Don't Judge Me, Until You Know Me

                                                          Don't talk about me,
                                                   until you have talked to me.
                                                        Don't underestimate me,
                                                        until you challenge me.
                                                             Don't judge me,
                                                           until you know me.


When we start something new in your lives, it is always going to feel a bit scary in the beginning.

We are going to wonder if we are doing the right thing
If it is going to work out
If we are starting a new business, we are probably going to think about if we will be able to make any money doing this
If our friends/family are going to like it
Are people going to approve of what we are doing
Are they still going to like us and support us

All these questions can create a lot of worry. And a lot of times this worrying will turn into doubt. After a while, doubt will turn into questioning ourselves..... if we are actually doing the right thing. And then sometimes after worrying and doubting ourselves for a while we decide not to go ahead with doing this "new thing".....whatever it is.

I have talked to some people lately, and also during these years that I have been coaching people and I see a familiar pattern showing up.
They are afraid to take the first step. They are afraid to be seen.They are afraid to go out there in the world and share their message with other people. This happens a lot when it comes to people wanting to start some kind of business in which they are intending to help other people to improve their lives, through sharing their own experiences and their knowledge. Most often these people don't think that they are good enough and they are often afraid that somehow other people won't like and approve of them anymore, if they pursue their dream.

It doesn't matter what you are trying to do in this world. There are always going to be some people that are going to hate you. Some people won't understand why you want to do what you want to do. And some people will shake their heads at you, and they will tease you and make fun of you. Some people will doubt you and your abilities and they will talk behind you back.
This is always going to happen. But this is never about you. It is always about them.

When we start something new we want our friends/family to like what we are going to do. And we want their approval. But I have news for you.....it won't always happen.
There will be people that are going to judge you, criticize you and disapprove of you. So what!!! let them.
But just make sure that it won't stop you from pursuing your dream.

If you don't want anyone to ever judge you or criticize you, then you have to
Do Nothing.....Say Nothing.....and Be Nothing.

If some of your friends won't support you and they decide to walk away from you. Let them. You don't need those kind of friends anyway. And the good thing is that when some people leave your life..... you will have room for some new and better friendships to show up. Some that will better match you and what you are trying to accomplish.

I remember back in 2012/2013 when I was just getting started with trying to create my own coaching business. I only had a personal FB. I hadn't posted much on it,  just a few personal stuff. But then I decided to start posting some more spiritual, inspiring and empowering messages. Messages that were suppose to make you think in a new direction and with a new mind. I was scared to death that I was going to offend some of my old friends. I remember sitting in my living room and debating with myself if I could or rather dared to post certain things on FB.
Would someone get mad? Maybe they would confront me? And worst of all.....maybe they would not like me anymore? And if they didn't like me anymore....maybe they would leave me?
But I decided to go ahead with pursuing my dream of helping people and one day having a coaching business.
Yes.....I was scared a lot of times and I was doubting myself often, but I didn't allow that to stop me. I believed that I had something valuable to teach and to share with the world.

So what happened back in 2012/2013?
Nothing. Nobody did anything to me or said anything to me. They might have said a few things to my friends, but not anything to me personally. And if they didn't agree they just silently just went away. If you lose one, two or a few.....you will get some new ones that will better fit you and your new way of thinking and being. Sometimes we try to hang onto old stuff and people, way to long. Let them be a part of your past and not your present. Sometimes a very important part of you past, but often we must learn to let go. If people don't want to grow you might have to let them go for a while and sometimes forever. Some people you just have to continue to love from a distance.

During all these years since I started my business in 2012, new people have come into my life. Some are still here. Some stayed for a while. Some stayed for only a couple of months and then they left.
I used to always try to hold onto people and I always wanted to be friends forever with everybody. But I have learned that that is not the way life works. People come and people go. We must learn to recognize when it is time to let someone go.

