Women Are Masters At Misusing Their Own Time

                                           "Be selective with who you invest your time,
                                              wasted time is worse than wasted money."

Women are masters at misusing their own time.
A lot of times we allow other people's needs and demands to come before our own. We downplay our own needs and we allow others to freely take advantage of our time. Instead of giving only of our overflow, we generously give away our valuable time, while we minimize and neglect our own needs.

We take care of other people's emergencies and urgencies instead of allowing these people to step up and to become responsible for their own lives. For some strange reason we make it our responsibility to constantly take care of others. Women take too much responsibility for others instead of letting others take care of themselves.

Women take responsibility for everyone and everything. Women are helping their children, grandchildren, taking care of the aging parents, full-time job, a partner, friends and a household filled with daily chores.

"I don't have time" is something that we hear women say a lot..... in todays society.
Some women feel deep down inside that they are not good enough and because of that they will easily be affected by others. They get pulled into doing things that they actually don't want to do.  But often they feel like they should do it, to make everyone happy. They feel like other people happiness comes before theirs. Women easily get manipulated into doing things for others that they actually need to do for themselves.

So how do we change this?
First we must learn to respect ourselves. Then we  must learn to say "NO."
You don't have to prove to anyone that you are good enough by taking cake of everyone and everything. If we lack self-esteem and self-worth, we have a tendency to want to please everyone around us. We want to be kind and to do everything that other people want us to do in order to feel good about ourselves. We want to feel needed.
This will eventually lead to high levels of stress or burnout.

As women we must STOP misusing our time. Learn to say "NO" more often. Allow others to take care of their own problems. Allow others to take responsibility for their lives.
I am sure that they can handle it without your help....if you let them.

TIPS!
- Make sure that you allow more time for sleep. If you are having problems with sleeping it will tear down you body quickly. So make sure that you are getting 7-9 hours of sleep.

- Start a new hobby. Something that you would like to do for yourself.

- Learn to rest, especially learn to rest your mind. Meditation is great way to learn to control your mind.

- Eat right and exercise. You must fuel your body with the right energy. A candy bar, a soft drink or some coffee is always tempting when we feel low on fuel. But it will only give you a quick energy boost and then it will leave you feeling even more depleted than before. Give your body good stuff.

-  Make sure you move your body. A brisk 30 minute walk is perfect.

- Get outside and enjoy nature.

- Volunteer, find something meaningful that will stimulate your mind.

- Create some new goals. Maybe start a new business. Something that makes "you feel alive."

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

How To Change Your Life - Become Emotionally Fit

                                                        "Having a healthy mind
                                               is just as important as a healthy body."


If you want change your life.....become emotionally fit.
Get stronger mentally and emotionally. Drive yourself.
Master it and your life will be so much easier.

Become emotionally fit and it will be a lot easier to handle your life and your career.
Get emotionally fit my accepting 100 % responsibility of the experience of your life.

Learn  to control your thoughts and your mind instead of your mind controlling you.
Use your mind. Don't let your mind use you.
Anything can happen in life but remember that you are bigger than the moment.

A few tips!

Read at least 30 minutes every day. Not the internet but books. Read something that will inspire you and motivate you. Something that will teach you a new skill or a new strategy. Something that will open you to a new way of thinking. Something that will transform you.
Leaders are readers.

Exercise every day. Move your body for at least 30 minutes a day and it will change how you feel emotionally.
Challenge your body and make it grow. Try a new sport.  Go for a quick run. Lift weights.

Find a role-model. Figure out what they are doing and then do the same. Find someone that have gotten the results that you are after and then model them.

Find someone that is hurting worse than you are and help them. We all have problems and there is always going to be someone in worse shape than you.
And when you help them it will put things in perspective.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Great Things Come Out Of Patience

                                                  "Patience  is not the ability to wait,
                                  but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting."
                                                                   - Joyce Meyer


Todays topic......PATIENCE!

Something that most of us could use a little more of. If you are blessed with a lot of patience, you are truly BLESSED.

