24 books this year. So far I have read 16. I know I will be able to accomplish that goal this year. I read a variety of books so that I will increase my knowledge, feel better myself, better be able to help my clients, improve my blogs and write better books.
I read about success, finances, health/fitness, stress relief, personal development, leadership and relationships just to name a few. I also read biographies of others. Books are filled with great information, knowledge and ideas.
They say knowledge is power.....but only if you apply what you have learned.

I get a lot of mental energy from writing my blogs and newsletters. It inspires me to write them but I also go back and read what I wrote on days when I feel like my energy level is a little low. I also enjoyed wring my first book and it inspired me to write my second book that will be published this summer.

Listen to great music with a fast beat can be a great way of increasing your energy. Any time you move you will change your state and feel a higher energy level.

So this leads me into the next thing you must do to get more energy.....exercise. No way around this one. You don't have to hang out in the gym all the time. But you can walk 4-5 times per week. Just make exercise a regular habit. Choose the exercise that works for you or you won't do it. The important things is that you create a system when it comes to moving your body.

Don't forget to eat right. You must fuel your body with great nutritional stuff. Try to avoid things with a lot of sugar and too much fat. A well balanced diet is all that it takes. I never have believed in depriving your body of things that you enjoy eating. So I eat chocolate sometimes, but I don't eat it all the time and I don't eat as much when I do eat it.

When you create your system to get "energy high" you must include sleep and also time for relaxation and time for yourself. Whether that is quiet-time, mediation-time or reflection-time. It doesn't matter. Just a little time to yourself.

Last one....learn to manage your time. Don't give it away so freely. Plan and schedule your time. Don't let just anyone take up your time or waste it. Your time is very valuable and once you have spent it....it is gone forever, so make sure that you spend it wisely.

Commit to your dream long-term. Whether it will be easy or not to accomplish it.

It doesn't matter what happens..... you are going to accomplish your dream.....even when it's difficult.

                                        Karin Glannstam- Personal Success Coach                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Time To Move Forward

                                               When your past calls, don´t answer.
                                                       It has nothing new to say.


The past is behind you.....learn from it.
The future is ahead.....plan and prepare for it.
The present is here.....live it.

You can´t do anything about your past.... but you can do something about your future.

To dramatically improve the odds of making your life better you have to take responsibility for designing your future. One great way to do this is by first leaving your old story behind and create a brand new one.

Treat you past as a school. Learn from it. Gather up information and experiences from it and then invest it in your future. Don´t beat yourself over the head with past losses and failures.
Learn from the past but don´t take up residence there.

It does take a lot of courage to let old hurt and pain go. Things that wounded you and made you bleed.
You just have to believe and have faith that what is in front of you is greater than what is behind you.

You have to make a decision that if you want to move to the second half of your life then you have to let the first one go.
You have a new chance but it won´t mean anything if you stay behind in your past.
You must enter the second half of your life with a new mind or it won´t do you any good.

If you are constantly looking back at the past you will not have enough energy for the present moment and for creating your new future.
If you are busy and distracted by the past, you won´t notice opportunities in the present.
They will just slip right by you.

Start where you are right now and decide where you want to go. It doesn´t matter how you got there. The important thing is that you create a new, more empowering story and start moving forward.

Just because you don´t know how every single step of your journey is going to unfold, that shouldn't stop you from getting started.
Put one foot in front of the other and trust that the answers and resources you seek, will appear.

TODAY is the right moment and the perfect day to start your new life.

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

What Pain Are You Trying To Avoid?

                                                  "When you try to avoid the pain,
                                                         it creates greater pain."
                                                            - Jennifer Aniston

A lot of people are trying to run from pain and their problems with some form of addiction.

We can never run away from our pain and our problems.
In life, we will all will have good days and also bad days. Good times and bad times. We will feel good, but we will also feel bad. We will have setbacks and smooth sailing. It is completely normal.
No person has only good days. It doesn´t matter who you are..... you will have problems, you will feel bad and you will have setbacks in your life. It is part of living.

Society has told us for years that we should not have to feel bad, and if we do there are so many ways of avoiding it or fixing it. If it is only for the moment.

Some people don´t ever want to feel bad, sad or to feel any kind of pain. They always want to feel good in the moment. In order to feel good at every moment of your life you might have to turn to some kind of addiction or addictive behavior to be able to create the desired feeling or avoiding the feelings that you don´t want.

We have become a society filled with pain relievers. Drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, food, sugar, gambling, sex, shopping, relationship hopping, endless complaining and gossiping, always helping others or busyness..... just to name a few.

All these methods are a way of disconnecting and avoiding pain. (if done excessively and with the intention to escape reality)
Maybe you tell yourself....."I don´t want to feel this way right now so I will numb out and escape from the moment." And off you go digging through the refrigerator for something to eat, even though you are hungry. Or you go shopping, gambling or get busy checking emails and FB.

Don´t postpone your pain to the future.
The disconnect from the pain is only temporary. You don´t want to feel the feeling right now so you are postponing it to later.

What is underneath the feeling? What is it that you are avoiding by numbing out?

By disconnecting and continuing to disconnect with things like addiction you are slowly but surely isolating yourself. It is like an endless black hole or bottomless pit. The more you feed it with some kind of addiction the more it wants. There will never be enough stuff to fill up that black hole from the outside. It must be filled from the inside.