Some people will be in your life for a lifetime. Some people will be in your life for many years and some people will only be there for a short period of time. Every person that you cross paths with are there to teach you something. Sometimes it is a big lesson and sometimes just a smaller one. But after you have learned the lesson it might be time to move onto the next one. Don't hang onto people that don't need to be in your life. Sometimes they only came along to teach to a valuable lesson about yourself or about life.

The good thing is that I still have some friendships in my life that I have had for 20-35 years. They have been with me for a long time. They are very supportive and they believe in me and that is the kind of people that you must have in your life.
No matter what happens they see something in you, they know the real you and they believe in you. They might not always agree with you but they support you and whatever you decide to do.

I am still scared from time to time when I am writing some of my blogs and now also my books. What are people going to think about me? about what I have done? and what I am sharing in my writing? Can I really write about this? Do I have enough knowledge when it come to this topic? Am I good enough to do this?
But I also know that I am trying to inspire, uplift, empower and educate others to live a better life through sharing what I have learned by going through my own lessons in life, good or bad. But also from what I have learned from others and from all the knowledge that I have accumulated from books, seminars and webinars.


Here are some of the most common things I hear from people that are trying to start something new.

I am not ready yet. I need to attend some more courses

I must have another degree before I get going

A lot of other people are already doing what I am trying to do. The world doesn't need another______________ (fill in the blank)

I don't know how to do it. I don't even know where to start

If I do this I am afraid that my spouse/family/friends won't approve of me and what I want to do

I don't think I am good enough. Other people are a lot better than I am

How am I going support myself doing this?

I am too old/young/man /woman

I don't have any resources to pursue my dream

I don't have enough time/money

I can't ask others to help me, because then they will realize how little I know


A lot of people are suffering from excuseitis. Inflammation of the excuse nerve.
They are afraid to step into the light and to be seen by the world due to being afraid of judgement, criticism and also feeling that they are not good enough.

So I suggest that you start listening and trusting yourself.
Turn down the noise that comes from the outside world. Trust your ideas and your instincts. Listen to that small voice within you.
Nobody needs to approve of your dream. It was given to you. The reason other people won't and can't see and understand your dream is because that they can't actually see it, since you were the person it was given to, only you can see it.
Hold your dream. Cultivate it, nourish it and work it.

Don't give up because things are hard. You are never given anything in this world that you can't handle.
You are capable of so much more that you can imagine.

Give us what you've got.
Don' hold back.
The world needs your gifts and talents. Start sharing TODAY!

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                             www.karinglannstam.com

Is It Time to Do a Little House Cleaning When It Comes to Your Relationships?

                                          Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise,
                                           but the companion of fools will suffer hard.


Is it time to do a little house cleaning again and toss away some things that are only taking up space and are not making you happy?

After you clean out you house you might also wan to take a good look at the people that you surround yourself with.

Is it time to let a few friends go?

Maybe you even have some toxic ones around..... but you are having a hard time letting them go?

We all have to realize that some people are simply not good for us.
They might not be toxic, but they are not having the best attitude.

Here are a few questions you might want to ask yourself before you decide on who gets to stay and who gets to go.

What kind of person am I becoming because of this relationship?

Does this relationship help me grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually?

Am I becoming a better person because of this relationship?

Do they bring out the best in me?

Do they inspire me?

Do they encourage me to develop my greatness?

Do they make me stretch?

Birds of a feather flock together.....

In other words.....people who have something in common feel comfortable together.

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

Have An Open Mind

                                               The purpose of education is to replace
                                                 an empty mind with and open one


Every day as I take my dogs out on our daily morning walk we always walk past this small and beautiful pond. On this particular day that I am going to talk about in this blog, we ran into some women that were feeding the fish in the pond. I stopped and talked to the ladies for a few minutes as we were all watching the fish eat.
After a while we all mentioned how brown and cloudy the water was in the pond. You couldn't see anything below the surface. So I said "well..... no wonder the water is cloudy and brown, there is no new fresh water coming into the pond (except for when it rains)..... and there is also no water leaving the pond."

I guess you are wondering where I am going with this story about the pond?