In todays society where everything is available 24/7, we have become so used to NOT having to wait for anything. We want it now. If the truth comes out, we probably wanted it yesterday.

- Things we order online to be shipped the same day, so we can get it tomorrow.

- The weight that took us 10 years to put on, we want it all gone in 3 month or less.

- Building a business. If we don't see any results within 6 months, we give up and try something new or tell ourselves..... it didn't work.

- We want our money to grow so we invest it in risky adventures and sometimes gambling. We don't want to wait. We want our money to grow quickly so we can spend it.

- We want to get in shape and have the perfect body in 1-3 months, after sitting on the couch every night for 5 years.

- We want our relationships to be like the movies from "Hollywood". Easy, fast and without complications.

- We want our children to be perfect angels.

- Traffic.....no comment needed!

And the list goes on.

Can you relate?

While there is always room for improvement when it comes to having more patience with other people. More patience with you partner, children, parents, your boss, friends and people in stores and restaurant..... serving us. We also could use some more patience with ourselves.

I know that I lose my patience with my computer when it isn't fast enough or isn't working. I also have a dog that is sometimes is a little bit nervous and can bring my impatience to the surface. But the good thing is that she as actually taught me to slow down and she has helped me with to develop a little more patience.

Patience is not created overnight. First you have to become aware of that you might be running a little low on patience. Then make a conscious decision that you must start to work on your patience-muscle. And yes it is a muscle. It can get bigger with constant practice. Usually we lose our temper and our patience over things and people that we have no control over anyway. All we are then doing is wasting a lot of mental energy.

Becoming a master of anything worth doing requires wisdom of patience. Everything worth while will take time. It is a creative process. Take the first step..... and then the next..... and the next.

Where in your life might more patience be needed?

                                            Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                              www.karinglannstam.com

Bounce Don't Break

                    I had a book signing party for my first book.....

                                 Bounce Don't Break
                     How to successfully get back on track after life knocks you down

What if all the bad things that have happened in my life are leading me to activate some great potential in me?

Breakthroughs of all kinds usually are proceeded by a crisis or a divine storm. The greater the crisis the greater the opportunity for growth and advancements. Out of all confusion comes order. A higher degree of order than existed prior to the confusion. What I have come to find out, is that moments like this are powerful opportunities for growth. It is a wake-up call that the path that you are on is not the right path for you.
You have taken a detour. The crisis is trying to get us back onto our own track.

Have you read my book?
If not..... this is how you order it
www.amazon.com if you are in the US
www.amazon.co.uk if you are in Europe

www.karinglannstam.com

Celebrate Yourself and Nurture Your Friendships

                                          "The more you praise and celebrate your life
                                             the more there is in life to celebrate."
                                                           - Oprah Winfrey


I turned 55 a couple of days ago and today I want to tell you about my my wonderful birthday celebration.
I also want to thank my friends for giving me some wonderful memories that I will cherish for the rest of my life.

Around 20 women came together to celebrate my big day. Since I am spending time in Sweden right now the celebration took place here and with all Swedish friends. It is really great because even though I have been living in the US for almost 30 years I still have some fantastic friends here in Sweden. I have also met some new friend since I have been back.
At this party there were friends that I have known for 30 plus years, some 20 plus years and some that I have gotten to know lately. The ages of the people varied a lot too.

I know a lot of people that don't want to celebrate their birthdays as they get older. I used to fall in that category for many years, but not any longer. I think we should celebrate that we have made it this far..... because a lot of people didn't. Some people's lives were taken way too soon.
We must also celebrate all that we have gone through. All the ups and also the downs. The ups are easy to celebrate but the downs are usually a little more difficult. But we usually learn a lot more through our difficulties in life than our easy and smooth times.

Yes, if you have lived to be 55 you have probably gone through a lot of stuff in your life. We have gotten dented and banged up a little but just imagine all the experiences that we have accumulated in the process. How smart and educated we actually are. Our experiences are valuable and should be shared with others.
Celebrate your body instead of always complaining and finding faults with it. It is the only body that you have got to live in. Take good care of it.

