Don't Take The Bait

                                                         "Conflict cannot survive 
                                                       without your participation."
                                                                 - Wayne Dyer

I am sure most of you have been fishing sometime in your life.

I remember when I was a child my parents had a vacation cottage by a wonderful lake in Sweden. Sometimes we would go fishing. I thought it was a lot of fun because the whole family did it together. Most of the time we caught some fish and then we would bring it home and my mom would cook it.

When you fish you start with a fishing pole and on the end of the line there is a hook. You bait the hook with a worm, toss it out in the water and wait for a fish to take the bait. Once the fish takes the bait and get hooked to pulled the fish into the boat.

Same thing in life. There are a lot of people in the world that like to pull you into their conflicts, drama, arguments and other crazy behavior. They too bait a hook and the they throw it out there to see who will take the bait first. Once someone is interested in the bait, they set the hook and reel you in.

There are people out there in this world that can't wait to stir up trouble. In other words, they are trouble makers and they thrive on creating drama and trouble in other people's lives. They are trying to bait you. But you got to learn to recognize these types of people and make sure that you don't take the bait.

If someone is rude to you, the best way to act is like, it is no big deal to you. Don't get upset and don't allow theses people to disturb your inner peace. Stay calm and continue to move forward on your own journey.

There are no perfect people out there. We must give people room to be human. They are not going to be perfect all the time, and neither are you. Don't have unrealistic expectation because some people are not capable of doing what you want them to do or be who you want them to be.

Sometimes people will disappoint you, no matter how good they are. People are going to say hurtful things so we must leant to not be so easily affended. Don't take things personally. Other people behavior has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. It will tell you who they are, not who you are. Just let it slide off you.

Don't allow other people to disturb your peace and don't depend on other people for your happiness. If someone says something hurtful, you will be unhappy for the rest of the day. Don't put the keys to you happiness in someone else's pocket. You are responsible for YOU and your own happiness. Don't put too much pressure o other people, because then you will feel disappointed. Let these people off the hook.

There are going to be a lot of bumps on our journey in life. It's normal to expect this. But it's up to us to not get to upset when it happens. Protect your own peace of mind. Don't allow the same things upset day after day. Even if people are grumpy, critical, unfair, angry, jealous, mean, bitter and try to pull you in to conflict and arguments, decide that you are going to have a great day. Keep on pursuing your dream. Don't take the bait.

You can't control what other people are doing. You can only control what you do. So shake of their bitterness, anger, envy, jealousy. If you are allowing people to upset you, bait you into conflict and joining them in their drama, you are giving away your power. You are actually letting them control you. Remain calm in the face of adversity. Don't let them ruin your day.

Let's face it, there are some people that have the gift on getting on your nerves. It seems like some people have the calling in life to make other people miserable. But remember that you are in control of you. They can't make you feel a certain way without your consent. If you become angry or frustrted, it's a choice that you make.

When people are rude, critical, angry, jealous they have issues that they are not dealing with. Sometimes they are like a poisonous snake. Make sure that they don't bite you and allow their poison to get into you. Don't start arguing with them. Don't allow them to get you upset. Don't take the bait.

Rise above these people. Don't go down to their level. Try to be kind and respectful to these people, even when it's difficult. People will constantly try to offer you the bait. Next time it happens, just say...."No thanks, I am not taking that bait."

Always be selective which battles you are going to get involved with. Will it somehow benefit you to get involved? If it's not between you and your destiny, I suggest that you don't get involved. Don't get involved in every conflict because it will drain your energy and then you won't have enough energy left for your own dream. Learn to walk away from distractions. Know what battles to fight. Fight the battles that do matter. Don't take the bait.

Walk away from people that don't matter. Learn to keep your mouth shut. Don't say things you shouldn't say and that you will regret later. Stay on the right road, which is the high road.

Walking away from a fight isn't a sign of weakness. Quite the opposite. It takes a strong person to walk away from and argument or a fight. Never fight battles with small-minded people. People that don't value who you are. Don't get involved because it might prevent you from making progress on your own goals and dreams. These are simply distractions that might get you off track to reaching your own destiny.

Learn to ignore things. Ignore negative and critical people. Ignore negative comments. Ignore disrespect and rudeness. Keep your inner peace.

Are you fighting battles right now that don't matter?
Are you being distracted by little things that will prevent you or are slowing your down from reaching your destiny?

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Why Do You Want To Suffer And Inflict Unnecessary Pain On Yourself?

                       "When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself,
                                                    your world changes for the better."