Think of your mind as the pond in the story I just told you. A lot of times we will allow or own mind to get cloudy and brown. We don't allow any new ideas to enter our mind. We do the same thing every day. We eat the same food. Hang out with the same people and we have worked with the same people for years. We have become rigid in our thinking and the sad thing is that we won't even entertain any new ways of thinking. The people that we spend most of our time with the majority of them think like we do, and that is why with spend time with them in the first place.
Nothing new is happening in your life and in their life and therefore.....no new thoughts.

In our spare time we create small groups of friends that we spend time with and maybe do a few activities with. But the majority of the time they are always the same people that we have spent time with for last 5-10 years maybe even longer than that. They have the same ideas, the same way of thinking and most often there isn't anything new happening in their lives. We don't allow any new people to come into our groups.

No..... we want to do the things that we have always done, telling ourselves that this is the way we have always done it and this is the way it is going to be. We are afraid to let any new people join our group that might have some different ideas, a different way to of thinking and maybe has been brought up in a different part of the world. We often stay away from those people and we call them weird and what they are doing and the way they are thinking is wrong.

Where and when did we come up with the idea that whatever we are doing or thinking is always right?

Most often the way they are makes us feel uncomfortable for some reason. The sad thing is that we will never learn anything new by staying with the same routines and doing and thinking the same thing over and over again. Eventually it will make us very bored and not satisfied with our own lives. And eventually complaining becomes a new bonding ritual that we engage in with our small group.

I remember back in 2012 when I was back in Sweden for one year. One time I went to a small party where I only knew one woman. I found the conversation very interesting because one of the women at that particular party talked about how no one would invite her into any groups. She had moved to this city several years ago but had a hard time making any new friends or meeting new people.
Maybe this sounds familiar to you?
It doesn't matter where you live but a lot of people have a tendency to not welcome change and also new people into their lives. They want things to be the way they have always been.

I have news for you.....the only thing that is constant in life is change. And only when we learn to sometimes let go of old things and "old thinking" and welcome change, embrace learning new things, new people, new experience and growth.... only then will we feel truly happy and fulfilled.

For me personally..... I feel that it would be terrible if things stayed the same way that they are right now. If no new change was ever possible.....I believe life would be very gray and boring. There are so many more things that I want to learn, places I want to go to and people that I want to meet. I want to continue to develop my coaching business, help more people, learn more about myself, write more blogs, newsletters and books. I also am looking forward to creating new friendships and relationships where I can grow as a person. So many things to do and so many places to go in life.

My suggesting to you is to not become like the pond or maybe like the Dead Sea. Open yourself up to new possibilities. Open your tight closed group up to some new faces. You never know what you may learn and experience. Maybe something new and even better?

Always have an open mind when it come to everything. Learn new things. We are never to old to learn. And when you learn something new, share it with friends and tell them about it. It might be information that they didn't have and it can be a game changer for them. This is exactly why I am writing this blog today and hopefully it will make you think about your own life a little and maybe do some changes?

When you open yourself up to new things and people in your life make sure that you share with the world. If you don't you will also become stuck and cloudy .....just  like the pond I was talking about. If you never let anything go you will eventually feel constipated. You have to empty out your new ideas so that you can make room for some new ones. Any new idea will stay on your mind until you release it.

"When you learn, teach. When you get, give."   Maya Angelou

When you learn.....you must teach someone else. And then they will teach another person and yet another person and another person.

Our bodies couldn't survive if we didn't take in any food. We could survive for a while but eventually we would die. The body also has to eliminate what we have eaten or we will get constipated.
Same thing with our minds. We have to always feed our minds with good nutritious thoughts, ideas and experiences.

You only live once so make sure that you actually lived.
Don't sleep-walked through life.

                                          Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                         www.karinglannstam.com

A Great Book About Creating Financial Freedom

                                "The financial goal the wealth-minded persons pursue is,
                                                              FREEDOM,
                                                               not riches."
                                                        - Felicia Woodside


Is one of your goals in life is to create financial freedom?
If it is..... I have a great book that I want to recommend.