Get out of your comfort zone. Meet some new people that you don't already know. A lot of times we stay where it is comfortable. We feel uncomfortable when we don't know anybody and decide that we don't want to attend a party where there will be a lot of people that we have never met before.
But that is how you meet new people and that is how you create new friendships. Don't be nervous about striking up a conversation with a person that you have never met. Don't feel that you don't have anything to talk about and that you don't have anything to offer at a party. Stop being so critical about yourself.
A lot of people at my birthday party told me that they loved the mixture of people and that they loved meeting new ones.

Make a big deal out of your birthday. Connect with old and new friends. Make and effort to arrange a party. Invite, share and laugh together.
We are all so "busy" and we neglect our friendships a lot of times. If the truth comes out..... we are not too busy we are just plain lazy. It is not important to make the phone call or getting together in person. Instead we sent a text, a message via Facebook or email.
I understand that if you are in different cities or countries  your only option might be to connect electronically. But how hard is it to pick up the phone?
Spend some quality time with friends. Nurture your friendships. You never know when you might need a friend to talk to.
Be there for your friends and family. Don't ignore to place the phone call or to reach out to a friend.
You are never too busy. Make the effort.

Celebrate Your Birthday, Your Life And Live Well!

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Focus... Focus... Focus

                                              "Our thoughts create our reality,
                             where we put our focus is the direction we tend to go."
                                                       - Peter McWilliams


If you wan to be successful, you have got to develop the discipline of not letting anything take your focus off the important things that will get results.

It doesn't matter if you are trying to lose weight, saving money, getting out of debt, starting a new company or growing your business.

Focus.....Focus.....Focus.

You have to be focused on what is important now, if you don't you won't be successful.

You have to know what is important in the moment and then you have to be relentless in getting it done, and don't get distracted by unimportant stuff.

Being successful is often quite boring. It means doing the same things over and over again.

Establishing repetitive habits that lead to effective performance is the key.

Being consistent is a big key to success. You have to keep at it week after week, month after month even year after year. Slow and steady will win the race.

Always focus on the next step. Even when your goal seems too big and it feels impossible, remember bite-size pieces. Stay in motion and build momentum.

Never stop moving. Persist no matter what. You will find out later that the reward was worth the effort.

It will take time to reach your dream. Focus on what you need to do right now.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

                                                                www.karinglannstam.com

A Great Goal Exercise That Will Only Take 5 Minutes

                                                    Write Your Goals Down
                                                   if they're not written down.
                                                       they're just dreams.
                                                  When you write things down,
                                                   it sets off a chain of events
                                                    that will change your life. 

Write out your goals.
All goals have to be in writing. If you don't have your goals in writing they are not goals, only wishes.
Write down you goals specifically and clearly.

1. Every single morning rewrite your major goals in the first person singular as though they already existed. Doing this will take about 2-5 minutes.
If you goal is to  earn $ 100.000 a year.....write down.....I earn $100.000 a year.
If your goal is to weigh 135 pounds.....write down.....I weigh 135 pounds.
If you goal is to become financially independent.....write down.....I am financially independent.
If your goal is to become a teacher.....write down.....I am a teacher.
If your goal is to live in Colorado.....write down.....I am living in Colorado.

2. Every single evening take 5-10 minutes and review your progress. Take time to sit down and review what you did in the course of the day.

3. Ask yourself....what have I done right today that has moved me toward my goals?

4. What would I do differently if I had to do today over again?

Commit yourself to do this exercise for 30 days. You will be amazed at what you will be able to accomplish.

Every time that you are writing down your goals you are programming your subconscious mind. You will activate the RAS(reticular activation system) and it will attract things, people, circumstances, money or opportunities into your life. These things will harmonize with your dominate thoughts.....Your Goals.