Has anyone been trying to change you lately?

There are plenty of people out there in the world that are spending an enormous amount of energy on trying to change the people around them, to make themselves feel better.

Women are very good at this. The minute some women get into a relationship or marriage with a man, they try to change the man. This often confuses the other person because just a short while back everything they did was great and then all of a sudden there isn't anything that they are doing that is good enough. Have you ever been there? I know I have.

I am sure that most of us have been on the receiving end of people trying to control us and have us change our ways. And I know that sometimes it might be a good thing to change something that we are doing or some aspects of ourselves. But we can never force a person to change by nagging and complaining about them.


                                                "Stop trying to change other people:
                                          The only person you can change is yourself."


I am sure that most of us have also tried to change someone else.
How did that work out for you?

We must stop expecting other people and situations to be a certain way, so that we can be the way we want to be and so that we can feel good. This is a very powerless place to be. In the end people have the right to be the way they are and you also have the right to be who you are.

If you don't harmonize with certain people, it isn't that they are wrong or that you are wrong. It's simply that you have different types of energy, values and beliefs and all of those does not harmonize,

There are 7 billion people out there.
If you don't harmonize with someone, you can always find another person. And don't change yourself just because you want to be in a relationship with someone because in the end that will suffocate your soul and you will eventually die on the inside.

Always be who you are and find the people that you are in alignment and harmonize with. Life is too short to be miserable with people that are not in alignment of who we are. Stop trying to change them and don't change yourself just to fit in.

You can't wait for people/things to change. It's a very weak and powerless situation to be in.
Take charge of your own life. Create a new story. Be the hero of your own journey.

Karin Glannstam - Life Coach & Author

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Learning From Adversity

                                            "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, 
                                                                   more intelligently."
                                                                   - Henry Ford  

Is failure fatal?
No, it isn't.

Is failure ever a benefit to a person?
Yes, it is, because every failure or adversity brings with it a seed of an equivalent advantage or opportunity.

Failure is never permanent.
Unless you quit because of the adversity. Only the person him/herself will make a failure permanent. Failure is only temporary. Failure will also give way to brand new opportunities, not yet seen, if a person continues to fight.
Success is usually just a short step beyond where someone quits.

Failure is a state of mind and a person can control their own mind unless they neglect to use this power.

Sometimes failure serves as a blessing in disguise. It will bring your mind to brand new start. Just remember that rejection is often protection and re-direction.


                                                              "Failure is not fatal,
                                                     but failure to change might be."
                                                                - John Wooden


Unfortunately too many people will quit when they encounter the first sign of failure.

Usually failure will bring you to a stop.
It's the dead end to the path that you have been following and it will force you to re-direct where they are going.
It forces you to leave the old path and pick up another fresh new path.

Failure will also prove to you how much willpower you have. It will also force you to discover traits about yourself that you would never have discovered about yourself, unless you were being faced with adversity or failure.

Failure might lead a lot of people to go on a journey inwards, and that will bring a greater understanding about him/herself and his/her habits and they will also be faced with forming some brand new habits.
It will break the pattern of being mostly on auto-pilot for most of our days and our lives.

Failure will break up old automatic patterns and habits, to make room from brand new more empowering habits and brand new opportunities.

It's up to you to look at failure or adversity as a learning experience and then redirect your own patterns of thought and habits.

Also expect something great to show up on your brand new path.
It's called opportunities. You might not see them right away. But they will arrive.


If I look back on my own life I can say this is very true. In 2012 the life that I knew came to a dead end. Old thought patterns and habits had to go. Basically my whole life had to go to make room for something brand new. At the time when everything fell apart I could not see any opportunities, but after doing a lot of work on myself and what I wanted my life to look like I saw a brand new opportunity that took me in a completely new direction. I had to discover things and traits about me that I didn't know. Some were good and some were not so good. It wasn't easy at the time, but well worth the effort. 
My coaching business was born at this time. And I am so grateful for the protection and re-direction that I got in 2012.

If you want to find out more about my complete smackdown in 2012, you can get my book
Bounce Don't Break - how to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down.

Here is the link to order on Amazon
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                                              "Failure is success if we learn from it."
                                                              - Malcolm S. Forbes

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Never Give Up! Set a Goal And Go For It!

                                                      You Are Invited
                                                 To
                                         Sip & Learn!


                          Just wanted to let you know that I will be doing a presentation
                                                   on Aug.1, 2019 at GenuWine

   Come and join us for a relaxing evening of socializing, networking and a little bit of learning.