It is ....The 9 Steps To Financial Freedom ....written by Suze Orman

This book has a lot of useful advice and inspiration from one of the leading voices of personal finance.
It is combining real-life recommendations with the motivation to overcome financial anxiety.

The book includes.....
Seeing how your past holds the key to your financial future
Facing your fears and creating new truths
Trusting yourself more than others
Being open to receiving all that you are meant to have
Understanding the lessons of the money cycle


     If you saw a quarter on the street, would you stop to pick it up? Of course you would - we all would. Would you throw a dollar on the street for someone else to pick up? I doubt it. Yet without even knowing it, you may be throwing away hundreds of dollars in found money for you and your future just by the way you're dealing with your financial life.
     Most people try to set up their lives for convenience, to make things easy. But easy can be costly. Respecting yourself and your money means wanting to put every penny you can to work for you. Respect attracts money, remember? You might have "found money" right now, a few hundred dollars a year here, a few hundred there, or more. Wouldn't you like to find it? You can if you are willing to look. If you're willing to re-arrange the pieces of your financial life just a little, you'll be able to see the solution to the puzzle - and find the money.

From the book.....The 9 Steps To Financial Freedom.....by Suze Orman

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                          www.karinglannstam.com

Don't Sit On the Sidelines Of Life

                                           Struggles are required in order to survive in life,
                        because in order to stand up, you got know what falling down is like.


Can you remember when you were a kid playing on the playground with all your friends?
You were doing all kind of things. Playing, laughing and also falling down. What happened after you fell down? You got up, brushed yourself off and jumped right back into the fun and the game.
Did you think that you were a failure because you fell down? Or didn't know how to do something right away? No....you didn't.
You just laughed together with your friends and you tried again. If you didn't know how to do something you asked your friend to show you how and then you tried.
And your friends did the same thing.....if they fell or did something funny or silly.....they got back up and you all laughed at it. No big deal.
Did you sit on the side of the playground not participating in the fun? I am sure you didn't. Who wants to sit and just watch other kids having fun and not joining them?

So when did we decide that falling down equals failure?
And if we fall down, we now stay down instead of getting back up and we decide that we can't do it.

When did we decide that we can't ask for help from our friends, family members or from a mentor?
Ask for help and have them show us how they did something that we would like to do?
Instead we have decided that asking for help is a sign of weakness.

At what point did we decide to just remain on the sidelines instead of playing and having fun , like we used to do when we were kids?

Did you know that the majority of people won't even try once to do something new?
They talk themselves out of doing something before that have even tried it and they tell themselves that they can't possible do it, or make it happen.
People are so fearful of failure that they won't even try.


They tell themselves things like.....

"I can't possible be able to create financial freedom in my life. I am thousands of dollars in debt right now and my job doesn't pay very well"

"I am way to old/young to start my own business. No one that I know has done it so who is going to be able to help me and show me how?" 

I have had this extra weight since I was a teenager and now I am forty so I guess I will be like this the rest of my life. I have tried every diet there is and I guess I am just not suppose to be thin and fit"

My dad/mom was an alcoholic so I guess I am just stuck in this addiction for the rest of my life like they were"

In my opinion there is no such thing as failure. It is only feedback.
What you did wasn't working for some reason.

Failures or setbacks can also be viewed as steppingstones to success. In order to be truly successful at something you must know how it feels to fall down.

Sometimes I believe it is more like a lesson that we needed to learn. An important life lesson and if you really look at the lesson it will probably give you some valuable information that you didn't have before.

Be more like the kid you used to be playing on the playground. When you fall down, get up and brush yourself off.
Sometimes laughing at yourself when things happen is a great way of turning something unpleasant into something more pleasant. Tell a friend about and then laugh together.

Anything worth doing is worth doing badly until you get there. Until you get better at it.