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Never Settle For A Life That Isn't Yours

                                   In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take

Are you settling for a life that isn't yours?
Are you living a life that you didn't design yourself?
Do you prefer security to adventure?
Are you afraid to act on you dreams because you don't think you will be able to pull it off?
Do you believe that you don´t have what it takes to be able to do it? That you will probably fail and if you fail you will feel even worse than if you not had acted on your big dreams?
Or are your dreams buried so deep inside that you have almost forgotten about them? And only once in a while do you think about them and wonder..... what would  happened if I would have taken a chance back then?

Time to uncover those dreams. Time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Time to make a plan to try to accomplish some of those dreams and allow them to become a reality.
Make sure that you don't die with the dream still inside of you.
You dream might be travelling the world, living in another country, have the "right" relationship for you,  your dream-job that aligns with who you are deep inside, starting a organization and help people with problems, write a book, paint, start a company, write music or poetry.
Whatever it is for you.....make sure you start be taking some action steps towards your dreams.
Never settle for a life that isn't yours.

The reason that I an writing this blog is because I had this interesting conversation with a good friend of mine a couple of  days ago. I have known him my whole life so I know his background and his life very well. I know that he had to live a life that wasn't his own for a very long time. He had to take care of people and probably had to do work that might not have been in alignment with who he authentically was. He had a lot of big responsibilities when he was quite young because some adults in his life didn't take care of their own responsibilities. He had to grow up very quickly and I don´t think that anyone ever asked what he wanted to do with his life. Now he is a little older and wiser.
He and I can talk about a lot of things openly.
We had a conversation about our dreams as we were younger. I asked him about his. What he was dreaming about as a young man. What would he have done with his life if could have decided for himself?

I could tell right away that this question made him puzzled. He appeared surprised, slightly uncomfortable, and he became very quiet. Then he told me without looking at me..... that of course he had had some dreams as a young man but that he didn't even want to talk about them because they brought up a lot of sadness and anger. He said  that just thinking about his old dreams made him feel so uncomfortable and sad. So we let the conversation go and started talking about something else instead.

But I couldn't stop thinking about it and I am just wondering how many people out there that are not  acting on any of their dreams. They try to forget about them.
As children we have big dreams. But as we get a little older these dreams somehow get buried somewhere in the back of our minds. Eventually life takes over and we completely stop thinking and talking about them.

But where do these dreams go? Do they eventually go away if we bury them so deep down that we don't even think about them very often?

I don't believe that dreams will ever go away. It doesn't matter how deep down that you try to bury them. I think they will be there in the back of our mind and once in a while they will come up to the surface and remind us. Maybe because of something happening in our lives..... they are brought up to the surface again. But instead of acting on these dreams we push them down again. As far as we can because we don´t want to be reminded of them.
But can we ever stop thinking about them? I don't believe so. I think they will always be there as a sad reminder, if we don't act on them.

So why don't people act on their dreams?
I believe that a lot of people are afraid of failure. Somehow they feel like they are not going to be able to accomplish their dream. They are afraid to take risks because of what they might lose. We don't believe that we are capable of doing what this dream will require us to do. Maybe we don't feel like we have enough money, friends that can help, knowledge, experience, not the right information, we are too old/young, don't have enough time, man/woman.....etc.
The risk drives most people crazy. On the other hand.....everything in life is risky.
Living is risky. Getting married is risky, having children is risky, investing money is risky, changing jobs is risky and driving your car is risky.
We are so afraid to take a risk and trying to do something new. But how about the risk of doing nothing? The risk of not trying? Trying to change feels almost impossible.
There are no guarantees in life, no matter what you are doing.
Don't come to the end of your life and ask yourself.....what would have happened if I would have taken that chance?
Don't have regrets at the end of your life.

I have been knocked down many times in my own life and for many years I was living someone else's life. A life that wasn't my own. But my dreams on the inside would never die. They surfaced many times. But I kept on pushed them down for many different reasons. But I don't do that any more. My life and my dreams are important. I don't want to settle for living someone else's life, a life that I didn't have any part in designing.
I want to be the star of my own movie. The movie that I created, edited and directed.