     I will be doing a 30 minute presentation about Why We Must Have A Vision & Set Goals

                                              "If you don't design your own life plan
                                          chances are you will fall into someone else's plan
                                            And guess what they have planned for you?
                                                                  Not much!"
                                                                  -Jim Rohn

                                                   
                                 

5 Ways To Make Goal-Setting Not Just What You Say But What You Do

When: Aug.1, 2019  6.30-8pm

Where: GenuWine  6503 FM 1488
              Magnolia, TX, 77354


6.30 -7pm   Mix & Mingle, Order Food and Drinks
7 - 7.30pm  Presentation
7.30 - 8pm  Q&A, Discussion


Feel free to bring a friend.


               Come And Enjoy A Great Time At GenuWine!

Sincerely,

Karin Glannstam
Life Coach & Author


For information you can contact me via email: karin@karinglannstam.com
or website: www.karinglannstam.com

The Power of YOU

                                 You were not born to play it small. You were born to sail. 
                       To expand, to grow and to live a bigger and brighter version of you.

How are you coming along with your goals for this year?

What was the goal that you decided that you wanted to make your reality at the beginning of this year?

You can become more by having goals and working towards them. In life you don't get what you want - you get in life what you are. But you can always become more by developing yourself.


Today I want you to take a look at your life. 

Where are you right now?

What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses?

What gives your life meaning and a sense of fulfillment and joy?

What does a full, rich life mean to you?

What is it that you can love doing 7 days a week, that will bring a smile to yourself?

Think about that. In all areas of your life. Your professional life, personal life, family life and your spiritual life.

What is it that you like to have?

                                      Embrace the unknown and be okay with letting go 
                                   of something or someone that isn't meeting your needs.


Once you have your vision and goals determined you must make sure that you surround yourself with people that will contribute to your growth. Align yourself with people who think like you do. Who dream like you do. Other people who also want more out of life. You must find people who are stretching, searching and seeking some higher ground in life.

Get on top of life because it's the bottom that is overcrowded. It's easy to be on the bottom because it doesn't take any effort to be a non doer and a drifter. It doesn't take any motivation or drive to stay on a low level.

                                            If you don't have anything to move towards, 

                                         chances are that you will settle for where you are.

You must have energy when it comes to your dream or your vision. You must have a burning desire and you must be willing to do the things today that will give you what you want, tomorrow.
Commit to your dream long term. Whether it's easy or not. It doesn't really matter. You are going to do it.

                                                The wait is that critical period between
                                                              wanting and getting.


Put together a system in your life - and follow it.

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Don't Quit, Because You Do Make A Difference

                                                 "You were given this life to live,
                                           because you are strong enough to live it."
                                                                - Unknown

We must all have a vision for the future. In other words, we must create a compelling future.

If we don't have anything to move towards chances are that we will settle for the way things are. Most people accept the reality that they have been given.

We are not born to play small. We were born to shine our light. We were born to expand, to grow and to live a bigger and brighter version of ourselves.

You can't step into the future with an old way of looking at things. A new life comes from a new mind and a new way of looking at yourself and your life.

It's impossible to step into the future and if you remain constantly thinking about the past. The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited or erased. It can only be accepted.

The more you ruminate on negative thoughts and your past, the more power you give them. Time to move on. What happened to you in the past - happened. You can allow it to destroy you, or you can allow it to build you up.

It's up to each and everyone of us to step up and take care of our own lives and deal with the consequences of our own action or inaction.

Stay on your own path in life. The path that was designed for you, and only you. If you aren't following your own path you might never realize your own potential.

Keep on moving. Momentum is everything. The less you move, the less you are able to move. Action leads to more action.

Take action today. It doesn't have to be perfect action. Imperfect action is perfect. Do it messy, if you have to. That's OK.

Don't quit, because you do make a difference. Never give up on your dream. The reasons will take you through the storms of life. The reasons you started - think of those when you want to quit and feel like you can't go on. The reasons will comfort you.

You have to have energy when it comes to your dream. You must have a hunger or a burning desire to keep on going.
Be willing to do things today that will give you the tomorrow that you are looking for.

Put together a system in your life. Daily empowering and inspiring rituals. Sometimes they may not be that easy to follow, but I want you to raise your standards for yourself and follow them anyway.
Be committed to doing it long-term. Whether it's easy or not. It doesn't matter. You are going to do it.
Commitment means taking a stand for YOU.

Never let anyone's opinion of you, become your reality. Doubts kills more dreams then failure ever will. Invest in yourself and expect to win.