Don't sit on the sidelines of life anymore. Get on the field and start playing.
And if you fall down, you just get back up, brush yourself off, laugh and then jump back into the game again.

Remember to bounce and not break when you fall.
Because you will fall down in life. We all fall....but don't stay there. Get back up.
Ask for help if you need it.

               

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Fantastic Book - The Millionaire Next Door

                                   "A big part of financial freedom is having your heart
                                and your mind free from worry about the what-ifs of life."
                                                             - Suze Orman

                                   "Too many people spend money that haven't earned,
                                                     to buy things they don't want,
                                                 to impress people they don't like."
                                                               - Will smith

Here is a fantastic book.....
The Millionaire Next Door.....by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko

You must read it!
It is filled with fantastic insight on wealth in America and it lets you know that nearly anybody with a steady job can accumulate financial independence in their life.

Who are the rich in this country?
What do they do?
Where do they shop?
What do they drive?
How do they invest?
Where did their ancestors come from?
How did they get rich?
Can I become one of them?



The Seven Factors

Who becomes wealthy? Usually the wealthy individual is a business-man who has lived in the same town for all of his adult life. This person owns a small factory, a chain of stores, or a service company. He has married once and remains married. He lives next door to people with a fraction of his health. He is compulsive saver and investor. And he has made his money on his own. Eighty percent of America's millionaires are first-generation rich.
Affluent people typically follow a lifestyle conclusive to accumulating money.
In the course of our investigations, we discovered seven common denominators among those who successfully built wealth.

1. They live below their means.

2. They allocate their time, their energy, and money efficiently, in ways conductive to building wealth.

3. They believe that financial independence is more important than displaying high social status.

4. Their parents did not provide economic outpatient care.

5. Their adult children are economically self-sufficient.

6. They are proficient in targeting market opportunities.

7. They choose the right occupation.

In The Millionaire Next Door, you will study these seven characteristics of the wealthy. We hope you will learn how to develop them in yourself.

From the book.....The Millionaire Next Door


Maybe you are living next door to a millionaire right now?

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Stand Up For Yourself, Your Dream and Your Life

                                                    "How am I going to live today
                                                    in order to create the tomorrow
                                                                I'm committed to?"
                                                                - Tony Robbins


I don't know what your dream is.

I don't know what you are trying to accomplish in your life right now.

But one thing I do know is this....
If you are going to make it happen for you and your dream..... you sometimes have to say NO to doing things and to do what other people want you to do, and say YES to yourself and to your dream.

No.....I can't go out tonight. I have to be at a workshop at eight in the morning.
No.....No I am not spending money on entertainment this month because I must buy some new
          books.
No.....I can't work overtime this month. I have to work on my dream.
No.....I am going to read a book instead of surfing social media.
No.....I don't want to listen to your complaining and gossiping anymore.
No.....You have to learn to take care of yourself. It is not my job to save you.
No.....I can't work this weekend. I am attending a seminar in another city.
No.....I am going to the gym in the evenings instead of watching TV.
No.....I don't want to listen to your sad story over and over again. Nothing has changed since
          the last time you told me about it.
No.....I am going to save my money instead of wasting it on impulsive purchases.

You must learn to say no to other people's agendas, urgencies and drama in order for you to have some time to work on yourself, increase your knowledge and your skills so that you will be able to live your dream.

Other people can't see your dream nor do they care about your dream. Everyone has their own agenda and most people want to make it easy as possible for themselves. And if you are continuing to say yes to certain people you will eventually wake up one day realizing that you are behind on your dream. You have constantly put other people and their demands of your time, before you and your dream.

It takes a lot of courage to go against other people.
It takes courage to walk your own path and to say no.
A lot of people will constantly keep you busy with every day demands of your time, pointless drama in their own lives, complaining, gossiping and tremendous negativity. And if you allow their urgencies to become your emergency, you will lose valuable time that you must invest in yourself and your dream.

