Your Happiness Is Your Responsibility

                                                      "Happiness is an inside job. 

                          Don't assign anyone else that much power over your life." 

                                                                       - Many Hale 

When we judge ourselves, we also have a tendency to judge others as well.

In your relationships... are you judging and being hard on your partner?

When learning to love and value yourself there will be no need to judge yourself and others.

It starts with you.

The more you learn to love yourself and take great care of yourself and your own needs and not abandon yourself... the less you will feel needy, causing you to pull on your partner for the love that you are not giving yourself.

This is why it is so important to learn to love ourselves before we can love someone else.

We can´t give away what we don´t have. If you don´t have love for yourself  you will expect your partner to give it to you. At this point you will probably become needy and expect your partner to provide you with the love that you are not giving yourself.

If you don´t have a partner you might become needy of love and easily attach to someone else to try to get love from them.

We can´t expect others to give us something that we have to learn to give to ourselves.

Most people don´t want the responsibility for making you feel good about yourself.

The more you pull on people for love, the more they will pull away from you.

Learn to love and take care of yourself.

No one can make you happy until you're happy with yourself first.

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The New You!

                                       If you are brave enough to say "good bye"
                                             life will reward you with a new "hello"
                                                                 - Paulo Coelho

When you are trying to create a new you... it doesn't matter if it's trying to loose weight, stop drinking, getting out of debt, stop gambling or slow down with the shopping.

It is important that you leave the old YOU behind.

Leave the old habits behind.

Leave the old disciplines or lack of disciplines behind.

Leave the old friends behind (at least for a while to make sure they don't pull you back into your old habits)

Leave the old way of thinking behind.

Leave the old way of being behind. 

"You are making a new life by

making new choices." 

- Sean Stephenson

When we are trying to change something in our lives we must trade the old ways of living for some new ways.

You can´t take the old YOU with you when you are trying to accomplish something new in your life.

The old habits will not work when you are trying to accomplish some new goals.
You must create a few new habits.

Habits are hard to change. Some of you habits might have been part of your life for 20, 30, 40 or even longer.

To become a new and different person requires you to step out of your comfort zone.
You must learn to do a few new things. Create new habits and also a new way of being.

Only you can make it happen. You are responsible for the change. No on will do it for you. 

"You can't create a new reality with the same personality." 

- Amit Gaswami

People around you will get scared when you start to change.
They will be afraid that you might not have time for them anymore.
Maybe you won´t have time to sit around anymore and talk about nothing.
They are afraid that you might leave them.

The old is easy and familiar and the new is scary and uncomfortable.

Set a goal that will make you expand and grow.
It is not what you are getting when you are trying to reach your goal. 

It is who you are becoming in the process that truly matters. 

"You have to be willing to go to war with yourself 

and create a whole new identity." 

- David Goggins 

So go for it!

All you need is a vision and then the will to make it happen.

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