It is about having peace of mind. I want to have peace of mind and that includes being true to myself and making sure that what I am doing is in alignment with who I am and what I want. I want to live up to the very best that I can be as a human being and that also means constantly working on myself.
Yes..... it takes tremendous courage to be who I am and not to go along with the crowd.

In the end I don't think anyone can be happy unless they are completely true to themselves.
I also believe that no success in any area of your life is possible without commitment. If you can't commit wholeheartedly it probably means that it isn't right for you.
Find the work that you can commit yourself to.
Find the relationships that you can commit yourself to.
Find the life that you can commit yourself to living.

Never Settle.

                                           Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com

Stop Wasting Valuable Time

                                "I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships,
                                                           forced interactions,
                                                  or unnecessary conversations."

It is time to stop wasting valuable time!

We often do the fun and easy things instead of doing the hard and necessary. One major reason that people fail in life is because they usually do and take the easiest and fastest route to get to the things that they want.

But the easiest and fastest route in life, is most often the route to failure.
Short term gain for long-term pain. We want instant gratification.
We do what is fun and easy today..... instead of what is necessary.
And later in life we are forced to do what is necessary and at that time it will be a lot more difficult.

The willingness to do the difficult task at hand, the willingness to discipline yourself will work miracles in your life.
No person will be successful in life if they cannot discipline themselves. Doing what is hard and difficult today instead of putting it of to a later date or maybe not even doing it at all, is a recipe for living a life of mediocrity.
Do what is necessary today, so that you can enjoy the fruit of your labor at a later date in your life.
It doesn't matter if it is having a successful career in business, a healthy and vital body, financial independence, great relationships in life. It will all require you to discipline yourself.

Start today by doing what is necessary. Be willing to do the uncomfortable.  The things that will take some effort on your part to accomplish.Things that will lead you towards living the life of your dreams, instead of leading you away to a less desirable place.
Stop doing what is fun and easy. It will NOT lead you to living your dream.
Short term pain will lead to long term gain.

Stop wasting valuable time on things, people or conversations that don't matter.

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                        www.karinglannstam.com

Share YOUR Message With The World

                                                      "Start today, not tomorrow.
                                    If anything, you should have started yesterday."
                                                             - Emil Molycka

Are you getting closer to reaching your goals? but when you are almost there, for some strange reason you always hold back?
Doing this will not only ruin you..... but it will also ruin other people's lives because they need your information, talents and knowledge. Are you setting up roadblock after roadblock, obstacle after obstacle? Are these obstacles really true obstacles or are they obstacels that you created in your own mind?
It is time for you to stop procrastinating and take action. Massive action.

You probably have big dreams and you have great ideas. You might even have a website with a product that is almost ready? Or maybe you are an author with a book that is almost done? or you have a blog or newsletter in your mind that you want to start writing? Maybe a painting or some music?

Maybe you have great ideas for teaching weight-loss to other people or how to improve their finances. You probably want to write a book about how you solved a particular problem in your own life and now you want to share it with the world.
But while you are procrastinating other people are getting frustrated. Thanks to your lack of action many people don't know how to shed the weight or they can't get their finances back on track. They are waiting on your almost done book or the book that is only "in your mind" right now. They are waiting on your weekly newsletter or daily blog to help them solve their own problem(s).

And what are you doing? You are still deciding on the colors of your website. How many photos to put on it. What to name you new company that you started online. Maybe you are still editing your book and can't decide on the orders of the chapters. Or maybe you haven't even started writing that book, but you are thinking about it. The name of your newsletter or how many times per week you will post a blog.
But what are you doing? you are worrying about how other people will judge you or maybe they will even criticize you? And this is your excuse for not taking action?

Right now as I am writing this blog, I am afraid that you might not like it and that you will think it is rubbish. But I will not let that stop me. Because this blog might help someone else.
It is not up to me to judge my own work. My job is to share it with the world.

These silly little distractions are stopping so many people from achieving their dream and living the life that they truly want to live. And if you don't conquer these obstacles and distractions you will ruin your year and your life.