Your time is valuable. Don' let anyone waste it. Once it is gone or lost you can never get it back.
You can get you money back if you lose it. You can get you car or your house back if you lost it.
If you lose a friend you can make some new friendships.
But it's different with your time. It the most valuable thing that you have got. Learn to say no to other people's demands on your time.
Besides that ....it is not your job to save everybody.

Great Tip!

Before you commit to something or somebody ask yourself..........
Do I really want to do this?
How much time is this going to take?
Do I have this time to give away?
Always sleep on a decision because it looks very different in the morning than it did the night before.


I was talking to a good friend the other day about this exact topic and I said to her....."Do you realize that every time I say .....Yes to certain people, giving them my time.....I am saying..... No to myself and my dream?"
I am the only one that has to live with the consequences of saying yes to others and no to myself. Other people don't care. They just want you to do what they want you to do.

To go against the dominant thinking of your family, friends, co-workers and people that you associate with on a daily base is no easy task.
It is probably the most courageous act you can perform.

When you have your own dream for your life, you will have your own agenda. You will have something that you are doing on a daily base. And if other people can put you on a guilt trip, they will. They will use you and abuse you over and over again and you must learn to draw the line.

You are very powerful and you have to use that power to put your foot down and to change things.

When you are committed to dance to the beat of a different drummer you must learn to except that most people won't understand you.
Don't expect your dream to make sense to anybody but yourself.
You are doing if for you..... and it doesn't matter if others won't understand or support you.
You have a calling on your life and you are doing it for you.

You have made a different kind of commitment for your life and this is something that you have to do. You have to go and to do what you were put on this earth to do.
Being committed means taking a stand for you.

Stand up for yourself, your dream and your life.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                            www.karinglannstam.com

Do You Feel Excited About Your Goals?

                                        "Reasons come first - answers come second."
                                                             - Tony Robbins


Most people have a very vague plan or a very unclear vision of what they want in life.

Most of us want something to happen in life. Something new and exciting, but unfortunately we don't take time to actually sit down and become clear on what we really want.

What kind of change are you looking for? What will actually make you excited about your life?

Just wanting something isn't enough for taking it all the way to accomplishing a goal. We must decide on what we want, create a plan and then take action on that plan on a daily base.

A lot of people will talk about goals but very few actually set them. I believe that  it is only around 5 percent of  people that have goals in writing..... for all areas of their lives.

Sometimes we might have created some goals but the goals are so lousy that they don't get us excited and we quickly abandon them.

Is your goal that the only thing that you want in life is to pay the lousy bills?....I can understand your excitement on a Monday morning. "Yeah....I am getting out of bed today so that I can go to work and make enough money to pay the lousy bills!"

How about "I just want to lose a few pounds so that I can gain it back during the holidays because I really want to be able to eat then." Sounds really exciting!!!

Your dream and your goals will work as a giant magnet. It will pull you through anything that is going on in your life right now. The bigger and stronger that your vision and your goals are, the stronger the pull will be.

How can you create some great goals for yourself.....something that will make you hop out of bed every morning of your life (or almost every morning)?

A lot of people won't act on their goals because they have no idea how they will ever be able to do it.
If you can inspire yourself to act on your goal, the how will take care of itself.

In other words we must create important and exciting REASONS why we want to accomplish our goals.

The stronger the reasons..... the easier it will be to take the right action and stay motivated to continue until you have reached your goal(s).

First you have to decide what is that you do want? Then you must be clear about the "WHY" behind the goal(s).

Why do I want this for myself?
When you have figured out the WHY.....the How will take care of itself.
                                            ______________________________

Great Tip!

Take some time to sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write down you answers to these questions.

- Find 5 reasons why it is important that you will be able to accomplish your goals and live your dream. (Maybe you can find more than five. Write them all down).

- What are another 5 reasons that you won't give up on your dream and your goals.

                                            ______________________________

What are you planning to do about your goals and your dream?

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

How Are You Coming Along With Your Goals For 2017?

                                        Climb mountains not so the world can se you,
                                                   but so you can see the world.