What pain are you trying to avoid?
If you are trying to avoid it today, it will come back knocking on your door tomorrow, next week or next month. You can never get rid of your pain by ignoring it. But you can deal with it by accepting it.

Addiction is the easy way out. The more pleasurable way. Trying to avoid pain by adding pleasure.

Instead try to find the root of the problem. Find the original wound, clean it out and then heal it.
It will take a lot of work to discipline yourself and your mind.
It is so much easier to disconnect from yourself with some addiction or addictive behavior.

Learn to self-sooth because anything you reach for out there won´t help you to fix your problem and the emptiness on the inside.
Tell the truth....what are you trying to avoid?

Accept the situation, instead of running from it. Sit in your pain and your discomfort. Don´t fight it.
Instead ask.....what is this pain teaching me? Learn from it.
Now.....what can you do and how can you take the right action?

It is painful to tell the truth. It´s painful to tell people who we really are. It is easy to float the truth.
It is easy to tell ourselves that we will think about the problem tomorrow. Pushing it forward to the next week, month or year.
It´s addictive, but it´s only an escape from the real problem.

                                                   Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                     www.karinglannstam.com

Taking A Break From My Friday Blog

Hi!

Just want to let everyone know that I will not be writing a Friday blog from June-August.

I will continue with the Monday and Wednesday blog as usual.

The Friday blog will return again in September.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

It´s About The Habit.....Not The Amount

                                                "It´s not the will to win that matters,
                                                            everyone has that.
                                        It´s the will to prepare to win that matters."
                                                          - Paul "Bear" Bryant


Have you ever tried to break a habit or tried to create a new healthier one?

We all know that breaking old habits are very difficult, especially if you have had the same habit for many years.

Creating a new habit is also very difficult. Even if you know that this new habit will be good for you, it will most of the time require some kind of effort and discipline that the bad habit didn´t require.
Bad habits are easy to develop but difficult to deal with in the long run. Good habits will be more difficult to develop but a lot easier to live with.

When people are trying to change something..... whether it is their diet, starting to exercise, starting to save money instead of spending it....
One big mistake a lot of people make is that they try do too much too soon. They want to see some results quickly.
By doing too much too soon they will set themselves up for failure and going back into a relapse.

You decide that on Monday you are going to change your lifestyle. You are going to eat a lot of veggies and you are going to go running 3 miles 3-5 times per week.

Nothing wrong with a great vision of seeing yourself as healthy and in great shape, but the way you go about it might not be the best way. Your vision is great but your plan to achieve it....not so good.
Most great dreams and visions will require smaller goals. Like daily, weekly and monthly goals.
We can call them stepping stones.

If you haven´t been eating healthy in a long time, it might be too big of a goal for you to start eating mostly veggies, fruit, fish and barely nothing else You might be excited for a few days until you realize that you don´t even like broccoli, grapefruit or salmon. Instead a great daily goal can be to replace an unhealthy snack with a fruit and then to drink plenty of water. Add a vegetable to your meal and cut back on potatoes, pasta or rice. Get used to the new routine for a week or two. Then add a few more healthy choices. If you change too quickly you will easily get bored and you might even quit after a few days.

The same thing happens to people that haven´t exercised in a couple of years. They decide to go running a couple of miles because they were able to that distance 5 years ago. If you have been sitting on the couch for a few years you might want to start with walking a mile or two, 3 times per week. When your body gets used to this you can either increase the distance or the amount of times per week that you exercise. People can easily get hurt if they start doing to much. They end up on the couch with a sore ankle and they won´t get started again for another year.
Don´t let this be you. Start small and increase slowly. Build momentum by taking baby steps.
It´s about the habit, not the amount

How about saving money. If you are used to spending all of your paycheck and then some, you might not be able to start saving $500 per month. You might have to start with cutting up your credit cards and open a savings account. Then you start with maybe saving $25-50 per month plus you decide to stay out of the stores, to not be tempted to buy something that you don´t need. Slowly you can increase the amount you save and after a while you will be surprised how much money you will have in your savings account and you will realize that you don´t even miss shopping anymore.
Again, it is about establishing a new habit and not about the amount.

What you are trying to do is to get yourself used to a new habit..... mentally. You are developing self-discipline. Self-discipline is a muscle and a lot of people haven´t used this particular muscle for a very long time. It is easy to plan but it isn´t that easy to actually put the plan into action. That is when discipline comes in. Self discipline is to do the things that you decided that you were going to do, when you are suppose to do them, no matter if you feel like doing it or not.
You have to motivate yourself to get going and to actually do the thing you said you were going to do.

In the beginning it is easy to be excited about a new goal.
You decided to run 3 miles per week even though you haven´t ran for years. How long do you think you will be able to continue to do it when you are getting bored, tired, running out of time and feeling unmotivated and you would rather watch TV?

How about if you decide that you are going to go for one mile walk 3 times per week. Do you think that you will be able to do it during those days when you don´t feel like doing it? I think so.
It is a lot easier to start with a small habit and allow it to grow ......than to do it the other way.

It is more a mental thing. You are creating a habit in your mind. You are creating self-discipline. Nothing much will happen in the beginning with a small habit but if you stick with it .....it will grow and after a while it will be hard to quit your new habit. If you continue your habit of walking and then adding some more miles..... then one day you will wake up and you will realize that you are now a runner. Your life has been transformed. Mile by mile and day by day.

Your future is determined by your willingness to create small habits and then actually following these habits until you accomplish your dream.

                                     Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                   www.karinglannstam.com