But the good news it that you can change. You can change today my making a decision to stop procrastinate and take massive action.
Every day that you are not taking action with your website, blog, books, painting or music, you are holding someone back out there in the world that needs what you have got. They are getting more and more frustrated and feel beat down because they need your knowledge and talents to be able to change their lives for the better.

You are thinking that there are already plenty of people doing what you are wanting to do. The world doesn't need another blogger or book. Not true. Yes, there are plenty of people doing things every day but there will never be one person exactly like you. With your background, your experiences and you perspectives.

So don't hold back. Allow you light to shine. People need solutions to their problems and you probably have exactly what they need.

You have great gifts and talents and you can do better. You have knowledge to help others and you are a person that cares about other people and what happens to the world. Share you message without fear. Every action makes an impact.

Time to take action. Time to start helping other people to be able to change their lives for the better.
The world needs YOU.

Eliminate procrastination and move through the obstacles that are standing in your way.
Make 2017 you best year ever by helping others.
Help people by giving them a solution to their problems.

How do we change? One small action at a time. One little step starts the journey.
Make sure that you take the first step. By taking small steps every day you will get better. You will grow and get stronger.
Keep on going.

Write the book, start your website, create you art or music, start the blog.....Start Today!
You can do it!

 

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

We Are Capable Of Doing Anything

                                       "If we all did the things we are capable of doing,
                                                 we would literally astound ourselves."
                                                            - Thomas Edison

Most people usually minimize the things that they are able of doing, the goals and dreams they can accomplish. And for some strange reason people have a tendency to believe that others can accomplish things that they themselves are not able to accomplish.
This is not true.
We all have great talents, reservoirs of resources and abilities within ourselves that we can bring to the surface at any time to be able to achieve what we all desire and dream of.
We are capable of doing anything.

Start focusing on all the reasons that you can get what you want
Take an honest look at the results that you have gotten so far in your life. Does it make you happy? If you are happy, then continue to do what you are doing.
On the other hand if you are not, I suggest that you set aside some time and start to focus on what you really want.
Start reading some books to get a few new ideas. Sometimes it only takes one great idea to change your whole life. Be curious.....make a commitment to find out. Read books of people who have already accomplished what you are trying to accomplish. Ant then model what they are doing. Make a commitment to yourself to learn and do as much as possible to be able to change your life.
A lot of people don´t believe that they can change, but that isn´t true. We all can decide to change right now.
The only thing you have to do is to decide that you want to change.

Study
Begin with books but also start listening to recordings. Something that will make you grow and expand. Realize that a lot of things that you have been thinking might not be true? Maybe that some people are just lucky? and you are not one of the lucky people. Everyone have exactly the same potential.
Believe that you can.

Dream big dreams.
Take the lid of your mind and let it soar. Most people alive today don´t realize what they are capable of doing and creating. We think small most of the day. We have quit dreaming of what we want to accomplish with our lives. Remember when you were a kid, you had big dreams and you weren't afraid of telling everyone about them either. But what happened to those dreams? Somewhere along our journey we settled for a life of existence instead of designing our life, the way we want it
Dream big. Go after something big,
Even if you miss, it can be a great thrill and adventure and you will probably learn a lot about yourself that you didn't know.

When you learn something new, pass it along to others.
What you now know will help others all across the world. Share you wisdom and your knowledge. You never know who is in need of the information and knowledge that you now have.


You have a magnificent mind....use it!

Believe that you can do what you believe others can accomplish!

You are capable of doing anything!

                                        Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                       www.karinglannstam.com

Are You Caretaking Others In Order To Get Love, Attention or Approval?

                                                   "When you show up authentic,
                                      you create the space for others to do the same.
                                                           Walk in your truth."

Are you a person that gets your self-worth, love, approval and significance from caretaking others?

Lets be honest .....who is the person that really needs to be taken care of here?
Yes....it is YOU.

A lot of times people get so wrapped up in caretaking others that they neglect their own needs. These type of people are usually women and they will eventually get totally drained in their efforts of caretaking others instead of taking care of themselves.