How are coming along with your goals for this year?

Six months of 2017 are already gone and there are only six more months left for you to accomplish those goals that you set out to accomplish and the beginning of this year.

What was the goals you decided that you wanted to make your reality at the beginning of this year?

Was it to finally leave a dead-end job and start your own business? Or maybe start a new healthy lifestyle by exercising and eating healthier? Maybe it was to leave a relationship that was leading to nowhere? Maybe to start dating again after being single for serval years? Or starting a new hobby?
What was it for you?

One of my goals for 2017 was to read at least two books per month.
And I am not talking about just any kinds of books. I am talking about educational books that will make me learn, stretch and improve myself and my skills so that I will be able to create more value for my coaching clients and also in writing my books, newsletters and blogs.
I have read books about personal development, leadership, financial books, relationship books and books about spirituality.
I want to constantly grow, expand and learn new things.

So how am I doing on my goal?
So far I have read 16 books so that leaves me with 8 more to go. I believe that I will reach my goal at the end of this year.
Eventually I want to be able to read a book per week. Maybe that will be my goal for next year?

Books are a great source of inspiration and motivation on those days when doubt, fear creeps into our lives and on those days when our self-confidence takes a deep dive.
Books will keep us motivated to keep on going and they will remind us that anything is possible for you and me .....if we continue to work on ourselves, our skills and our talents.


Goals are like magnets. They will pull us through almost anything that is going on right now in our lives and they will pull us towards a brighter and better future. Make sure that you have a clear vision of where you want to go in life or you might find yourself driving around in your car not having a map and not knowing where you are going.

Unfortunately a lot of people won't reach their goals or live up to their true potential.
And here are a few reasons why.


A lot of people will allow fear to stop them dead in their tracks. Almost all fears are fears that we have learned and picked up on our journey called life. Sometimes we might even pick up someone else's fear if we spend a lot of time together with them. Fear of failure is a big one and also fear of success. We are afraid that we won't be able to handle it.
What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn't fail?

Some people will get too comfortable. They stop growing. They stop wanting anything and they become satisfied. People will stop looking for new ways that they can improve themselves.
Progress and growth = happiness. If you keep on growing you will live but if you stop growing you will eventually die. Maybe not physically but you will die spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

A lot of people will not feel worthy of having their goals so as they get closer to accomplishing their goals they will unconsciously start sabotaging their own success by destructive habits like procrastination and also by wasting and spending time on things that will eventually prevent them from reaching their goals.

People will also complain and blame everyone and everything. They are not hurting bad enough yet to do something about their situation, they just want to constantly complain about it.
They constantly moan and groan about their job, their finances, their health, their spouse or their friends but they don't do anything about it.
They haven't yet gotten to the point that they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Complaining takes a lot of mental energy that these people could instead use to better themselves and their situation.
Actually a lot of people think that complaining is equivalent of doing something about it.

Another thing that will prevent people from reaching their goals is their circumstances and their environment. Just because they haven't seen it modeled in front of them, they don't think it is possible for them to change themselves and their environment.
Where they are right now is all they know.


You can always become more by having goals and work towards them.
In life we usually don't get what we want - You get in life what we are. We can always become more by working to develop ourselves.

This is the reason why a constantly work on myself and reading insightful and inspiring books of what is possible.....is one way of accomplishing more in my life.
If other people can do it - so can I and so can you!!!

A few TIPS!

Start by looking at your life. Where are you today?
Look at your strengths and weaknesses. (If you can't figure it out ask a trusted friend or family-member.)
What will give your life meaning, fulfillment and a sense of joy?
What does a meaningful and rich life mean to you?
What can you love and can see yourself doing seven days a week?

Think about those questions when it comes to all areas of your life.
Your personal life, professional life, financial life, family life and spiritual life.

In Wednesday's blog I am going to talk about the next step in accomplishing your goals.....
REASONS..... Why do you want to pursue and accomplish your goals?

What is it that you would like to have in your life?

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com