                                             Only as high as I reach can I grow:
                                                 only as far as I seek can I go:
                                                only as deep as I look can I see:
                                               only as much as I dream can I be.


Stand up for your life!!!

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Now.....What?

                                              "Getting knocked down in life is a given.
                                           Getting up and moving forward is a choice."
                                                                 - Zig Ziglar

Have you ever reached a very important goal and thought that when you accomplished it, you were going to feel absolutely amazing, so happy, proud of yourself, content with your accomplishment but instead you felt absolutely nothing?

Actually you might even have felt disappointed, let down and far from the amazing feeling that you were counting on would happen. Instead you actually felt a big void in your life and you were asking yourself.....
Is this it? What do I do now?
Now.....What? 

I remember when I graduated from my one year online coaching program back in May of 2014, I thought I was going to feel so wonderful that I had finally accomplished something that I had been thinking about and planning for, for over 3 years. And after it was all said and done, I felt disappointed, sad and discouraged. And I didn't really know how to procced with my life and my new business for a month or two after I graduated.
I wasn't depressed, but I felt very lost without my daily work with the coaching school. With the online lessons and the projects that had to be done and sent to the school for review. I also missed my coaching buddies in my pod group , that I had gotten to know during this year. It was like a big void, and I remember thinking many times, what am I going to do now?
Now.....What?

A few weeks ago I was listening to and interview that Tony Robbins had done with Michael Phelps, the amazing Olympic swimmer that competed in four Olympic Games in a row and won 28 metals all together.
His whole life consisted of training and getting ready for the next competition. He talked to Tony about that after he retired from being an Olympic swimmer and when he didn't train and compete the same way he was used to doing throughout almost his entire life, he became depressed.
The question is, where do you go now? Michael Phelps had done nothing but train and compete most of his life.  He had been to the Olympic games four times and won 28 metals.....how can you now adjust to being just a regular guy?
Now.....What?

When the first astronauts had come back from the moon and then tried to adjust to normal life after training for years and then walking on the moon.....some of these astronauts became depressed and became alcoholics and they abused drugs. How do you adjust to just being a regular guy after you have walked on the moon? Where do you go from there? How can you now adjust to every day normal life?
Now.....What?

Back in 2012 after I had walked away from a very emotional and psychological abusive relationship that I had been in for several years, I thought I was going to feel so relieved, great and get my energy back within a few months, but that did not happen.
Instead I felt disappointed, let down, sad and almost depressed and I did not get my energy back for a very long time.
What happened was that I had been focusing on this man's bad and unpredictable behavior for years. I had walked on eggshells, read everything I could get my hands on when it came to how to deal with a narcissist, planned my escape and once I got away, I felt absolutely nothing. No joy, no happiness.....nothing. Instead I felt completely lost, sad and very lonely. I was thinking many times.....
Now.....What?

So what is going on here and how can we plan in advance so this doesn't happen, after we complete a big and amazing goal?

We must develop an "after plan" for when we have reached our most important goal.

How do we do this?

We have to have two or more goals going on at the same time, so when we complete one goal and after we have celebrated our success, we have to have something else to focus on right away. Because if we do, then we won't feel disappointed, sad, let down or depressed because now it's time to move on to the next big goal and accomplish it.

Every time after I finish writing, editing and publishing a book, I feel a void. 

I have usually spent quite a bit of time with every book and when the project is completed, I feel a little bit of sadness and I think.....

Now.....What?

Answer: I start writing another book.

TIP!
Always have a plan ready to go after you accomplish your goal, so that you won't fall into depression or waste time feeling lost on your path.
And if you happen to fall off the path, make sure you get up quickly and keep on going towards your new amazing goal(s) and your amazing future.

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Feeling Stuck?

                                                     "Staying stuck in the past
                                                   is stealing from your future."
                                                            - Robin Sharman

Do you feel stuck in some area(s) of you life?

You do want to change but for some reason you keep doing the same thing day in and day out.
Year in and year out.

If we don't change something that we do, then nothing is going to change in our lives.

A lot of people walk around hoping that things will change for them, without them having to do anything about it themselves.

They hope that their spouse is going to change. That their boss is going to change. That their job is going to change and that the economy is going to change.

Do you believe that things will actually change without you having to do something about it, yourself?

It's so easy to point the finger at everyone else, but yourself.


                                                 "If you stay stuck in the past,
                                                no one will stay there with you.
                                                  If you look back on the past,
                               you'll just speed your life walking backwards."
                                                               - Unknown


I believe that for things to change for you, you must first make a decision that you want things to change and that you yourself are going to do something to make it happen.