So why do so many women choose to take care of others at the expense of their own wellbeing?
I believe it is a way of not wanting to focus on what is going on in their own world. It is a lot easier to focus on something "out there" instead of lifting the lid on their own life and maybe start dealing with some issues that they..... themselves have.

What do I mean by this
Maybe you marriage isn´t where you want it to be. Your partner doesn't acknowledge and love you the way you want to be acknowledged and loved. So instead you shift you attention onto someone else that will acknowledge and love you.

Maybe you are unhappy at work and you will pour all your efforts into caretaking someone to get significance from this particular person.

Your friend don't pay attention to you they way you want  them to and instead you overwork. Spending a lot of extra hours at the office signing up for all kinds of assignments outside your work schedule, to prove to everyone how good you are and how much you care about your job and that you deserve attention and significance.

In other words you want other people to give you what you are not giving to yourself. You are giving with attachments. You expect something back from others that you don't give yourself on a regular base. The problem with doing this is that other people will feel a pull on their energy from you. They feel that you are wanting something back from them. So instead of getting what you want from these people, whether it is love, approval, attention or significance. These people will pull away from you and that will leave you feeling even more empty on the inside.

The solution to this dilemma is that we all must learn to give ourselves what we most need from other people.
If is love....give yourself some love on a regular base. Same thing with attention, approval and significance. Learn to give it to yourself so than you don't have to pull on other people to give it to you. And another great bonus is..... by giving love, attention, support to yourself, it can never be taken away from you.....because you are giving it to YOU.

Now of course there are a lot a lot of people out there that want to be taken care of. The absolutely love when you do a lot of things for them. They don't want to be responsible for taking care of themselves so they absolutely love to be friends or in a relationship with a caretaker. The problem with these relationships is that eventually the caretaker will get totally drained of their own energy and when they are no longer able to be the caretaker, the other person...."the taker" might move on to the next "new" caretaking person because you are no longer willing or able to take care of them.

It takes a lot of courage to focus on loving yourself and letting go of caretaking. The people that you have been giving a lot to in order to get love, attention or approval, may become angry at you for withdrawing your caretaking and they might feel like you are abandoning them.
They loved your caretaking and they may not want to be with you and they might not want to be supportive of you when you stop caretaking them
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So when you decide to stop caretaking certain people, you might lose them.
So what!!! There will be other people filling their spot. People that appreciate you for who you are and they don't need for you to take care of them.

Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach

www.karinglannstam.com

Great Series of Books - Chicken Soup For The Soul.

Today I want to mention a great book.
Or actually it is a series of books called....... Chicken Soup For The Soul.
Written by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.

It is a great series of books that will guarantee give you a lot of inspiration and motivation.
Every book contains a wonderful collection of short stories about timeless wisdom, love, friendships, family, attitude, learning and overcoming obstacles.
Every story offers touching and profound examples of human caring, compassion and love.
If you need a "pick-me upper"....I recommend these wonderful books.
They are guaranteed to lift your spirit. They are food for your soul.

                               "Effort is a commitment to seeing a task through to the end,
                                                  not just until you get tired of it."
                                                                - Howard Cate

At ten minutes to seven on a dark, cool evening in Mexico City in 1968, John Arkwari of Tanzania painfully hobbled into the Olympic Stadium - the last to finish the marathon.
The winner had already been crowned, and the victory ceremony was long finished. So the stadium was almost empty as Arkwari, alone, his leg bloody and bandaged, struggled to circle the track to the finish line.
The respected documentary filmmaker, Bud Greenspan, watched from a distance. Then, intrigues, Bud walked over to Arkwari and asked why he had continues the grueling struggle to the finish line.
The young man from Tanzania answered softly, "My country did not send me nine thousand miles to start the race. They sent me nine thousand miles to finish the race."

Story written by Walter Anderson

                                         Karin Glannstam - Personal Success Coach
                                                      www.karinglannstam.com