After the decision has been made and you are committed to change, you actually have to act on that decision.

Most people don't actually make true decisions, because they can't see how that are going to get to where they want to go.
Instead they keep on doing things that they can see how they are going to get there and this is usually why their life really never changes.


                                            "You are not stuck where you are
                                                   unless you decide to be."
                                                         - Wayne Dyer


Do you have a major challenge right now that is keeping you stuck?

How long are you going to repeat the same thing over and over again?


Tip!
Think of one small change that you can start doing today that will change your life for the better.
It doesn't have to be a huge thing. Start small and work your way up.

Start doing that thing today. Don't delay. Don't wait until you feel like it.
Make a decision and.....
Do It NOW!!!

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Back In 2012 My Life Was A Big Fat Mess, But Then I Did This....

                                  "Some will push you forwards, others will pull you back.
                                              Regardless of who's pushing or pulling,
                                            the strongest chooses their own direction."
                                                                 - Rolsey

Have you ever had your life totally collapse on you?

This is what happened to me back in the spring of 2012. By life was in a big fat mess, and I found myself  hanging on by a thread.

This downfall didn't happen overnight. It had been brewing for a couple of years, but in April of 2012, it totally collapsed.

Three things happened at almost the same time.

First, my mother passed away at the age of 86, in Dec. of 2011. She had lived a long life, but it was hard to lose your own mother.

Second, in March of 2012,  I had to walk away from a emotional, phycological and financial abusive relationship. This man was a narcissist and the only thing I could do was to leave almost everything behind, if I wanted to keep my health and my sanity. So I packed my bags and left, together with my 2 dogs.

Third, in April of 2012 I had to return to Sweden after living in the US for 25 years (I was born and raised there). Since my ex had cut off all the money, I had no place to live and no way of supporting myself in the US, I felt like I had no other option than to go back to Sweden.

So in April of 2012 I found myself in a big fat mess. Sitting in an apartment with my 2 dogs in Sweden, thinking.....what the heck happened??????

It took a while for my head to clear. It was like I had been in a huge car wreck, and I couldn't think straight for a couple of months.


                                                 Sometimes when things fall apart
                                              they may actually be falling together.


But in July of 2012, I did something that would forever change my life.....
I hired a LIFE COACH and I created a BIG VISION for my life.
It made such a huge difference in my life.
Actually it saved my life.

Who would have thought that having a vision for my life would be such a game changer. Before 2012 I don't believe that I had ever sat down and asked myself what I wanted my life to look like. I had been busy living someone else's life for 25 years, and they didn't ask me what I wanted.

But in July of 2012 it all changed when I met my first life coach.
The first time we met, he gave me a future visioning process to do. I did it, and everything changed then and there, and I haven't looked back.

Since then I have come to realize how important it is for all of us to have a compelling future.
We must create a vision for our lives.
We must have goals in every area of our lives.
We also  must create a game plan how to get to where we want to go, and then take action on that game plan on a daily base
We must create new empowering habits that will take us to where we want to go. Old habits have to go and we must develop some new ones.

Only 5% of the population has specific, written down goals.
Goals have to be specific, and if you don't write then down and create a deadline for when you want to accomplish your goal(s), you will only be a dreamer and not a creator.

I can't tell you how important having a vision for my life has been.
It changed my life completely back in 2012.

Don't go through life without asking yourself.....
What do I want my life to look like in 2, 5, or 10 years?
Become a part of the 5%.

I want to invite you to attend a presentation that I am doing next Tuesday July 9th, at a networking even with the CBFA - Christian Business Fellowship Association.
The title of the presentation is.....
12 Strategies That Will Have A Huge Impact In Your Life & In Your Business.

On July 25, I will do another presentation at GenuWine and the title of this presentation is......
Never Give Up! Set A Goal & Go For It!

During these presentations I will share some great wisdom and insight on how you can create the life that you dream of and that you desire.


If you have any questions you can send me and email -  karin@karinglannstam.com
or you can contact me through my website - www.karinglannstam.com

Looking Forward To Seeing YOU!!!


12 Strategies That Will Have A Huge Impact In Your Life & In Your Business
Where: Tito's Cantina. 25250 Northwest Frwy, Cypress, TX
When: July 9th. 11.30 - 1pm
FREE

Never Give Up! Set A Goal & Go For It!
Where: GenuWine. 6503 FM 1488, Magnolia, TX
When: July 25th. 6.30 - 8pm
FREE

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